Headsnap
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drew70 said:This is a tickling forum. A man posts a tickling experience of his and gets a lot of judgemental condemnation for it, and not only from you. He was made to feel like shit for sharing something that he had every business sharing. While you personally didn't resort to namecalling, you nonetheless exaggerated his innocent action into a full-fledged sexual assault, in essence criminalizing him.
Touching people without their consent is assault, matters not whether their reaction is momentary revulsion and nothing more or whether it becomes a full-fledged trial by jury case. Touching people with the goal of eliciting erotic excitement without their consent is indecent assault. His action can therefore not be described as "innocent" simply because in this case the person he touched didn't report it. If you don't like the legal argument then read Bella's post, and if that's still not doing it for you then think how you'd feel if you came here and read that story after your daughter/ sister/ mother/ girlfriend/ wife had come home from working at a water park and told you someone had tickled her foot, or even better try to imagine yourself as the member of staff this kid tickled.
Then you come back and say, "let's treat each other like humans" which carries the inferance that (name removed) "dehumanized " this poor girl with a 1-second tickle.
As far as I'm concerned he did. If you get the idea in your head that people are just there for your amusement and it's okay to touch them in whatever way without so much as talking to them, then those people cease to become human to you; they might as well be slot machines or blow-up dolls. I also don't see much merit to the argument that it's social ticklers rather than sexual ticklers who find this sort of thing okay. I'm a bit of both, in the context of a physical relationship I find tickling my partner arousing, but on the other hand I've been known to tickle the feet of female friends and squeeze the ribs of male friends when playfighting with them, I tickle my nephew and niece when they're rough-housing with me, and I also find that tickling girlfriends in a social way is a good way to break the ice with them and can make them more receptive to more intimate contact such as cuddling and stuff like that. Even after all that I'd still never put my hands on a stranger; the only excuse for that in my mind is self-defence, and since by his own admission this girl wasn't trying to kick him in the face I can't see how he could try and defend himself with that old chestnut.
Funny, based on your reluctance to respond to my last post, I was wondering if perhaps YOU were reconsidering your unforgiving judgmental attitudes in dealing with this topic.
I ignored a few of your posts and others made by people supporting what this kid did because Bella's post and the comment I posted in support of that were far more succinct a response than dissecting them one by one. Now you seem to have taken issue with even the base courtesy of treating others as human beings; or rather you didn't at first, you accused me of dehumanising the kid for what he did, and after I'd explained that chiding someone is hardly dehumanising you start going on about how I've suggested that he dehumanised the girl he tickled by touching her without the slightest inkling of consent, which was inferred by the comment I posted in support of Bella.
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, I'm not talking to them because they won't understand. No, basically I'm hoping that the intelligent young 'lers reading this will think before becoming yet another annoying-as-hell idiot with roaming hands and no home training, which is what I promise you many women think of guys who behave that way. 

god bless 




