Depressed?

[emilyemilyemily]

Or a chemical imbalance.

Maybe.

Possibly.

Quite likely.

this.

you'd be "whiny" too if you'd been born with a hole in your spine. just saying.

 

[Rustenexcel87]

well to lighten the tenshion here, if all else fails a good tickling always helps it gets you to smile and then your body starts to release endorphins.

 

[Banshee]

Honestly

Someone tells me they're depressed I tell them to grow the fuck up, the world isn't always a great place.
That's my opinion on it, anything else is psychobabble BS in my view.

 

[emilyemilyemily]

Someone tells me they're depressed I tell them to grow the fuck up, the world isn't always a great place.
That's my opinion on it, anything else is psychobabble BS in my view.

i don't know you, so i can't say for sure, but what i'm deducing here is that you're emotionless.

that must suck.

 

[Bows+Arrows]

It's entirely reasonable to think that depression is bullshit if you've never gone through it. If you have gone through it (and it's the ones who it happens to inexplicably, not those whose boyfriends break up with them; that's not depression, that's "being depressed") it's a mental condition and one of the shittiest feelings in the world, and has nothing to do with "growing up" or the world "not being a great place."

 

[emilyemilyemily]

It's entirely reasonable to think that depression is bullshit if you've never gone through it. If you have gone through it (and it's the ones who it happens to inexplicably, not those whose boyfriends break up with them; that's not depression, that's "being depressed") it's one of the shittiest feelings in the world, and it has nothing to do with the world "not being a great place."

this. thank you.

 

[Canadian_Eh]

this.

you'd be "whiny" too if you'd been born with a hole in your spine. just saying.

Not to beat a dead horse here , but I WAS born with a hole in my spine and i'm not "whiny" ... Having this disability means you're only going to get out of your life what you put into it.. How you look at it is entirely up to you, but I choose to look at the brigther side of things. ... That being said, it doesn't mean it never gets me down or frustrates me, it just means I try not to dwell

 

[DLazarus]

i don't know you, so i can't say for sure, but what i'm deducing here is that you're emotionless.

that must suck.

I think you are right Emily..........And if he hasn't felt depression he really doesn't know enough to comment.

 

[emilyemilyemily]

Not to beat a dead horse here , but I WAS born with a hole in my spine and i'm not "whiny" ... Having this disability means you're only going to get out of your life what you put into it.. How you look at it is entirely up to you, but I choose to look at the brigther side of things. ... That being said, it doesn't mean it never gets me down or frustrates me, it just means I try not to dwell

i didn't say i was being whiny. banshee did. also, that's great that you have such a happy outlook on life with your SB. i hope that i can have that someday.

 

[Speedbump]

I've been mildly depressed with stints of much more depressed for about 7-8 years now. It doesn't go away, nothing really makes me all that happy, and I have absolutely no idea what to do about it.

I pretty much just hide it as much as possible and pretend life doesn't suck and I'm pretty much just wasting my life at this point, not having any major purpose or goal.

The longer it goes on, the more my anger towards everyone and every thing builds up. I get annoyed, or pissed off at others simply because they're happy, or good things are happening for them. This doesn't happen all the time, just when I'm thinking a lot and getting really angry.

I know people have it way worse than I do out there, and others can say what they want about that, but what others feel is in no way a comparison to my own feelings. Everyone's different, and whether others are having it worse or not, my own problems are there and can't be shrugged off simply because they're not the worst problems in the world.

Good thread.

 

[Cy/MiG]

Someone tells me they're depressed I tell them to grow the fuck up, the world isn't always a great place.
That's my opinion on it, anything else is psychobabble BS in my view.

If the average person said they're depressed I would have a similar first reaction, but if I knew them personally or if they were constantly saying this then I would be smart enough to realize that it's not just 'psychobabble BS'.

Not to sound too bleeding heart-y, but I know and have known quite a few people with clinical depression. It's very real.

So, I'm not saying your opinion is wrong or worthless, I'm just suggesting that maybe you should attempt empathy on this one.

Unless you doubt medical science.

 

[AmandaBear]

I was diagnosed with a mild form of depression when I was in my early teens. Believe it or not, the Lexapro and the Vitamin D supplements I was taking regularly helped a lot. 😵 The chemicals in your brain are pretty powerful if they can make your mind feel like a broken record, stuck on the negative with no way out. And I will say that a balanced diet and some exercise does wonders for it as well. ^^

 

[Rustenexcel87]

Ok I did go through this but I got to be objective here. Sometimes a case of tough love is in order. If you see someone in a funck and they are doing nothing to help themselves it is your duty to say something if you care about the person. I had who cared about me tell me to "grow the f up, loose some weight, comb you hair, and change this situation." Then this person said "oh wait you can't I forgot who I was talking to you can't do anything right." Figure out what gesture I gave this person, but to this individual's credit a fire was lit under me. I wanted to prove this sob wrong. This person knew me well enoght to know what would get me to start to change the situation. Did I know it at the time, no. This person swaers what they said was a calculated strategy. I don't know if it was but it fuled my fire and gave me something to prove. I still think this person was talking with the ass and not the mouth but hey I needed to hear it at the time.
Not everyone is going to understand and that is a good thing. The world don't bend for nobody, we need to adapt to the world, the only way for someone who is dealing with this problem to recover is to learn to adapt to the world around them beyond their dark bedroom. While some who dealt with this might be upset with some said comments in this topic try not to hold it aginst anyone. The ideas are representive of the majority of the world which we must adapt to, take them with a grain of salt but also try to see the message that one needs to help themselves also.

