Ghosting

[Luvleetumee]

I just had another tickle ghosting experience so I am writing this to vent.

A guy said he wanted to chat with me so I gave him my snap. I thought he just wanted to be friends, not playmates. My mistake for assuming. He sent me photos of himself and asked for a photo in return. I sent him one and he immediately deleted me from snap, without saying anything. I messaged him that I was sorry I wasn't whatever he was looking for, and only then did he respond back that he wasn't attracted to me. Why couldn't he have said that in the first place! I have also had to deal with people (on here and on Fetlife) stop communicating with me without explanation as soon as I mention that I don't have an interest in bondage

Why do people got to do this? Is it really that hard to be upfront that it isn't going to work out for whatever reason? I try to be upfront about what I am looking for, what I don't want, etc. If it becomes apparent that I am not compatible with the person I am messaging, I let them know and tell them why. I just wish people could give me that same courtesy.

Does anyone else experience this?

 

[tickle_prince]

I not had something like that happen too me before, but it is a Shame it does! At the end of the day, the tickling world is huge an has different types of what people like an don't it would be a pretty boring world if everyone liked the same stuff lol beside you don't have too use bondage too be playfully evil to a ticklee lol And manners never cost anything, I hope you find what your looking for an not have another negative experience like that!

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[pdfclszxcmbnvgh]

I’ve had many people say they are interested and want to meet and then they just disappear. It’s funny they don’t say anything and then you see they make new posts. I think some just do it to troll people without intention of ever meeting anyone. Or perhaps they are trying to steal our pictures.

 

[tickle_prince]

I’ve had many people say they are interested and want to meet and then they just disappear. It’s funny they don’t say anything and then you see they make new posts. I think some just do it to troll people without intention of ever meeting anyone. Or perhaps they are trying to steal our pictures.

Or our bloody time! Lol
I think sadly, it is one of the risks of the Internet, and their are some people out there that enjoy trolling! (clearly they have TO MUCH! time on their hands) haha

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[Luvleetumee]

I not had something like that happen too me before, but it is a Shame it does! At the end of the day, the tickling world is huge an has different types of what people like an don't it would be a pretty boring world if everyone liked the same stuff lol beside you don't have too use bondage too be playfully evil to a ticklee lol And manners never cost anything, I hope you find what your looking for an not have another negative experience like that!

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Thank you! I never expected I'd be treated that way. At least not everyone on this forum is cruel

 

[tickle_prince]

Thank you! I never expected I'd be treated that way. At least not everyone on this forum is cruel

Tbh your prolly find quite a lot of friendly people out there Luvlee I know in the past here I had some great convos with people about tickling an non tickle stuff. So fear not.. Nice people our out there! Haha

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[chicago]

It sucks but sometimes that's how the cookie crumbles when trying to get to know folk

 

[tickle_prince]

It sucks but sometimes that's how the cookie crumbles when trying to get to know folk

Mmm cookies.. XD

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[tickletherapist]

Unfortunately not everyone is courteous but you can’t know this before you chat with a person. Don’t expect the worst from others but just be ready for this and don’t take it too personally. It’s not your problem, that some people are rude. You should be confident that you are an interesting person. And if someone is not interested in you - well, just smile and move on 🙂

 

[ticklishmikey]

Don't mean to laugh, but I've dealt with this on a regular years ago. I read the post and said "omg, it's me!" Lol. I deal with a different issue now, but that's another story. But this is part of why I took a hiatus from the online scene. It isn't just localized to here though. Some just feel it is easier to disappear rather than have a conversation about why they don't wish to continue to pursue any kind of relationship, be it friendship or something more. There are all sorts of advice to give here, but for me, the truth of the matter was that it took time to accept that this will happen. Sometimes you have to step back and look at how you can protect yourself without closing yourself off and becoming cold. Look for patterns in the conversations. You'll be surprised by what you notice. Be open to outlier cases though. Sometimes communication is lost because the other person can't. Happened to me. I was without a phone and internet for months, so just be aware that can happen too. I am glad you vented and you seem to be getting a very supportive response so far. Don't do like I do and hold it in. It isn't healthy.

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[TickleYeti]

Sorry that happened to ya, some people are pretty self focused :/

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[Secretlee]

So sorry this happened to you. From my experience, a lot of people ok the internet engage in activities over the internet specifically because it does not require them to be direct. It’s much easier to “ghost” someone and never have to deal with it again, so the repercussions are relatively low. It’s the unfortunate world of the internet.

 

[AbsolutelyTkld]

It an unfortunate situation. I’ve had it happen to me as well a couple times. It makes wanting to meet and session such a fruitless effort as people that are into this are scarce to begin with.


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[Bleeder1967]

Ghosting has become part of our culture but I still don't understand it.

 

[Libertine]

I just had another tickle ghosting experience so I am writing this to vent... and only then did he respond back that he wasn't attracted to me.

Although his reply was late and obviously not the answer you wanted, to his credit he did at least respond. True ghosting, which unfortunately we've all experienced, is when someone completely disappears without a trace, and that's rude and cowardly in equal measure.

On to the next; your perfect person may well be just around the proverbial corner, and best wishes for that.

 

[Yote]

It sucks, but some people just can't be upfront. Or they ghost just to mess with people. It's a big pet peeve of mine to be honest, but you're going to run into people like that sometimes.

 

[tklfeet1]

I'm so very sorry to hear that such a thing happened to you. Alas, for a community that is supposed to be filled with friendly & like minded people, there are also far too many inconsiderate, nasty individuals. I've similarly experienced this too many times to count. I was once a member of Fetlife and tried to find a friend who I could meet and play with, sharing our mutual kinks. Alas, despite being kind, courteous and friendly, I was also ghosted, blocked, ignored and generally treated like some kind of freak or weirdo. As a result, I left Fetlife. It's not worth the hassle or the stress. I've resigned myself to the fact that I'm simply not meant to meet anyone to play with. I even tried here in the TMF Chat Room and in the Personals section but without any luck. I really hope you are able to find the person who meets your every need and shows you the time of your life. As for the rest of the ignoramuses, I hope they get what's coming to them...