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Gay flings automatically make a person gay???

We agree on a lot, you're right.

I suppose theoretically, in a totally abstract world, the scenarios you mentioned could happen. And some other ones would be: what about if you're raped in prison? What if you're a junkie on the street and you have to blow someone to get money for smack? In those cases, your homosexual actions wouldn't mean that you were in any way gay or bi.

But if you're doing something consensually (even if you're just drunk and "going for it,"), I can't imagine anyone doing that if they weren't bi. Maybe that's just because I'm not very experimental, but I really don't think most men would be in that situation either.

Again, maybe some (not that there's anything wrong with that 😉), but not everyone.
 
Question: Do gay flings automatically make a person gay?

Answer: They don't help your case of you claiming to be straight! :clap:
 
If we both like women and neither of us go home with trannies, then why argue? 😉
 
Isolated incidents can't define one's entire sexuality. I exclusively dated women for years. I wasn't all that interested in dating guys until the past year or so. Now, I'm in a fantastic relationship with a guy. Am I now straight? Definitely not. Sexuality is a fluid part of us.

Guys who experiment have it harder - one same-sex experience and people who know will always suspect you're a huge closet case.
 
If by gay you simply mean happy then I would say... yes.

If by gay you mean Homo-Erotic, then I would have to say... yes.
 
This question just makes me laugh whenever I see it! It's like, one man just has sex with another man and when someone asks, "Are you gay?"...he gets all upset and responds, "What would make you think that??"
 
SlaverTickler said:
I think Assassin meant consentual sex.
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Yeah , I know.

Still though , it seems to me that it is quite possible for a man who faces the prospect of a ridiculously long prison sentence to feel the need to ... satisfy his urges. Since there is no such thing as coed prisons ( at least none that I'm aware of ) , the only options "available" for that man ... is other men.

So , in this instance , I believe it IS possible for a straight man to have sex w/another man ... whereas c7_assassin deemed that that was pretty much an impossibilty.
 
I don't know if there are really a lot of men who would rather have sex voluntarily with another man in prison than masturbating. I think most that happens there is actually prison rape!

And those who do engage in sexual activities voluntarily have a real hard time dealing with it when they come bach out!
 
There is nothing wrong with experimentation, If I were to do something with a guy and decide that its not what I like then dose that make me gay? no not at all, I feel that its important to experiment with sexuality to see what you like.
 
But don't you at least need an attraction to the same sex to even want to try the experiment?
 
Okay, this is how it works.

To be gay, you must be sexually attracted to the same gender. If you are male and want to slam your cock into another guy's ass -INSTEAD- of getting yourself some good pussy, you are gay.

To be heterosexual, you must be sexually attracted to people of the opposite gender.

If you don't care if your partner has girlparts of boyparts, you just want sex no matter what the gender is, you're Bi-Sexual.

Now that those are clearly defined, let's make something else clear - doing something gay does not mean you are gay. Let's say you get drunk (...REALLY drunk) and end up having sex with another same-sex person. You're not gay because you did something gay, that's just silly.

Afterwards, are you still attracted to the same sex, sexually? Then perhaps you are gay and never knew it. Are you unsure as to whether or not you find the same sex to be attractive? Then you're bi-curious.

However, if you had a gay fling but are not attracted to the same sex, you're not gay - you either made a horrible mistake, or for some reason you felt you needed to go against your nature.
 
rhiannon said:
I don't know if there are really a lot of men who would rather have sex voluntarily with another man in prison than masturbating. I think most that happens there is actually prison rape!
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Yes there is prison rape, but in cases of men who have spent long hard time in jail, if they'r going to have sex, they are going to have it with other men and it is voluntary at that point. Does it automatically make them gay? I wouldn't say so since their choices are limited by incarceration.

rhiannon said:
And those who do engage in sexual activities voluntarily have a real hard time dealing with it when they come bach out!
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You're absolutely right on that one. As far as my race is concerned (african american), we have a lot on the prison population so if that man's been in jail for a significant period of time, I automatically assume they've had at least one encounter. My biggest concern is running into a man on the down-low (dates and marries straight women and having gay sex on the side). That's some dangerous stuff right there especially since the highest rates of HIV and AIDS are among AA straight women.
 
