"Eew, feet are gross!!"

[chicago]

It makes sense, but the approach of playing coy games and just tickling someone in hopes they'll read your mind and come to the conclusion that you get turned on by tickling is leaving a lot to chance and the possibility of a misunderstanding.

I prefer to be direct so there's no confusion.

 

[porcelaindoll2]

It makes sense, but the approach of playing coy games and just tickling someone in hopes they'll read your mind and come to the conclusion that you get turned on by tickling is leaving a lot to chance and the possibility of a misunderstanding.

I prefer to be direct so there's no confusion.

I agree 100%

 

[jujimbo]

It makes sense, but the approach of playing coy games and just tickling someone in hopes they'll read your mind and come to the conclusion that you get turned on by tickling is leaving a lot to chance and the possibility of a misunderstanding.

I prefer to be direct so there's no confusion.

Depends on how much the other person is reading it I guess. I once had a girl who straight out guessed it though, and that was one happy moment. 😛 She just flat out asked me "And what else makes you horny? I think I know. You've been tickling me the entire night. I love it when you do that." That was a girl I had chemistry with on many levels, not just tickling though. But admittedly, in this case she "cut to the chase". I neither have a problem with telling a woman this though. Not without exploring first.

 

[Park CollegeO]

Quote Originally Posted by chicago View Post
"It makes sense, but the approach of playing coy games and just tickling someone in hopes they'll read your mind and come to the conclusion that you get turned on by tickling is leaving a lot to chance and the possibility of a misunderstanding.

I prefer to be direct so there's no confusion."

Good advice, I also think taking this route requires a lot of confidence. You're an attractive woman so it might be easier for you to be direct to a guy you're talking to (hypothetically)

Originally Posted by jujimbo View Post
"Depends on how much the other person is reading it I guess. I once had a girl who straight out guessed it though, and that was one happy moment. She just flat out asked me "And what else makes you horny? I think I know. You've been tickling me the entire night. I love it when you do that." That was a girl I had chemistry with on many levels, not just tickling though. But admittedly, in this case she "cut to the chase".

I've had that happen once before. I was at a house party and I had been playfully tickling a girl throughout most of the night. Once we had a moment alone in another room she told me so aren't you gonna tickle me anymore since you like it so much.
This goes back to the notion that tickling as a fetish isn't as big of a deal as some people make it out to be in their heads. In any given situation someone in front of you can tell you like that kind of play and think nothing of it

 

[Rectangle]

Sitting here talking to my wife about this, and she makes a good point. (About when/how to break the news)

There's the difference in approaches between men and women that's not being taken into account too.
Not trying to lapse into misogyny here, before someone takes it wrong.
That's not the case I'm making.

A reasonably attractive woman has a lot more leeway in what she could get away with at the outset of a relationship than a guy does.
It's entirely possible for a woman to walk into a seedy bar, step up on a barstool, say "I want to fuck tonight!", and have a line of guys trying to the advantage of that.
A guy, doing the same, has a better chance of having the cops called on him than finding any productive outcome.

That's just how we are as a society.

In the same way, a reasonably attractive girl could probably drop a fetish on a guy that's interested in her and not come across as a creep because (keyword) many guys are more concerned with thinking "GIRL! I MIGHT GET TO PUT MY HANDS ON A GIRL!"

A guy in the same situation, doing the same, might come across as a creep or it just might not translate in the same way.


I know this is generalizing and I'm not meaning to lump all guys into one category..
..not saying it's right or wrong either, that's just one of the realities of our society.


Trade fetishes, and it's still the same.
A girl could probably easily find a guy to let her shit on his chest.
A guy? He's going to be looking for a while.


Way of the world.

 

[Park CollegeO]

No way dude you're wrong, women's poop stink a lot more than men's.

 

[Rectangle]

No way dude you're wrong, women's poop stink a lot more than men's.

 

[Park CollegeO]

LOL

But your wife makes good points, but like you said, some generalizing there no doubt.

"In the same way, a reasonably attractive girl could probably drop a fetish on a guy that's interested in her and not come across as a creep because (keyword) many guys are more concerned with thinking "GIRL! I MIGHT GET TO PUT MY HANDS ON A GIRL!""

This above in particular, could be flipped. What if a very attractive guy dropped this fetish on a way less attractive girl? would she be inclined to let it slide and indulge because she'd be thinking "damn, i want to get with him, and yeah fuck it i'll let him tickle me "

 

[Wolf]

LOL

But your wife makes good points, but like you said, some generalizing there no doubt.

"In the same way, a reasonably attractive girl could probably drop a fetish on a guy that's interested in her and not come across as a creep because (keyword) many guys are more concerned with thinking "GIRL! I MIGHT GET TO PUT MY HANDS ON A GIRL!""

