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I read this post when it first came out, and didn't have any replies. I didn't say anything because I really didn't have anything to add at that point. However, scanning through the replies has caused a few thoughts to pop up, so I'll just give some of the random things that came to mind as I made my way through this thread.
To some extent, this is a 'lee/'ler thing as opposed to a male/female thing---though it IS to an extent a male/female issue. Lees probably do often exhibit different patterns of behavior when searching for lers versus the other way around. The reason should be obvious: if you offer yourself up as a 'lee, you are in a much more vulnerable position as opposed to someone who is offering to be a ler to someone else. If you are going to meet someone, and allow him or her to tie you down (assuming you're looking for a tickle session in which the 'lee is tied up, which most people here seem to be looking for), then you DO need to make sure you are comfortable with that person and trust that person. This goes for both genders regardless of which gender is doing what. I am saying this as a male 'lee. I will ler if I feel like it, but for the most part, I am a 'lee. I have been hanging around this forum in hopes of finding a cool female 'ler to play with, I'll admit. However, if I were to strike up a correspondence with one, I would probably want to chat for a while before going any further. In fact, I am not too sure that I would want to jump right into a tickle session the first time we meet, either. I may want to meet just for lunch, dinner, a movie, coffee, or whatever and get to know her before we did any "playing." I wouldn't draw it out for an unreasonable amount of time---let's be honest, at some point, you need to either trust or distrust someone---but I wouldn't want to rush right into it, either. I may be a guy, but that doesn't mean that I am prone to doing things that are careless, irresponsible, or flat out stupid---contrary to what some women seem to want to think. A woman may only be 5'0" tall and 100 lbs soaking wet, but if she has a guy tied up nice and tight, she can pretty much do whatever she wants---even if he is 6'4" and carrying around 250 lbs of rock solid muscle. That is not an accurate description of me, might I add---just using that to make a point. And I hope I made the point pretty clear. I don't want her to get me tied down and decide to do some other weird stuff, or walk out the door with my wallet, laughing all the way down the hall while I am left there tied to the bed.
Now, to some extent, it is a male/female thing. I may take some heat for saying this, but it sort of seems to me that, on average, men tend to enjoy the company of women more than women enjoy the company of men. By that, I mean that men will usually enjoy talking and chatting with women, in general making friends with them. However, women for the most part seem to prefer to hang out with other women. I think that's why you tend to see more women's clubs and groups versus men's clubs and groups. Now, I could be wrong (and to be perfectly honest, I kind of hope that I am), but from my observation of the people I have been around up to this point in my life, that is what it seems like to me. Then again, maybe it's just the people I have been around.
I know I've been kind of random--and I may have even gotten off the subject just a little. But those are just some of the things that occured to me as I skimmed through the responses.
To some extent, this is a 'lee/'ler thing as opposed to a male/female thing---though it IS to an extent a male/female issue. Lees probably do often exhibit different patterns of behavior when searching for lers versus the other way around. The reason should be obvious: if you offer yourself up as a 'lee, you are in a much more vulnerable position as opposed to someone who is offering to be a ler to someone else. If you are going to meet someone, and allow him or her to tie you down (assuming you're looking for a tickle session in which the 'lee is tied up, which most people here seem to be looking for), then you DO need to make sure you are comfortable with that person and trust that person. This goes for both genders regardless of which gender is doing what. I am saying this as a male 'lee. I will ler if I feel like it, but for the most part, I am a 'lee. I have been hanging around this forum in hopes of finding a cool female 'ler to play with, I'll admit. However, if I were to strike up a correspondence with one, I would probably want to chat for a while before going any further. In fact, I am not too sure that I would want to jump right into a tickle session the first time we meet, either. I may want to meet just for lunch, dinner, a movie, coffee, or whatever and get to know her before we did any "playing." I wouldn't draw it out for an unreasonable amount of time---let's be honest, at some point, you need to either trust or distrust someone---but I wouldn't want to rush right into it, either. I may be a guy, but that doesn't mean that I am prone to doing things that are careless, irresponsible, or flat out stupid---contrary to what some women seem to want to think. A woman may only be 5'0" tall and 100 lbs soaking wet, but if she has a guy tied up nice and tight, she can pretty much do whatever she wants---even if he is 6'4" and carrying around 250 lbs of rock solid muscle. That is not an accurate description of me, might I add---just using that to make a point. And I hope I made the point pretty clear. I don't want her to get me tied down and decide to do some other weird stuff, or walk out the door with my wallet, laughing all the way down the hall while I am left there tied to the bed.
Now, to some extent, it is a male/female thing. I may take some heat for saying this, but it sort of seems to me that, on average, men tend to enjoy the company of women more than women enjoy the company of men. By that, I mean that men will usually enjoy talking and chatting with women, in general making friends with them. However, women for the most part seem to prefer to hang out with other women. I think that's why you tend to see more women's clubs and groups versus men's clubs and groups. Now, I could be wrong (and to be perfectly honest, I kind of hope that I am), but from my observation of the people I have been around up to this point in my life, that is what it seems like to me. Then again, maybe it's just the people I have been around.
I know I've been kind of random--and I may have even gotten off the subject just a little. But those are just some of the things that occured to me as I skimmed through the responses.
