have you ever felt completely disconnected with tickling?

[WildLaughter]

I know I battle mild depression, maybe that is why. I'm curious if anybody else has days or even weeks where you don't even check the TMF or any other website regarding tickling. Like you just stopped caring suddenly.

Right now I'm in sort of a rut. Like this whole tickling thing is not worth it and I've wasted half my life with it. What does that mean in a tickling sense? that I'm not really interested in tickling in the first place if I feel this way.

I'm pretty sure in the coming days I'll start looking at videos clips again and reading stories and such, and thinking tickling is the best thing ever, but I could care less.
Does anybody else have these types of "mood swings"?

Sometimes, actually most of the time, I feel so confused with how I actually feel about this whole tickling thing...

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Yes I'll go through periods of not caring about tickling, no I don't feel like I've "wasted" anything with it. I'm curious about that sentiment, like you've wasted time when you could have been having "normal" sex, or wasted time jerking off in general?

 

[mabus]

Absolutely.

It may be depression.

It may be AGE. It may be it just gets old.

I remember when I was in my late teens, 20's......I was MUCH hornier than I am at 41, trust me!

Also, the "new" factor has worn out, as EVERYTHING was awesome back then because there was so little of it and you had to wait so long.

Now video companies pump out clips ever day.

I had that feeling as I watched Captain America Civil War - "This movie is GREAT.....but Ive gotten used to the awesomeness. If I started with this movie
20 years ago, when the few super hero movies sucked, ...and watched THIS, my mind wouldn't be able to process the information!"

20 years ago, even 10 years ago, if I saw a cute girl in pantyhose (which has gotten rarer and rarer as time went on) my heart was pounding.
Now, I'm like "oh cool, she has nylons on...ehh" but no heart pounding, the "magic" just isn't there anymore.

Is this part of aging, or is it depression?.....the smarter folks can answer that.

Now, you haven't "wasted" your life. I CERTAINLY don't regret the few tickles I've witnessed or did in life and certainly don't regret the earlier joys of weddings or dances and all
the girls walking around in pantyhose feet, trust me!

But boy do I miss those days and feelings.....

 

[milagros317]

While my libido does have its ups and downs, my answer is: No, I have never felt completely disconnected from tickling. Tickling is an integral part of my eroticism.

 

[maniactickler]

Never

 

[duderino84]

Sure, on and off. I used to suffer depression as well. It sounds like a phase. It sounds like (reiterating from before) you've been trying really hard and you're tired. You want to have the energy to tickle when you finally get to do it, right?

Remember when things don't feel normal, it's a phase. Life is a phase of a series of phases. So don't worry. You have this fetish because you are meant to have it. That indicates putting more thought than just putting the hot dog in the bun.

 

[Restraints]

While my libido does have its ups and downs, my answer is: No, I have never felt completely disconnected from tickling. Tickling is an integral part of my eroticism.

I'm approaching 60, and the life-long depression I've suffered has never affected my desire for tickling. In fact, actual tickling has sometimes helped lift me out of mild depressed periods. And while I'm not very social, a couple of TMF friends have helped, too. This has been a very valuable place for me.

 

[piyr]

yeah, I've felt that way. I'm late 40's (very late). I started to notice a dramatic drop in interest about 2 years ago. Coincidentally, about that time, I was seeing a counselor briefly in preparation to address "compatibility issues" with my wife. I wanted to make sure that my desires where healthy before we went forward. Turns out that they were which wasn't a surprise to me but what did surprise me is a comment that the counselor made. She said that I would probably lose my desire for tickling anyway. I thought that there was no way in the world that would ever happen but within about 6 months is started to happen. Now I can't tell you if it was due to my age or something related to my exploration or my ongoing conflict in my relationship but it DID happen. I don't know your situation but one thing I did come across recently that could be related, especially for people that spend a lot of time on the forum and porn sites is the possibility of lower interest due to porn addiction. It's like any other addiction, you stimulate your mind with positive rewards and it wants more and more. The same old same old eventually doesn't trigger the reward the way it used to so you seek more and different. There's only so much out there and it all starts to seem the same. Eventually your body/mind just stops reacting. Anyway, that's all a summary of my my experience for what it's worth.

 

[Wolf]

You have this fetish because you are meant to have it. That indicates putting more thought than just putting the hot dog in the bun.

Wait....What?

 

[duderino84]

Wait....What?

Don't you think someone who's purely vanilla would only focus on penetration?

A fetish is a fixation that suspends gratification, no? Therefore it's additional brain activity assigned to sex.

 

[Wolf]

Don't you think someone who's purely vanilla would only focus on penetration?
A fetish is a fixation that suspends gratification, no? Therefore it's additional brain activity assigned to sex.

