This is a phenominal first!
Normally, these are usually threads posted about fat women being ugly; this is the first thread I've seen about men.
Pretty much everyone knows that I'm a big girl; BBW+ big baby! And the OP is right, there are plenty of websites that cater to BBW women and I don't know of any website specifically exclusive to large men. But largeandlovely.com helped me find a connection that changed my life about three years ago.
I had not dated in about six years and was on the internet one day bored and lonely as hell. I started looking at BBW websites and ran into largeandlovely.com. I started reading the profiles and decided to post my own. I wouldn't post a photo because my self-esteem wasn't exactly at an all time high. It was rough going initially, but eventually I got a response from a gentleman from my area. We met shortly afterwards on a blind date to a public restaraunt (sp). I had an exceptional crappy week so a coffee date turned into a drink date; I remember being so nervous that I did most of the talking; he seemed to enjoy not having to control the conversation. I can still remember when he initially got out the car; he was a massive guy at 5'9" tall and about 350 lbs! I never dated a man so large; I was always the heavy in my relationships if you know what I mean! My first thought was that this wasn't going to work because he's just too big for me! I know it sounds prejudiced, and it was. I was used to either shorter, smaller or thinner guys; they have an attraction to women my size that's simply unbelievable! Let's just put it this way; if there's a guy in the room 5'6" or under I can almost guarantee that he'll zero in on me like a heat-seaking missle!!
I remember during our date my neck being so tight that I thought I'd choke; he noticed it and on the way to the parking lot, he gave me a quick shoulder massage. I hadn't been touched by a man in years; I was rendered almost helpless. When he kissed me, it was the most gentle, loving, erotic kiss I had in years! It was the beginning of a relationship that helped me heal and one of the best friendships I ever had.
We were together for almost a year when life's stresses and struggles got in the way. Personally, I think he got spooked and backed away from me because he had never been in love before. We remained friends until he recently passed away at the age of 46. I didn't find out about his death until nearly two months later; I'm still overwhelmed and upset about it all and trying to find understanding of it all. R.I.P. Jerry-I miss you very much!
If you want to find someone who will accept you just the way you are today, not when you lose the weight or do whatever society claims is acceptable, try the largeandlovely.com website. There are plenty of men there who are in your same boat. I can give you some other sites if you're intersted; PM me sometime! I found my current SO on a different site; he's 5'3" and if he stood behind me, you wouldn't find him! But he knows how to make this girl happy if you know what I mean!!
I have a girlfriend who is 5'2" and about 130 lbs and she won't date a guy under 300 lbs! Her ex and I had a conversation once and we agreed that bigger may not be better in certain instances. But after being with Jerry, I learned better. And mimi is right, there's something about that big man being able to pin and tickle the crap outta' you is downright sexy as hell!!
In the end, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I truly believe that there is someone for everyone in this world. If you don't believe me, go to a public place and do some people watching. Some of the couples will make you spin your head like Linda Blair in the Exorcist!!
