Gender Differences

[theshire]

I've noticed that women are a lot more willing to tickle each other than men. You get a lot of tickling videos with non-lesbian F/F tickling, but the only ones with M/M are gay videos. This could be down to the fact that most video producers are male and want hot girl on girl action, and therefore that's what's in their videos. But looking around during every day life it seems like girls are a lot more willing to tickle each other than boys. This also applies to other 'touchy-feely' areas such as hugging, holding hands and even kissing. What do you think the reasons are for this big gender difference? Why are females so more comfortable touching each other than males?

On a slightly related note: is it me or are all Lers in this place men? Are there any females here who are all-out Lers rather than Lees?

 

[bickee]

I agree with that, though not sure why. I know as a female ler, I actually would PREFER to tickle women, but I'm not gay. Strange. Maybe it's cause women are so darn perty. 🙂

 

[theshire]

An actual female Ler! That was quick.

As a guy, I love a bit of F/F action. But there is no way in hell I'd tickle or allow myself to be tickled by another guy.

 

[berlinerbaer]

then what

... But there is no way in hell I'd tickle or allow myself to be tickled by another guy.

Then can you explain what makes you shudder thinking about M/M tickling? I wonder how much of the fact that men don't 'touch' each other is society vs nature. There are cultures in which men walking armin arm for example is not a problem (and not seen as gay); well, actually all non-western cultures that I know are like that.

 

[theshire]

It just seems gay to me. But with F/F tickling it doesn't seem gay. Why that should be I have precisely no clue.

 

[Prinny]

I think the reason women are more open to tickling other women, whatever their sexual preference, Is the fact that women tend to be more affectionate than men. Yes, there are many men that are openly affectionate. However, women tend to Generally be more open and public to affection than men. Heck, we used to have sleepovers when we were little and giggle, gossip, put make-up on each other, and braid each others' hair. I remember numerous sleep overs with friends that would start out as back rub chains and end up with all of us giggling on the floor because Someone would start tickling someone (Of course, I would never do that! 😉 ) and down the chain it would go. That was So fun. But even outside of homes we would "attack" each other because it was always a sign of affection.

There is also the view that society gives us. We (girls) are told that it is natural to hug our friends, tickle them, and hold each others' hands. For boys, there is a certain age where it does not "look good" to be holding the hand of another boy or have much physical contact. He could be your best bud in the world, but you couldn't openly hug him for the present he got you for your birthday that he knew you were Really wanting. Why? Because the other boys would laugh at you. Girls tend to give each other a hug when we are happy, sad, sick, upset, embarrassed, or whatever. Heck, it always made us feel better when our mom would do it, so it would seem okay. Emulating our parents, so to speak.

Plus, there is the fact that women tend to be more into the senses and emotions and men tend to be more visual. We respond to physical touch and the emotions that arise from that. Men tend to be on the sidelines and watch the action. Which would explain why there are more videos of women tickling women. Men love watching women tickling women. It is visually appealing. All the facial expressions and nuances that happen when a woman is tickled is a very visual experience. Women like to be tickled, or do the tickling, the physical action.

Yikes! I'll stop rambling on and on right now so I don't bore you guys to tears. LOL 😀 Naturally, there are exceptions to my ramblings, which I can understand. I tend to be both a 'lee and a 'ler, liking both sides of the reactions I get from tickling, and the sensations I get from tickling.

P.S. Sorry for the long post. I tend to go off on a spree when I get going! 🙄

 

[Brookie]

To respond to some questions regarding M/M tickling and why men might consider it gay. To me tickling a female is sexual....a form of foreplay ....hence men tickling men may also be sexual and therefore possibly gay behavior.


I think these view may fit for other behaviors. For example, a guy cuts and washes my hair...he's not gay....we usually have an interesting discussion about sports, music and work etc. I doesn't bother me in the least that a man is cutting my hair and washing it...he's been doing it for years.

My friend on the other hand thinks otherwise and only lets women do his hair. He argues that the it feels good when someone cuts and washes his hair.....so he thinks of it as a feeling thing and feels comfortable with a woman doing it not a man.

Many men fee similar about a massage I suspect.....ok for a woman to do but not another man.

 

[MrTicklee]

Very Ticklish Guy

I think many of you hit the nail square on the head. I too suspect that a lot of it has to do with how society has formed the behaviors or characteristics of men and women. It has been ingrained into our pysche. Men are not suppose to cry. Men are the bread winners, not the parent that stays at home, etc.