Seriously? You really think "vanilla"* sex is just two people with blank stares, bumping uglies?
That tickling someone and then jacking off is somehow more thoughtful?
I think it's great to be unashamed of your fetish; after all, there's nothing wrong with it.
But looking down on "vanilla" sex, just because you can't or won't do it, seems a bit like sour grapes.

* I hate that damn term, anyway. People aren't boring just because they're not into exactly what you're into.

 

[FootballGuy]

Unrelated, but Wolf my man you gotta update that last quote to modern times.

Should be:

"Men are afraid that women will falsely accuse them of abuse/rape. Women are afraid that men will kill them."

 

[Wolf]

Unrelated, but Wolf my man you gotta update that last quote to modern times.
Should be:
"Men are afraid that women will falsely accuse them of abuse/rape. Women are afraid that men will kill them."

Unrelated and inaccurate, in terms of frequency.
Men are more at risk to be victims of sexual assault than to be falsely accused of it. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/12/08/false-rape-accusations_n_6290380.html
If you want to start talking statistics regarding false accusations of rape, I'd be glad to see them in another thread.

 

[duderino84]

Seriously? You really think "vanilla"* sex is just two people with blank stares, bumping uglies?
That tickling someone and then jacking off is somehow more thoughtful?
I think it's great to be unashamed of your fetish; after all, there's nothing wrong with it.
But looking down on "vanilla" sex, just because you can't or won't do it, seems a bit like sour grapes.

* I hate that damn term, anyway. People aren't boring just because they're not into exactly what you're into.

Since it's so meaningful.....enlighten me.

 

[Wolf]

Since it's so meaningful.....enlighten me.

Why would I attempt to enlighten you about something you have declared you have no interest in?

 

[Rectangle]

Seriously? You really think "vanilla"* sex is just two people with blank stares, bumping uglies?
That tickling someone and then jacking off is somehow more thoughtful?

 

[duderino84]

Why would I attempt to enlighten you about something you have declared you have no interest in?

Because if you're going to drop some platitude about how sex is the "physical act of love" you're full of shit. You can show someone your love in numerous ways.

Two, I'm reasonably sure I've specified I've had sex previously and had painful incidents (one of which being dealing with phimosis) several times. Ya, growing up I thought sex was the "end-all" and I got disappointed when it happened. I get more turned on tickling women, should I deny myself that?

3, you're the one bitching about vanilla people meaning "boring" on a tickling forum. The term has been around for years, you're not changing anything, and ya, it does get fucking boring being deprived of your fix and the term fits.

Dogs hump, it's not easy to conclude penetration, the literal vanilla definition of sex is simple, dick simple in fact, and is so because of biological necessity, so whatever emotions you have attached mean next to nothing.

All this said, can I just lend the OP a little support about not having success in his love life?

 

[teamtickleguy]

Returning to the original question... when you mentioned you've possibly wasted half your life with it, do you feel it's been a waste of time in the sense that you haven't achieved a specific goal within the fetish?
ie finding a tickle partner or attending a gathering, or just realising that actually it doesn't give you entire life satisfaction when you find that out that so-and-so celebrity is ticklish, or you have a great tickle roleplay... or whatever....
I suppose you have to look back and evaluate it and put into perspective what you've got out of it - you'd probably find that you've actually had a good innings and value the fact you dipped your toes into it all those years ago.

I have never felt completely disconnected, but yes I have recently been going through periods of diminished passion for tickling - both in my day-to-day real life existence and in the online sense of coming on TMF, looking up clips, chatting, sharing stories etc etc.


Like others here, I have attributed this partly to my phase of life, which is now at a stage where I have other priorities than just seeking out tickling sessions and making new tickle friends.
I suppose I've also accepted that the tickling world isn't going to disappear if I just come and go as I please, rather than feeling I have to constantly immerse myself in it daily and risk losing out in other aspects of life.

I also think I'm having a period of mild depression/loneliness as a result of a life-rut, and if I think of tickling in the sense of it being a huge part of my sexual side, I am not surprised it has waned during this period, as my desire for sex would generally diminish during times when I'm less happy overall.

However, I am not overly concerned as this has only materialised recently as a result of a few things in life happening at once and therefore posing too many questions for any one answer to be the path forward.... however I am optimistic I will deal with things in the right order and come out the other side 🙂

All of that said, my awareness of tickling hasn't waned during this spell... it's still a thought process in my mind...something I value and something I'd happily discuss with people if it arises (like if I received a PM asking for advice/help etc, I would absolutely reply), but when I'm feeling a little low I suppose it's just another interest/hobby - it doesn't kick-in my sexual urges in the same way it would when I'm feeling more upbeat, sexier in myself and less distracted by other issues.

