argument that tickling is only sexual and not playful

[terorizer]

Ok, my thoughts:

I beleive that some people are becoming confused between what can be best described as main-stream tickling and the tickling that can be mostly found here, upon these forums. To those who say that mothers/fathers tickling there kids is proof that tickling can be playfull, may I point out that most people are referring to the fetish that is tickling ,and not the everyday "mainstream" act. There is, I feel, a subtle difference.

Foe people who are not fetetistic about tickling, it is purely non-sexual 99% of the time. For people who do consider it a fetish, I beleive that for the majority of the time it is sexual. Thats why its our fetish...we get a kick out of doing it that transcends the simpler gratification of a "playfull" tickle.



hehe.

I do agree with you that within the context of this post, sometimes there can be a fine line between our understanding vs the mainstream understanding of tickling, (in and of itself anyway). I say this because I believe the "t-phile" definition/understanding of tickling actually encompasses the mainstream definition/understanding, although the mainstream does NOT encompass ours.

I don't fully agree with the statement that tickling is non-sexual 99% of the time for non-tickle folk. I know and have had many a conversation with vanilla friends and that poke in the ribs or grab of the foot isn't always as innocent as one would think. In these cases it functions as a sort of "feeler", whose ultimate goal is more errrm... "intimate" contact. And I know they are vanilla (or at least not into tickling), because they all say the tickling is just to "get in the door". After that, there's no place for it. So I figure you have your parents and child, teasing poke type tickles accounting for 50%, and you have your on date, college dorm "feeler" tickles accounting for 50% of mainstream.

 

[JoBelle]

I'm with the crowd that says it can swing in either way, sexual or non-sexual.

When a partner and I are intimate and there is tickling in the mix, I'd safely say it's a turn on of major proportions.

but...

My best friend knows about my kink and just to be a git, she will often walk up be hind me and tickle me. She will smirk as she walks away saying something like, "Am I sexy now?" The bitch. 😀 Love her to death, but under NO circumstances is a tickle fight with her ever going to be a sexual thing. *shrug*

Joby

 

[terorizer]

Well in my "ignorant" view i simply can't believe that there are members of this forum who are not turned on by tickling. OK fine before people jump up and condemn me for making a sweeping generalization (god forbid!), I'll accept that there are people here for whom there is no sexuality involved with tickling. If it is not a turn on, then may I ask what the appeal is? What is it about tickling that drives people to seek out and join this forum if it is not a turn on? Speaking for myself, it was a turn on even before I knew it was a turn on. If there isn't a sexual aspect, then what is so interesting about tickling? And let me say this also, if there is no sexual overtone to this forum (or at least sexuality is not the leading or singular component of this forum), then why are so many members (and in this case I think everyone will agree that it is the vast majority)turned off by m/m tickling? If it is just an appreciation of the act of tickling, what is so unappealing about m/m, to the point where it is almost non-existent to this forum?
I understand there is a need in this forum to not offend or generalize, but I gotta believe that those in this community who say that there is no sexual overtone to our take on tickling are simply in denial. If there is no sexuality, then frankly there are people here who have taken too much of an interest in waht amounts to (when sexuality is taken out) a childish prank.
I don't mean to offend or be combative, I just think this topic, specifically this topic, rarely gets a chance to be debated and explored.
So i guess I'll start it, I like tickling because i am sexually aroused by it. it does it for me. I don't spend money on videos just to look. i get off on it, to put it bluntly, What about everyone else? What does tickling do for you?

When I was five years old and would tickle my brothers, cousins, women in the dr's office, etc., I wasn't trying to "get off". Try as I might, I don't recall sexual feelings associated with tickling until I was about 10. I DO recall sexual feelings BEFORE 10, so I know the difference. I know married people and couples from this forum and beyond who share tickles on a daily basis, but that quick tickle under the arm doesn't equate 100% of the time to "let's get to the bedroom". All of this is to say, no one can say what another's relation or truth to a thing is. I can recall a woman intimating once that being in bondage is like being hugged or embraced. It would be an immense trivialization to say she has taken too much interest in something which amounts to "cowboys and indians". For many, being tickled is like getting hugged, of giving a hug.

I think again, it bears noting "our take" on tickling is far more comprehensive and encompassing than just "it's a turn on". For some of us, our relation to tickling is too complex to be simplified as ALWAYS sexual or ALWAYS non-sexual. What tickling does for me couldn't be summed up in this short reply. I don't even know that I have the words to communicate it. I've heard it said that the only time a person is truly themselves is when they are scared. I know I like to tickle in part for the same reason we like to play a good joke on someone or startle them, because it's very rare to see pure human expression. When you get a spot, and the laughter rises an octave and that expression of pure hilarity washes accross the face and it's just completely unadulterated....It's exhilirating in a way that has nothing to do with sexual excitement. That's just one thing tickling does for me.

In short, the person and the setting along with my feelings for them dictate whether or not there is a sexual overtone to the tickling. The tickling never dictates the erotic quotient.

 

[Deleted member 2452]

Ok here is an interesting topic that i like to start up. I think that tickling can only be sexual and not at all be used in a playful manner.

i think it is both. it depends on who, and when, and where the tickling occures.
steve

 

[luv2bt&tickled]

I also think that it can be both, it has to do with the situation, depends on who, and yes when and where the tickling is taking place.

I feel it is up to the couple which way it goes, whether it be sexual or non-sexual.🙂

 

[TickledToDeath]

Well in my "ignorant" view i simply can't believe that there are members of this forum who are not turned on by tickling. OK fine before people jump up and condemn me for making a sweeping generalization (god forbid!), I'll accept that there are people here for whom there is no sexuality involved with tickling. If it is not a turn on, then may I ask what the appeal is? What is it about tickling that drives people to seek out and join this forum if it is not a turn on?

The term "Turn On" can be defined in more than one way.
You can be "turned on" by rollercoasters yet not be aroused sexually.
A turn on could be physical and psychological without being Sexual.
YES it can be Sexual but again it does not HAVE to be.
It is with me in the right Context and in the right situation(s) but is not a constant or a sure thing.

TTD

 

[AphxA]

debate

Ok debates over. Those are all very good points. In conclusion. Tickling can be SExual and playful. It just depends on the situation. 😱

For me: its sexual

 

[Krokus]

Yea...

It's sexual for me also...

 

[U.N.Owen]

How 'bout, "different strokes for different folks?" 😀

 

[trace1984]

hmm

for me its either(both),, but usually sexual,, i find it hard ,to tickle just bein playful... its affection with me like alot of people,, but i only tickle females lol,,,,,

 

[Fire_Sprite]

I'm not really sure here but most forums get kind of annoyed at bringing up old threads unless there's some kind of developement.

 

[amk714]

I didn't know forums had feelings. 😛

Of course tickling doesn't have to be sexual. It depends on the situation and who's involved. 🙂