Female "Problems" on TMF

[2tickleU]

Hello Everyone ,
There are MANY females on TMF , who are saying things like this:
1. It is my fantasy to be tickled.
2. I wish that I could find a Ler.
3. I am so ticklish , but I hardly ever get tickled.
4. Maybe some day my tickle fantasy will come true , a girl can dream
can't she ???
5. Tickling turns me on , when I can find a willing partner.

>>> Unless these are just a bunch of Teasers who like to "Yank Our Chain"
every single day , there are too many willing Lers out here for these
ladies to go on being "Unsatisfied".
I have always been very passionate about tickling and I am self-employed
and single , so my schedule is my own. I will go anywhere , invite any
nice ticklee , or do about anything that it takes. I have had many woman
in my life , but none of them were what I would consider as a really good
ticklee, even though most of them were beautiful and lots of fun.
>>> LADIES . . . here is my proposal. Message me and tell me what's
stopping you from getting the perfect tickling whenever you want it.
Or . . . just walk up to any guy you like and tell him that you can give
him the "Sensual Jackpot" of a lifetime , because any woman who craves
tickling is just "Off The Hook" when it comes to passion and he would
be a lucky guy. Michael Jay

 

[Em Es]

Some are silly, others just cautious

Michael Jay, some of these girls who say they wish they could find a guy to tickle them probably are just jerking around wishful men who PM them. But I am sure others are serious, so why don't they reply to my private message or yours?

It is easier to talk about personal fantasies then it is to act on them, I suppose. Think about how you may feel around bigger, stronger, or intimidating men. That is how practically every woman feels around practically every man. So while girls may mean it when they post their desires on the TMF, going through with meeting a guy who responds is another matter.

Of course, I don't know how many of these women are silly teen-agers and how many are sincere but cautious.

Last but not least, your PM tone may be a reason you are not getting more replies from TMF girls. Make sure they know you are a gentleman by writing with a polite tone. No matter how badly a woman may want a man, no one wants to appear too eager or deal with someone who is coming on on too strong.

 

[crydun]

you are a smart man, Mark!

 

[SmarterthanU]

If you look at the results of professional studies done about sexual fetishes, you'll see that ANY real sexual fetish is extremely rare in women. Of women who do have actual sexual fetishes, most desire domination of some kind. Once you weed out the women who know how to get that in a positive, healthy way (as opposed to just partnering up with abusive assholes), you can look further into what those women want.

If you go to a large bdsm web community site, you can sometimes search by interest. If you look at female submissives and switches, maybe one in 10,000 will have an actual tickling fetish or even an expressed interest in tickling as part of bdsm play.

All this says nothing about any particular woman's reason for being a TMF member. But if you were to do a poll here, even, you'd likely find that only a few women members would say their interest in tickling amounts to a fetish. Most would probably say they enjoy tickling because it's a fun part of sexual play for them and an enjoyable foreplay activity. But a woman like that doesn't "dream" of meeting Prince Tickler. Women like that can take tickling or leave it. For most women who like tickling, the reason they like it is because it gets their partner super horny and makes the sex hotter.

If some woman tells you she dreams of finding a tickler to make her fantasies come true, she's either overstating things, or she has a tickling fetish. Women with a real tickling fetish are very, very rare. So most likely, there's a fair bit of jerking going on. That's only a problem if you're here looking to meet a woman. Not saying it can't happen, just saying that your odds of meeting someone who'd love to have you tickle them as part of the foreplay that happens in a regular sexual situation are far greater in everyday, non internet life than meeting someone here.

This is a great place for media. This is not a great place for a dating service.

As always, YMMV.

 

[Maestro1874]

Although this may be overly simplistic, I would have to agree that the tone of a PM seems to generate a response or lack there of. While research has indicated that there are CERTAINLY more fetish driven men than women, I've not found there to be a shortage of women whom either have direct interest in tickling as a fetish or are into "kink" across the board and will try just about anything once to see what it is like.

