Has anyone ever done something as ******* stupid as I've just done?

[pfromptown]

Easily the worst night of my amateur tickling career today. I had my girlfriend, who isn't really used to being tied and tickled, tied spread eagle on the bed, wearing only her nightgown. I was teasing her with an electric toothbrush and needed a piss, so to drive her extra mad I slipped the brush, turned on, underneath her nightgown where it got stuck, tickling her constantly. At first the effect was as I'd intended and it was incredibly sexy hearing her scream and beg, however I underestimated how unbearable it would be for her and she started to choke and panic. I rushed in and released her and she was crying. I'm not sure I'll ever find tickling sexy again, I can't get the sound of her choking out of my head. Has anything similar to this happened to anyone before? I want to know that I'm not the only irresponsible prick in the tickling world.

 

[Mirage]

....sorry that is probably not nice of me, but that made me giggle.....sorry, I probably wouln't have if it ever vere to happen to me...but try it with her one more time, but we very receptive to what she tells you..

 

[c7_assassin]

Umm...

Forgive the cliche, but:

I recommend lots of cuddling and nothing kinky for the next several weeks at least. And also slowly building up to things from now on. But I'm sure you get that.

 

[Myriads]

Bondage rule #1, never leave your bound partner alone. Especially with any mobile objects on or near them.

I'm sorry what happened to your play. It very well might have an impact on you. Take some time away from play for a bit, and enjoy other aspects of your sexuality, and make sure your GF is not troubled by what happened, and talk about it a bit. Later you can try to see if things work again.

Myriads

 

[porcelaindoll2]

Hopefully you held her in your arms while she was crying and was comforting her. Telling her everything was going to be all right. I know that is what I would've wanted if this had happened to me. I agree with everyone else lay off the kink for a while and make sure your GF is ok. I hope you and her don't have nightmares from this scary experience.

 

[rivers12]

I'm surprised she's even talking to you right now. To be honest, you may very well have ruined any chances of her trusting you to tie her up and tickle her again. That is a very traumatic thing that happened to her. What you did to be honest was flat out cruel and extremely torturous. I mean you literally tickle tortured her into hysterics and crying. When someone is tied down and can't get away, the tickler should never stick a tickling object in their clothes and leave it there while they exit the room.

 

[emilyemilyemily]

To be honest, you may very well have ruined any chances of her trusting you to tie her up and tickle her again. That is a very traumatic thing that happened to her. What you did to be honest was flat out cruel and extremely tortorous.

i disagree on the "cruel" part. it was an honest mistake, and he clearly feels bad about it. people do stupid things by accident sometimes. it happens.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

i disagree on the "cruel" part. it was an honest mistake, and he clearly feels bad about it. people do stupid things by accident sometimes. it happens.

I agree. Don't jump on him for it. It was a mistake, he shouldn't have done that. And if he used common sense maybe he would have realized that was bad. But sometimes people just screw up. Mistakes happen, especially i you're new to do it, or feel like trying something new that you think might be exciting... and it might have if he didn't leave the room. But in his mind he was probably thinking he didn't want to just leave her there doing nothing while he left and thought she would be bored and wanted her to still be entertained.. it was a mistake, but that's all it was.. not like he wanted that type of reaction.

 

[asutickler]

You clearly feel awful about it, so it's pretty obvious that no malice was involved. Sure, it's something that probably could have been avoided... But stuff like this happens, people make mistakes. It's only human. Talk it out, explain what happened, and take it as a lesson for the future. 🙂

 

[Adam]

The last thing I want to do is be shitty, but a major rule was definitely broken here. Never, ever leave a play partner alone when vulnerable like that. That's BDSM 101. It is quite clear to me that you realize this, so good on you for that, at least.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

You're a good man, pfromptown. You've got your work cut out for you...

 

[ticklemepls]

Yes, it was a mistake, but a serious one.... trust is such a sensitive thing. Hard to gain, very easy to lose. Before anyone jumps on me for being a jerk, something similar happened to me with my ex. It took just once for him to break my trust, I never trusted him with any part of the bondage/tickling lifestyle again.

Seriously need to sit down and talk to her, if she wants to talk about it right now. And you need to realize that it may take a good long while before she will trust you to tie her up or anything in any way, shape, or form, anytime soon. The fact that you are so concerned that it happened, is a good thing... At least you are aware of the serious mistake. Just make sure you keep it in mind for next time....

 

[rhiannon]

She's not used to being tied and tickled and then something like that happens? Unlikely she will try it again!

 

[No_Style]

it would be very surprising if she decides to give it another go...sorry this happend to you! 🙁

 

[milagros317]

Bondage rule #1, never leave your bound partner alone. Especially with any mobile objects on or near them.