This above in particular, could be flipped. What if a very attractive guy dropped this fetish on a way less attractive girl? would she be inclined to let it slide and indulge because she'd be thinking "damn, i want to get with him, and yeah fuck it i'll let him tickle me "

Precisely.
I think it's kind of a myth that a reasonably attractive girl gets all these advantages that a reasonably attractive guy would not.
Attractiveness is different than physical beauty, anyway, and the world is a lot more nuanced than the atmosphere of the local bar.

 

[chicago]

That's a horribly narrow minded way to see women. That they can just rest on "pretty" and get what they want. As if they don't have to face feelings of rejection, shame, judgment etc. Gtfo with that bullshit.

If the goal was to find any desperate asshole, maybe yeah, standard attractiveness might get that, but when you have to figure out if a dude really is interested in you versus what you look like under your clothes or if they give a shit about your past, your IQ, etc, it's no longer so "easy".

To be honest, any hang up a person has about opening up is entirely within themselves. Makes no difference how attractive you are if your confidence and self esteem aren't shit.

Sorry, but your wife doesn't speak for all women.

 

[Rectangle]

That's a horribly narrow minded way to see women...
If the goal was to find any desperate asshole, maybe yeah, standard attractiveness might get that, but when you have to figure out if a dude really is interested in you versus what you look like under your clothes or if they give a shit about your past, your IQ, etc, it's no longer so "easy".

No it's not, it's a view grounded in reality.

And correct me if I'm wrong, bit didn't Dude up there literally say in a thread that I saw you responding to yesterday that he was just looking for someone to "just tickle"?

And haven't I had my shit pounded in by others until now for insinuating that you ought to look for someone who, as you put it, "gives a shit about your past, your IQ, etc"?

And you're going to sit there with a straight face on the TMF, and make the case that as a whole women are just as desperate to find a willing partner as a man, surrounded by guys who are dishing out hundreds of dollars to fulfill a need and who are so awkward that they can't hold a sustained conversation with a woman on the topic?

Tell me, where are the legions of male prostitutes throughout history?
Where are the armies of desperate women that hire them?

I'm sorry that the idea that there's a difference between men and women in society offends you, but you throwing your weight around on the subject doesn't make it less true.

Edit: You also literally just made my point when you said "If you're looking for any desperate asshole, then yeah". News flash: That's an advantage that women have over men.

Which is exactly what the fuck my wife was saying.

Edit: Little preventative quoting in case the other dude decides to run in on this.

I think you're looking at this from a pretty limited perspective.
Most women wouldn't even have to pay for it.
They just have to say..."You know, it would really turn me on if...".

 

[duderino84]

Wow, I leave to see a movie, the forum lights up!

Yes, personality matters, but for a lot of ppl,girls especially, looks matter more. It's easy to score.

And ya I said I'm merely interested in tickling women, I also said that because of the nature of my interest I don't care as much about penetration. I don't straight up deny pleasure however.

As for guys not being verbally able to express their need for satisfaction. ...do what Steve-o did, make foam inserts to "increase the bulge" lol

 

[Rectangle]

As for guys not being verbally able to express their need for satisfaction. ...do what Steve-o did, make foam inserts to "increase the bulge" lol

Dudeman, sometimes I don't understand you, but damn man, sometimes you're fuckin' hilarious.
😀

 

[chicago]

No it's not, it's a view grounded in reality.

And correct me if I'm wrong, bit didn't Dude up there literally say in a thread that I saw you responding to yesterday that he was just looking for someone to "just tickle"?

And haven't I had my shit pounded in by others until now for insinuating that you ought to look for someone who, as you put it, "gives a shit about your past, your IQ, etc"?

And you're going to sit there with a straight face on the TMF, and make the case that as a whole women are just as desperate to find a willing partner as a man, surrounded by guys who are dishing out hundreds of dollars to fulfill a need and who are so awkward that they can't hold a sustained conversation with a woman on the topic?

Tell me, where are the legions of male prostitutes throughout history?
Where are the armies of desperate women that hire them?

I'm sorry that the idea that there's a difference between men and women in society offends you, but you throwing your weight around on the subject doesn't make it less true.

Edit: You also literally just made my point when you said "If you're looking for any desperate asshole, then yeah". News flash: That's an advantage that women have over men.

Which is exactly what the fuck my wife was saying.

Edit: Little preventative quoting in case the other dude decides to run in on this.

My view is based on reality as well, but I think that's just our own different perspectives. I feel like the main difference may just be the way the majority of the different genders express their desperation more than anything. Which may be why it's not as obvious. At any rate, it's getting more heated than it should again so I'll just say we can agree to disagree. It is a matter of opinion, I think.

