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Describe Your Perfect Match 🥰

Sunriseticklee

Sunriseticklee

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Hmmm... Something someone posted in the thread, "What Type of Ler Are You?" had me thinking a bit. They said that a person was their perfect ler. I thought that was very cute, but then, I wondered.... How would you all describe your perfect tickle match? (ler, lee, switch... any and all of it)

I will admit that I am rare-
I am a ler-leaning, sadomasochistic switch.
AND I am a bratty lee who loves being dominated and destroyed, but nothing about me reads sub.
AND I am a voracious (slightly reformed/ closeted) tickle monster. My ler persona is definitely an evil queen... Think Maleficent.
Plus... amongst my long list of kinks, I love men's feet. A LOT!

By definition, my perfect match should be:
A Lee-leaning, sadomasochistic switch AND he has to also be into feet (foot worship... full body worship- giving and receiving- really because it all just feels so amazing).

But this is so very rare, though. I told my friend the other day that I don't think "lee-leaning sadomasochistic switches" exist. 😭😭😭 LMAO... Do you all exist though? I also told him that I am nearly always unsatisfied as a lee. NOT because the session isn't fun. I am definitely having fun. I just resigned myself to the fact that most tickle lovers do not crave torturous tickling the way that I do. Most lers tell me that they don't like it.

Who do you think would be your perfect match? And if you have found your perfect match, do share. I enjoy love stories, especially when they involve tickling.

Sunny

P.S. I have found a way to say no to every single person since I lost my bestie (in this community).
I'm trying to break the cycle with a bunch of yes-es. To be honest, it has been difficult, but I have NEVER been a quiet, lurking, inactive, tickler. I love playing and meeting people in the community, and I've just shut down. Sooooo... Should you make your way to Nashville, my schedule is wide open. 😆🙃
ESPECIALLY if you are a ticklish guy 😛 (Double especially if you are a big guy 🥰🥰🥰)
 
I definitely have some things I look for to help ensure compatibility, but otherwise, I don't know if I have a concept of a perfect match (other than my favorite tickle partner of all time, my wife). Some things we look for are:
  • A woman who's not looking to do things behind a partner's back, and who is willing to play with a couple.
  • Core values such as kindness, empathy, respect, patience, honesty, and humility.
  • Someone who is laid back and not looking to get every detail of their fantasy perfectly executed, especially on the first go. I like fantasies a bit too, but I don't want to feel like I'm in a play...I want to play!
  • Someone who's not trying to make our session into a production. I feel like more and more people spend more time trying to capture the moment on video or in pictures, and less time leaning into the experience.
  • Someone who is not looking for sex and respects boundaries.
  • Someone who is not trying to constantly compare us to their last session partner or videos they've seen. We try not to do that as well, and I think that's why my list is more about really important things we don't want, or things that are more likely to be deal breakers–as long as they meet those kinds of criteria, we enjoy the variation of experience that playing with different people affords 🙂
I guess if I really had to get into ideals, here's some preferences, but these are just nit-picks and not necessities:
  • A switch – We're switches, so it just aligns better in that way.
  • Bisexual – It's nice if there's that extra spark they have with both of us,
  • Fit – This is less of an aesthetic thing and more of a functional one. We both find it a joy to be able to easily manipulate ticklish muscle and feel the spasms.
  • Someone who loves bondage
  • Someone who loves extreme tickling
Hmm...I wanted to write something different than what I wrote in my Sessions & Meetups link in my signature block, but I feel like I repeated a lot of it anyway 🫤
 
My perfect tickle match.
  • Definitely a lee, because if they were a ler then they'd be disappointed with me.
  • Someone who enjoys being tickled and the way it makes them feel. That can enjoy playful tickles but also has a desire for some tickle torture
  • Attractive feet and open to receiving foot worship as I like to alternate.
  • If it turns them on, that's a plus.
  • They have a partner(s) that already handles the rest of their needs.
I wouldn't be looking for a girlfriend or anything as I have one. She lets me indulge, but I do want to tickle more and not worry about cameras and what not. She's open me tickling other women for play for what it's worth. Just haven't done it since I started producing content.
 
A person who I am sexually attracted to, which is usually a genderqueer or non conforming person, or a queer cis woman. Occasionalky attracted to Cis men, but very rare. A sadomasochist switch. Someone who moves slowly and isn't just in it to get their rocks off. I'm Demi GreyAce, it takes a very specific type. Someone who likes fantasy, sci-fi, horror, and young adult rom coms, and music, and go on coffee and food dates.
Someone who has the patience to genuinely explore how to best tease me, help me test my boundaries, and really get me off.
 
Someone who is kind!

Who likes to hang out and can chat about other things than kink or tickling.

Can eat chips and go for a beer (or coffee with)

Someone who is patient, understanding and a gentle nature.

For me tickling is super fun, but not the be all and end all, what means more to me is the friendships and camaraderie that I've built up in the scene over the years.

