Break-up due to tickling?

[njtickle]

Hey,

You may have touched upon this topic in the past, but has anyone ever had someone break-up with you b/c you tickled her too much? (Women as ticklers probably don't have this problem, but I could be wrong).

Some of the girls I've dated have absolutely HATED being tickled and threatened breaking-up with me if I didn't stop (not in so many words, but they were upset at the time). I guess I have little self-control...

I'm actually worried that maybe if I do find "the right girl" or the potentially "right girl" that,

A) She won't be ticklish.
B) She'll be ticklish, but hate it, especially at the frequency I do
it.
C) She'll never understand the whole fetish...to some, anything
sexually-oriented outside the missionary position is just "weird."

Of course there is the possibility that I just think about this way too much...

 

[TickledToDeath]

😡Indeed this has happened on two occaisions. The break up was directly linked to my tickling her and wanting her to tickle me too!
They both were insanely ticklish and absolutely hated it! The thought I was "abnormal" to put it lightly. They blatently refused to accept it or endure it to any degree.
There was one other relationship where she was willing to put up with my tickling her but therein was our ONLY compatability.
So Tickling is very important but NOT the only thing necessary to make a lasting loving relationship work.
Hell of a situation we are in , isn't it? 😕 🙁

TTD

 

[njtickle]

Depends on how "into you" she is...

I guess it depends on how "into you" she is. With some women, if they're "head-over-heels" for you, you probably have a better chance of her trying to make you happy, and therefore, perhaps, put up with the tickling.

If they're too strong-willed, independent, or whatever, they are less inclined to put up with it.

Men are at a disadvantage b/c some women see a fetish as abnormal and perverted. However, if a woman is into a fetish, men like their kinky-side.

 

[Onlyfornow]

I'm actually worried that maybe if I do find "the right girl" or the potentially "right girl" that,

A) She won't be ticklish.
B) She'll be ticklish, but hate it, especially at the frequency I do
it.
C) She'll never understand the whole fetish...to some, anything
sexually-oriented outside the missionary position is just "weird."

If it's THAT important to you...she can't possibly be the perfect girl for you then...I know that I wouldn't be able to be sexually satisfied in a relationship devoid of tickling, and there's nothing wrong with that.

 

[marcusb]

Yup. Just a while ago.

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?t=146807

Everything ended abrubptly.

 

[Adam]

No, although I recall one girlfriend being irritated by it (after initially telling me she liked it, btw), but we broke up later for a separate reason.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I'm not trying to criticize you, but if your girlfriends are telling you outright that you tickle them too much, and you continue to do it anyway, the tickling is clearly more important to you than the girl, so you might as well end the relationship anyway and find a girl who will indulge you or even enjoy it. But repeatedly disrespecting her wishes is not the way to go.

 

[TempstofLaughtr]

the moods varies.

there are times i don't mind the compulsive tickler in someone and other times it's annoying. Just like there are going to be times where he won't be down with the compulsive slapper in me. lol

i wasn't used to someone always tickling me and it was new but most definitely grew on me.

but i do agree with skipadee.

 

[PlayfulCarbonara]

If tickling is an important part of your sexual experience, then chances are you won't be completely satisfied with a girlfriend who isn't as interested in it as much as you (or at least enough to humor you). Forcing it on them is not in any way an option, and sticking with them will only result in you possibly wishing to seek it out elsewhere (which wouldn't be fair to them).

If it is important in your sexual life, then it is important in your relationship in the long run. If you two can't come to a common ground, it is time to move on. It would be like a guy who absolutely loves breasts dating a girl who absolutely must wear a shirt at all times... even during sex. It is certainly her right to do so but that is going to be one very unsatisfied dude... time to move on for both of them.

 

[rhiannon]

I guess it depends on how "into you" she is. With some women, if they're "head-over-heels" for you, you probably have a better chance of her trying to make you happy, and therefore, perhaps, put up with the tickling.

I would be very, VERY careful with something like that! 🙂 Because "Head over Heels" will not last forever, no matter what Disney claims! 🙂

So there might be the moment - possibly a few weeks after the wedding - when she reveals that she doesn't want to be tickled anymore!

It doesn't matter how much a woman is into someone, if she's not into the fetish, she will not put up with it forever, unless she is a real, true sub!

 

[Flatfoot]

I would be very, VERY careful with something like that! 🙂 Because "Head over Heels" will not last forever, no matter what Disney claims! 🙂

So there might be the moment - possibly a few weeks after the wedding - when she reveals that she doesn't want to be tickled anymore!

It doesn't matter how much a woman is into someone, if she's not into the fetish, she will not put up with it forever, unless she is a real, true sub!

Everything said here is true! 😀

 

[rhiannon]

Flatfood, I really hope you are not saying that out of experience.

 

[Happyman]

if they really dont like it then you shouldnt do it, period. The first time I ever went to tickle my girls foot she stopped me and told me that she has a phobia about it and I could tell she was serious about it, so I never tickled it again. an easy way to figure this out is change the world tickling with pulling hair. Some people like it some dont, if your girlfriend didnt like you pulling her hair would you even consider keep on doing it against her will?