 

[Park CollegeO]

Eh, there's good points from Rectangle and Chicago to be honest.

You can add that in any relationship/encounter between 2 people, there's generally someone who holds an advantage over the other that gives them more leeway than if they were dealing with a completely different person. This could be attractive female vs male, attractive male vs female, rich guy vs girl, rich girl vs guy etc....

I also think Rectangle is speaking from a "First encounter" I know nothing about the other person POV

 

[Sensualswitch10]

Considering the direction this thread has gone, I hope this is still on topic.

I ran into a woman I know today, petite, blonde, very pretty, and every time I've ever seen her feet, they've been well pedicured. Looks like a self pedicure, but very nice all the same. We started talking, and she's telling me about how she recently got out of a long term relationship. She's met 3 guys lately that she's gone out with. One, she wasn't interested in because he smokes a lot of pot, and she thinks that makes him a loser. The second one, she said was really good looking, but seemed like a big douche. The third guy... She said they went out and had a really great date. Dinner, drinks, good conversation and then they went back to his place. They're fooling around and he starts sucking on her toes. Her response is to pull her foot away, and asks him to take her home. So because he was into feet, an otherwise attractive and likeable guy was dismissed by a woman who's looking for a guy to date. I bet that was a pretty awkward car ride. Anyway, I was somewhat interested in her up until today.

 

[Mitchell]

I've been reading this thread, and purposely waiting to reply, to see other people's posts, before giving my own.

Since I've been here a long time, those who know me, know that I like both women's feet, and tickling.

That having been said, here is how I see it, honestly.

Most importantly to me.. a woman has to have a kind heart, character, and intelligence.

In regard to the feet subject.

If I met a woman who, when I explained my foot/tickling fetish to her, said the following.

"Mitch, I'm an open minded person, and I believe in two people in a relationship compromising to make each other happy. I'm not really into feet, but I dont mind if you play with/tickle my feet sometimes, as part of other intimacy".

I would be fine with that, and work with her, so as not to fixate on her feet, and make her uncomfortable.

If the person said.

"Mitch, you can never, ever massage/play with/tickle/ worship, or pay attention to my feet, even as part of other foreplay".

That person would honestly not be the right person for me, because, she would then be completely discounting anything I need physically, and only considering herself.

I think many "vanilla" women who arent into feet/tickling, do find feet "gross".

However, I'm sure that there are many couples who dont even the "interests" that many of us on this site have, of tickling, and feet, who still pay attention to their partner's feet, even occasionally.

Such is why I said, there's difference between not being fixated on someone's feet, and complete deprivation

 

[The Internet]

There are many women AND men who find feet gross, I have no idea how this is strictly a woman thing. I 've met as many guys in my life as women who are completely grossed out and perplexed by any attraction to the feet. (The ass? Where they secrete organic waste? They have no problem with that, go figure....)

There are also MANY women - women I've met - who have a feeling for that part of the body. Off the top of my head, I can think of two friendgirls of mine - not girlfriends, just friends - who completely came out about having major foot fetishes (for guys' feet, I might add) and with no prompting at all from me. I can think of a female TMF member, known to many, who used to place personal ads in the back of The Village Voice looking for girls with pretty toes...Brooke Burke used to mention it alot in her interviews, how she checked out guys' feet, so this is not strictly a man thing.

But if this thread is just about women....let me say this: lots of women spend their life pampering their feet, getting pedicures.....shoe shopping....shoe obsessed......when they're alone on the subway train and they don't have their nose in their phones? They hold their feet up and check out their toes...I've seen it a million times......when they get together, they compliment each other on their footwear and their cute pedicures..."oh, your toes are so cute"...."oh I love your pedicure"....all this talk of feet...and then ONE guy comes up and says "Hey you have pretty feet.... "EEEEEW! YOU'RE A FOOT FETISHIST!" lol

(you know it's true.....😉

 

[The Internet]

PS: As to the OP's question about "the pose"? The pose was probably first used by cheesecake and glamour photographers (from the black and white eras) wanting to accent the fanny. I think that's why it's still used so much to this day. We shouldn't assume that her feet are the supposed to be the focal point of the pic.

One time I was watching "Juliet of the Spirits" with a buddy of mine and there's a part where a sexpot is in "the pose" and my buddy starts chuckling in approval. Years later, when he confessed to me his utter revulsion at all things feet, I pointed that scene out to him and my memory of his reaction, and he said it was all about the ass. So.....take your pick of gross areas of the body.....lol......I'll take the sole, which can be thoroughly cleaned and is one concentrated area of hyper-sensitive nerve endings, thank you very much. Underarms, too, which are also not highly esteemed by non-ticklephiles.....I don't see how the underarm is considered less gross than the soles.