Hope that offers some food for thought 🙂

Cheers
TTG

 

[Wolf]

Because if you're going to drop some platitude about how sex is the "physical act of love" you're full of shit. You can show someone your love in numerous ways.
Two, I'm reasonably sure I've specified I've had sex previously and had painful incidents (one of which being dealing with phimosis) several times. Ya, growing up I thought sex was the "end-all" and I got disappointed when it happened. I get more turned on tickling women, should I deny myself that?
3, you're the one bitching about vanilla people meaning "boring" on a tickling forum. The term has been around for years, you're not changing anything, and ya, it does get fucking boring being deprived of your fix and the term fits.
Dogs hump, it's not easy to conclude penetration, the literal vanilla definition of sex is simple, dick simple in fact, and is so because of biological necessity, so whatever emotions you have attached mean next to nothing.
All this said, can I just lend the OP a little support about not having success in his love life?

I didn't make any of the statements you're refuting; you're kind of acting on stuff you just made up in your own head.
At first, I was going to make a smart-assed response, but I honestly...I don't have the heart anymore.

I will say this; If you have it all figured out, as you seem to think you do, and your system is working so well for you, why are you so bitter?

 

[duderino84]

I didn't make any of the statements you're refuting; you're kind of acting on stuff you just made up in your own head.
At first, I was going to make a smart-assed response, but I honestly...I don't have the heart anymore.

I will say this; If you have it all figured out, as you seem to think you do, and your system is working so well for you, why are you so bitter?

That's kind of funny considering usually you refute the idea that people have coping issues to this fetish.

Bitter? I guess. Let's just say people in my life have met the expectations I've held of them. The difference is I'm not affected because I'm barely even trying anymore.

So, do we want to let OP have his thread back?

 

[WildLaughter]

Returning to the original question... when you mentioned you've possibly wasted half your life with it, do you feel it's been a waste of time in the sense that you haven't achieved a specific goal within the fetish?
ie finding a tickle partner or attending a gathering, or just realising that actually it doesn't give you entire life satisfaction when you find that out that so-and-so celebrity is ticklish, or you have a great tickle roleplay... or whatever....
I suppose you have to look back and evaluate it and put into perspective what you've got out of it - you'd probably find that you've actually had a good innings and value the fact you dipped your toes into it all those years ago.

In a way yes. When you say specific goal within the fetish, it's really any goal. I feel like I haven't achieved anything. I used to PM people back and forth but they were mainly pen-pals. Nothing wrong with that, but why can't I have more. Why can't I take the next step.
I actually have found tickle partners, but they live far far away and money still doesn't grow on trees.
Attending a gathering is tough. The right timing and circumstances must be met.
No, I am not celebrity obsessed either.

I've used this metaphor in my other thread - To me, everything tickling seems to be happening in another universe. I've never met anybody who thinks tickling is fun. Yes I know these facts aren't written on people's foreheads. Come to think of it, I can't remember the last time I even witnessed a person tickle another that wasn't an annoying poke in the sides for half a second. All the videos posted here don't seem real, the models don't seem real, the bondage devices don't seem real.

This is why I think I'm wasting my time. Is it even worth it. My expectations have dropped so low, and while I still try to take baby-steps even then I can't make anything happen - in person.

 

[duderino84]

So are you in Wayne? You mentioned near the city. ...

 

[CapturedDoll]

You're burnt out and highly frustrated.

When you feel yourself going to that place... go find something else to do. Like watch some stand up comedy. Something that makes you actually LAUGH. Its tickling for your brain!

I myself do this when I get down. I can't afford to go to a Gathering yet either. And by being here so much I'm horny a LOT. lol! But I find that if I just go and watch or listen to something funny... I get a nice dose of that high we crave. And I feel a lot better.

Something to remember also is that whether its forums or any type of social media... when we see others engaging in experiences that we want... and can't have... it eventually starts to trigger jealousy. Frustration... even anger. So before you reach this point over and over again... you need to actually seek out other ways to enjoy that high and engage yourself in it fully. Its like methadone for people into Tickling. Stand up, comedies, humor sites, talking to a friend you haven't in a while. Or take a walk and get some fresh air. Even just seeing people around the neighborhood helps... especially if they smile. 😉

Take a step back... maybe a week or two off from here. If you have to masturbate use your imagination. But find other things that make you LAUGH. Come back when you are in a REALLY good mood. Hooefully you'll be seeing things with rose colored glasses again. 🙂 The glasses you are currently wearing are making you question everyones motives. And thats not helping you feel better.

 

[Wolf]

That's kind of funny considering usually you refute the idea that people have coping issues to this fetish.

Again, you're full of shit.
I'd have let the rest slide, but I can't let you just talk smack like that.

 

[duderino84]

Again, you're full of shit.
I'd have let the rest slide, but I can't let you just talk smack like that.

You kidding me? Every thread someone posts in a depressed mood you put up they're making a big deal out of "nothing". If that's bullshit to you. ....check your history. I don't pull this shit out of thin air.