Now that those are clearly defined, let's make something else clear - doing something gay does not mean you are gay. Let's say you get drunk (...REALLY drunk) and end up having sex with another same-sex person. You're not gay because you did something gay, that's just silly.
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I think the "really drunk" card is played too much. Being drunk makes you uninhibited, but it doesn't change your nature. You're exactly the same sexual orientation as you were when you were sober. I've been stupidly, appallingly drunk more times than I can count, but I've never even been close to kissing a guy. Alcohol doesn't do that unless you've got the potential to swing both ways in you already.

Having a single gay sexual experience doesn't make you gay. But it makes you bi at the very least.
 
c7_assassin said:
Having a single gay sexual experience doesn't make you gay. But it makes you bi at the very least.
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No, it does not. Experimentation does not mean a change in your orientation. The very definition of any word that describes sexual orientation says you must be attracted to the sex to begin with, and it is possible to do something with someone without being attracted to them or even enjoying it.

Doing something gay doesn't mean you are attracted to people of the same sex, and therefore cannot be used to say that you are gay as a result.
 
ViperGTS said:
No, it does not. Experimentation does not mean a change in your orientation. The very definition of any word that describes sexual orientation says you must be attracted to the sex to begin with, and it is possible to do something with someone without being attracted to them or even enjoying it.

Doing something gay doesn't mean you are attracted to people of the same sex, and therefore cannot be used to say that you are gay as a result.
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I really do not think that anybody would do anything sexual with someone VOLUNTARILY without being attracted to that person (unless they are in jail, but I also wouldn't call that voluntarily, it's called having no choice!)!

Why would anybody do that? Why would you have sex with someone if you are not attracted to them?
 
kis123 said:
Yes there is prison rape, but in cases of men who have spent long hard time in jail, if they'r going to have sex, they are going to have it with other men and it is voluntary at that point. Does it automatically make them gay? I wouldn't say so since their choices are limited by incarceration.



You're absolutely right on that one. As far as my race is concerned (african american), we have a lot on the prison population so if that man's been in jail for a significant period of time, I automatically assume they've had at least one encounter. My biggest concern is running into a man on the down-low (dates and marries straight women and having gay sex on the side). That's some dangerous stuff right there especially since the highest rates of HIV and AIDS are among AA straight women.
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Completely agreed on the limited choice. I say gay sex in prison is the only thing that does not necessarily classify someone as being bi-sexual.

But you do know that HIV and AIDS is not spread more easily between gays than heterosexuals if they use the right protection, right?
 
rhiannon said:
But you do know that HIV and AIDS is not spread more easily between gays than heterosexuals if they use the right protection, right?
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I understand protection in the dating realm, but I don't know of married couples who use protection between them and that's the cause of a lot of problems.

When a man is on the down-low, he has convinced himself and his wife that he's straight. He just likes gay sex on the side, but doesn't consider himself gay. If he admitted to at least being bisexual, the woman can choose to protect herself or leave the relationship. She doesn't get that choice so she's vulnerable.
 
Well if the guy is married and cheating, then HE should be the one using protection while he's cheating! If not - in my opinion, that's almost attempted murder!
 
When a man is on the down-low, he has convinced himself and his wife that he's straight. He just likes gay sex on the side, but doesn't consider himself gay. If he admitted to at least being bisexual, the woman can choose to protect herself or leave the relationship. She doesn't get that choice so she's vulnerable.
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That's true, if a man is so repressed that he can't even admit to himself that he's bi even if he's having gay sex, it probably means he's not thinking clearly enough to make sure he uses protection. Getting drunk and convincing yourself that you're just "experimenting" or "messing around" probably isn't the best recipe for responsible behaviour...
 
I take the word "homosexual" to indicate an apparent biological-level attraction to the opposite sex. A fling with the same sex doesn't <I>make</I> one gay, but it seems difficult to fathom that one would have a fling without said attraction, save for some other reason like rebellion or some unique combination of circumstances.
 
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