Have others figured out why they have this fetish?

[GoForTheLaugh]

I spent much of my life repressing many aspects of my sexuality, tickling included. Although I have had a few experiences with light, sensual tickling one on one, I rarely spoke to anyone except the two friends I have always confided in, neither one a ticklephile. In 1999 I found tickle stories on line, and I suddenly realized how normal I was after all.

Now, suddenly, six years later, I have been on this board (my first) for a few weeks and am getting e-mail from others who share my interest. Based on what I have read on the board and in private e-mail, I understand for the first time why I have this fetish. My story is unique to me, and in no way do I wish to say that others are ticklephiles for the same reason. More than anything, I am on this board to figure the whole thing out and be at peace with myself.

Although I am liberal and non-religious today, I grew up in a right wing Christian church. As soon as I had the first hints of sexuality, I was taught to repress everything. I did not even understand what sexualty was, just that I had to repress it. Even masturbation was a mortal sin.

At the same time, there was a lot of rough and tumble tickle play among kids my age, and for me that became sex. (I needed some outlet for all these feelings I was not allowed to have.) Tickling was fun, and since even adults in church tickled kids, it was not wrong in my mind.

I never thought I would say this, but I think my religion gave me my fetish!

Has anyone else figured out the origin of his or her fetish?

 

[AffectionateDan]

I don't try to figure it out...

...I just enjoy it! Nuff said!

 

[Ayla ny]

like you, I like to think too much. and, like you, I had some pretty over-the-top religous experiences. was once in a group of teenagers who were slated to have the 'demon of masturbation' flung from us and was pegged as a harlot for making men, who were way too old to be thinking things about me... think things about me.

but I do have to agree with Mr Dan up there (I have to... he'll get me if I don't... 😉 ) thinking too much about the 'why' doesn't get you anywhere. it's not like you could change it if you figured it out... so why not just go from where/what/who you are? it's just more productive.

besides, where/what/who we are is really pretty cool. touch, fun, excitement and laughter... good stuff!

 

[GoForTheLaugh]

Thank you, AffectionateDan and Ayla ny!

Your advice is the best one can give and what I would probably tell someone else.

It took me six years since my discovery of tickling stories on the Internet to seek out a board and answer my questions, however. I wish I could just lie back and enjoy it or dish it out, but my need to know runs strong.

I still appreciate your kind, supportive posts, however. And I mean a lot.

Much and to you both!

 

[TickledToDeath]

Always wondered and thought about it........haven't figured it out.
I just think that those who don't enjoy tickling and laughing are the abnormal ones!


TTD

 

[morgandavis]

thinking about stuff sucks

you cant spell school without fool

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

I dont know why I have my fetish for girls feet and for tickling girls feet but isn't it great to have

Steve

 

[milagros317]

Since my interests in women's feet and tickling go back as far as I can remember (to age 4), I have no idea how they began.

 

[natural tickler]

I agree with Dan wholeheartedly. I look at it as don't think about it, be like Nike and 'Just do it'

 

[Merciless1]

Don't know why........don't care why. I just love to tickle the piss out of everyone and anyone I can get my fingers on!
and as far as getting tickled........the more merciless the better too but it is a fine line between love and hate there yet......whooooo hoooo!


M1

 

[steph]

I second this~or is it thirds? Oh well!
XOXO

I agree with Dan wholeheartedly. I look at it as don't think about it, be like Nike and 'Just do it'

 

[GoForTheLaugh]

I have to admit something. 🙂


I started this as a serious, thought-provoking thread, but I LOVE what all of you have done with it.

With an embarrassed blush (but a pleasant one),

GoForTheLaugh. 🙂

 

[morgandavis]

that one guy who tickled 12 year olds feets didnt think about it why should you

 

[geryon]

Well, I'm a long time lurker, but this particular topic I've thought about for some time, and have only recently come upon some resolution...for myself anyway, I don't know about the rest of you, or if this post will even help.

Tickling to me is a form of power struggle. Seemingly innocent, and very subversive. It is an opportunity for one to induce insanity, no matter how strong-willed the 'lee is, with a mere stroke of the finger.

No bruises, (overtly) no pain. You are in control. And to drink in the laughter and the insanity while watching the other person writhe and beg and your slightest touch...tell me this isn't arousing on some level for some of you.

This, of course isn't a full explanation (those who wish to discuss this further, or get into specifics, may e-mail me at [email protected]), but I think if you sit down and reflect, both males and females alike in this forum, you will find that some of this strikes a chord with you.

