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Does Age Really Matter?
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german
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I say if you a connection with a person and they have qualities you desire there shouldn't be an issue with age (of course not talking about paedophiles and that).
I am a few months older then my current girlfriend, the biggest gap was 7 years and that was when I was 18 she was 25. Pretty much before my current relationship I was going out with a 27 year old but we didn't seem to click, she wanted to settle down and well.......................i am not ready for that.
I got to ask; how was it going out with someone 21 years older then you?
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I am a few months older then my current girlfriend, the biggest gap was 7 years and that was when I was 18 she was 25. Pretty much before my current relationship I was going out with a 27 year old but we didn't seem to click, she wanted to settle down and well.......................i am not ready for that.
I got to ask; how was it going out with someone 21 years older then you?
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ticklishgiggle said:
As a matter of fact there would always be cases in which age would matter. As a general rule I do not date anybody o of whom I could be the father.
I read once that +/- 3 years is the generational range, +/- 5 years the normal i.e, most common range and +/- 10 years the limit. So that is also my working rule. Meaning no matter your incredible eyes you are out of my shouting range
.All this is for long term relations.
For a one night stand, maybe whatever you fancy and you can hunt. Nevertheless I always remember the anecdote of the German playboy, of 60 year old more or less, talking about his new blonde:
-If she really means it when she said I am fantastic, she is either lying or completely stupid, because I remember how good I was and I am nowhere near now-.
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I've found that guys in my own age group and younger do not satisfy me emotionally or mentally. I'm only ever attracted to older men - between 40 and 70. So yeah, it matters to me. I just don't think I could ever have a meaningful relationship with a guy the same age or younger then me.
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Id date anyone from 18 up, but if it was for a serious relationship, id want someone at least within 10 years of me.
1. What's the age range of people that you've actually dated?
between my age and 6 years older then me
2. What range would you consider? I.e. how low, and how high, are you willing to go?
hmm, difficult to say, if I'd find a guy interesting or if I'm attracted to him, I would just date him, never thought about age too much, somehow I comes naturally that all guys I've dated so far have been within my age range more or less. But to answer the question, I'd say ideally not more than 3-4 years younger than me and not more than 15 years older.
3. Does age matter?
as already said, it's all about the individual. I can't imagine dating anyone who could be my father though. so yes, it does matter to some degree
between my age and 6 years older then me
2. What range would you consider? I.e. how low, and how high, are you willing to go?
hmm, difficult to say, if I'd find a guy interesting or if I'm attracted to him, I would just date him, never thought about age too much, somehow I comes naturally that all guys I've dated so far have been within my age range more or less. But to answer the question, I'd say ideally not more than 3-4 years younger than me and not more than 15 years older.
3. Does age matter?
as already said, it's all about the individual. I can't imagine dating anyone who could be my father though. so yes, it does matter to some degree
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Back in the day, I loved dating older women. In 1995, I was in a brief fling with a woman twenty four years older than I was...and I saw absolutely nothing wrong with this, other than having to explain to various and sundry individuals what attracted me to a woman older than my mother. Some years earlier, I went on a date with a woman even older than that.
Some women age like fine wine...they never lose whatever they had in the first place. It just gets better.
My last girlfriend, the one that precedes my wife, was nine years older than me...my wife's the aberration. She's nine years younger. A bit annoying to be with someone who thinks Pop Culture started with New Kids on the Block, but that's neither here nor there
Some women age like fine wine...they never lose whatever they had in the first place. It just gets better.
My last girlfriend, the one that precedes my wife, was nine years older than me...my wife's the aberration. She's nine years younger. A bit annoying to be with someone who thinks Pop Culture started with New Kids on the Block, but that's neither here nor there
My wides margin was when I was 19 in college and the woman was 35...damn that was good sex!!
That is just a fabulous mix of both of us at our sexual peaks and her taking control and telling me all I need to know about how to please a woman.
That is just a fabulous mix of both of us at our sexual peaks and her taking control and telling me all I need to know about how to please a woman.
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I think that the maturity of both parties has a lot to do with any age-difference relationship. You can't easily say that there's one rule or guideline that works for everyone. Hell, I know people who shouldn't be allowed to date humans, regardless of age.
I tend to like younger women, but not for the obvious reasons of "older guy seeking life-reaffirming mid-life crisis fling." I tend to think young. I look young, I act young. I love this age I'm at right now because I still have a good hold on my youth, but have a wider range of experience and wisdom than I had twenty years ago.
Not saying I wouldn't date someone my own age...she just has to be young-at-heart as well. I know some 40 year olds who act like they're 16 and I know a couple of much younger women who have a wealth of maturity.
I tend to like younger women, but not for the obvious reasons of "older guy seeking life-reaffirming mid-life crisis fling." I tend to think young. I look young, I act young. I love this age I'm at right now because I still have a good hold on my youth, but have a wider range of experience and wisdom than I had twenty years ago.