Perhaps if you treated woman as such and not as simple objects of sexual expression you might have better luck? That's just conjecture of course; I've never read your correspondences.

-R

 

[dtrell]

Hello Everyone ,
There are MANY females on TMF , who are saying things like this:
1. It is my fantasy to be tickled.
2. I wish that I could find a Ler.
3. I am so ticklish , but I hardly ever get tickled.
4. Maybe some day my tickle fantasy will come true , a girl can dream
can't she ???
5. Tickling turns me on , when I can find a willing partner.

>>> Unless these are just a bunch of Teasers who like to "Yank Our Chain"
every single day , there are too many willing Lers out here for these
ladies to go on being "Unsatisfied".

in case you and a lot of othes on here havent figured it out yet, most of them are fake. i assume it is ok for me to say this since i am not addressing ANYONE in particular.

 

[dtrell]

Michael Jay, some of these girls who say they wish they could find a guy to tickle them probably are just jerking around wishful men who PM them.

boy do you have that right...good call...its a good thing i am smart enough to weed out 99% of them and not bother to PM. just use some common sense people. like most things in life, if something seems to good to be true, it PROBABLY is.
by the way, this is an EXCELLENT thread.

 

[dtrell]

If some woman tells you she dreams of finding a tickler to make her fantasies come true, she's either overstating things, or she has a tickling fetish. Women with a real tickling fetish are very, very rare. So most likely, there's a fair bit of jerking going on. That's only a problem if you're here looking to meet a woman. Not saying it can't happen, just saying that your odds of meeting someone who'd love to have you tickle them as part of the foreplay that happens in a regular sexual situation are far greater in everyday, non internet life than meeting someone here.

This is a great place for media. This is not a great place for a dating service.

As always, YMMV.

this is absolutely one of the most intelligent threads and intelligent posts i have seen on this forum in a long time. good job smarterthan..couldnt have said it better myself.

 

[Iluv2Btickled]

Last but not least, your PM tone may be a reason you are not getting more replies from TMF girls. Make sure they know you are a gentleman by writing with a polite tone. No matter how badly a woman may want a man, no one wants to appear too eager or deal with someone who is coming on on too strong.

EXACTLY!

Listen up all you lers!!


If you've sent me a pm and I did not reply, the above statement is the reason why. I cannot count how many pms have said " show me your feet" "how ticklish are you on a scale of 1-10?" or "let's meet" in a sense. These pm's are truly ignored. I dont give them a second thought. I dont know you! Approach me how you would if you saw me standing in line or in the grocery store! I mean...HELLO! MANNERS!

However, on the note of me finding a ler, I AM looking for a ler. I would love nothing more than to find a handsome, nice, gentleman who would love nothing more than to tickle me senseless. Now the question is, why am I not trying to meet a number of guys here that fit that reputation? Why am I rejecting so many suitable men here? I will tell you.

It is not safe. The internet is not something I take lightly when meeting someone. I put all the "potential" guys I would like to talk to through a screening process. The thing is they dont know they're going through a screening process. I talk to the guy for a GOOD while (a few weeks) before he even knows what I look like. And it's at LEAST a year before he gets my phone number. Most guys lose interest because I am "taking too long" or not giving them what they want when they want it. (my pic, phone number, address to meet me at, etc)

You see I wouldnt go through all this for a gentle poke here or a wiggle of fingers on a tickle spot there. I am trying to find someone to have a relationship with. If I was looking for JUST a ler to play with, then I would've met loads of guys by now, but because I am trying to find someone to possibly spend the rest of my life with, I am VERY careful about who I pick. It would be a bonus if the one I would want to spend my life with JUST SO HAPPENS to love tickling me as well.


Out of an estimated 50 guys who've pmed me since the day I joined here, only 2 have my phone number and I have been talking to each of them for about 4 years now and we have yet to meet( distance and extenuating circumstances). THAT should tell you how I feel about meeting someone.

