fun, maybe kinky ideas to ease me and my girlfriend into the sexual arena?

[TheYoungJoker]

hello all,

i dont always post, but when i do, i need your help.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 7 months, and this for both of us, our first relationship, and were experiencing virtually all of our "firsts" together. We both have decided to take it slow to this point, but were gonna have an apartment to ourselves this weekend, and I convinced her that we should try some things to try and get (mostly her) us into a more sexually intimate relationship. Ive told her about my tickling fetish, and she doesnt love it (yet), but shes ok with it, and she probably expects that to a part of our weekend, but I was wondering if you guys and gals had any other maybe kinky or fun things for us to try to kind of get our feet wet.

 

[Libertine]

Scarves are often less threatening to a woman than ropes when bondage is proposed (after all she's worn scarves before), so maybe you and she could go shopping for four long inexpensive ones (fashion rather than the heavy winter type) and bring them along with you. It's important you buy the scarves together because she'll feel more involved and you can discuss limits and safewords. Generally women love to shop anyway, and being male if you tried it on your own she'd say you got the colors wrong 🙂. The point is that psychologically speaking this makes her an active participant so she'll be more at ease rather than you just springing the idea on her when you're finally alone in the apartment.

Also a very interesting and gentle intro to kink for some is a simple blindfold (try using a scarf...) so the person doesn't know where on the body the next caress or lick will be. The surprise is erotic and harmless.

 

[Bohemianne]

If you want to really steam with excitement in a slow manner, try to play Strip Poker together. It will surely make her think: “Can he just simply rip my clothes off, funk my brains out and get this over with.”

Actually, you might devour each other HARD before you finish the game. 😉

 

[TicklesXXX]

7 months and you have not done tickling sex yet? You are going really slow.

I recommend you to start having sex with her, as it would be usually done, that means, without tickling. Then, when you are flirting before sex, or when you are having sex, you introduce tickling slightly, tickling her while you are stimulating her... etcetera.

If you have not had sex yet, and you don't want, but you want tickling, then you can substitute coital sex with mutual masturbation, which is 100% safe as long as you don't touch yourself after you touched her, and vice versa (if you do, then there is pregnancy risk, but just don't do it (don't let her touch herself if she touched you, and vice versa), and you will be fine as there will be 0 chances to get pregnant.

Tickling is, in my opinion, easier to experiment with mutual masturbation than with coital sex. It is pretty simple, stimulate her sexually with your hands or with a vibrator, while at the same time you tickle her somewhere. Another option is that you tickle her, while she is touching you.

All you have to do is to start to tickle her while you are stimulating her, as she will be very excited, and tickling is delicious, she will love it!

Don't ask, just tickle. And, only if you see she doesn't like it, stop, and search for another girlfriend.

 

[Redmage]

I agree with Libertine: if you want to try bondage then scarves or neckties are less threatening than cuffs and rope. You might consider not using bondage at all though, since even at it's least scary it can still make newbies nervous.

You might try making out while blindfolded. That can increase intimacy in surprising ways.

 

[Softtouchgirl]

It is a really nice phase of a relationship to be in and I hope you both enjoy it! the key is to find out more about each other in all sorts of ways🙂 Ask her to show out what makes her feel good. Comfort is the key to things going well. In order to explore sexually with someone you care a lot about it is important to be able to let go a little and trust each other. Silk blindfolds are a great accessory!

 

[C.A.B.]

You might try voluntary bondage (ie: self limiting movement). She might find your confidence and mastery over her will a serious turn on. And its a fun game as well.