does anyone know what i'm talking about right now?

[emilyemilyemily]

there've been a few times when i was very comfortable with certain people and wanted to tell them about my kink, but over time, it's occurred to me that when the person who's tickling me thinks i hate it, it makes it much more enjoyable for me. i feel like, if a person started tickling me because he knew i like it, it would take away from a lot of the fun. i don't know if it's about the spontaneity, or if i'm secretly a masochist, or what. does this make any sense to anybody, or am i just rambling?

 

[dad1]

Sounds to me like you get off on the meanness of guys tickling you when they think you don't like it. If a guy tickles you because you like it, it's not mean, and so it's no fun.
XO

 

[rhiannon]

Plus: Most people tickle others to annoy them. They might stop when you tell them you like it. So don't tell them! 🙂

 

[emilyemilyemily]

getting off on meanness, eh? hmmm...that's news to me.

 

[love feet]

on the flip side if they know you like it they may be very happy to explore that side of!!

 

[Em Es]

I like it better when the girl I tickle dislikes it

emilyemilyemily I like it better when the girl I tickle dislikes it because that means she puts up with me tickling her in order to please me. I find that very hot. Other guys can't get away with tickling her, but I can!

Not that I would not want to tickle a woman who admits she enjoys it!

So, yes, what you say makes sense. It's as if you enjoy the role-play of the reluctant ticklee, no?

 

[rhiannon]

Em Es, I really keep having a hard time with you enjoying to do things to a girl although you know she doesn't like it. I just can never get used to it! 🙂

 

[chicago]

It makes sense to me since I could never outright say "Can you tickle me please?" But it's less likely people will tickle you if you tell them you hate it. Of course, I'm of the mind there's no need to tell people you aren't sexually involved with how you feel about tickling one way or another.

I tend to open up about it to the people I date and let them know once, that I enjoy being tickled, but it's a love/hate relationship.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

there've been a few times when i was very comfortable with certain people and wanted to tell them about my kink, but over time, it's occurred to me that when the person who's tickling me thinks i hate it, it makes it much more enjoyable for me. i feel like, if a person started tickling me because he knew i like it, it would take away from a lot of the fun. i don't know if it's about the spontaneity, or if i'm secretly a masochist, or what. does this make any sense to anybody, or am i just rambling?

i guess i won't come over and tickle u since i know you like it 😛

 

[emilyemilyemily]

i guess i won't come over and tickle u since i know you like it 😛

nnnnope. i guess not.

 

[Canadian_Eh]

It makes sense to me since I could never outright say "Can you tickle me please?" But it's less likely people will tickle you if you tell them you hate it. Of course, I'm of the mind there's no need to tell people you aren't sexually involved with how you feel about tickling one way or another.

I tend to open up about it to the people I date and let them know once, that I enjoy being tickled, but it's a love/hate relationship.

Exactly this! ...

Eventhough tickling isn't sexual for me, I STILL can't bring myself to tell people about it. Only one person in my life knows and it was the ONLY person I ever came out too.. I will never EVER ask for it.. However i've been told that it's not hard to figure out when i'm actually 'asking for it' ... I agree with Annie that for me as well, it's also a love/hate thing.

I also agree with you Emily, that it does take that fun out everything if the person does know you're into it.. I think it takes the innocence and playfulness out of it, which for me is exactly what it's about!

 

[Cif]

its rather strange because in my fantasies, i definitely feel like i was a lee to beg for me to stop, but then when its come down to it in the past, i thoroughly enjoyed somebody telling me to tickle them. it makes for great sex anyway

 

[Em Es]

But she likes something more noteworthy - pleasing me

Rhiannon, you told me, "I really keep having a hard time with you enjoying to do things to a girl although you know she doesn't like it. I just can never get used to it!"

As with Maria, the cute little nurse I used to tie and tickle, while she would not have replied to my personal ad seeking a tickling submissive she allowed repeated bondage/tickling because it made me happy.

Sure, Maira never would have wanted me to tickle her. But she expanded her limits in order to please me. Haven't you ever found yourself doing something to make someone happy you never thought you would do, Rhiannon?

 

[Eternal Tomboy]

Emily -

I find that I'm in exactly the same boat as you. I have "come out" to several of my friends, and I found that once they knew I like to be tickled, the dynamic of any tickle fights that happened afterwards changed.

For me, tickle fights are the most enjoyable form of tickling. They are spontaneous, playful, fun, and tend to cause the biggest "high" for me. I get an amazing adrenaline rush from them, and thoroughly enjoy the natural power struggle between the 'ler and 'lee in that situation.

In most cases the tickle fight will be sparked by something I did that was obnoxious or ego deflating, and the 'ler uses tickling as a means of getting me back. But once the 'ler knows I like to be tickled, it can no longer be used as "punishment". And once that's out of the equation, most (if not all) of the fun is lost from the tickle fight because the power struggle between us takes on a phony quality - like we're both acting. I mean, I know I'M acting, but I don't want HIM to be acting too! 😉

Not sure if that makes any sense at all, but there it is....

 

[rhiannon]

Rhiannon, you told me, "I really keep having a hard time with you enjoying to do things to a girl although you know she doesn't like it. I just can never get used to it!"

As with Maria, the cute little nurse I used to tie and tickle, while she would not have replied to my personal ad seeking a tickling submissive she allowed repeated bondage/tickling because it made me happy.

Sure, Maira never would have wanted me to tickle her. But she expanded her limits in order to please me. Haven't you ever found yourself doing something to make someone happy you never thought you would do, Rhiannon?

I would try stuff if I don't know it - but certainly not everything! And if I tried it and I don't like it, I won't do it again. And if my partner doesn't accept that I guess I am not important enough to him!

 

[emilyemilyemily]

Emily -

I find that I'm in exactly the same boat as you. I have "come out" to several of my friends, and I found that once they knew I like to be tickled, the dynamic of any tickle fights that happened afterwards changed.

For me, tickle fights are the most enjoyable form of tickling. They are spontaneous, playful, fun, and tend to cause the biggest "high" for me. I get an amazing adrenaline rush from them, and thoroughly enjoy the natural power struggle between the 'ler and 'lee in that situation.

In most cases the tickle fight will be sparked by something I did that was obnoxious or ego deflating, and the 'ler uses tickling as a means of getting me back. But once the 'ler knows I like to be tickled, it can no longer be used as "punishment". And once that's out of the equation, most (if not all) of the fun is lost from the tickle fight because the power struggle between us takes on a phony quality - like we're both acting. I mean, I know I'M acting, but I don't want HIM to be acting too! 😉

Not sure if that makes any sense at all, but there it is....

this. zomg. thanks for answering, people.