That's where rapport comes in, getting to know someone over time, meeting up at munches and events, obviously in a public place first!

That takes away an awkwardness if you spend time getting to know your tickle partner and makes for wonderful play sessions
 
Fantasy is to have a girl that checks off the attributes below, become a stay at home Pilates girlfriend, manage my house…get pedicures, travel with me(I travel for work weekly to tropical destinations) and satiate my fetishes(tickle slave).

Ive found that a lot of women are pretty flexible to my kinks if they’re into me enough, so needing to find a woman that fits every fetish niche isn’t all that necessary to me…just personality and other various characteristics.


Ticklish
Fun
Youthful
Beautiful
Nice body
Sexy
Happy
Baggage(lack thereof)
Submissive
Kink friendly
Not promiscuous
Willingness to push sexual boundaries for me
Useful (cook/clean etc)
Nurturing
Generous

I’ve had this before. Put an ex through nursing school…so that was my priority for her. But relationships are more than just kinks, and sometimes they don’t work out!
 
I suppose I asked for it by not being specific to strictly tickling... Because that's what I actually meant.

Sigh... BUT I did say "any and all of it."

And my goodness- 🤦🏿 *cries in the corner.
 
I've never really thought about this until now. Let's see:

  • A female ler who is both sadistic and kind of silly at the same time
  • Super into to tickling men as men are into tickling women
  • Just a little bit of a pervert when it comes to tickling
  • Sometimes heavily craves tickling me to the point where there are surprise tickle attacks
  • Loves banter, because while I haven't yet had a proper session with someone in the community, I imagine I'll be joking around/talking a lot of crap lol
  • Finds random excuses to tickle me, either as "punishment" or even just because I'm sitting or standing a certain way, or wearing a piece of clothing that exposes a favorite spot of hers
  • Constantly thinking of new techniques, positions, and tools to tickle me with
  • Likes having in-depth dicussions about tickling
  • Teases me a little in public with quick sneak tickles, subtly pointing out tickling happening around us, or even thinking of hypothetical ideal places to tie me up in the public space we're in
  • MAYBE sometimes posts pics of my torment in tickling spaces (I really like the idea but I'm sooo scared of being caught by the vanillas)
  • Enjoys being tickled themselves on occasion, especially on their feet
  • Very into other various foot fetish activities as well

I feel like I'm being a bit demanding lol but this would be my ideal ler. I already have a partner, so this would just be for casual tickling purposes, though I wouldn't be against a romantic relationship like this
 
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My ideal victim is a woman who genuinely hates being tickled (especially by a man and especially in a state of indecent exposure) yet genuinely deserves to suffer (comeuppance) or reluctantly accepts it (consensual nonconsent). That it's in the realm of sick sadistic fantasy. In the realm of reality she is someone who gets uncontrollably wet and hot/bothered when I tickle her. I'm so incredibly blessed to say, she is someone I sleep with.
 
Sunriseticklee said:
Hmmm... Something someone posted in the thread, "What Type of Ler Are You?" had me thinking a bit. They said that a person was their perfect ler. I thought that was very cute, but then, I wondered.... How would you all describe your perfect tickle match? (ler, lee, switch... any and all of it)

I will admit that I am rare-
I am a ler-leaning, sadomasochistic switch.
AND I am a bratty lee who loves being dominated and destroyed, but nothing about me reads sub.
AND I am a voracious (slightly reformed/ closeted) tickle monster. My ler persona is definitely an evil queen... Think Maleficent.
Plus... amongst my long list of kinks, I love men's feet. A LOT!

By definition, my perfect match should be:
A Lee-leaning, sadomasochistic switch AND he has to also be into feet (foot worship... full body worship- giving and receiving- really because it all just feels so amazing).

But this is so very rare, though. I told my friend the other day that I don't think "lee-leaning sadomasochistic switches" exist. 😭😭😭 LMAO... Do you all exist though? I also told him that I am nearly always unsatisfied as a lee. NOT because the session isn't fun. I am definitely having fun. I just resigned myself to the fact that most tickle lovers do not crave torturous tickling the way that I do. Most lers tell me that they don't like it.

Who do you think would be your perfect match? And if you have found your perfect match, do share. I enjoy love stories, especially when they involve tickling.

Sunny

P.S. I have found a way to say no to every single person since I lost my bestie (in this community).
I'm trying to break the cycle with a bunch of yes-es. To be honest, it has been difficult, but I have NEVER been a quiet, lurking, inactive, tickler. I love playing and meeting people in the community, and I've just shut down. Sooooo... Should you make your way to Nashville, my schedule is wide open. 😆🙃
ESPECIALLY if you are a ticklish guy 😛 (Double especially if you are a big guy 🥰🥰🥰)
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I’ve had different experiences with different people with distinct personalities but I’ve come to realize there’s a pattern of character I enjoy most. I enjoy switching so I prefer a sassy, slightly bratty yet intelligent woman to be my lee/ler. I love hearing them mouth off to a degree and verbally taunt me when I’m the one doing the tickling. A playful mischievous aura to them is what I love most, someone who doesn’t stay in one tickle spot and explores— I also like when they take the time to make sure we’re both doing well throughout the session. So far I’ve yet to find all those qualities in one woman but a guy can dream 😅
 
