argument that tickling is only sexual and not playful

[AphxA]

Ok here is an interesting topic that i like to start up. I think that tickling can only be sexual and not at all be used in a playful manner. First off, i have talked to many people from the tmf, and they have told me that tickling is an act of sexual behavior. Its a form of foreplay. Second, many females have told me that they can climax from being tickled in certain areas of the body. Third, i believe that some members here that are taken or married may come online and engage in "cyber tickling" for pleasure because i dont know, their boyfriends or husbands dont um fulfill their sexual desires. Well, those are my arguments. Cya!!😎

 

[Texas_Tickle]

Ok here is an interesting topic that i like to start up. I think that tickling can only be sexual and not at all be used in a playful manner. First off, i have talked to many people from the tmf, and they have told me that tickling is an act of sexual behavior. Its a form of foreplay. Second, many females have told me that they can climax from being tickled in certain areas of the body. Third, i believe that some members here that are taken or married may come online and engage in "cyber tickling" for pleasure because i dont know, their boyfriends or husbands dont um fulfill their sexual desires. Well, those are my arguments. Cya!!😎

***sigh***. Not THIS again. Just because one or 2 people think tickling is "sexual only", does not mean that everybody else should have to have the same opinion.

***YOU*** may think that tickling is only sexual, but my friend, I assure you, that is just you. I do not share that philosophy.

What about mothers who playfully tickle their kids? Is that sexual? What about fathers who playfully tickle their kids? Is that sexual?

I await your response.

 

[AphxA]

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I have been corrected. I see your point!🙄 I am really speakin on a relationship basis though. Between two people dating or married. Not really a father and son relationship. Yeah i guess tickling to me is sexual. I am submissive by nature since im so shy. So if i have the opportunity to tickle somone. And to me tickling is a form of domination. Being able to control someone emotions. That gets me all worked up..😀

 

[drew70]

I've found that it's rarely a good idea to declare in absolutes. There's almost always an exception to any one rule. As I understand your last post, you are speaking of tickling between two people in a romantic relationship such as husband and wife, boyfriend and girlfriend, etc.

When I was a teenager, I had older sisters in their late teens and early twenties. On numerous occasions, I saw them engaged in playful tickle-fights with their boyfriends, whom they ended up marrying. These ticklefests were carried out in full view of the rest of our family including my younger brother and sister. These folks were not prone to public displays of affection in front of the family, much less public displays of sexual foreplay. Had they applied any sexual connotations to tickling at all, they would not have done it in front of the rest of us, I can assure you.

During my twenties, most of my male friends were tickled by their girlfriends playfully. It wasn't sexual to them either. I'd go as far as to say that outside of the tickling community, the vast majority of tickling that happens is not sexual in nature.

Just my opinion.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Tickling does NOT have to be sexual. Tickling can be done between friends or acquaintences who share the same love/passion for tickling and or being tickled without it going anywhere NEAR becoming Sexual!

Tickling between couples, involved in an intimate relationship already is another story and if it is sexual/sensual with them with each other, GREAT, it's supposed to be! Again but does not HAVE to be.

Simple.
No major arguement or dabete.
No 124 million mgabyte code encrypted solution required.

Just tickle!!


TTD😀 🙄

 

[TicklingDuo]

There ARE people who cannot see themselves using tickling in anything other than a sexual way. There are also people who see it ONLY as play and never as sexual. However, even among those of us who are married to fellow t-philes, there IS a difference. Speaking personally, I can say that there are times when Drew and I play with tickling JUST as play. Being husband and wife doesn't make everything we do sexual.

I would imagine that, if tickling really could be nothing but sexual, you'd see far fewer people at gatherings. I know WE would never attend one if that were the case. We do plenty of play with others. But, when they insist that it be sexual, we bow out.

OK, now you've heard from a married person. 😛

Ann

 

[TickledToDeath]

There ARE people who cannot see themselves using tickling in anything other than a sexual way. There are also people who see it ONLY as play and never as sexual. However, even among those of us who are married to fellow t-philes, there IS a difference. Speaking personally, I can say that there are times when Drew and I play with tickling JUST as play. Being husband and wife doesn't make everything we do sexual.

I would imagine that, if tickling really could be nothing but sexual, you'd see far fewer people at gatherings. I know WE would never attend one if that were the case. We do plenty of play with others. But, when they insist that it be sexual, we bow out.

