Boyfriend not into it???

[CassandraMarie]

I'm so glad that someone of a "lackthereof" experience has decided that their non-existent approach to a one time occurrence is the "end all be all" to this situation.

Mainly because it's horseshit.

If your significant other isn't responding, spice it up! Make a mix of what he wants and what you want! Make it about the both of you, as opposed to a selfish onlyme ultimatum.

It isn't a selfish ultimatum at all. If your fetish whether it be tickling or something else cannot be fulfilled then your sex life and relationship will suffer. Of course every partnership is full of compromise and dowing things for eachother. But he will never be able to tickle the way a true lee needs if he can't get into it at all. And by payment of a blow job your sex life becomes about a transaction and keeping count. Now if you are okay with that life style to each their own. I'm just a strong believer of each partner being able to get what they need without a score card.
I love to pleasure my partner not because he let's me tickle torture him, but because I love and appreciate what he does for me. I get intense pleasure by pleasuring him and vice versa.

 

[shaolindog]

If it's not a deal breaker in the relationship and nothing has progressed since your first post just let it go. Be greatful for all the other ways that he's amazing and good luck with the relationship.

 

[PlayfulCarbonara]

It could be less that he's not into it, and more that he's embarrassed. I know it sounds odd, but I can relate as I get like that sometimes. Getting into something kinky, when you are told what it is and don't really get it, is really hard... sometimes you can make yourself do it, but sticking with it when you feel nothing is just difficult.

You could always try to show him the appeal. It was an approach that was actually taken ON me back when I was still a fresh new college student. I was dating a girl who was into some really kinky stuff, and I really wasn't into much- non bondage tickling was pretty much where I was happy at. In particular, she loved bondage and vibrators, and wanted to get me into it. We tried the whole fuzzy handcuffs thing on her and a back massager as a vibrator but I wasn't really getting into it... it was more awkward than anything. I wanted to give her what she wanted, but my heart was nowhere into it. It didn't help that I felt mildly pressured, being put on the spot to do this 'strange' thing that I wasn't at all getting the appeal of. The whole situation just wasn't lending itself to me converting.

That said, she managed to convert me and was the one who got me into light bondage with the tickling. She snagged a video clip of the hottest girl she could find in a bondage, vibrator orgasm, situation and left it for me to watch on her laptop. It peaked my interest majorly. When I went into the bedroom, she had a sleep mask on, 3 limbs strapped to the bed and was waiting for me to finish the 4th. The sleep mask she later said was in case it would make me feel less pressured.

It worked. =D I was pretty much on board from that point forward. And she also got to learn along with me that I enjoyed bondage tickling. Not that she had a lot of choice but to be my guinea pig that time around... 😀

From personal experience, I'd say try to push it in a way that will appeal to him. Find a tickling video with the hottest girl you can find and present it to him. An attractive girl all tied up and not wearing much would get any "vanilla"'s attention, and might even get him interested in the rest of the stuff going on. Of course, if you are at the point where you trust him enough to be in a bondage situation with him and want to lay yourself out all tied up like an S&M Christmas present, then give that a try, too. Chances are SOMETHING fun will happen with you all tied up, and perhaps tickling will be part of it (especially if he just got done watching a tickling vid). Don't forget the blindfold- helps a lot to keep someone who is just starting out avoid feeling awkward. They can fumble around and get a "feel" for things (no pun intended) without ever watchful eyes following their every movement expectantly.

 

[Simplytickles]

When I first met Laura, I didnt tell her about my fetish. Although it didnt take too long for her to figure out I enjoyed tickling as much as I do.
In fact..
At first she wasnt very interested. And appalled at the idea of videos!
It took some time to show her what the fetish was about. And how much fun it can be. She enjoyed tickling me alot more than getting tickled at first. And eventually she started letting me tickle her. To get to that point I think took about a year.

It took alot more work to get her into the video idea. And Alot of showing her videos and this site and talking to friends of mine from here and elsewhere into the fetish. She was very apprehensive at first to the whole idea but Im very patient, so I kept at it.

Now. She absolutely loves being tickled, tickling others, filming videos, shes a true convert to our fetish. Im amazed by her everyday. It took 3 years to get to this point in time. And I do indulge her other kinks and sexual needs other than tickling that she is into with gusto. Because you have to give into a relationship (especially with fetishes) to make each other happy.

So give him time. Take it slow. Find out what he likes and indulge him. And he will hopefully reciprocate!

 

[Raccoon Mario]

As simple and as stupid as it sounds ... Yes, honestly yes. A reward for indulgence prompts a more satisfying response.

Honestly although it does sound like somewhat of an unrefined solution, if neither person is opposed to the activity it can actually be a huge help in growing the interest from your partner. At a basic level it helps the person associate the activity(in this case tickling) with something they already enjoy.

Anyone who says it would be like a bribe or "buying them off" so to speak is reaching in their analysis.

If neither person is opposed to it then there's nothing wrong with it, and the way it can aid in subconsciously associating this new activity with something fun and pleasurable would be very beneficial.

In fact this is how my wife's tickling fetish grew. She was into it a little when I met her, but the more I eased her into it when we were sexually active the more she associated it with the way we bond intimately. Now it's both a turn on and a preferred activity for her. Plus choosing an intimate reward also indicates to your partner that it is a turn on for you and encourages them to participate in order to indulge your interests.

As has been said in this thread, relationships require a lot to be put in. Finding a common ground for your partner to have incentive to put in effort on their end is a good thing.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

I used to know a woman on here that had the same problem. Her boyfriend was good enough to indulge her in tickling her but he did it for her. Unfortunately, she didn't quite feel the same excitement that she felt had when she was tickled by a tickler who did it because he was also had the fetish. She found that out later when they broke up (for a different reason.)

Hopefully, that isn't the case here. If he gets into it for himself..great. If not, I agree with some that it may be something you have to give up or find some alternative solution.

 

[TickVix]

I've totally been there and it's both disappointing and frustrating. Perhaps equating your love of tickling to something he really enjoys will help put things into perspective. Such as if he really likes something that you do to/for him. It wounds like you really like him and don't want to lose such an amazing person. Communication is key, if he really isn't into it or it makes him uncomfortable to partake in it....then you may need to make a judgment call on whether or not you want things to continue if he's not willin to accommodate your tickling needs. Much luck to you.