As a ticklee, I would like to say that I am open to both men and women tickling me, however, I admit that I am not. The idea of another man tickling me is repulsive to me. Maybe that's my own insecurities, or maybe that is society, I don't know. Sometimes I wish I didn't have that "hang-up" so to speak, as there would be even more ticklers available to tickle to bejesus out of me. But alas, I am a part of the collective.

I also think there is something to be said for the role that sex plays in tickling. Whether or not the tickling will lead to sex, and in my case the two can easily be separated, there still is the feeling of arousal and should the one creating that arousal be someone from the same sex, there goes to "homo" alert in the U.S male's central nervous system. Again, another roadblock.

I don't know if I've answered anything or even added to the discussion, however, it is a good discuss to have.

Mr Ticklee

 

[MrTicklee]

Very Ticklish Man

Theshire, by the way, TRUST ME, there are a bunch of lady lers floating around here! I have had the pleasure of meeting some of them over the years and look forward to meeting more in the years to come.

MrTicklee

 

[Iggy pop]

Maybe it's cause women are so darn perty. 🙂

Amen to that, Sister!

 

[primetime]

as an author of F/F stories (and i have a million of them...), i have to say the mere thought of a woman tickling another woman is an extreme turn on. i think it's that way because the two women have body parts that i like to see in sexual activity. tickling can be a huge turn on for me, so it makes sense.

now m/m isnt utterly repulsive to me, but it's not my cup of tea. i do read stories of m/m tickling to see what it is about, but i know i will never engage in m/m tickling. to those that do, good for you. different strokes for different folks....

i do wonder if women dont mind seeing men tickling men as they deal with body parts they like in sexual activity. is that true ladies?

 

[thetickleking]

I think society plays a very huge role in the nature of relationships, F/F and M/M. I have been to various countries in Europe, and they are all different. In the Ukraine, for example. It is not uncommon to see two straight men walking arm in arm. I even had the unfortunacy of being kissed by a man, while I was there. He was like 70, and it was customary. I gave him a gift, and he thanked me by planting a big smacker on my lips. No one look at us weird, no one said anything. It's the custom. They didn't see me in the bathroom washing my lips with soap, afterwards, but what they don't know won't hurt them. I am not repulsed by M/M tickling, either. I have a section on my site that has some M/M tickling, but those are stories that I actually didn't write. A cd friend of mine asked to post those stories anonymously, on my site, and I allowed it. I've even read them. I don't think I could ever tickle a man, myself, though I probably wouldn't be totally against being tickled by one, as long as I could be assured that the tickler was not going to go any further than to tickle.

 

[kcantankerous]

Well

if you notice girls seem to be more affectionate, in a heterosexual way, than men are. Women are more emotional and what not than most guys. It's normal to me to see them get together and act all crazy. With all the slumber parties and stuff, doing eachothers hair and nails. Thats why the non sexually girls doing that stuff seems normal. Most guys are less emotional, and can communicate with eachother without much physical contact. Sure sometimes some of the "customs" of me seem odd. But I doubt you'll see many straight males snuggling together like I see girls do sometimes.

 

[kcantankerous]

LOL I wonder too if women like watching m/m or f/f better I but the result would be interesting.

 

[Tess Harper]

I think it's just society and medieval gender roles. I guess they thought that if a man started showing affection to anyone, especially of his own sex, that it would be a weakness to his reputation and to his hunting/landowning/whatever. Women aren't taught to be so picky about that.

Oh, wow. There aren't many Lers? Here's one right here. 😛 *points to self*

I like watching F/F better, but I'm bisexual. 😛

 

[Lukku]

Personally, I'm a switch, and I can understand what you mean about the women being more affectionate than men. Girls have slumber parties and do makeovers and things from a very young age. I was different in a sense, I was (and still am) a ladette. I didn't have or go to slumber parties, and a makeover was to me a form of torture (I still do not wear make-up to this day, apart from nail polish). I've always preferred to hang around with lads, and that is why I'm more like a tomboy than a girly-girl, but I am more affectionate still than the lads are. However, if a play/ticklefight ensues,I'm actually more likely to watch it if m/m than f/f, because it just seems funnier when lads do things, plus I have written m/m fanfics before in my time, so I seem inclined to that sort of partnership rather than an f/f one.

 

[StephanieLocke]

No real drive to do the why is m/m tickling potentially disturbing while f/f is just arousing question, again, there's been a big thread about it all week, just wanted to state...I am a equal opportunity Female Ler and I love it that way.

