Costly endeavors

[spike246]

Being single and having a decent job has lead me to eplore options in satisfying my fetishes that include tickling which includes spending money. I always tell myself im going to stop since im not wealthy but sometimes I cant fight the urge.The last few years ive really gone overboard spending money to meet mistresses in Buffalo Pittsburgh and Cleveland who would cater to my needs.Ive visited one dungeon in Cleveland many times because they actually seem to enjoy torturing me and are good at it. Tickling womens feet is my primary fetish and that need never gets satisfied but because I am a foot fetishist they gladly force me too take off their boots so that I wworship their feet. Then they tie me naked on a rack and tickle me all over at times ive found this excruciating as Iam deathly ticklish . Most times we role play as I may be the tax man or home school visitor each time they teach me a lesson. Mysessions have often included two sometimes three mistresses.All in all ive calculated that I have spent 12000 dollars the last four years. this doesnt include all the money ive spent on videos over the years my spending spree dates as far back when I spent money for stories and drawings from a fellow who called himself tobias hackner. Id have alot of money in the bank now if Ididnt spend money to cater to my fetishes . Islow down then I get the urge to have another mistress session or buy another video Wonder if anyone else feels like they go overboard.

 

[Gadilici]

Well, dude, if you can't control it, that's addiction. Or compulsion if you don't have the "addiction gene". And anything you can't control is dangerous to you.

That being said, I've gone overboard more than once. Not near as much, but I've never had that much free money at my disposal. Often it's been unintentional overboardness. I thought I had the free money, turns out I didn't...lol.

But beware the uncontrollable urge. It can lead to destitution. With the economy as it is, and it sounds like you live in a dreadful area for jobs (lived in Akron for while where jobs can be tough to find in good times), so maybe you want to stash some back. And maybe stay more local.

Think of it this way. It's your emergency "Get My Fix Stash" That way if you're jobless you can still get the tickling you need until you find a new job. And maybe along the way you'd have to draw off the Fix Stash to handle rent or food or something. If you think of it as Fix Stash, you may be more likely to squirrel some away.

Ok, maybe the advice was unsolicited, but you seem a bit concerned.

Christopher

 

[SteakDinnerBoom]

Been there, done that. Spent a lot of money to tickle women, could afford it sometimes but most of the time couldn't. It wasn't so much an uncontrollable urge as it was coming into a lot of money and not knowing how to manage it. So I learned the hard way, and learned, and learned some more. If this is a sexual urge for you and it sounds like it is, as it was/is with me, might I suggest engaging in a little...ahem...self-love to get some relief? Sounds like you have a lot of great experiences you can relive while doing that. As "Frank Sinatra" (Phil Hartman) told "Woody Allen" one night on SNL, "when you're a one man band, no one gets hurt".

 

[Squeekels]

Wow, I'm really surprised at the amount you've spent and applaud you for being able to afford all that in the first place!!! I agree with Gadilici, it almost sounds like you have an addiction on your hands! I also agree that you have so many great experiences, cutting back for a while may not hurt.

I suppose it's different since I'm a female Lee, but when I can't play I do role playing through IM or over the phone. I understand sometimes the itch is so strong you need to go , but I would limit it and only spend the cash when you realllyyyy need to. I suppose there aren't fet people around in your area, but if you're dating around it never hurts to mention it to the other person and see what happens. That has worked on my past two boyfriends.

 

[PlayfulCarbonara]

In a way it sounds like an addiction... but to be honest you haven't had a chance to test that theory. You can truly tell an addiction if you are in need of something and use it anyway to get that fix.

From what I can tell, you have a liveable income and are single. You chose to spend $12,000 on something. So the question comes up - are you doing without because of that $12,000? And I don't mean doing without savings. I mean did you pass up paying a credit card bill or some other financial obligation? If no, then do you have a particular need that you were aware of that will arise that you will NEED that $12,000 in the bank? (buying a house, etc). If no, then while it may be an addiction, it seems be somewhat under control.

So here comes the next question: Is it worth getting looked into. Getting it looked into will cost you money as well. So you need to decide whether your spending habits are hurting you. So far, it sounds like the only thing you're missing a savings of $12,000. Fair enough. But it's common economics- which is worth more to you? The experiences or the savings? If, after your meetings, you feel you wasted the money and can't believe you spent it- then the savings is worth more and you have a problem. But if you can't honestly decide which you want more- that isn't a problem, it's a choice. You simply chose which you wanted more - money in the bank or to participate in that particular activity.

People choose to blow great deals of money on various things. And when you have nothing else to spend it on, it can really sum up. Just because you blew a lot of money on something doesn't make it a problem. It IS a problem if it starts to hurt you financially or cause stress to your life. If it doesn't- I'd just sit down and think really hard about whether you are happy spending that way on that particular activity. If you are- happy tickling to ya!

 

[ChicagoDavid]

Think of it as an expensive hobby, like skiiing. $12K over 3 years is $4k per year. The impact of that on your finances is much different if your income is, for example, $40K (10%) vs $100K.

Look at your finances at a time when you are feeling dipassionate, figure out a reasonable $ amount to spend over the year, and stick to that number. Don't cheat yourself out of doing something you love, but don't wreck yourself financially, either. If you do this, you won't feel guilty or stupid after a session for spending the money, as you've already figured out that you can afford it. Each year, re-evaluate.

Also, consider whether a mulit-mistress session is worth it. If mistresses for one session costs 3X as much as one, you may decide that 3 at once is great, but you'd rather have 3 one on one sessions for the same price. If you set an annual limit, you'll force yourself to look at it that way.