OK, now you've heard from a married person. 😛

Ann

So much for the Hyenas' Swap Night!😛 😀

TTD

 

[AffectionateDan]

I see that the wisdom has already been smacked down...

...So I'll just echo what the rest have said. It just depends on who you're tickling, where, why, etc... Erotic tickling is only part of the spectrum. I particklerly 🙄 liked Ed's take on it...

Just Tickle!😀

 

[terorizer]

Re: ......

And to me tickling is a form of domination. Being able to control someone emotions. That gets me all worked up..😀

I too shall echo Dan n Ann n Ed... Hey, say that 5 times fast! LOL
As for the above quoted reply... in the interest of possibly placing a different spin on this thread, perhaps some of our tickle friends with "other" assorted interests can address how even bondage, D/s and other play isn't ALWAYS necessarily about sex either? You around Bella?

 

[TicklingDuo]

So much for the Hyenas' Swap Night!😛 😀

TTD

I think SOMEONE needs a slap!!! Just you wait!

Ann

 

[TickledToDeath]

I think SOMEONE needs a slap!!! Just you wait!

Ann

LMAO!!🙄 😛

Wait for what? A slap?😱 oooooooo I'm scaaaaaaaaaared 🙄


TTD

 

[U.N.Owen]

...they can climax from being tickled... ...some members here that are taken or married may come online...

I notice a lot of "can" and "may". Yes it CAN be sexual, and yes people MAY seek it for that end, but lord, it doesn't have to be. For me, it generally isn't... and wouldn't be except in very special circumstances.

 

[Dirkman]

Tickling is not always sexual, in fact I would say that for the great majority of time it is very much not. I would say that 99% of tickling instances are not sexual. This seems fairly obvious. But how about this, I would say that for EVERY MEMBER OF THIS FORUM, tickling is 99.99% of the time sexual. I mean every video or picture I download ultimately serves its purpose for me, that purpose being self gratification. When I watch a video clip of say Sydra from FemFeet being tickled, the pleasure I derive is not an appreciation fo some artistic asthetic. I get turned on. because it is a beautiful woman being touched in a way that I find pleasing.

As stated, to most of the world, tickling is not at all sexual. But for me (and probably you or else you wouldn't be here..), I get off from tickling. I don't know why but thats just how my cards were dealt. A hot young girl naked in front of me is great and my soldier will solute and all, but to get me really going I'll have to sneak in a foot tickle or lick before sex (and let me tell you, this can sometimes be so damn annoying because depending on the girl it can ruin the moment for her). The act of a girl being tickled under her will is arousing to me, plain and simple, and when I am having sex, I often fantasize about it. Come to think of it, I always fantasize about it. But tickling only arouses me when it is with women who I am attracted to. True, maybe there are some people in here who are curious and are not sexually into this thing of ours, but for the most part, I feel there are a great deal of people who are ashamed that they get aroused from tickling because like I've said in a hundred posts, it is "weird" in our society. Therefore, I'd expect to see a lot of people deny that they get off on it. But its not weird to me so I don't give a rat's ass. If you are born a perv, the least you can do is be proud of it. PERVS UNITE!!
The Dirk

 

[Sunday_10pm]

Steve, If you post here I will scream

 

[TicklingDuo]

But how about this, I would say that for EVERY MEMBER OF THIS FORUM, tickling is 99.99% of the time sexual.

How about...wrong! Saying "many" memebers might be true. But, to say that this is true for "every" is just ignorant. It certainly doesn't speak for me or for many of those I know here. I don't mean that to sound nasty, either. Ignorance is nothing more than a lack of knowledge in a certain area. It seems that you have that lack of knowledge when it comes to the attitudes of members here. Are there folks here for whom it's always sexual? I'm sure there are, since many have stated that to be the case. That's fine. But, many others have stated that this is not the case for them. I happen to be one of them. I know MANY people here for whom tickling is NOT always sexual. I also know many people for whom DLing and watching clips, while it may be pleasurable, isn't necessarily so in a sexual way. I would strongly recommend reading what folks have to say before making a blanket statement like that.

Ann

 

[Novus]

Tickling is mostly playful

Atleast in the vanilla world it is. But then there is us, the ticklephiles. For the true hardcore ticklephile tickling is 100% sexual. No, it is beyond sexual because tickling is better then sex. Let me just say that not everyone here is a ticklephile though. There are lots of shades of people who are in between the ticklephiles' point of view and the vanilla world view.