 

[Wolf]

Is it really such an insult that other people have feelings that aren't perfectly in sync with someone else's ?

 

[The Internet]

Is it really such an insult that other people have feelings that aren't perfectly in sync with someone else's ?

Oh, absolutely. How dare they not think exactly like me.

(just kidding! Were you talking to me, Wolf, sorry, I just opened up the thread, read the OP and commented, or is it something above me............I certainly don't take it as an insult if someone has different tastes than mine. I met a girl who liked to be choked and slapped. I have a buddy who makes comments about women's panties all the time....more power to him! But I guess I DO take it as an insult if he then turns around and says "ew, you're into tickling?"....I just might be obliged to say "look who's talking...."

 

[Wolf]

Oh, absolutely. How dare they not think exactly like me.

(just kidding! Were you talking to me, Wolf, sorry, I just opened up the thread, read the OP and commented, or is it something above me............I certainly don't take it as an insult if someone has different tastes than mine. I met a girl who liked to be choked and slapped. I have a buddy who makes comments about women's panties all the time....more power to him! But I guess I DO take it as an insult if he then turns around and says "ew, you're into tickling?"....I just might be obliged to say "look who's talking...."

Nope, not a personal response. I'd have quoted you if I it was. 🙂

 

[DackJansen]

Is it really such an insult that other people have feelings that aren't perfectly in sync with someone else's ?

Not at all. It is an insult when you tell me whatever I'm into is "disgusting", when you're diving around the crotch where all sorts of fluids come out. (Not you specifically, just third-person in general). Pretty much any sexy thing anywhere on the body could be considered as gross somehow. Vanilla people even admit that sex is a nasty and sweaty activity. So why get on my ass about soles and tickling? It's just hypocrisy and double standards.

My other point was that 90% of the time people give foot fetishists shit is because they feel they're supposed to find it disgusting. Weird fetish dude = disgusting weirdo. That's what the media tells us. That's what we keep reinforcing. Even if you don't truly believe it (and if you're constantly pampering your feet and going barefoot and putting them in my lap, you probably don't) you'll still say it's disgusting because society pressures you into thinking it is.

If you're not totally grossed out by the weird fetish, you risk being perceived as into it, or worse, open-minded! So let's overcompensate by constantly repeating how grossed out you are by that weird shit. I'm NORMAL dammit, I find feet gross and only love boobs and vaginas!

Seriously, it's not that gross. Not any more than other body parts including mouth, genitals, hair, armpits, knees, whatever. Get over yourselves, vanillas.

 

[Goatboy]

I think it's possible for a female to find feet gross and also feel they have to fit the mold of being attractive from head to foot and possibly not being conscious they're in "the pose" aside from trying to look cute for a picture.

That's just me.

This is very true. A friend of mine HATES feet with a passion. Yet she paints her toenails. She says "feet are gross, so I try to make mine as presentable as possible." It is a valid argument.

 

[Wolf]

Not at all. It is an insult when you tell me whatever I'm into is "disgusting", when you're diving around the crotch where all sorts of fluids come out. (Not you specifically, just third-person in general). Pretty much any sexy thing anywhere on the body could be considered as gross somehow. Vanilla people even admit that sex is a nasty and sweaty activity. So why get on my ass about soles and tickling? It's just hypocrisy and double standards.
My other point was that 90% of the time people give foot fetishists shit is because they feel they're supposed to find it disgusting. Weird fetish dude = disgusting weirdo. That's what the media tells us. That's what we keep reinforcing. Even if you don't truly believe it (and if you're constantly pampering your feet and going barefoot and putting them in my lap, you probably don't) you'll still say it's disgusting because society pressures you into thinking it is.
If you're not totally grossed out by the weird fetish, you risk being perceived as into it, or worse, open-minded! So let's overcompensate by constantly repeating how grossed out you are by that weird shit. I'm NORMAL dammit, I find feet gross and only love boobs and vaginas!
Seriously, it's not that gross. Not any more than other body parts including mouth, genitals, hair, armpits, knees, whatever. Get over yourselves, vanillas.

I just don't see the sense in taking something as a personal affront when they're speaking about their personal tastes.
It's not an insult to you for someone to say "feet are gross" if they don't know you're into feet.
There's a huge difference between saying, "feet are gross" and saying, "foot fetishists are gross".
You're putting an awful lot of backstory into someone's simple declaration that they don't find a body part attractive (or perhaps, just theirs).
Why does it have to be so binary? People seem to think that if others aren't into whatever they're into, with the exact same parameters and intensity, they're vanillas?

Most people aren't vanillas, anyway. It's just that a lot of people, once they find out (or just think) someone isn't into something that they are, the way that they are, they slap a label on them.