 

[Master feathers]

I must say that being married for over 30 years to my wife I would NOT end our marriage ,just because she isn't into being tickled by me ....she does indulge my fetish on occasion but she is not nearly as into it as I am ...it takes many different things for a strong relationship to work ,the least of which is a partner's fetish ....there are so many other aspects to my wife which make her extra special to me ......if you simply can't do without tickling in a relationship ,then I suggest you try to find someone like yourself ....don't think you can change someone ,after you are married or committed ,it rarely happens that way ....just putting in my two cents worth ...good luck finding what you need ...

 

[Feathery]

Hey,

You may have touched upon this topic in the past, but has anyone ever had someone break-up with you b/c you tickled her too much? (Women as ticklers probably don't have this problem, but I could be wrong).

Some of the girls I've dated have absolutely HATED being tickled and threatened breaking-up with me if I didn't stop (not in so many words, but they were upset at the time). I guess I have little self-control...

I'm actually worried that maybe if I do find "the right girl" or the potentially "right girl" that,

A) She won't be ticklish.
B) She'll be ticklish, but hate it, especially at the frequency I do
it.
C) She'll never understand the whole fetish...to some, anything
sexually-oriented outside the missionary position is just "weird."

Of course there is the possibility that I just think about this way too much...

Let me offer you some advise, if I may? Chances are your tickle fetish will always be with you and not just go away. If you're with someone who does not share your interests and desires, it is quite possible you may eventually look to find someone who does. Just ask yourself, if you're really sure you can go on in a relationship where your desires are not being fulfilled? It can lead to alot of frustration, like a homosexual trying to deny his or her tendencies and attempting to live in a straight relationship.

 

[jj82277]

If you are not fundamentally compatable in this area then she is not and is not potentially the "RIGHT GIRL!"

 

[rhiannon]

If you're with someone who does not share your interests and desires, it is quite possible you may eventually look to find someone who does. Just ask yourself, if you're really sure you can go on in a relationship where your desires are not being fulfilled?

Now, let's be realistic though....we all know, there are not a whole lot of people into this fetish. There are more lers than lees. There are more men than women.

And that means: a lot of people just won't find a matching partner who shares their interest and desires!

 

[Feathery]

Now, let's be realistic though....we all know, there are not a whole lot of people into this fetish. There are more lers than lees. There are more men than women.

And that means: a lot of people just won't find a matching partner who shares their interest and desires!

Yes, and while this is largely true, at least there is the internet and places like this forum where people can find others with similar interests. I can remember when there was no internet, and you had to go out to bars and clubs and hope for the best.

 

[rhiannon]

And still - the choice is pretty limited, at least in Europe.....and I am a female lee!! 🙂

 

[piscean]

I've been pretty luck so far......

I'm new to this forum and for a long time I thought I was weird for having this fetish(foot and tickling). Every encounter I've had with my foot fetish and tickling has been a pleasurable one. I never started out just tickling a girl. I usually introduce my fetish as a massage for her. I'll tickle/massage her so that there is subtle laughter but more moans. You have to be sensitive to her needs. Most women like foot massages so start there. Don't just start tickling her feet flat out. You have to test the waters so you don't freak her out. I've always been able to fulfill my fetishes without losing my girl's interest. Eventually she realizes it's what gets me off and then it eventually became part of our sex life.

 

[Flatfoot]

Flatfood, I really hope you are not saying that out of experience.

A bit of a delayed response, but all I'm saying is that this niche interest has the potential to irritate someone who doesn't like it the way WE do, especially when some of us have that compulsive urge to just tickle our husbands/wives/boyfriends/girlfriends every chance we get, without paying it any more heed than petting one's dog on the way to the kitchen. I made this mistake in the past, and it's taken me time to get used to NOT doing it at all, since I burned that bridge, but ultimately, one must decide how much of a priority this interest is in one's life. For me, getting off feels the same no matter how it's accomplished. I realize I don't <i>need</i> it to be indulged, but do I want it? About as much as an alcoholic wants his next beer. I still get tempted every now and again, but other aspects of my life are much more important to me.

Many people here would argue that we cannot be happy without the indulgence, and for some, that may be true. Ultimately, a person must decide if they absolutely need it, or they could miss out on a lot of great people.

 

[rhiannon]

Flatfood, I really like your way of looking at it. 🙂

 

[fordtech30]

Unfortunately I have had that happen allot in the past. But I have also found some girls that it grows on and they actually enjoy it. I'm not one for doing sessions with everyone, but If a girl really likes you she will do whatever turns you on.

I have had a few girls let me tie them up and tickle them just because I told them i had a fetish for it.

Maybe try to tell them you have a fetish. She'll either run or be intrigued. Hate to be so black and white but there it is.

I actually lost my girlfriend to nest. lol

 

[fordtech30]

Yup. Just a while ago.

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?t=146807

Everything ended abrubptly.

I hear you. I just lost a girl to the whole nest thing. lol.

R you looking for lee's in houston area? Is that where your video company is?

 

[alex]

No means no

Happyman made the basic point. If somebody doesn't like it, you shouldn't be doing it to her, period. How would you like it if your girlfriend kept doing something to you that you found really painful after you told her not to?

There are plenty of women who enjoy being tickled, or at least would accommodate you. If it's so important to you to tickle your woman, then a woman who tells you not to do it in no uncertain terms is not for you.