Maybe you should visit my site, if you haven't yet at www.stephanielocke.com and click on tickling...you'll see plenty of moments and some even have me tickling a girl in them.

Mistress Stephanie Locke
www.mslvideos.com
www.stephanielocke.com

 

[kurchatovium]

There seems to be alot of concern over this m/m stuff as late. I am not sure why. Some people like m/m, some f/m, some f/f, and some m/f. Some maybe like all them or some combination of them. We are all different and we all have different likes and dislikes. Lets celebrate our differences for that is what makes this world interesting IMHO. 😀

 

[StephanieLocke]

Kurchatovium,

Nice new image. You look great!

Mistress Stephanie Locke

 

[kurchatovium]

Thanks hun I appreciate it. Somehow when I made it the psychedelic background and Zen pose suited me. 😀 😀

 

[pennyg]

In my honest opinion, women are more comfortable being open and affectionate with one another. Yes, we have all had those sleepovers when somebody would start the tickling and let the fun and games begin.
Guys are taught at an early age that signs of affection and touching one another is wrong and should be avoided.
Most guys love hot girl on girl action and that is why the majority of the tickling videos are f/f.

 

[Tickler Bart]

My Own Opinion . . .

This is how I see things . . .
I generally do NOT want to see a guy tickling anyone.
NOT because I am homophobic (Which I am NOT).
It's because the guy is in the way.
I want to see women, NOT men.
Even in 'normal' porn (Which I RARELY ever watch) I don't want to see some guy's freakin' hairy fat ass in the way of the woman.
I say to myself, "GET OUT OF THE WAY, MAN. YOU'RE BLOCKING MY VIEW."

Maybe I see the men in these videos as a threat.
I do NOT see myself in his place. I see him as invading MY fantasy.
Now, mind you, this ONLY refers to videos.
If I were to see a man being tickled in real life right in front of me, I would watch. Not because it's a man being tickled. But becuase SOMEONE is being tickled. The ACT of tickling & being tickeld is what really turns me on.
But for some reason unbeknownst to me, watching videos is different.
I have no real explaination for this.
I hope I've confused everyone, just as I have confused myself.

 

[StephanieLocke]

This is how I see things . . .
I generally do NOT want to see a guy tickling anyone.
NOT because I am homophobic (Which I am NOT).
It's because the guy is in the way.
I want to see women, NOT men.
Even in 'normal' porn (Which I RARELY ever watch) I don't want to see some guy's freakin' hairy fat ass in the way of the woman.
I say to myself, "GET OUT OF THE WAY, MAN. YOU'RE BLOCKING MY VIEW."

Maybe I see the men in these videos as a threat.
I do NOT see myself in his place. I see him as invading MY fantasy.
Now, mind you, this ONLY refers to videos,

Dear Bart,

Your posting isn't in the least confusing. It's actually very honest and right on the money. Most people will just want to concentrate on the pretty women...not on the male that may be with them. You've also proved that you're a true fetishist because you said"If I were to If I were to see a man being tickled in real life right in front of me, I would watch. Not because it's a man being tickled. But becuase SOMEONE is being tickled. The ACT of tickling & being tickeld is what really turns me on."

And Miss Pennyg,

I tended to get closer to girls during the vampire movies...I don't remember tickling...but I certainly would have joined in.

Mistress Stephanie Locke
www.mslvideos.com
www.stephanielocke.com

 

[Wesker28]

Girls definately tickle other girls a lot more then men tickle other men. I've noticed it for years, my ex gf's ex best friend who was female, used to tickle my ex gf all the time. Nearly everytime I called my ex and her friend was there, she always used to keep giggling, or sometimes just laugh out loud. Plus my brother has a female friend and apparently its quite a regular occurance for this girl she is lodging with to tickle her feet. A while ago he was actually talking to her on the phone when she burst out laughing. I wish i'd been there to see it.

 

[Em Es]

Communication vs. one-upmanship

Theshire, why do straight women tickle one another while straight men don't? I think it's the same reason straight the ladies hug, kiss, hold hands, and dance with one another while the fellows don't: females crave communication .

What do guys want? Things like problem-solving and one-upmanship . While the girls tune in on one another's feelings, the boys seek accomplishments and upstaging one another.

Whether it's hugging or tickling, females touch each other more because touch is a form of communication, and that's what women want most.