From a females point of view, I hope that answers your question.

 

[Bugman]

and how many are sincere but cautious.

Some,at least are both,as they should be.I got to know a very nice young lady from the personals here,and have seen her several times.Its not that common perhaps,but it does happen.

We got to know each other first by pm and then phone calls,and she was comfortable that i was not a nut case by the time we met for the first time.She has become a good friend,and its not all about tickling,we have a good time doing other things when i go to see her.

 

[Iggy pop]

You know, I first thougt this thread was going to be about menustration and PMS,but I am glad it's not.

Yes, some of the women are fakes, but not all. Some may be lonely, but that does not mean that just any guy willing to tickle her will do. They are looking for potential partners, not quick fun in most cases.

 

[Iggy pop]

EXACTLY!

It is not safe. The internet is not something I take lightly when meeting someone. I put all the "potential" guys I would like to talk to through a screening process. The thing is they dont know they're going through a screening process. I talk to the guy for a GOOD while (a few weeks) before he even knows what I look like. And it's at LEAST a year before he gets my phone number. Most guys lose interest because I am "taking too long" or not giving them what they want when they want it. (my pic, phone number, address to meet me at, etc)

I can understand this, but from a guy's perspective I would never ever wait this long. I would loose interest real quick. I understand being cautious, but if you feel you have to be this cautious then maybe the internet is not the best place to meet men.

 

[2tickleU]

Put the "SHOO" on the other foot.

Dear ILuv2Btickled ,

Why is it okay for you and the other Lees to have their cake and eat it
too ???
You say that you don't want a guy PM'ing you and asking how ticklish
you are , or what your feet look like. You say that the right way to do
it is to approach you as if you were strangers meeting in line at the
supermarket and just strike-up a nomal conversation.
Tell me this . . . how often do you walk up to a stranger and tell him
that you love to be tickled , or how ticklish you are , or that tickling during
sex really turns you on ??? . . . just like you have been telling hundreds of
people on this site , over and over again.
So everyone in here knows about your awesome desire for tickling ,
but if we PM you , we have to "Play Dumb" and not talk about anything
you said , OR WE ARE THE BAD GUYS ???
A normal Man doesn't play that game !!!

 

[2tickleU]

Every Lee Should Read This >>>

Dear ILuv2Btickled ,

Why is it okay for you and the other Lees to have their cake and eat it
too ???
You say that you don't want a guy PM'ing you and asking how ticklish
you are , or what your feet look like. You say that the right way to do
it is to approach you as if you were strangers meeting in line at the
supermarket and just strike-up a nomal conversation.
Tell me this . . . how often do you walk up to a stranger and tell him
that you love to be tickled , or how ticklish you are , or that tickling during
sex really turns you on ??? . . . just like you have been telling hundreds of
people on this site , over and over again.
So everyone in here knows about your awesome desire for tickling ,
but if we PM you , we have to "Play Dumb" and not talk about anything
you said , OR WE ARE THE BAD GUYS ???
A normal Man doesn't play that game !!!

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Dear ILuv2Btickled > is my post "Bad Manners" ??? or just an opposing view?

 

[renegadeguy2000]

Not to start a flame war, but no normal man needs to play any game. In case you didn't notice, we all have an EXTRA-ORDINARY circumstance here. I'm taking the lady's'/lee's side here gents.

 

[dtrell]

EXACTLY!

Listen up all you lers!!




From a females point of view, I hope that answers your question.

i dont think anyone on here has ever questioned you iluv2btickled...i think the point of this thread is to address the recent flurry of posts from women who clain they are 21 years old, blue eyed blondes who are athletic and toned and have D cups and just cannot FIND anyone to tickle them and can any of the fine handsome gentlemen on this forum pleeeease volunteer to come tickle me!!! here are 30 ways to contact me!.....if you doubt me, just go scan some of the tmf member pics...again, i am not naming any names...