Funny, my ideal partner turns out to be a combination of my current wife and an ex from a prior LTR. In no specific order and without divulging which one is which:

  • Is physically attractive (to me and others)
  • nice legs and feet. Curvy (not a skinny rail)
  • feet: nice arches, keeps toenails polished, ticklish
  • enjoys dressing like a girly girl: skirts, dresses, nylons, Lacey sheer clothing
  • is a bit of a flirt, can be a bit of an exhibitionist (g rated)
  • has a great smile and an infectious laugh
  • has a great shoe game: dangling, dipping, slips of shoes in public
  • actually enjoys having her feet touched: rubbed, caressed, massaged, tickled
  • open to letting other guys play with her feet in my presence
  • can be a bit kinky, enjoys having her hands tied, blindfolds, toys
 
I was a Ler only for a long time. Then a significant incident happened, I got tickled. Not just an ordinary tickling, but a ruthless destruction. Fueled by revenge (that's another story) lol, she sat atop me and tickle tortured me with impunity.
Since then, I have been a bonified switch, and my perfect match would be the same.
Masochistic, sadistic, and loving the sound of desperate laughter. Playfully finding ways to drive each other to the brink of ticklish insanity.
Seeking revenge and trying to best each other with fingers and hands and a knowledge of each other's terribly ticklish death spots.
I imagine hours of alternating pleasure and torture, leaving broken and breathless bodies, yet complete satisfaction at the end.
Well ......... we certainly all can dream.😴🥰
 
sensitivesara02 said:
To put things simply, I prefer lers who don't hold back on bound, breathless lees 😈. And its a bonus if they're open to switch, cause while I prefer being tickled, I might return the favor time-time.
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That's pretty amazing!
 
Well I am strictly a ticklee, and I tend to be pretty submissive. I enjoy feeling like a damsel in distress, a maiden captured by the tickle monster. I also have an ENF (embarrassed naked female) and CMNF (clothed male naked female) fetish. I am a bit of a doll or a pillow princess, I like being spoiled and used by the other. I am less a fan of being the one who is giving.

In addition I am rather small (4’9) and thin, and I like size differences, to feel totally overpowered. I also have a thing for hands, especially if they are large, rough, wrinkled or hairy or even a bit fat. So these hands can easily hold me in place and wreck my sensitive body. My dream ler would be a bigger and older guy, with a perverted and dominant side. (for example i have a bit of a thing for guys like the one for FatGuyfilm) I also like handsome men like Oscar Isaac haha.
Most of all I would like someone who would enjoy teasing me and embarrassing me, often stripping me naked and tickling me without mercy. And also who wouldn’t be too much into feet because I prefer being tickled in other places.
For women, I like tall muscular girls, kind of the wrestler type 🫣 although I am not limited to that type and I find many other people to be attractive.

I am also a bit of a brat and a smart mouth at times, so it’s fun if that person can take the sass (and maybe even punish me for it?). I don’t like being insulted or degraded, and I would never judge them or call them names so I expect them to do the same, even in a kinky context. I also don’t really care about vanilla stuff like penetration or oral, so if they dont care about this and dont try to push this or to use tickling as a way of getting sex, they are perfect.

If they fit all these criterias and are capable of having interesting conversations, I would totally submit and let them make their personal tickle toy.
 
I would like to add to the data!

My ideal tickle match would be

*A ler cuz I'm a lee and that just works
*Respectful of my aroace orientation and boundaries thereof, or also aroace or either aro or ace
*uses many tickling styles to keep me guessing (curse my ability to adapt quickly)
*Enjoys lering just to ler and not looking for anything else under the table
* Skilled
*Aware my focus can go way off into into left field without warning, not a deal breaker for them
*Has a free day for a session
*Not racist, sexist, or against the alphabet mafia, of which I am a long-standing member.
*Ok with doing sessions clothed (even if minimally)
*creative and willing to try unconventional spots as well as conventional ones
*While I have friends, always room for more. Cool to hang with over coffee, beer, or music

I may not have been super thorough, ask questions if you don't see stuff in this post
 
I don't care about weight or height. I'm self-admittedly, but unintentionally pretty tough to deal with at times. I have only had 1 full relationship, and 1 semi relationship with two different men who were able to satiate the needs I have. Bless 'em.

You need a good voice.
You need to lean more towards Daddy.
You need to be older than me.
You need to be smarter than me.
You need to be able to slip into armored spaces when I struggle to drop a wall.
You need to be able to handle consistent questions and a desire I have to learn or understand.
You need to be patient.
You need to be understanding.
You need to acknowledge your own short comings and own up to them.
You need to never cage my mind.
You need to have confidence in yourself.
You need to be able to communicate.
 
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