my soon to be ex-husband used to tell me who i could and couldn't be friends with. and unfortunately for a time, i let him. when i realized that i wasn't going to just do what i was told, i then hid said friendship for awhile, which in essence only let him control me longer. i have since decided that no one gets to make these decisions for me anymore. it has become part of me standing up for me and being who i am as a person. my current boyfriend and i recently had a fight about this very issue since he asked me to stop being friends with a guy he found out i slept with in the past. after assuring him there were no lingering feelings, i refused to stop the friendship. no longer will i stand by and let others make my decisions for me