dont always want him too, why?

[secret giggler]

my boyfriend knows that tickling turns me on but he doesnt know its a fetish. sometimes when he wants a bit of 'hows your farther' he will tickle me, but sometimes it will really put me off and i will close off from him. i domt know why i do this as i have always had a fetish for tickling and wanted some one who would do this for me. is it because im embarrassed about my fetish?
let me know what u guys think 🙂

 

[Sunriseticklee]

What does "hows your farther" mean?
Do you mean, "Who's your Daddy?"

Anyway.... I don't know if you are embarrassed. Maybe it is because deep down you want to play with someone who really is into it, or knows just how to tickle you. Or maybe you are just in a mood to be tickled a different way. Maybe you want it more intense, less intense, tied.... Sometimes how I am tickled really depends on how "hot" things get for me.

There are lots of factors, lots of reasons. Since you did not share that you have a tickling fetish, maybe you just aren't ready to completely open up. With time and trust, your feelings may change.

Sunny

 

[sasaxrah]

There are plenty of times when I don't want to be tickled, even though I generally like it. My stomach might hurt, or maybe I'm tired, or maybe I just had a long day and am in a bad mood. Just because you like something doesn't mean you want it every second of the day.

Or, maybe you're just embarrassed. 🙂

 

[WheresThe Clip?]

Well maybe you feel that as he knows tickling turns you on, he is manipulating you by doing it in order to get sex.

 

[proud2tickle]

hmmmm thats not a bad thought clip...... i think you just want someone who can really push you to your limits make it as intense as possible.... that is hard for a lee to get.... if you tickle someone who is ticklish but doesnt have the fetish, you kinda still get the same full result as a ler.... with a lee though if u want some to give u a good tickling and they are only doing it to pass the time..... i think you may feel like u wouldnt get the full rush as someone who might really push you to your tickle limits and thus create even more of a turn on

 

[rhiannon]

Well....I like sex, but I'm not always in the mood! 🙂 Same thing for you with tickling! There is nothing out of the ordinary about you not always wanting to be tickled.

 

[herts tickler]

haha im so happy iv just seen hows your father on here 🙂 ive actually had this though. the first time i told a girl i liked tickling. i didnt go as far as fetish but it seemed like when she tickled me or i tickled her it just wasnt enough. like if were gonna do this lets do it properly you know? so in the end it made it a bit boring...

 

[Canadian_Eh]

I'm not sure if this is exactly the same thing as what you're going through, but I feel the same way.

I appreciate that my husband understands my feelings about this so called "fetish". For me it's not sexual at all but entirely playful, however that being said, it doesn't make it any easier for me to be comfortable around him when it comes to it.

Alot of people would consider it not being comfortable in your own skin (in my case) and they may very well be right. I can't begin to tell you how akward it is when he starts to talk about it, or starts talking about how I "like it". My immediate reaction is to change the topic to anything else...

Yes, I like it, occassionally, but it's not something that I like to dwell on, or even have it come up in discussion.

You may also be feeling embaressed because you KNOW he knows you like it.. That might sound weird, but I know for me it changed the dynamic of how I looked at this entire fetish... My feeling's havn't changed about it, I still only like it playfully, but I just don't have the care free attitude that I had before I told him... I'm always self-conscious now

 

[darkscar]

Maybe its because its the way he is doing it. He only tickles you when he wants something from you, Not because he knows you enjoy it. In other words he is doing it for his benefit and not the benefit of both so you are not enjoying it as you should.

 

[NoixdeCoco]

Ive had this problem with past boyfriends. Regardless of if they know about the fetish or not if I sense that they're tickling me just to get in my pants, I shut down. Nobody wants to feel they're being manipulated into fooling around, tickling or other foreplay. So sometimes I'll be tickled and it'l turn me on and we'll go there, sometimes I'll be tickled and its purely innocent and fun and sometimes someone poking me is a death wish on their part. Also, I found it incredibly freeing to date a guy that I didnt tell anything to other then I enjoyed being tickled. I dont think most people think "fetish" immediately after learning something turns someone on so try not to be embarrassed 🙂 anyway I'm tired and I dont know if I actually answered any questions lol, but good luck with your boyfriend!

 

[darkscar]

Manipulation Its the wrong way to do things in my opinion.

 

[Lord Doctor]

There are days when things we love doing or having just don't work for us or have the opposite affect. I can't say that I know why this is so, it just is.

 

[ashj1985]

It's perfectly normal to get aggravated with being tickled at times. Like anything else, it's fun in moderation. For instance, I like having sex, but I I'm not in the mood for it 24/7.

 

[guitarman]

'how's your father' hahahahaha brilliant!!

"like if were gonna do this lets do it properly you know? so in the end it made it a bit boring..."

i agree with this.

 

[TickVix]

There is tickling because it's enjoyTell him that it's a fetish of yours, I mean he obvioulsy knows you like it, but now it may be time for him to know how deep it goes for you, so that he can understand and respect the importane of tickling to you. As opposed to just tickling you for fun or because he knows it turns you on. That's the thing about tickling, it has many layers. Those that are into really understand each layer that exists, while those that aren't only take it at face value when it goes far far deeper than that.

 

[miskiduk]

It seems pretty obvious to me. Nobody (regardless of how horny they may be) wants any serious relationship to be 100% sexual. If you aren't in the mood for 'how's your father' then anything you equate to a sexual act is just going to be a negative thing.
Sometimes you just want to get on with life in general as a serious matter, you are obviously going to want your relationship to reflect this at the time.
In the same manner as you may have a 'safe word' for play, just also have a 'trigger word' to indicate you are up for it - otherwise it should just be kept to the bedroom.
Much as I like tickling it would really piss me off if I was trying to do something (anything) with a serious intent at that time and my partner could only think of 'fucking' at the time.
I've been there, and it's nothing strange to not want sex 24 hours a day - regardless of what the pathetic media may suggest to you!