Just my two cents.

 

[BellaRisa]

Re: Re: ......

perhaps some of our tickle friends with "other" assorted interests can address how even bondage, D/s and other play isn't ALWAYS necessarily about sex either? You around Bella?

Hi hon, yup I'm here 😉

One of my favorite quotes is "there is no reality, only perception."
It really applies in this instance. Every one of us has a different experience, there are simply NO absolutes when it comes to the human animal and what we enjoy/why we enjoy it/how we enjoy it. For every person that only finds tickling to be sexual, there's someone for whom it's purely an adrenaline rush; then there are a ton of us in the middle: for us it's sexual only if we're with a sexual partner.

I liken non-sexual tickling (or spanking, my other kink) to riding a rollercoaster or watching a seriously good scary movie, or sparring in Karate class-all of my senses are engaged and I'm incredibly keyed up, but not in a sexual way. That rush can most definitely be transferred into sexual energy if I so choose, but it doesn't have to be. That high can be channeled in a number of ways depending on who you are.

I've noticed that many people crave certain sensations and situations that fulfill them in a special way that's very deep and significant-but NOT erotic. I have a person in my life who disciplines me for various...discrepancies shall we say 🙄 ...and I truly love both him and the relationship-but it's about honesty and repentance and D/s, I promise you it ain't sexy. NOTHING about that (*^%! paddle is sexy, believe me...

Bella, sittin' on a pillow this very minute 😱

 

[Admiral Trouser]

Ok, my thoughts:

I beleive that some people are becoming confused between what can be best described as main-stream tickling and the tickling that can be mostly found here, upon these forums. To those who say that mothers/fathers tickling there kids is proof that tickling can be playfull, may I point out that most people are referring to the fetish that is tickling ,and not the everyday "mainstream" act. There is, I feel, a subtle difference.

Foe people who are not fetetistic about tickling, it is purely non-sexual 99% of the time. For people who do consider it a fetish, I beleive that for the majority of the time it is sexual. Thats why its our fetish...we get a kick out of doing it that transcends the simpler gratification of a "playfull" tickle.

Of course, as has been already stated, there are indeed exception to the rule and I do not think that my understanding of all this is in fact the correct assessment. But it is my oponion, and to me it sounds fairly credible. Feel free to say otherwise, though 🙂

The real question is...does it really matter how we view it, so long as we get to do it...*all* the time 😉

hehe.

 

[drew70]

Nice post, Admiral. Cool picture, too. Kind of looks like Curly Howard with a beret and mutton chops.

 

[46and2]

As well as being sexual (looking from the standpoint of fetishism, paraphilia, whatever) tickling can just as easily be a simple show of affection for me. I could compare it to kissing in alot of ways: If I tickle a cousin or friend of mine It's kept to minimum (consider a peck on the cheek). Alot of tickling with a woman I'm involved with it's the opposite (think of the amount of kissing you do when you make love). Or just a quick tickle in public (think of kissing your girlfriend on the cheek, forehead, quickly on the lips, whatever). In the second instance I look at it as sexual, in the other two I do not, just like I would with a kiss. This depends on the person of course, I'm not saying this is the case with everyone, it's just the way I've always looked at it.
-Phil

 

[TickledToDeath]

Re: Re: Re: ......

there are simply NO absolutes when it comes to the human animal

Hey, who you calling an animal?
Wait, I see a vision...yes...chrystal clear. I see Bella...yes... definatly Bella...She's at NEST...I see her tied down on a rack or something and getting unmercifully tickled by a group (or PACK) of People(animals)I am one of them😛 😀

TTD

 

[BellaRisa]

For people who do consider it a fetish, I beleive that for the majority of the time it is sexual. Thats why its our fetish...we get a kick out of doing it that transcends the simpler gratification of a "playfull" tickle.

Well said, Admiral. That 'kick' you describe is very intense indeed, though not necessarily sexual; I sometimes refer to it as a proclivity rather than a kink for that reason 🙂

Bella

 

[jordan]

for me, when I was younger I always tickled girls, but it was for fun not sexual now it is...

 

[Limeoutsider]

playful can turn sexual, but they ARE two different things

 

[Texas_Tickle]

playful can turn sexual, but they ARE two different things

I agree and the point I was trying to make earlier than one person's definition is not everybody else's

One person does not speak for the majority (or at least he/she does not speak for me)