 

[milagros317]

What it amounts to is this: You're spending an average of $333 per month indulging your fetishes/interests. If you can afford it, if you're also buying new clothes, decent food, paying the rent and all your bills, then it isn't a problem. However, if you're going without things that make up a normal life to pay the $333 per month, then you've got a real problem.

 

[tickler4u2]

Hey Spike246 - Think of it this way. If you had put the $12k in the stock market you would have.......let's see.....about $7k left. So you've lost less than you think. Seriously, don't be down on yourself. We've all been tempted. But, my hope is to meet a woman here or elsewhere one of these days! Hope you do too!
Good luck.

 

[RobAce]

You would have spent a lot more than $12K if you courted and dated during those years.

Like many said, as long as you have a roof over your head, able to pay your bills and not scrounging for every cent. You should be fine. Just a hobby or luxury, not an addiction.

Rob

 

[spike246]

good insight

thanks for the good insight the 12 grand was over a course of 4 years this doesnt account for apll the money I spent on massageparlors videos and other things. Ithink because ive been saddled with this fetish intimacy has been hard I seem to only get aroused to that extent with tickling womens feet or if I had a pair of pretty feet in my face it might work love women to hug kiss and admire their beauty.would have been a good husband and father but I tried it and it wasnt fair to the girls that I formed relationships with I couldnt give that to them without divulging my fetishes . Anyway all my friends have spent way more than that on children tuitions and all that and ive never spent money over my account I will slow down for awhile with me another problem is that things get stale so I move on.

 

[Gadilici]

What in hell????

Christopher

 

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[Artoo]

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Young, it taught me Dieniang Qin Qi calligraphy and painting, little daddy, I love to follow the poetry reading the text. The six-year-old, caring daddy, I left early and Niangqin. The 20-year-old, the only Niangqin also left me, throw me in this strange earth, just like I had to bring this world the same. In this short span of four years, I have many times in the next days will be the time to see a mother who secretly weep in the room. I do not know why, but I can see her infinite sadness because you miss daddy? However, the mother until I step on the road, I understand all this. On that day, the mother of Jia call to her aunt's bedside, and my little hands into the hands of her heart, Yiziyidun said: "A little, you follow in the future on the al-aunt." I did not ask why. Niangshui every word very easily, I think of all of a sudden daddy had taught me a word: If the gas floating silk. I dare not ask what they are afraid of a mother's voice will not ring again. "My heart is clean, I hope I have a small negative Mo!" Aunt Jia's mother held hands and take a look at me, eyes full of tears. My heart is clean. Almost a decade, these words still clear in the past few years I have always remember your mother, our hearts are clean. I often walk to the edge of the West Lake, West Lake scenery of the United States as a painting, whether in the warm spring and hot summer, or in the quiet of autumn and winter bleak. The lake is often a sparkling, when the wind was calm like a lake on the new clothes from the fold. The slender willow always a twist of the graceful figure in the eyes of pedestrians from the constant There is no way to cover up the dressing. Occasionally birds have wings flopping about over the water, the green circle around the lake immediately disperse the ripple, such as a petal-ching of a Dutch shine out ... ... Dieniang me to stay alone in the earth, Both went to the last day of the world, perhaps, where they are most comfortable living a life of Shenxianjuanlv it, and I, walk alone in this desolate walk alone to do things on the world, although it's accompanied by beautiful mountains and rivers, however, is What seems to be less. Come to visit more and more people, but it is more dapper of the vulgar person has been unable to find a landscape of the tour with friends. I think too many people in the world, and I will not always find that one until he appeared. On that day, I am still on my wall of oil on board, through the thin curtains on the street watching the bustling crowd. This is also known to bend the Broken Bridge, the scenery remains the same, but people are not. Suddenly, the car stopped in a hurry, I can not help but move a dump, only to hear Chang Si horse. 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Speech, he revealed his love of the Hushan, I can not help but secretly scared Hi, Could it be he and I are the same people hang around the landscape? As a result, I invited him to a sit-ko. Pavilion is my mirror housing, do not readily allow the men to enter. Although I am in the eyes of many of the women's fireworks, I can not betray my body and I was singing-girl, sounds and songs to walk to the world, my heart, no time to clean. "Water does not move marks the autumn of net capacity, Huaying Spring dragging down ramps. Miaozai!" Yin Road when he was on the wall of my free verse, I looked back, showing the eyes of infinite appreciation of the situation, a little Meditation, and it has a. I think all of a sudden, Ruanlang, perhaps I have been waiting for him in that. My door, with a total of around Xiangmaotangtang those men, but they hate to leave, but I Jiao Mei is the face. Fillip old roots, Shanafanghua, one day, this youth's face was wrinkled and will eventually replace the old, who will still Lianzhao me? I want only the same state of mind of a friend. In the following days, we travel with the West, the landscape of All, I am in the oil inside the wall, he immediately Cong Green, inadvertently, as the eyes on to win the two nodded, smiling. Heart could not help but tremble slightly, as the eating of the immature fruit, slightly Suanse. Jia aunt to see our Qingtouyihe, then we have to do the Lord. That bringing a moonlight night in the quiet of the banks of West Lake, I put on the Hong Sha ... ... But the faint of heart surging unrest. The past, after all, have come. Get married soon after, Ruanlang home to the letter, saying that daddy is ill as a result of cold and can not, I hasten to Ruanlang urged to go back to visit. Who knows, Ruanlang to this, it will also lose audio. 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