 

[love feet]

I've been depressed ever since I could remember. I remember being really sad and angry as a kid. It is hard to diagnose depression in a kid. Most assume it is just part of growing up. I can't say my childhood was the greatest. I have a pretty crazy family. My depression got worse as I grew up. High school and College is when it got really bad. My senior year of high school my dad lost his job. It was like being stabbed in the heart. I thought I was going to get a car for college and it didn't happen. We also lost our health insurance. Thankfully my dads grandparents had money to help us. My dad kept trying to find a job. He is in his late 50s. That right there made it hard for him. He does have job now as a teachers aid. Well in college it was like I fell into a dark pit and couldn't crawl out. I would get mad at everything. Sometimes I would just cry for no reason. I hated my life and I just wanted to die. I would walk around my open campus late at night hoping some creepy man would kidnap me. I was drinking alcohol to get away from my problems. Finally during my junior year something snapped. I remember one day lying in bed and crying a river and I said I need help. I can't live like this anymore. If you are going to college please look into the counseling services. It was the best decision I ever made. I feel like a new person. I'm also on Zoloft. Don't call anti-depressants happy pills. There is no instant gratification. They help produce serotonin that will help you hopefully experience other emotions. Not just sad and angry. You probably will have side effects at first. I had nausea and headaches. Don't worry they will go away and trust me they have helped me out a lot. I don't know if I could have crawled out of my dark pit without them.

Thanks!!! Hope your still doing ok!!!
Did you ever have a anxiety or a panic attack problem?
with the depression to??

 

[love feet]

Is a cop out. There's no such thing as depression.

If you have ever had to deal with it you would never ever say that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!....🙁

 

[Cy/MiG]

Sometimes a case of tough love is in order.

True.

Just make sure that if that tough love is directed at someone with clinical depression that they're on their meds (or maybe don't say it at all), because other wise they're likely to off themselves.

 

[emilyemilyemily]

True.

Just make sure that if that tough love is directed at someone with clinical depression that they're on their meds (or maybe don't say it at all), because other wise they're likely to off themselves.

haha, i wouldn't off myself if someone tried to give me "tough love" in regards to my depression. i'd just get angry because that person obviously doesn't get it.

 

[love feet]

haha, i wouldn't off myself if someone tried to give me "tough love" in regards to my depression. i'd just get angry because that person obviously doesn't get it.

I hope your doing ok!!!

 

[emilyemilyemily]

I hope your doing ok!!!

i'm fine.

 

[love feet]

i'm fine.

ok.. 🙂

 

[TangerineTicklee]

Food for Thought

Well it goes to show you. When we are dealing with our issues we get so wrapped up in our problems we fail to see the good things around us. I believe good come out of bad. The bad might be more but there has to be a silver lining. One single ray of sun shines bright in a pitch black room.

I'm sure I've said this elsewhere on the TMF, but I am a very "odd duck" by nature. I don't necessarily believe in "finding the silver lining", but rather embracing what you have, good or bad and using it something amazing. Beautiful? Well, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and some people out there may not think the work that you produce from said situation(s) is beautiful. With that being said, the term "beautiful" or "good" are subject to change, based on the viewer, but I believe it is golden to make something significant out of whatever darkness befalls you.

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This song deeply reflects how I feel about life, in general. I hope *everyone* enjoys this link, as well as the other insightful one that I posted in my previous post. 🙂

 

[Dave Pavet]

The downside of labeling...Once you put a label on it, it is usually a self-fulfilling prophecy.

 

[Mitchell]

I haven't been back to this thread in a few months, and I want to clarify something I said.

T, by no means did I mean to make it sound like the things you are depressed about are small potatoes. I'm extremely sorry if that's the way it came out. I consider you to be a good friend, and, from our discussions since you've joined this forum, I know you've been through a lot. I also know that everyone can get depressed at times, over life's problems, because, to them, their problems are very serious.

My statement was more an.. I, statement, for myself. Before this March, I used to obsess and get depressed over things my best friend's mother was doing to sabatoge my friendship with him, over extremely nasty and evil comments my assistant makes, and other things. All I'm saying is, for myself, those things pale in comparison, to my mom being diagnosed with lung cancer. Being pissed at my best friend's mom because she is a vicious troublemaker, or disliking my assistant, isn't a life altering, life threatening situation, but my mom's cancer is.

Again, I apologize if my comments seemed insensitive. I know that everyone has legitimate problems that make them depressed. I did too, even before my mom was diagnosed with cancer.

Mitch

 

[TKL_Rebel]

I have just recently started counselling for a few things and by going there i have realised that i have got more issues than i thought i had 🙁 but i feel that this will be good for me and get me on track v soon....

in the mean time i wana share 2 feel good songs with everyone

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[love feet]

The downside of labeling...Once you put a label on it, it is usually a self-fulfilling prophecy.

True!