Awkward to be tickled by a friend who "knows"?

[Tiger.Lily]

Pretty much what the title says -- is it awkward for you to be tickled by a friend who knows about your fetish?

I have a handful of friends (mostly guys) who know and whenever they tickle me, I get really awkward about it. Prior to their knowledge, it never bothered me to have them poke or squeeze me. Now it's almost embarrassing and I get really shy about it. Oddly platonic, vanilla friends.

Does this happen to you?

Why do you think that is?

Do you think it has something to do with being taken advantage of in a way?

Some other reason?

Are there ways you can overcome that feeling?

Talk to me! I'm really curious to know if anyone else feels this way and how they control it.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Thankfully I don't find myself in this situation because only one of my friends knows and she's not all that tickly. However, I've thought about what it would be like, and it would be extremely awkward. For me it wouldn't be a taken advantage of thing, but more that they are likely thinking, at that very moment, that I'm into tickling, and when it comes to boys who KNOWS what weird shit they're coming up with in their head about this interaction and what effect it's having on me. Ugh - no thank you.

 

[Tiger.Lily]

Thankfully I don't find myself in this situation because only one of my friends knows and she's not all that tickly. However, I've thought about what it would be like, and it would be extremely awkward. For me it wouldn't be a taken advantage of thing, but more that they are likely thinking, at that very moment, that I'm into tickling, and when it comes to boys who KNOWS what weird shit they're coming up with in their head about this interaction and what effect it's having on me. Ugh - no thank you.

That's a good point. I guess it's not so much "taking advantage" as it is they probably think it's turning me on since it's a kink, but it's definitely not always like that! So it could certainly translate to taking advantage of and trying to turn me on, but it's only sexual in certain contexts. But I worry that some of my friends may either tickle me because they're wanting a certain effect, or will shy away from doing it or from me tickling them because I might be getting off on it.

Make sense? Probably not. I'm failing at this topic. xD

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

That's a good point. I guess it's not so much "taking advantage" as it is they probably think it's turning me on since it's a kink, but it's definitely not always like that! So it could certainly translate to taking advantage of and trying to turn me on, but it's only sexual in certain contexts. But I worry that some of my friends may either tickle me because they're wanting a certain effect, or will shy away from doing it or from me tickling them because I might be getting off on it.

Make sense? Probably not. I'm failing at this topic. xD

Makes perfect sense. Once they know *dramatic music* it can never be the same.

H'okay srsly though, I know what you mean. If Michael even tickles me in front of people that know (which are a few now that I think about it) it's super awkward, like, do they think I'm all horny'ed up now? I much prefer when vanilla people just think I see tickling the way the rest of the world sees it. The only exception would be my best friend. I told her myself on my terms (the other people that know Michael told after asking me if it was okay, but I haven't talked to them about it so I don't know exactly what they think), and we discussed it and I answered alot of questions for her, so she's well aware that it's playful first and only sexy during sexy time. So I feel the least awkward about it around her.

 

[maniactickler]

That's a good point. I guess it's not so much "taking advantage" as it is they probably think it's turning me on since it's a kink, but it's definitely not always like that! So it could certainly translate to taking advantage of and trying to turn me on, but it's only sexual in certain contexts. But I worry that some of my friends may either tickle me because they're wanting a certain effect, or will shy away from doing it or from me tickling them because I might be getting off on it.

Make sense? Probably not. I'm failing at this topic. xD

I would like to be your friend.

 

[rhiannon]

I know exactly what you mean! I would feel very awkward if a friend who knew tickled me, because I would know that they are trying to arouse me! I don't even tolerate to be tickled by friends who don't know, I get aggressive immediately and tell them to stop.

 

[c7_assassin]

I think maybe you ladies are reading too much into it... It could just be their way of teasing you about your kink and letting you know that it doesn't matter to them. Euphoricity, you said they would tickle you before, right? So wouldn't it be more awkward if now they felt like they had to always keep their hands to themselves? And since tickling doesn't do it for them, I think they're probably just being friendly.

 

[paracarl44]

In Other Words:

I know exactly what you mean! I would feel very awkward if a friend who knew tickled me, because I would know that they are trying to arouse me! I don't even tolerate to be tickled by friends who don't know, I get aggressive immediately and tell them to stop.

^You only enjoy being tickled by someone who you want to be intimate with???^

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I think maybe you ladies are reading too much into it... It could just be their way of teasing you about your kink and letting you know that it doesn't matter to them. Euphoricity, you said they would tickle you before, right? So wouldn't it be more awkward if now they felt like they had to always keep their hands to themselves? And since tickling doesn't do it for them, I think they're probably just being friendly.

I don't think either of us are saying they're doing something wrong. It's just an awkward feeling that we can't control and would like to overcome so that we CAN just have fun and not read into it. Ya dig? 🙂

 

[c7_assassin]

I dig 🙂 Just wanted to point out that guys aren't always creeps, in case that's where the discussion was going...

 

[rhiannon]

^You only enjoy being tickled by someone who you want to be intimate with???^

Yep. Exactly. It's the same thing to me as if a good friend just grabbed my boobs. Wouldn't want that either!