EDIT: I have started a new LJ Community, <a href="http://www.livejournal.com/community/sheer_love/">Sheer Love</a> to discuss this particular topic as well as others. Read the info page before joining, to see if this is really for you. I would be thrilled (thought I was going to use an appropriate cliche, huh?) if any of you were to join.

Thank you.

 

[GoForTheLaugh]

Tickling to me is a form of power struggle. Seemingly innocent, and very subversive. It is an opportunity for one to induce insanity, no matter how strong-willed the 'lee is, with a mere stroke of the finger.

I agree! It is also a chance to break away from stress and corporate behavior and just be wild and childlike again. The temporary insanity is not only desired but requested--and it gives a natural high. 🙂

It may be an endorphin thing.

Say no to drugs and yes to tickling!

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I would also like to correct my first post in this thread. It is nicely Freudian, but I have since done some reading on BDSM and alternative sexuality; I think I may have been wrong in my first post.

Perhaps the alternative sexuality was already there when I was a kid, but any desire for intercourse or role play was taken away by religious guilt. That may have left only the one action (tickling) in which people engaged publically.

I just don't know. Anything is possible.

But all the people who said to just enjoy it are so right.

Tickling is cool.

 

[geryon]

Thanks for replying GoForThe Laugh.

*on a personal note, it always seems awkward to post for the first time and seem like there's dead air. The response was greatly appreciated.

It is an endorphin rush, and can heighten sensual and sexual experiences alike, as well as being a great break from stress for all parties involved.

Psychologically, it is a wonderful part of a relationship, as the quasi-survival/erotic mechanisms kick in, and all senses start soaring!

I would not be surprised if our old friend phenol-ethyl alamine (the chemical released throughout the body when two people are deeply in love) is released (not to break love down to chemicals, as the the whole is certainly much greater than the sum of its glands) during the experience, especially when all involved are willing participants in the tickling experience.

To respond to the second part, in retrospect my love of tickling has always been a part of me, though I did not begin to truly find it arousing (or question why) until about 15 or 17 years ago.

Other fetishes of mine, while they do meander and tie in with this one (and vice versa) I can tell you have been with me for all of my life (and I certainly am not at a full understanding with the why's and wherefore's of those - and with the only guidebook being Freud's ideas, I'm still searching for a better revelation. "Sometimes a feather is only a feather," to paraphrase the Father of Modern Psychology), and it's boards like these that certainly realize that not only am I not the only one out there, but that it cannot be all that specific and particular if it has a role in "normal relationships," and also it cannot be all that uncommon if boards such as these have garnered such a following of both lurkers and active memebers alike.

 

[kurchatovium]

Me I always thought I was just wired this way. I just always loved tickling and especially being tickled.

 

[Cy/MiG]

I don't like to think why, it leads to more philosophical ideas that leave me feeling so insignificant I just lie down and do nothing for hours.

But, since I already thought about it, it's too late. The only answer off the top of my head is because, if I wasn't a tickler, I wouldn't be a 'shy guy' and would probably crave sex or another body part/area of female anatomy.

Some guys like breasts, some like asses, some like legs and or feet, and some like whatever else it is they do. If I wasn't a tickler/foot-fetish I'd probably be on g/f #100 right now and spend my days thinking of sex instead of tickling.

It's my opinion that everyone has some form of 'fetish' or sexual preference, so I don't think twice of it. Basically, fill in the blank.

Hey, what do you know? I feel fine... I think I'll go knock out some push-ups.

NSM

 

[siamese dream]

I have no idea where it came from...it just always was. There was never a clear memory of where it all started...since I was a very, very small child I can vividly remember anything that I witnessed on TV or in life that involved tickling, and it fascinated me and later I figured out that it was a sexual fascination and a huge turn-on. but I don't think anything specifically triggered it. or if so then it's the one tickling thing I can't remember from my childhood. everything else, even just little tiny things on cartoons and stuff when I was only 5 or so has been stuck in my mind since.

Haven't been here for a while, jeez the user names are HUGE and the format is all changed and stuff. Hi guys.

 

[Fastwalker]

Besides the fact that either tickling a pretty woman, seeing a pretty woman being tickled, or just fantasizing about it gives me a big boner, I have no idea why I've got this fetish...just glad I do.

 

[featherfingers]

When I was a teeny tiny tot I remember my parents taking me to see the movie, "The Parent Trap." There was a scene when the twins (both played by Hayley Mills) were trying to get rid of their father's girlfriend (played by Joanna Barnes). They went on a camping trip. The twins poured honey all over Joanna's feet while she was asleep in her tent. The next scene shows two bear cubs licking the honey off of her feet. I must have found that a little arousing... thus making me the world's first perverted three year old.