"Coming Out "as a tickle-lover

[angelspike]

How do you guys suggest coming out to people about your love of tickling. I havent told anybody. Not even my friends and family. The idea of having a tickle fetish just sounds so strange I have trouble picturing myself telling anyone about. Does anyone have any suggestions?
Thanks 😕

 

[BigNorm]

i'm so right there with ya, best advice which i do, don't ever tell them until some odd embarrasing situation occurs or something where u must tell them, i haven't told anyone save the TMF and a girl i loved alot, until i found out she was a lesbian, lol.

 

[Celsus]

she was a lesbian?

Well, better that she leave you for another woman than another man.

 

[BigNorm]

hehe, yeah, and luckily she won't get pissed and spill my secret. i find beautiful women make it easier to share secrets. thing is, i told her about the tickling thing i got after i found out that she was a lesbian, and took it well. hell, she even said her feet were very ticklish, let me massage them, and promoted tickling them. and i gave tips about how tickling makes sex better, for when she gets with her mate. we'd have tickle fights with just the 3 of us.

 

[AquaFeline]

hijacking

Well, better that she leave you for another woman than another man.

This makes no sense to me. The implication is when you're dating someone of the opposite gender, and then they dump you for someone the same gender, you scared/disgusted/angered/disappointed your ex enough that they don't wanna try dating "your kind" anymore. Of course that's not how it works... but that's still the implication. So if a guy got dumped for a woman I would say that's more of a bruise to his ego then getting dumped for a man.

 

[BigBrownEyes]

Meeeeooowwwwww......😛

 

[AquaFeline]

I'm afraid I haven't mastered the language yet, so you'll have to provide a translation. 😉

 

[BigBrownEyes]

I'm afraid I haven't mastered the language yet, so you'll have to provide a translation. 😉

That's all right! Actually, I'm not really sure what it means. I think it means "where's the catnip, or something like that..." 😀

 

[steph]

Just curious, O.P.~Why feel the need to "come out" to the family at all??? For me it's a private issue just between me and my friends.

XOXO

 

[BigNorm]

hehe, Aqua, we never dated or hooked up, we were friends until i asked her out and she told me then. and even after that, we were still friends. just shocked i didn't see the signs that she was a lesbian.

 

[AquaFeline]

I got that, Cartman. I was posting a response to the general idea that it's better for a man to be dumped for a woman rather than another man, not a particular instance of that case.

 

[maniactickler]

I say just be a closet tickler. its less stressful. 🙂

 

[AquaFeline]

I feel more comfortable and happier being able to talk about my sexual idiosyncracies (with the right people) than feeling like I have something to hide.

 

[featherfingers]

If a guy likes women's breasts all of the other guys hoot and howl,"Yeah, man, breasts are best!!!" If feet are mentioned... stony silence (crickets chirping). Personally, I think that a man with a tickle fetish would make a better lover for a woman because he knows how to treat a woman's body with more tenderness than a guy who just yanks on her bosom's as if they're cow udders. You won't have to "come out". You'll meet a sweet lady who'll succomb to your charms. Time goes on, you get to know her. Your seated in a movie theater, you'll put your arm around her and give the nape of her neck a tickle. She'll either purr with delight or tell you to stop. If she liked the neck thing, she'll probably like other areas, too. If she didn't like it, maybe then you should confess your fetish. You won't be happy with someone who doesn't like to be tickled and she'll always be "on guard" when your urges begin to show. Your family doesn't need to know. You're not going to tickle them. Listen for clues when talking to friends. Say you're watching a movie together and a tickle scene appears on the screen... one of your friends might say, "Oh, man, I'd like to be in on that." Then you say, "Now that you mention it..."

 

[tickleshotel]

This is all interesting to me because I have been into
tickling since I was a child,my family knows ,my boyfriends
always knew before we got passed the courting stage.
About a month ago,we were playing " hangman" and when it came my turn
to pick a word,you shouldn;t have to think hard 🙂. It was hilarious,
people were guessing " pickle,fickle,ect ..and then someone guessed it but couldn;t say the word out loud so I said "tickle" ..so now everyone at work except the bosses hehhheh know about my tickle interest..It's great because some of the girls were joking with me and saying "now we should play show and tell,and they said " I bet Laurie would bring in a feather "..I'm glad that people know ,I don;t have to watch what I say now in danger of slipping 🙂LOL..

