My name is Mimi, and I am a BBW. No, I am not afraid to admit it, but I am getting really tired of defending that point.
When I first discovered the tickling community 4 years ago, I spent a good deal of time lurking. I was afraid to take that step and become an active participant, because I was afraid my physical appearance would label me as an outcast. I finally decided to take the plunge, based on the fact that online, no one could see me. I could keep my appearance a mystery. I quickly found acceptance, based on my personality alone, and made myself at home in the community.
Eventually I found myself here, at the TMF. For years I refused invitations to attend gatherings, or even to meet fellow ticklephiles in person because of my fear of physical acceptance. My fear that no one would want to play with a 'fat girl'. But some members of this forum simply refused to take no for an answer. After several long talks with some really great people here, I was finally reassured that my physical appearance would play no part whatsoever in my acceptance at a gathering. I was especially tickled to find that I was not the only BBW in the tickling community, and that several of our male Ler's even prefer BBW's for play. So, thanks to their encouragement, I made plans to attend my very first gathering in a few months.
Then, last night in the chat room, I met a young man who unburied my fears and brought them back to haunt me once more, to the point I am once again debating my acceptance in the community, and second thinking my decision to attend this gathering. He very blatantly said "I REFUSE to tickle fat girls. That's just gross." He then went on to make several jokes about weight challenged females, and eventually brought me to the point I had to leave the chat room. I still do not know if I can ever return there after the taunts and ridicule I endured last night.
So my question is, does size really matter when selecting a tickle partner? Are there other girls in the community who have remained in the closet, or in lurk status due to the same fears I fight with every day? Exactly what is the population in the community who, like the young man last night, 'refuse to play with fat girls'? And, more importantly, how large of an issue is this at gatherings, or when meeting a fellow ticklephile for a real life play session? I'd love to hear from all members on this issue. Whether you agree with the young man last night, or not. Now that I have come out of the closet about my BBW stance, I would really like to know my place in the community....even if I am now at the bottom.
Mimi
When I first discovered the tickling community 4 years ago, I spent a good deal of time lurking. I was afraid to take that step and become an active participant, because I was afraid my physical appearance would label me as an outcast. I finally decided to take the plunge, based on the fact that online, no one could see me. I could keep my appearance a mystery. I quickly found acceptance, based on my personality alone, and made myself at home in the community.
Eventually I found myself here, at the TMF. For years I refused invitations to attend gatherings, or even to meet fellow ticklephiles in person because of my fear of physical acceptance. My fear that no one would want to play with a 'fat girl'. But some members of this forum simply refused to take no for an answer. After several long talks with some really great people here, I was finally reassured that my physical appearance would play no part whatsoever in my acceptance at a gathering. I was especially tickled to find that I was not the only BBW in the tickling community, and that several of our male Ler's even prefer BBW's for play. So, thanks to their encouragement, I made plans to attend my very first gathering in a few months.
Then, last night in the chat room, I met a young man who unburied my fears and brought them back to haunt me once more, to the point I am once again debating my acceptance in the community, and second thinking my decision to attend this gathering. He very blatantly said "I REFUSE to tickle fat girls. That's just gross." He then went on to make several jokes about weight challenged females, and eventually brought me to the point I had to leave the chat room. I still do not know if I can ever return there after the taunts and ridicule I endured last night.
So my question is, does size really matter when selecting a tickle partner? Are there other girls in the community who have remained in the closet, or in lurk status due to the same fears I fight with every day? Exactly what is the population in the community who, like the young man last night, 'refuse to play with fat girls'? And, more importantly, how large of an issue is this at gatherings, or when meeting a fellow ticklephile for a real life play session? I'd love to hear from all members on this issue. Whether you agree with the young man last night, or not. Now that I have come out of the closet about my BBW stance, I would really like to know my place in the community....even if I am now at the bottom.
Mimi
If your physical appearance must be of relevance, then from what I've seen in your member photo, you're quite a stunner with an absolutely adorable smile. (I'm not hitting on you, because I respect the bonds of your wedlock, but offer the unbiased testimony of a neutral third-party observer.) Do you love yourself? Does your husband love you? Then that's all that should matter. Does the Hemorrhoid-on-legs that teased you deserve to have his opinion of you given that same level of importance?
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And changing her nationality to Russian doesn't help. She's still thin and blonde. Who cares? Real people come in all shapes and colors and so do tickling fanatics. So it's time everyone got representation and acceptance. 
BBW or whatever, it's all about attitude. Opinions are just that.....MadK was quite eloquent on the whole topic and I shan't attempt to improve upon his post! Q
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