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Does size really matter?

Size matters

Discussions on matters of opinion can be fun. As I say on some political fora that I participate (when I want to tweak the other side) everyone has a right to my own opinion. Back in my Navy days when we were standing about trying to show how suave we were we would quote the famous Johnny Carson line, "Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly goes clear to the bone." I'm not sure he invented it, but I believe he was the one that used it the first time I heard it.

I s'pect at the end of the day size does matter especially if tickling is but part of a relationship. I sort of doubt any of us could maintain a relationship with someone we find unattractive. Life is too short. On the other hand, if we each think ours is the most drop dead gorgeous creature ever to walk upright, we won't be able to wait for tomorrow morning just to get another glimpse.

Yet I find it interesting how cultures evolve. Before approximately 1920 in the United States, the sex goddesses of the silver scre...er, er...stage were round in the corner and buff in the bow (or saucy in the mantle) as the old sea shanty had it. They were big in the personality department both coming and going. And they turned heads. They were so because guys liked it for probably a couple hundred thousand years.

That all changed, at least publically. Anyway, despite being told from the first twinge of puberty that we of the male persuasion are supposed to be attracted to only the tall slender lasses, you don't just erase ten thousand generations of genetic habit with the snap of the fingers. I bet lots of guys still like pertners round in the corner and buff in the bow. It's all good though because in this world there's someone for each of us thay say.

Mimi says she has changed so much since this thread was started. With luck we all have and for the better. Legitimately confident women are such fun to be around. I just wish it possible to get across to everyone starting out that character and personality is the whole ball game and lads and lasses with good character and personality will be separating their own lookers from their own wannabes in no time flat. In tickling the youth of today is so lucky. They can make tickling compatibility a requirement. Many years ago it seemed more random. In fact I think my tickling desires would have seemed truly odd if the subject even came up in those days.

This is by no means a judgement of those with other preferences. I prefer women of the curve. After a man is absorbed by a lit up curvette, as he searches for his scrambled senses, his most intense sensation will be one of , "WOW!!!"
 
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If someone be holding you, then he/she must think you are beautiful. I don't see how anything else even matters.
 
pennyg said:
Maniac: You are entitled to your opinion my friend but you could pass by the opportunity to get to know somebody truly wonderful, if you judge people based on their looks.
My former fiancee was everything a girl could want he was tall, dark and handsome and wealthy but he worked all the time and I was lonely and it took my three and half years to realize looks, money mean nothing it is the person beside you.

I guess my preference could be considered shallow. but its just the way i am. i cant force myself to like someone im not attracted to. i just feel looks and personality are completely equal. i cant have one without the other. :O
 
Good thing most women don't share that frame of mind when it comes to selecting men. I'd hate to see what would happen if men had to be as self conscious and concerned over their looks 24/7 the way women have to. They'd never leave their homes.

Seriously, though, this is not about feigning interest in someone you're not attracted to. Not in the least. It would be ridiculous to expect anyone to feel intimate towards another person they were not attracted to. Obviously that is an important thing to EVERYONE. The whole original point was basing opinion on looks totally, without ever giving them a chance to show what they are made of. Being prejudiced towards specific weight matters or appearances. THAT is shallow. Having a preference is not.

Fat girls aren't you thing? That's your perogative. Just don't cast aside a fantastic book simply because you don't like it's cover.

Mimi 😉
 
Ok I didnt read all the posts on here so i hope im not steppin on any toes or repeating somthing that 30 ppl have said already, but size doesnt matter to me. there was this girl when iwas up in alabama who by most ppls standards would be considered big boned, but ive tickled tickled her on many occasions for minutes on end because she was that ticklish(her ticklishness was out of control) and it actually threw me off because i thought it wasnt possible. Ever sense then i might see a larger women out in public and just be dying to just have 20 secs. just to test her ticklishness. I also think mimi is attractive and wouldnt hesitate for a sec. to tickle her. (just had to throw that in mimi 😉 )
 
Repeat and Personal View

So, I'm probably repeating alot of people in saying size doesn't mean jack.
I'm a _____.

a) BBW
b) fat chick
c) voluptous woman
d) all of the above

D!

I'm a plus-sized girl. That hasn't held me back from anything. I model, I was a Pro-Domme and still am active in the BDSM and other fetish communities. I am MORE than proud to be the way I am. I hold myself in such a manner that I get hit on more than my thinner friends. My Fiancee adores my body, and I am the first and only woman my size he has been with.

I have been cut down before in many different communities, and I have the same reaction each time: THEIR LOSS!

I hate the media and their "barbie-doll" syndrome. Most of the online communities I am a part of know me as "The Anti-Barbie ****". It's a term of affection, and the truth. I cannot stand that beauty is only the thin girls, only a certain look, only a certain size.