 

[2tickleU]

Thanks Dtrell and Em Es . . . etc.

Thank for the words about this thread.
I have enjoyed it too , because there has not been
the sabotage and backstabbing that sometimes happens.
This is a good discussion.

 

[dtrell]

i agree...

 

[Iluv2Btickled]

Dear ILuv2Btickled ,

Why is it okay for you and the other Lees to have their cake and eat it
too ???
You say that you don't want a guy PM'ing you and asking how ticklish
you are , or what your feet look like. You say that the right way to do
it is to approach you as if you were strangers meeting in line at the
supermarket and just strike-up a nomal conversation.
Tell me this . . . how often do you walk up to a stranger and tell him
that you love to be tickled , or how ticklish you are , or that tickling during
sex really turns you on ??? . . . just like you have been telling hundreds of
people on this site , over and over again.
So everyone in here knows about your awesome desire for tickling ,
but if we PM you , we have to "Play Dumb" and not talk about anything
you said , OR WE ARE THE BAD GUYS ???
A normal Man doesn't play that game !!!

Please note the following is of MY opinion and my beliefs and I am in no way trying to speak for someone else.


In reply to your ending question, I think saying this would be bad manners. In case you didnt notice, you dont start a FIRST TIME pm convo by talking about TICKLING off the bat. Ask the person if it's ok to pm first and if they're interested in chatting. Ask them how their day was, etc.

Of COURSE I wouldnt walk up to a stranger and tell them I'm interesting in tickling. As far as the internet and this site goes, that's automatically assumed since this IS a tickling site. There is plenty of time to discuss that matter. Make sure the person is comfortable chatting with you is my point. Assume they like tickling because of where you know them from, but dont assume they want to chat because of a common interest unless otherwise noted.

And buddy, I dunno WHICH chick you got me confused with but I have NEVER said how tickling turns me on during sex! I dont know if it turns me on or not, you know why? BECAUSE I'M A VIRGIN AND DAMN PROUD OF IT! And not by chance, by choice! So stop putting words in my mouth! If you could do that, that'd be GREAT! THANKS!

I think it is very wrong of you to categorize ALL if not MOST women on this board as having that way of thinking, because clearly I do not. I believe each woman has their reason why they have not been interested in meeting you or anyone else for tickling. Maybe some of them are playing games I dunno. But you dont know me at all to make those assuptions as to why I will not meet any guy online.

And if you knew me from either talking to me or reading some of my posts, I dont play games w/ people hearts. Life is too short for that. My past experiences have opened my eyes to enjoy life and dont take it for granted.

Like I said, I'm here looking for a potential husband. Not to meet guys her to "play".


And Iggy pop to respond to you, the internet is NOT the only place I am looking. Trust me I have other options. The internet is the last one.

 

[Iluv2Btickled]

i dont think anyone on here has ever questioned you iluv2btickled...i think the point of this thread is to address the recent flurry of posts from women who clain they are 21 years old, blue eyed blondes who are athletic and toned and have D cups and just cannot FIND anyone to tickle them and can any of the fine handsome gentlemen on this forum pleeeease volunteer to come tickle me!!! here are 30 ways to contact me!.....if you doubt me, just go scan some of the tmf member pics...again, i am not naming any names...

Yes dtrell I totally agree with you. They all seem too good to be true.

I however have never claimed to look like anything other than what I do and I really dont appreciate 2tickleU categorizing me w/ those "women". (women in quotes because there have been times when some of them are not)

 

[Iluv2Btickled]

Dear ILuv2Btickled ,
or that tickling during
sex really turns you on ??? . . . just like you have been telling hundreds of
people on this site , over and over again.

There it is dtrell.

 

[dlbdlb1]

Patience

It is my contention that there are many, many "teasers" on this site. However, I would be very careful not to stereotype. You just have to be patient, weed through the teasers, and perhaps if you play your cards right, you will meet the lady you are looking for.