 

[TummyDragon]

I feel more comfortable and happier being able to talk about my sexual idiosyncracies (with the right people) than feeling like I have something to hide.

Exactly. Really, life is too short. Look at it this way, a few moments of possible embarassment vs the possibility of an *extremely* fulfilling relationship, or at least hours of insane fun.

I read in another thread something about don't tell anyone because you might have a vengeful EX running around blabbing your weirdness. Well, that exact thing happened to me, and I'm still alive, and, I ALSO got asked out by someone to whom she "blabbed" who was totally intrigued. It's just not that big of a deal in the overall scheme of things.

My motto is, if you are happy with yourself, why should you care what others think of *you*? Worry more about what *you* think about *them*.

 

[TummyDragon]

...Personally, I think that a man with a tickle fetish would make a better lover for a woman because he knows how to treat a woman's body with more tenderness than a guy who just yanks on her bosom's as if they're cow udders...

ROFLMFAO.. now that's a hilarious mental image..

great post too..

 

[Tickler Bart]

'Coming out' as a tickle-lover

I've told about my tickle & foot fetishes to those women who would be potential victims of my dancing fingers.
I've told a few women at work. They are NOT the type to blab it all over the place. They are VERY descrete about it.
My family knows 'something' or they speculate about the tickling. The foot fetish thing, a few family members know, but NOT everyone. It is not talked about or brought up during family gatherings.
I guess they feel embarrassed or ashamed of me to talk about it.
I also tell strippers whenever I go to strip clubs. I tell the ones that I am attracted to. 90% of them respond favorably. I guess it's better than having their breasts & asses groped all the time. It's something different for them, so they go for it.
I also tell women that show up at the Fetish Clubs in New York City, whenever I visit family. I get a 50-50 positive response from these women because alot of them come in off the street with their husbands &/or boyfriends (or both haha)& most are just 'curiosity seekers' & have no idea what to expect.
If people look at my AOL profile, it's there for the world to see.
Alot of people on AOL, Yahoo & other ISPs do not indicate their 'special needs' because they do not wish to be 'discovered' by friends & relatives.
If you don't let them know what you want, how will you ever find the RIGHT one, not just ANYONE?
Here's a perfect example. . .
A very attractive woman at work asked me if I was 'seeing' anyone.
She said she had a girl friend that might be 'good' for me.
I asked if her friend was on AOL. She said yes. I gave her my AOL screen name & told her that after reading my profile, her friend will probably decline any 'introductions'.
I asked 2 days later if her friend read my AOL profile. She said she did. This was almost 3 months ago. I never heard from her friend.
Apparently, after discovering my 'wants & desires', she probably said, "Oh, HELL NO. NOT this freak."
In my humble opinion, it's always better to reveal your wants & desires almost immediately when embarking on a relationship.
It'll save alot of heartache in the end.

 

[tickledorange]

I told my best friends, but that's ok. We tell each other everything anyway. Same thing goes for my brothers.

I told my cousins like (I think) 10 years ago. They didn't care and they never bring it up, but they tickle me anyway. It's OK, we're family, we're allowed to be wierd together. 😉

My grandma knows, but she's the one who asked me about it,so she kinda knew before I did. I'd never tell my parents, they'd either get wierded out or they'd ask me like a ton of questions about it.

I just kinda out and aid one day during conversation that I like to be tickled. People looked a me funny, but after a few minutes, it was OK because it was so long ago that it's not a big deal anymore.

 

[sole seeker]

Just curious, O.P.~Why feel the need to "come out" to the family at all??? For me it's a private issue just between me and my friends.

A wise woman! When was the last time you heard of someone "coming out" to tell their parents they liked to do it doggy-style? I'm pretty sure my folks would consider that too much information.

 

[steph]

Thank you hon~I don't even discuss the way I want to be kissed 🙄 I sure as heck don't want to hear what THEY'RE into (shudders)

XOXO