Art never was that way. All the old and beautiful classics. The women in them: voluptous. They were "large" women. THAT was considered beauty, once upon a time.

Either way, I will get off my soap box now and simply say:

Don't let them affect you, those who cut you down. They didn't bother to take the time to know YOU as a person, and the beauty that lies within.

kiss.kiss

Darmiania

....

~kicks the soap box aside, and skips away~
 
maniactickler said:
I guess my preference could be considered shallow. but its just the way i am. i cant force myself to like someone im not attracted to. i just feel looks and personality are completely equal. i cant have one without the other. :O

You're free to have any opinion you want-no one is trying to change you. You have decided to have your preferences and right now the cards are in your favor. As father time and mother nature have their way with you, the love handles grow and the spare tire shows. In another 10-20 years you'll re-evaluate your position-I guarantee it!

If you make looks/attractiveness an issue today, someone might make it an issue towards you tomorrow. As long as you're willing to live by your own preferences, all is well with me.

I've said this before, and it bears repeating-there are plenty of men who love large women. I'm not trying to convert anyone! I get enough "play" right here in OH-I really don't need to beg anyone to find me attractive! But looks don't last forever and the same standards you used to push people out could be used to push you out someday. Something to think about on the long term.

****kis steps off soapbox and goes back to bed****
 
"Beauty fades but dumb is forever" myfather used to say that all the time when I was growing up.
 
Wow....this is a old thread....^_^

First off....Mimi...is my hero...matter of fact she is the reason that I started posting...(after lurking forever and a half....) I saw her siggy (think thats what its called...😵) picture and saw that she was a BBW also. So I thought to myself...hey...at least I won't be the only one on here who is plus size....and after some debating with myself I decided to join. Turns out that there are a lot of BBW on here so now not only do I not feel alone with the whole tickling thing....but now I know that I am not the only plus size girl who likes it....and that there seems to be men who don't care what the girl looks like...which is a huge comfort to me...trust me...I am in that age group where looks most of the time do matter....(at least to the guys here).....

Anyway there is my dollar and a half of what I think....so its early in the morning....I have to run to Dickson today....with no sleep....-_-...so off to the shower I go.....*woo...*

Love and Yellow Cabs!

Sarah
 
kis123 said:
You're free to have any opinion you want-no one is trying to change you. You have decided to have your preferences and right now the cards are in your favor. As father time and mother nature have their way with you, the love handles grow and the spare tire shows. In another 10-20 years you'll re-evaluate your position-I guarantee it!

If you make looks/attractiveness an issue today, someone might make it an issue towards you tomorrow. As long as you're willing to live by your own preferences, all is well with me.

I've said this before, and it bears repeating-there are plenty of men who love large women. I'm not trying to convert anyone! I get enough "play" right here in OH-I really don't need to beg anyone to find me attractive! But looks don't last forever and the same standards you used to push people out could be used to push you out someday. Something to think about on the long term.

****kis steps off soapbox and goes back to bed****

Your right, looks dont last forever. thats why i need to keep finding younger women! :O
 
maniactickler said:
Your right, looks dont last forever. thats why i need to keep finding younger women! :O

Yeah, make sure you can afford it! :devil2:
 
Does Size Matter?

DOES LOVE MATTER?

If it does, then size comes in a distant 3rd. :Kiss2:

BUG

Ohhhhhhhhh, FREEDOM
Ohhhhhhhhh, LIBERTY
Ohhhhhhhhh, Leave me alone;
To Find MY OWN WAY HOME. :angel:
-Garcia/ Hunter
 
Lightninbug quote: DOES LOVE MATTER? If it does, then size comes in a distant 3rd.

We should insert this in our "famous quotes" thread. Profound words to live by. I'll steal this for public consumption, if you don't mind.
 
Mimi said:
Good thing most women don't share that frame of mind when it comes to selecting men. I'd hate to see what would happen if men had to be as self conscious and concerned over their looks 24/7 the way women have to. They'd never leave their homes.


My weight fluctuates by a considerable amount... I've gained or lost 50+ pounds on multiple occasions in my relatively short life span, and I would be lying if I said that I don't receive much, MUCH, MUCH more attention from the opposite sex when I'm in good physical condition than I do when I have to break out my "comfy" jeans. Women have the same sorts of preferences that men do... Men just don't have the same array of appearance-altering cosmetics and accoutrements available to them, hence the disparity in primping time.

I'm very self-conscious about the way I look... Or at least, I used to be before I found someone who honestly doesn't seem to care. When I'm fat, I try my best to pick shirts that hide the 'ol gut. When I'm in shape, I go for shirts that are slim-fitting and fairly snug in the shoulder and arm areas. I'm certainly no prize looks-wise, even at my best, but the better I think I look, the better I feel about myself. (And I'm no girly-man, either, so STFU up there in the peanut gallery. 😛 ) I almost never do sit-ups, but I have an extremely strong stomach... From holding it in all day.

