Fantasies

[CuteJill143]

Although I am happy with my guy and he makes every fantasy come true, tickling or non tickling, i just started this semester and i can't help but notice some attractive guys. i also have tickling fantasies about some of them, but not in a sexual intimate way the way i think about my boyfriend. not sexual. just a nice friendly old tickle fight that start out with cuddles or play wrestling. Is this normal and should i feel guilty?

 

[Amanda Cortez]

Why should you feel guilty? I mean everyody has his/her fantasies and they must not involve the parter. I think it's completely norma and there's noting to worry about.

 

[C.K. Storyteller]

Fantasies are just that, and nothing to feel guilty about. If you start acting on them, then I might be a bit worried. 🙂

 

[b0xr]

I wouldn't put too much into fantasies about tickling or being tickled by someone other than your boyfriend. We all have them.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Nah.... I'm happily married and still have tickle fantasies. The cool thing about being with someone is that often times they can make your fantasies come true. 😀

Every once in awhile I will have a tickle dream about someone I know. I don't think it is a big deal. I'm just embarassed about it for a couple of days when I see that person. My husband thinks it is funny. 😛

 

[PerthBoy22]

So, would you say that if someone who's in a relationship is tickled by someone else, that could be grounds for "cheating"? Even if it's just tickling?

 

[steve_uk]

I have fantercies all the time not only about tickling but about other stuff too with all sorts of random people lol, i think its pretty normal to have these sort of thoughts. I often think about tickling various people i know or i have just met, but my biggest thing i fantercise about is being restrained by a woman in power like a teacher, nurse, police girl, army girl etc.

 

[Artoo]

So, would you say that if someone who's in a relationship is tickled by someone else, that could be grounds for "cheating"? Even if it's just tickling?

It's a question of intent and consent.

If it's just a playful tickle, innocent in nature, then I wouldn't consider it cheating.
If you're sessioning (tickling, bondage et al) with someone other than your partner, and your partner knows about it and consents to it, it's not cheating.

 

[Amanda Cortez]

I think a fntasy is never cheating. Lol, otherwise I would cheat all day. Haha ..And getting tickled by someone else also isn't cheating, it's juz fucken much fun. HEhe

 

[sasaxrah]

Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you cease being human. What's in your head is your business.

 

[DanishTickling]

It's a question of intent and consent.

If it's just a playful tickle, innocent in nature, then I wouldn't consider it cheating.
If you're sessioning (tickling, bondage et al) with someone other than your partner, and your partner knows about it and consents to it, it's not cheating.

I wouldn't worry about the fantercies but if you've thought about actually doing it, it's a different matter..

first think about what it implies to you? if you consider it cheating to have a ticklefight with another boy then you shouldn't do it, but if you just consider it as kidding around I can't see anything wrong with it..
but I suggest you talk with you're boyfrind about it and see if he's okay with it.. if he's not then you just have to respect that, but at least you've been honest with him

 

[Sunriseticklee]

So, would you say that if someone who's in a relationship is tickled by someone else, that could be grounds for "cheating"? Even if it's just tickling?

It depends on the boundaries set for that relationship.

My husband is cool with me being tickled by others, but at the same time, I feel better when he is there. Now if I was consistently running behind his back being tickled by some guy, lying about my whereabouts, basically acting like a cheater, I would expect my husband to treat me like a cheater.

I love and respect him enough that if I want to have a session with someone else, I let him know. I've been tickled by others and so has he. It isn't a big deal. Again, I think it is cute. If he gets riled up, he just gets me even worse later! 😀

 

[Coda]

I don't think there's anything that anyone should feel guilty to <I>think</I> about, and the best boyfriend is one with whom you can share all those thoughts, regardless of whom they're about. If he really understands that you're sharing them with him because you trust him more than any of the guys about whom you're fantasizing, then he'll feel the luckier. At least, that's what I would guess...

 

[-Hari-]

Everyone has fantasies, Its human.

As long as they stay just fantasies then you have nothing to feel guilty about.

The fact that you have fantasies and dont act upon them just demonstrates how dedicated you are to being commited to your man, props to ya 🙂

 

[rhiannon]

It's even normal to have sexual fantasies about other people that you find attractive! I would worry about someone if they DIDN'T have those kind of fantasies.

 

[texastickler]

We are all human. We all have fantasies. They are all wonderful and healthy and nothing to feel guilty about. I am sure your man has fantasies now and then. Enjoy them.

 

[Radiohead 7140]

it's totally normal. i dated a girl for 2 years who let me fulfill every desire. i still had fantasies about playing with other people. very natural

 

[herts tickler]

iv been in the same boat. mainly because my gf at the time didnt have particularly nice feet and i found myself dreaming about my friends (girls) feet. but i never let that get between me and my gf because let face it feet arnt everything. the same as tickling isnt everything. just ask urself if its just a bit of fantasising or do u feel like a change?
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[TicklerGabe]

dont feel guilty maybe this experience will help you to get closer to your bf and explore yourself in a deeper way.

 

[leafstk]

Like many have already said, in my mind there is nothing wrong with fantasizing. However, I would find it to be "cheating" or otherwise unacceptable if said behaviour was acted upon, sexual or not, without the other partner's knowledge.

Just my opinion and I'm sticking to it! 🙂

 

[CuteJill143]

Like many have already said, in my mind there is nothing wrong with fantasizing. However, I would find it to be "cheating" or otherwise unacceptable if said behavior was acted upon, sexual or not, without the other partner's knowledge.

Just my opinion and I'm sticking to it! 🙂

Yes i know thank you all 🙂 And leafstk..i agree with your opinion. I do consider tickle play cheating....whether its physical or non-physical. I've been in relationships before where I either wasn't comfortable telling the guy or the guy never acted upon living out my fantasies. i wasn't with the right people and i ended up going astray for tickle play. i did feel guilty but not with the fun i have with this guy..i don't have much of an excuse to be living fantasies with others...

 

[leafstk]

Hey its all good! 🙂

I think many of us have been there. As many of us have said, nothing wrong with fantasizing... and if you're current bf indulges your fantasies, all the better! You have nothing to feel guilty about 🙂

 

[starburstz91]

Don't feel guilty. I fantasize about tickling with other guys besides my boyfriend. However, I never really told mine about my fetish.

 

[leafstk]

Aubrey, would you stop sticking your tongue out at me?! Hehehe 😛

 

[april]

Fantasies are normal and healthy and nothing to feel guilty about