Explain to her that you forgot this very important rule and will never forget it again. Apologize both before and after the explanation. That might help.

 

[pfromptown]

Thanks for the many responses. I indeed cuddled her and fetched emergency rations of tea and ben and jerries, but we were both still quite shaken afterward, her for obvious reasons, me because I knew how irresponsible I'd been. We talked about it and I showed her what people had said on here and she's willing to move on and try to forget about it. I am new to bondage tickling: I've had years of experience watching professionals on a screen but it's very different when you're doing it to a living, breathing person. I am still getting used to her limits, what is tolerable and what isn't, and she has been amazingly patient with me throughout. I am also trying to be a creative tickler and surprise my victim as often as possible, but obviously this was a step too far. She is the first person I've voluntarily told about being a deviant and she has embraced tickling completely, to the point where she is almost one of us now, and she says the other night hasn't put her off, thank God. What I did was a sin of negligence rather than sadism, she understands that and I will definately not be making the same mistake again.

 

[rhiannon]

Do you guys use a safeword?

 

[Mirage]

Do you guys use a safeword?

It seem that they didn't or else she would have being screaming it all the time

 

[rhiannon]

Then that itself is extremely stupid for beginners!

 

[TickledToDeath]

Easily the worst night of my amateur tickling career today. I had my girlfriend, who isn't really used to being tied and tickled, tied spread eagle on the bed, wearing only her nightgown. I was teasing her with an electric toothbrush and needed a piss, so to drive her extra mad I slipped the brush, turned on, underneath her nightgown where it got stuck, tickling her constantly. At first the effect was as I'd intended and it was incredibly sexy hearing her scream and beg, however I underestimated how unbearable it would be for her and she started to choke and panic. I rushed in and released her and she was crying. I'm not sure I'll ever find tickling sexy again, I can't get the sound of her choking out of my head. Has anything similar to this happened to anyone before? I want to know that I'm not the only irresponsible prick in the tickling world.

Easy bro. Live and learn. Everyone makes little mistakes or bad judgments from time to time and you made yours in leaving her unattended. Say if you wanted to add to the psychological aspect and did what you did but you didn't go to take a piss but made believe you left the room and watched her the whole time unbeknown to her, you would have been able to see her start to panic etc thus being right on top of the situation to back things off.
For the most part in any bondage play, one is not supposed to totally leave the tied up person hanging out the dry as it were. You had an evil tickler idea that backfired. Again, live and learn. You know now what NOT to do with her. Don't let this end your play and your passion.
Oh and hey, perhaps you should allow her to tie and tickle torture you as punishment and a reminder lesson to never let that happen again.

 

[mabus]

At least she forgave you and everything is good to go for another try.

Yeah, safe words are vitally important, even if it's her who needs to go pee, and she just needs a quick break. Or go get a glass of water.

The never leaving a person tied up is a lesson you learned the hard way, and luckily you learned it and she wasn't hurt, or at least too bad.......

That's really a safety reason - what if something had happened to YOU?
You go take a piss...and slip and fall and get knocked unconscience?
Or have a stroke, or heart attack?
She's tied up, and can't get out or call for help.

Good luck in the future and appreciate the beauty of your woman who will indulge your fantasies, and that's the real reason you need to master the safety and respect part of the bondage and tickling stuff - how many men or women have partners who will let them tickle them?

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

You must immediately run for political office!!

Just wear Depends next time and you will not have to leave the room!! 😉 Who says an old fart can't teach a young pup a trick or two..... Did she have to phone you using her toes like the home invasion lady? Were you reading a TFTA magazine on the john? I am sorry for her discomfort, and just talk it out ........................while staying in the same room with her! I remember the first time I tickled my inflatable girlfriend and got so carried away I popped her cherry, it's OK she is on the patch now!!

 

[Frowg]

i disagree on the "cruel" part. it was an honest mistake, and he clearly feels bad about it. people do stupid things by accident sometimes. it happens.

I totally agree. I'm sure she understands, and I'm sure you won't do it again. But yeah, I'd lay of the kink for a bit to help reinforce some trust.

 

[Adam]

Guys and girls, I'm sorry. But as someone who has practiced for a while now, I have a big problem with those who refer to this as a "little mistake". I can tell that the OP is sincerely sorry, and I respect his candor and regret. But this is a big deal. Fortunately, I do feel that this thread can serve as a very valuable learning tool for others.

 

[Desparting297]

I went through something similar with my ex, he tied and tickled me to the point of me having an asthma attack rather than give me few breaks in between so I can catch my breath so it kind of put me off being tickled by him let alone be tied down for anything else. You need to know your lees limits and try not to lead it to the point of traumatising them.