It's a simple question of the one's ability to follow the instructions laid out in the OP. Someone posts an issue, states he's made his choice, and asks for support and support only. For me, it's easy to draw a parallel between that and Myriad's weekly picture challenge threads. Those rules are simple. Post a picture of the chosen topic, and don't post a reply if you're not posting a picture. Plain and simple. People don't seem to struggle (too much) following those rules.
I had not thought of that, and it seems to be a good example. I think I can see where you are going here and you seem to have given a good example about a thread with specific directions and them being followed.
People don't go on tangents about this picture or that picture or how a picture could have been made better.
Here is the gray area though Skippy....people will and do post comments on the pictures. They are disucussing the pictures posted as well as posting one of their own.
Lmao funny funny! You kids and your hats!!
This was posted in response to your picture posted there in fact. They discussed your picture. Was that wrong? No, because they posted a picture of their own and I think the general idea is to look at pics, post your own and then have fun discussing and interacting with other members.
Deciding to end a marriage is a hell of a lot different than a busted
bike. If you're going to compare, at least do it fairly.
Agreed. It is a lot different, you and I both know that. I could have put something different, but while the topic is a lot different, the basic concept to me is still the same. But if you need a better comparison lets take "I have made a decision to get radiation therapy for my condition, I need support". If I made a post like that, I would not see people telling me how dangerous it is and to be careful, get a second opinion, try natural remedies as being off topic. They merely want to convey thoughts and may actually have some insight. But if they posted a youtube link to a man getting hit in face with a snowball....that would be off topic. Or if they asked someone that responded to me on a date or to join them on the goodship lollypop.
I agree with you regarding the support forum.
Thank you. I think the logic for it is solid, just some of the reasoning on where and such perhaps can be debated.
If you read the thread Knot posted, you'll see the total derailment, where people are picking apart one another's posts. That's unacceptable, and
uncalled for, regardless of how you want to twist around the GR.
I did. In fact I posted, my opinion that was not in line with a lot of peoples. But I agree that I see more people posting in there about the right to post than on the actual topic after a while. That was a problem. If people think a post is off-topic or wrong to be in a thread, report it and let the mods decide. I will always abide by whatever they say.
We had another user not too long ago make a thread seeking support and that's exactly what we gave him. He also later came back and asked for advice and we did the same for that member as well. -- We seem to have a habit of picking and choosing which threads we feel fall into the "Support and no discussion" and "Support and discuss" areas. It also seems like we do the same thing with "THIS IS GENERAL DISCUSSION!!11"
Yes Jo, I remember that. But there were a few that also posted opinions and questions. Not everything was only support. And yes it did not erupt into this current state, but I think the effects have carried over for some that posted their opinons and were to a degree put down. But I 100% agree that people have habits of picking and choosing. I feel, as I always have if its in General Discussion, it should be able to be discussed. That is my thought on it, but if it is not the case then it is my fault for not understanding that. Perhaps it needs to be made clear by a mod, perhaps a sticky for a week or something to remind people, or add it to the rules of posting in the welcome area and make it clear about "Ownership of a thread", in fact there may have been something like that posted recently...I just can not remember it. And it may even clear things up. I will try looking for it after I post this, or perhaps Jo you already know where it is and can shoot me the link.
Aside all that, I think Rob's idea for a "Support Area" is a good idea and one we should all lend an opinion towards.
Thanks Jo. Like I said to Mondy, I think the idea is solid, but needs perhaps some tweaking on the where and such.
You can't start moderating everything and telling people what they can and cannot say and where they can or cannot say it, before it becomes a tyrannous system of control. I've said it before, its a PUBLIC forum, don't post if you don't want opinions. Its what our nature is made up of.
Yes for the most part people should be able to self-moderate. But sometimes people forget tact. You can post your opinion and be supportive at the same time. Sometimes it is a fine line, but its not that hard to find.
Now you have something to complian about ...
Damn right I do. You took my joke and ran to far with it. GIVE IT BACK!!
Rob
Very well said. And very true. The OP has far too many personal issues in her life to be so worried about how people respond to threads. I don`t need busy bodies telling me how to post.
