Big problem in bed....

[abianchi]

Hi guys,
I am new in the forum but,I came here asking to ask for help, because you guys are the only ones that can maybe understand me.First of all,sorry for my english,if you don t understand something tell me...I am tickle fanatic since I was born and never had problems with it until now.I´m 26 and I have my girlfriend 7 years from now(she knows everything),we broke and returned a lot of times but this time is the last we ll try to live together... The beginning was a awsome but time passed and now I'm having trouble in bed. seems stupid .. but it's not ... Who knows how living together is hard to find a nice person, and we need to value when we have someone nice.Out of bed its all great, but our relationship without sex may end soon.When I was single, I paid several girls to realize my fantasies, but now I don´t want to do it again.When I know a different woman, I have no problem not using my fetish, feel horny, but after 3,4 times, I don t feel nothing if she is not tied or ticklish!!The big problem is, my wife does not let me tie her anymore, and I can no longer have pleasure in bed ... She was never ticklish and it was hard in the beginning but now its ok.Actually I prefer seeing videos on my pc than go to bed with her! looks the shit! So I wanted to know how you guys do in bed ? And who is married, how do I do in a long term relationship?!? I never told this to anyone, but now I need to fix that ... Any idea?? ... Thanks to all who read this post.Sorry again for the bad english...Thankss

 

[lovesribs]

See a doctor. Possibly a psychologist. It is all in your head. They can help. Best of luck to you.

 

[abianchi]

That maybe the best way,but here in Porto Alegre(Brazil) is almost impossible to find someone who knows about tickle fetish...We are years behind US...But thanks anyway man!!

 

[abianchi]

I agree...Thats why I need to find a way e have pleasure together.If it doesnt work in bed,it ll never work betwenn us...

 

[Libertine]

I agree...Thats why I need to find a way e have pleasure together.If it doesnt work in bed,it ll never work betwenn us...

Sex is the glue that holds couples together in the bad times. If this is missing for any reason, there's going to be trouble. I have been in a relationship where the friendship was wonderful but the sex was bad, and I have been in a relationship where the sex was wonderful but we still did not like one another as people. I am not sure which situation was worse- they were both extremely frustrating.

If you cannot function in bed without tickling and she no longer lets you tie her, and you have been together for 7 years and you are still only 26, (I am 30 years older than you- believe me or not, you are still young) it may be time to have a very serious talk about what you both want from the relationship. It seems your head wants it to work, but your body has other ideas. What does she think? Be honest with her, and ask her to be honest with you.

Don't rely on the advice of faceless strangers on a forum, unless they are telling you to discuss your problem with the person you REALLY should be putting your energy into speaking with.

 

[RChello]

what he said

Sex is the glue that holds couples together in the bad times. If this is missing for any reason, there's going to be trouble. I have been in a relationship where the friendship was wonderful but the sex was bad, and I have been in a relationship where the sex was wonderful but we still did not like one another as people. I am not sure which situation was worse- they were both extremely frustrating.

If you cannot function in bed without tickling and she no longer lets you tie her, and you have been together for 7 years and you are still only 26, (I am 30 years older than you- believe me or not, you are still young) it may be time to have a very serious talk about what you both want from the relationship. It seems your head wants it to work, but your body has other ideas. What does she think? Be honest with her, and ask her to be honest with you.

Don't rely on the advice of faceless strangers on a forum, unless they are telling you to discuss your problem with the person you REALLY should be putting your energy into speaking with.

 

[c7_assassin]

I'm not going to pretend to any special wisdom in this area, but if you love this girl and you genuinely want to be with her forever, then you need to find a way to find her sexually interesting under conditions that she actually enjoys too.

Why not try some pharmaceuticals in the bedroom to make sure things go smoothly and then see about finding some common ground? There has to be some kind of connection you can build on or you wouldn't have been together this long; try liking something she likes.

 

[ticklechambers]

Sometimes you can love someone with your entire being even though they aren't right for you. I was in love with my best friend for a long time, but he and I simply didn't work as a couple.
If you cannot enjoy a healthy happy sexual relationship with your partner because of wanting very different things in bed, then that might be a sure sign that the two of you are not right for each other.
But be sure this is the case! Sit down and tell your partner what your fantasies are and how important they are to you. See if they will try it for you.
Otherwise perhaps the two of you are better off as friends?

 

[abianchi]

Thank a lot guys...

 

[TickVix]

This is an interesting situation, but I don't think its uncommon. Sounds like to me there is definitely a mental link between tickling and your arousal for the woman you are with. I'm not going to suggest you seek a professional to talk to because you're right...many wouldn't understand this issue so why waste your time and money. I wish I had a clear cut answer to help you, unfortunately I do not. I will say this though...if things don't get better and your partner isn't willing to make a compromise then maybe you should consider re-evaluating things. Since this doesn't seem as if its bringing any enjoyment for you or her. Good luck to you.