Not saying I wouldn't date someone my own age...she just has to be young-at-heart as well. I know some 40 year olds who act like they're 16 and I know a couple of much younger women who have a wealth of maturity.
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I think maturity matters more so than age. My fiance' is almost 30, six years older than I am. He's the youngest guy I've ever dated seriously. He's also way more mature than anybody I've dated. He's also the first real Christian I've dated. Those things are of the utmost importance to me, younger or older.
maniactickler said:
you mean someone between the ages of eighty and ninety? i hear they are good with flatulence...
anyway..i've always dated guys younger than myself..might have had something to do with my mindset..or the fact i always looked about ten years younger..which i used to hate, but love now..i have dated guys my age, mostly in college..and i married a guy who is only two months older than i am, but acts much older lol..
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When I was 24, I had a brief (3 months) relationship with a woman who was 36. That was the only time I dated somebody older.
The woman I almost married in 1980 was 5 years younger than I am.
Mistress Zara is more than a quarter century younger than I am, but that doesn't count, since she is a professional Domme, not a date.
The woman I almost married in 1980 was 5 years younger than I am.
Mistress Zara is more than a quarter century younger than I am, but that doesn't count, since she is a professional Domme, not a date.
Depends on which age.
There are many ages. To my mind, there are at least: chronological, mental, emotional, social, sexual.
Chronological age and sexual age are things I give little regard to (one you can't control, and the other is educable), if the others are up to par for me, but often the important scales (mental, emotional and social) are impacted at least in part by chronological age.
I need people who can keep up with me mentally. This doesn't require encyclopedic knowledge, but a plasticity of mind akin to my own, a sense of wit and humor, creativity, and someone who is painstaking in their efforts not to have their breadth of thought limited by emotion or ideology.
I like people who are emotionally mature, know how to take care of themselves, but can also recognize when they could use help.
And I like people who are socially mature, can engage in the give and take of conversation, read people at those times when verbal communication just isn't telling the whole story, and alternatively, tell the story when non-verbals just aren't getting it across.
I'm by no means perfect on these scales myself nor expect others to be, but I accept my own flaws and those of others, provided all parties involved are moving toward becoming better, and refusing to stagnate.
This applies to all kinds of relationships.
There are many ages. To my mind, there are at least: chronological, mental, emotional, social, sexual.
Chronological age and sexual age are things I give little regard to (one you can't control, and the other is educable), if the others are up to par for me, but often the important scales (mental, emotional and social) are impacted at least in part by chronological age.
I need people who can keep up with me mentally. This doesn't require encyclopedic knowledge, but a plasticity of mind akin to my own, a sense of wit and humor, creativity, and someone who is painstaking in their efforts not to have their breadth of thought limited by emotion or ideology.
I like people who are emotionally mature, know how to take care of themselves, but can also recognize when they could use help.
And I like people who are socially mature, can engage in the give and take of conversation, read people at those times when verbal communication just isn't telling the whole story, and alternatively, tell the story when non-verbals just aren't getting it across.
I'm by no means perfect on these scales myself nor expect others to be, but I accept my own flaws and those of others, provided all parties involved are moving toward becoming better, and refusing to stagnate.
This applies to all kinds of relationships.
I've always looked and acted younger, but guys never seem to mind. My friends' teenagers have hit on me, which is a little creepy as I approach 40. 
And no, I would never do anything about it~teenagers give me the heebie jeebies. 
Sorry. Anyone playing with them who's above their 20s has issues IMHO.
Romantically, I generally connect better with guys a little younger than me or about my age. In general. But I've some GREAT male friends in their 50s~interestingly, they seem younger than stated age to me as well though. Hmmm...
XOXO
And no, I would never do anything about it~teenagers give me the heebie jeebies. Sorry. Anyone playing with them who's above their 20s has issues IMHO. Romantically, I generally connect better with guys a little younger than me or about my age. In general. But I've some GREAT male friends in their 50s~interestingly, they seem younger than stated age to me as well though. Hmmm...
XOXO
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I don't think age really matters at all. Personally, i would like someone to be within 5 years of me but that's just me. I'm 20 and I will go as old as 25, but only as young as 17 or 18. I would want to date someone who is a part of my generation so we will have that and the experiences of the same generation in common.
Some older men would stoop so low as to do Porky Pig immitations just to impress you, my dear.steph said:I've always looked and acted younger, but guys never seem to mind. My friends' teenagers have hit on me, which is a little creepy as I approach 40.
Romantically, I generally connect better with guys a little younger than me or about my age. In general. But I've some GREAT male friends in their 50s~interestingly, they seem younger than stated age to me as well though. Hmmm...
XOXO
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Age should only matter when one person in the relationship is below the age of legal consent. With that said, I don't see why age should matter in a relationship, as long as both people truely care about one another.