My point (and I do have one... I think...) is that this isn't something exclusive to women. Hell, it isn't even exclusive to looks: I know people who worry and go out of their way to seem smart, or rich, or even "thuggish" or something...
 
Good Point

asutickler said:
My weight fluctuates by a considerable amount... I've gained or lost 50+ pounds on multiple occasions in my relatively short life span, and I would be lying if I said that I don't receive much, MUCH, MUCH more attention from the opposite sex when I'm in good physical condition than I do when I have to break out my "comfy" jeans. Women have the same sorts of preferences that men do... Men just don't have the same array of appearance-altering cosmetics and accoutrements available to them, hence the disparity in primping time.

I'm very self-conscious about the way I look... Or at least, I used to be before I found someone who honestly doesn't seem to care. When I'm fat, I try my best to pick shirts that hide the 'ol gut. When I'm in shape, I go for shirts that are slim-fitting and fairly snug in the shoulder and arm areas. I'm certainly no prize looks-wise, even at my best, but the better I think I look, the better I feel about myself. (And I'm no girly-man, either, so STFU up there in the peanut gallery. 😛 ) I almost never do sit-ups, but I have an extremely strong stomach... From holding it in all day.

My point (and I do have one... I think...) is that this isn't something exclusive to women. Hell, it isn't even exclusive to looks: I know people who worry and go out of their way to seem smart, or rich, or even "thuggish" or something...


Good point, this isn't something that only pertains to the female end of the spectrum.

The honest thing is that society puts alot of emphasis on the physical appearance of a person. Including the acceptance of undergoing (sometimes life-threatening) surgeries to make ourselves look and feel the way "we should". Who defines that?

Mass media, and the masses that are willing to just go along with it.

Watch, give it some time, it will come full circle and beauty will be where it originally was: with curves...not unattainable stick figures.

And this is nothing against the thinner people, if you are, awesome.
Beauty to me isn't judged by outward, it's all inward.
And the way I carry myself, people find me attractive when I know if I allowed most of the media B******* to define me...they'd find me unattractive.

It's how you carry yourself.

~looks around and steps off the soap box...again~
 
I'm sorry. I should have specified SOME in reference to both men who fit the statement I made, and the women who are far less concerned with appearances. Obviously there are exceptions to everything, and I am fully aware of the fact many men do go through great pains to look their best, as well as some women who place looks on just as high of a pedestal as personality. My intention was really an attempt at being snarky towards folks who expect nothing but absolute perfection from the partners they seek, yet do not fit into any measurable league themselves. I did a bad job of illuminating a level of hypocrisy. My apologies. 😉

Mimi
 
maniactickler said:
Ive already started saving! :veryhappy

Factor the cost of living sweetie, and you may have a snowballs' chance when the time comes :manicd: :blaugh: ! If not, you'll be joining a monestary someday!!!!!!!!!! 😉
 
All that matters is if the girl is ticklish or not, size doesnt matter.

But it is personal preference, some guys arent attracted to big gals, some are. I used to say id never date someone my size or larger and my first gf was the opposite of what my preference was

So mimi, dont let it bother you, the world is filled with people of opinion, some you may like, some you wont, but dont worry about the opinions you dont like\may hurt you cuz it doesnt reflect anyone but that one person
 
kis123 said:
Factor the cost of living sweetie, and you may have a snowballs' chance when the time comes :manicd: :blaugh: ! If not, you'll be joining a monestary someday!!!!!!!!!! 😉

Dont worry, i have an emergency back up plan of being a hermit if my A plan fails! :woot:
 
maniactickler said:
Dont worry, i have an emergency back up plan of being a hermit if my A plan fails! :woot:

I learned something several years ago when I entered the world of sales and it goes a little somethin' like this:

sw, sw, sw, sw.

some will;
some won't;
so what;
someone's waiting!

I believe that applies to this situation. I'm not a thin woman (by far), but there's a HUGE (pardon the pun) market for big chicks. I'm not trying to reinvent the wheel of your life. If you don't mind cutting yourself away from over 50% of the population of American females, knock yourself out!!

Sounds like the "hermit" idea may be the plan for you! :veryhappy :veryhappy
 
[ He very blatantly said "I REFUSE to tickle fat girls. That's just gross." He then went on to make several jokes about weight challenged females, and eventually brought me to the point I had to leave the chat room. I still do not know if I can ever return there after the taunts and ridicule I endured last night.


I wish you had replied "I don't talk to jerks. That's just a waste of time". He's the one who ought to feel unwelcome, not you.
 
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