 

[Onlyfornow]

I've never told my regular friends. The only people that I tell are people who I think I might end up dating, or friends with benefits (I don't really have any of these, but there are certain girls who I know would do things to turn me on). There are so many doors that close as soon as friends know, because then it puts an awkward aura around things whenever tickling comes up. I would hate to have my friends see me get tickled and have them think "He probably has a boner now." The lack of understanding would bother me.

Of course, if I just become really vocal about it, the awkwardness could vanquish perhaps. XD

 

[Flatfoot]

It's not cool if friends try to take advantage of it, like a "Watch this!" button.

 

[chicago]

I told a good friend of mine in high school who tickled me sometimes anyway. I don't know why I felt compelled to tell him, but I only regretted it because it made me feel vulnerable. I'd shared some secret information and I felt he had an upper hand on me.

That said, he tickled me a couple times after that and I just never let myself think of it as "Ok, is he trying to tickle me because it's fun or because I told him it turns me on?"

It's probably a good thing I didn't let my thoughts go that route because some of the instances were pretty fun.

 

[Aimee]

I told 2 very close girl friends of mine. If they even joke about tickling me I instantly feel awkward about it.

The first night I told my best friend she got really slap happy [it was like 3am] and she started poking my sides. I literally had to run away from her. She's crazy. haha

But what I think is even MORE awkward is when we're out and some guy will start flirting with us and my friend will be like "Oh Amy is so ticklish. You should tickle her!" Sure I LOVE being tickled, but not in situations like that because I just feel werid, ya know?

 

[Canadian_Eh]

It's kinda funny this thread has come up, cause I have been thinking ALOT about this. Anyone on this forum who knows me well, would agree with me when I say i'm extremely akward about this whole thing, and when I say akward I mean I have trouble even saying the words... You know what words I mean, I affectionatly call them the "T words" ... Anyway, I have only told one person about my like for it, since it's not in any way sexual for me and strictly playful, it tends to make things akward if someone else knows that I like it. I kinda feel like it changes the dynamics of everything, it no longer feels "innocent" and "playful" ... It becomes more then that, which is sometimes hard for me to wrap my head around and accept... I am getting better though, i'm slowly starting to open up a little more...

 

[chicago]

If it's only playful for you, why so awkward about it?

 

[Canadian_Eh]

If it's only playful for you, why so awkward about it?

Omg, I wish I knew .... I honestly don't really know... I think it's something that you don't really have control over the emotions it tends to stir up in people. I definatly would say I have a love/hate thing with it... I like the IDEA of it, but when it comes to actually doing it, it tends to get a little to intense sometimes, mentally... (I'm also all about the mind games, If you can get into my head, I am SCREWED) ... I dunno, maybe it's the mind games part of everything that tends to give me the apprehension, but isn't that kinda normal?... I hope...

 

[rhiannon]

If it was only playful to me, I would have no issue at all with friends tickling me. I mean, it's like telling them "I like to dance". I also wouldn't feel awkward if they wanted to dance with me then! 🙂

Are you sure it isn't more than playful to you, and you just haven't accepted it yet?

 

[Canadian_Eh]

If it was only playful to me, I would have no issue at all with friends tickling me. I mean, it's like telling them "I like to dance". I also wouldn't feel awkward if they wanted to dance with me then! 🙂

Are you sure it isn't more than playful to you, and you just haven't accepted it yet?

Yes, i'm positive... in order for it to be more you would have to have sexual feelings about it, would you not? ... I don't, at all, so that's how I know it's only playful... I dunno, most people would say that i'm pretty shy. So to be fair alot of things tend to be akward for me.

 

[sasaxrah]

My best friend knows. Every so often he'll poke me. He's not very effective, so I just roll my eyes. It's not awkward, it just silly.

 

[-Hari-]

well tickling to me is only sexual when it *is* sexual, if its not then its pretty much just my fav game so its ok when it happens to me 🙂

 

[His Divine Shadow]

Well, I don't have friends to speak of, so that's kind of out. And I've been tickled by people I know who aren't into it very infrequently, (maybe three times ever) but the one recent time I can remember it was a mix. It was somewhat awkward, as I was afraid I might seem to be enjoying it too much, but I had less time to be awkward due to my inability to do much concentrating while being tickled, even in the quick bursts I received. Hard to be awkward when all you can do is try to alternatively curl into the tiniest ball possible and flee with all possible speed. 😀

After it was done, though, I was quite awkward, fearful that somehow I appeared weird. I dunno. I'm awkward around people as it is, so that might be part of it.

 

[starburstz91]

I've told a few people including one of my ex boyfriends, and he tried to tickle me a few times. It was kind of awkward, and I almost didn't really want him too. He'd do it in front of his friends, which was even worse. Kind of embarassing when you blush from being tickled.

 

[c7_assassin]

Kind of embarassing when you blush from being tickled.

Oh my god, I totally blush too! And I'm not a guy who blushes much, so I'm always afraid it'll give me away! But I've never come out and told anyone, so it's never been as bad as it could be...a couple girls I know could be very mean if they knew...😛