The youngest person I was in a relationship with was two years younger than myself, while the oldest was 18 years older than myself. Of course, both relationships ended due to certain circumstances but that doesn't mean all relationships with an age gap of that calibur must end....and I appear once again to be rambling 🙂
The youngest person I was in a relationship with was two years younger than myself, while the oldest was 18 years older than myself. Of course, both relationships ended due to certain circumstances but that doesn't mean all relationships with an age gap of that calibur must end....and I appear once again to be rambling 🙂
My soon to be (not soon enough honestly) ex-wife and I married when I was 27 and she was 19. An 8 year age diffrence and I thought we could handle it.
Eventually she yearned for all the things a 21 year old yearns for and being married wasnt one of them. She wanted her freedom and such and being married "hampered" her dating....well not enough oboviously...and now 6 years later, I at 34 and she at 26 have now been seperated for over a year and now are waiting on our divorce to be final.
I can not see myself getting into a relationship with anyone much younger than my soon to be ex wife. 8 years my junior is about as low as I go, but with a shmorgishboard (I probally didnt spell that right...but EH) of college co-ed vixens around the Athens GA area, sometimes when that cute 21 year old woman comes a calling Im finding it harder and harder to say no, mainly I think because its hard to find someone closer to my age that I really want to be with and perhaps I should give a younger woman a chance.
But my main rule is, if she cant LEGALLY drink with me....then I will not date her under ANY circumstances.
So I might date someone who is 21, if the circumstances were right. But never under any circumstances anyone between 18-20.
Rob
Eventually she yearned for all the things a 21 year old yearns for and being married wasnt one of them. She wanted her freedom and such and being married "hampered" her dating....well not enough oboviously...and now 6 years later, I at 34 and she at 26 have now been seperated for over a year and now are waiting on our divorce to be final.
I can not see myself getting into a relationship with anyone much younger than my soon to be ex wife. 8 years my junior is about as low as I go, but with a shmorgishboard (I probally didnt spell that right...but EH) of college co-ed vixens around the Athens GA area, sometimes when that cute 21 year old woman comes a calling Im finding it harder and harder to say no, mainly I think because its hard to find someone closer to my age that I really want to be with and perhaps I should give a younger woman a chance.
But my main rule is, if she cant LEGALLY drink with me....then I will not date her under ANY circumstances.
So I might date someone who is 21, if the circumstances were right. But never under any circumstances anyone between 18-20.
Rob
WOW....ticklishgiggle...what a good question...thanks for the great reading!.....I am a woman now age 44 and reading the responses from so many different ages.....interesting to say the least.....
I think it depends on what each person is interested in.....if it is sex ..I'm going to have to say that I believe the men folk here would prefer the younger ladies......sorry, not buying it guys!!....If it is fun and conversation.....someone my age would be of an interest....if I am attracive enough....it could lead to more....but with the younger men.....I don't get "the look" from men in their 30's and 20's like I used to....I still get a lot of looks...but usually from men in my age range...and that is cool...but I do think age matters to men who may be looking for romantic interest...but there are always exceptions....so I speak of the majority...I want to attend the nest meeting this spring.....I'll take a survey of those who I can tell find me attractive...( btw...women can tell....
)...maybe I'll be surprised... 
I think it depends on what each person is interested in.....if it is sex ..I'm going to have to say that I believe the men folk here would prefer the younger ladies......sorry, not buying it guys!!....If it is fun and conversation.....someone my age would be of an interest....if I am attracive enough....it could lead to more....but with the younger men.....I don't get "the look" from men in their 30's and 20's like I used to....I still get a lot of looks...but usually from men in my age range...and that is cool...but I do think age matters to men who may be looking for romantic interest...but there are always exceptions....so I speak of the majority...I want to attend the nest meeting this spring.....I'll take a survey of those who I can tell find me attractive...( btw...women can tell....
)...maybe I'll be surprised... 
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1. What's the age range of people that you've actually dated?
I have dated guys up to and slightly over 25 years older than me.
2. What range would you consider? I.e. how low, and how high, are you willing to go?
Typically, I prefer to not date anyone more than 5 years younger than me and 25 years older than me. But nothing is written in stone.
3. Does age matter?
I think it depends upon the individual. Some people just click, and they could have a huge age difference or little to none. It doesn't really matter to me, so long as they know how to take some responsilibity and to be serious when the situation calls for it. There is a big difference between being silly and fun loving and being completely immature. Immaturity = big turnoff for me.
Right now, my age preference is somewhere in their late 20's, 30's or early 40's. Exceptions are possible, this is just my target age group right now.
I have dated guys up to and slightly over 25 years older than me.
2. What range would you consider? I.e. how low, and how high, are you willing to go?
Typically, I prefer to not date anyone more than 5 years younger than me and 25 years older than me. But nothing is written in stone.
3. Does age matter?
I think it depends upon the individual. Some people just click, and they could have a huge age difference or little to none. It doesn't really matter to me, so long as they know how to take some responsilibity and to be serious when the situation calls for it. There is a big difference between being silly and fun loving and being completely immature. Immaturity = big turnoff for me.
Right now, my age preference is somewhere in their late 20's, 30's or early 40's. Exceptions are possible, this is just my target age group right now.
