help this girl?

[molly1988]

Hi folks --
I just joined. This is my first post...
I am a 21-year-old girl in college.
I have a problem (as you can tell from the title lol).
Ever since I can remember I have found tickling to be erotic. Ever since I learned to "please myself" (heh dunno what words are allowed on here) I have fantasized about being tied-up and tickled until I'm about to explode...
When someone/something *does* tickle me, I get turned-on right away...something about my wiring.
But I am shy about this and so in everyday life, growing up, I always avoided being tickled

Problem:
I recently got up the nerve to ask somebody I'd been seeing to tie me up and tickle me. He was into it, and we tried it, but I found to my dismay that I wasn't ticklish!! Or hardly at all. I've had *way* more success tickling myself than he had trying to tickle me! I can even use my imagination to conjure-up tickling sensations -- without touching my skin or being touched -- stronger than the ones he caused by actually trying to tickle me...

Needless to say I am frustrated. I want my fantasy to happen. I always believed I was ticklish before I actually tried this. 🙁
Any advice/help?

 

[ViperGTS]

He may just not be a great tickler. Did you try showing him what you did to tickle yourself, and have him try it?

 

[molly1988]

That is a good idea.
When I say I can tickle myself I don't mean that I can make myself crack-up or anything. But it still tickles and "gets me going" so to speak...
I guess the way I tickle myself involves a lighter touch than what he was doing. Also, as a girl, I have longer fingernails. Dunno how much of a difference that makes...

 

[Flatfoot]

One attempt is not enough to conclude a lack of ticklishness, especially when you said you can produce somewhat of a ticklish sensation on your own. There are other factors to consider. First, your partner may not have been doing a very good job. Something else to consider is that you may have been nervous, due to being self-conscious and/or tied up. Next time, try playing without bondage, first, to see if you get better results. It could just be an anxiety thing.

 

[ViperGTS]

Well, a guy (such as myself, only because I tend to let my nails grow a little bit for this reason) can grow out his nails to be just as effective as yours. They don't need to be super long, just long enough to make contact.

It's very tough to find a tickler who can properly use a light, stroking touch. Obviously there's plenty of them here, but normal folks who aren't into this already are more hit-or-miss.

Don't be afraid to just tell him what you like, and to show him - perhaps by demonstrating on him - what you've found works best.

Don't forget, sometimes things like lotion or stockings can make you more ticklish as well.

 

[molly1988]

That is very good advice from both of you. Thanks 🙂
I may very well have been too nervous...also he has, like, no fingernails and as you mentioned he doesn't seem very practiced with a lighter touch...
I will definitely try everything you suggested.
If it doesn't work with him I can try somebody else. We're not exclusive or anything.

 

[MrTicklefeet]

True, depends on the tickler. Some can get me good, some can't. One model had told me she wasn't ticklish on her feet. I had to try of course, and she was plenty ticklish. Asking about this discrepancy, she said, "You've got the touch." I should get a letter of recommendation from her.

 

[BMoreTklr]

True, depends on the tickler. Some can get me good, some can't. One model had told me she wasn't ticklish on her feet. I had to try of course, and she was plenty ticklish. Asking about this discrepancy, she said, "You've got the touch." I should get a letter of recommendation from her.

Nice story lol. Letter of Recommendation haha priceless........but yea, one time alone does not a situation make. He's probably just a sucky tickler and probably isn't doing things anywhere close to the fantasy you've imagined. We'll pray that he gets it together.

 

[DimpleToes]

Try to tickle him so he can see how it is done. Most often Men have a heavy touch and it is no good and or hurts. You can also try using tools, feathers, combs after you put lotion or oil on the skin first.. heck anthing can be used a tickle torture devise. If you find that sweet spot. Maybe you need to have a play date (just play only) with someone from here to see where your spots are. I have some friends I do that with and there is someone in here who at a munch had this effect on me with ghost tickles. He would wiggle his fingers at me from across the room and have me giggling and squirming all over the place..( BAD RAY ) which you know the macho men had to try to take advantage of that and help him out.. so as you can see play dates can be fun between just friends.

 

[molly1988]

yeah maybe i should try to find someone on here, who knows what they're doing...
i dunno how much i want to ask of this particular dude i know. he didn't sign-up for this or anything haha.

 

[maniactickler]

Im available for all your tickling needs.

 

[NCTLKR]

Try this

Molly,
I've had plenty experience Tickling women for years and one thing that I found to make a girl more ticklish is to use a Blindfold,This makes her more sensitive to touch when she can't see whats coming next,Try this with all else the other members have said,I hope all these things work for you so you can enjoy what turns you on so much.
NCTLKR

 

[texastickler]

Well, a guy (such as myself, only because I tend to let my nails grow a little bit for this reason) can grow out his nails to be just as effective as yours. They don't need to be super long, just long enough to make contact.

It's very tough to find a tickler who can properly use a light, stroking touch. Obviously there's plenty of them here, but normal folks who aren't into this already are more hit-or-miss.

Don't be afraid to just tell him what you like, and to show him - perhaps by demonstrating on him - what you've found works best.

Don't forget, sometimes things like lotion or stockings can make you more ticklish as well.

I tend to agree with my good buddy Viper! Experiment a little with your partner and see what works! I do believe if you are ticklish enough you will find what works! Lotions are a good place to start! I never keep my nails to long but if I do it right, I can get a good reaction using my finger tips! I am not often a tickler with hard strokes! Love the gentle stuff! Give yourself time to figure what works best for you!

 

[ChicagoDavid]

Yes, there's nothing better than someone saying she isn't very ticklish, then you get her laughing like crazy, then you say, "I thought you said you weren't ticklish," and she says, "I didn't think I was!"

We need Molly to come to Chicago to prove my point.

 

[MrMacphisto]

Try a blindfold. If you can't anticipate where he's going to touch you, you'll probably be more sensitive.

 

[LD_Tickler]

...Ever since I can remember I have found tickling to be erotic. Ever since I learned to "please myself" (heh dunno what words are allowed on here)...

Others have said what I would regarding your problem, so I'll just clarify that all weird perverse terms and euphemisms are embraced here. 😀

 

[molly1988]

thank you so much everyone for all the wonderful advice! i will be sure to put it all to use 🙂

lol hooray for perverse euphemisms!

i think the blindfold makes a lot of sense. i forgot to mention that this particular guy has been more successful at tickling me, say, before or after sex when i'm not expecting it/it comes out of nowhere. so the blindfold would have the same kind of effect i suppose...

 

[paracarl44]

HELLO MOLLY.

First of all i want to say that you will learn a lot about tickling when you look over the many sections in this forum.


Maybe he should have used a : as he probably was trying to hard to tickle you. Let us know more about your tickling experiences.