I would advise to take the time necessary to meet the ladies here. Treat them with respect, and invest some time to really get to know them first. Earn their trust. And don't get discouraged if you're not successful immediately. It takes time.

Good luck!

 

[2tickleU]

This is a Slam Dunk

Okay Miss Smarty-Pants (the virgin) , and you know who you are.
Why does it always , always , always fall on the Ler's to be all
politically-correct and well-mannered ??? If a female Lee gets on the
the Forum , or starts PM'ing about how she wants to be tied to a bed
and tickled for hours , would any of the Lers tell her "Shut up and don't
burst in here talking about tickling."
>>> ILuv2Btickled loves to play the victim and Miss goody goody virgin.
If what we say is so offensive to her "Morals" then why does she keep
hanging out here ???
>>> And one more point !!! She says that you don't just walk up to
a stranger in the market and start talking about tickling , but she
couldn't be any more wrong. I have done it for almost 20 years.
If I see a pretty female in public , I ask them if they have really high
arches , or if they are a dancer (ballet) , etc. Then I bend down to
look at there feet. I can often massage their feet , or give them a little
tickle , but I am almost NEVER rejected !!!
BUTTTT . . . when I come in here , A FREAKIN' TICKLE SITE , I can't
do SQUAT without being labled a pervert if I talk about feet or tickling.
So to most of you Lees who are going to argue with me , these are facts
that I can prove to you 365 days a year , if you have the courage to
come to Seattle and see for yourself. You can even ask a TMF member
who lives around here to witness it for you and confirm my story .
>>> THAT IS WHY I SAY THAT MY POINT IS A SLAM DUNK , BECAUSE
I CAN BACK IT UP !!!

 

[Iwant2Btickled]

I thought this was a place where we COULD talk about our fantasies, dreams etc... that's why a lot of us visit here, because for some reason or another, we CANNOT express these any other way. we can talk to people about how we feel about things, what we think we'd like or dislike...and yes, maybe flirt a little. I think the flirting and teasing goes both ways though.
I've never talked to 2tickleu and tonight just minutes ago, I get a PM saying that I WANT TO TICKLE YOU and that I sound like the ideal Lee...sorry, but to me that sounds just a little bit pushy. I know he says he goes up to people and touches them or whatever and never gets turned down..well, buddy you've been lucky so far...I'd be careful just going up to strangers and touching their feet for whatever reason. You may just one day do it to the wrong woman. If I'm going to chat with somebody, its not all going to be about tickling and cyber tickling and all that. I wanna get to KNOW the whole person, not just how long they can tickle my feet without stopping.
Yes, I personally love to talk about it, I even enjoy a little flirting and teasing, as most people here do. But i've also met and talked to some really really great people that I count among my friends now. So don't lump us all into that mold of the "fake" women. Many of us desire the very things we're talking about, but are a little worried about just saying, 'hey wanna tickle me? here's where i live, come get me.' Some of us have more than just those desires to take care of, like children and families, so cut us some slack.
Lets keep this a place where we can talk without being judged or criticized so much. 2tickleu has his opinion and it is what it is, I just don't think that anyone has the right to judge anyone else about the reasons why they are here.
ok, i'm done ranting now...

 

[2tickleU]

TICKLesbians >>>

This is not about lesbians , although tickling between them is the
hottest thing on video .

>>> This post is about my former posts on this thread.
I am not trying to put anyone down. I am just tired of people
hearing what I have experienced and then telling me that it
doesn't happen . I play for real , or I don't play at all.
People who know me well , know that I don't have to fabricate
stories to impress anyone. I am telling what I know from
my experieces . I came to this site to meet and talk to
some nice Lees , but more and more , it's turning out that
I have more respect for many of the Ler's , because they
are willing to admit the truth about what goes on here.
However . . . if any Lee in here wants to PM me , where is
the risk ??? You either like me , or you don't.