How can I get guy friends/casual dates to tickle me?

[coffeegirl]

Thanks <3

 

[Wesker28]

Have you tried squirming away and say careful i'm ticklish, or giggle and say i'm really ticklish; as in pretend that he tickled you?

 

[magic fingers]

Hello everyone!! I'm 21 years old and my name is Blair. I have this guy friend who I've recently gotten to know in the past few months and we're extremely flirty with each other. He's really touchy feely and when we go out there is a ton of sexual tension and he's always trying to kiss me and is touching me in a really flirty and fun way. The feeling is mutual and it's not creepy I assure you, but recently when we're sober we'll curl up on the couch or we'll get into play fights and in an ideal world we'd be getting into tickle fights. I'm extremely ticklish and being tickled is such a turn on for me and I've tried to drop the hint but maybe I'm not doing it obviously enough? I guess what I'm asking is how can I casually work tickling into this relationship without being weird or throwing him off or being too obvious?? Any tips?? Any advice or constructive criticism would be very much appreciated!!!

Thanks <3

As a straight guy, I've had the exact problem w/the ladies. Finding a girl who's into tickling, either giving or receiving is looking for a nonlesbian at Lillithfair.
Try tickling him first hoping he'll retaliate. If that doesn't work just tell him. In general guys seem to be more open to tickling than women are, but we can also be incredibly dense, and subtlety doesn't always work. Most guys will do anything possible to get their GF's in the mood. If he knows tickling starts your engine, he'll probably torture you every chance he gets.

 

[marcusb]

Taunt. Tease. Mention/hint you're ticklish. Put yourself in situations where you could be tickled. Poke him with your toes.

Lucky guy is lucky. 😉

 

[DackJansen]

When you get into play fights, tickle him first! Exposing a weak spot like that and making him laugh will make him want to get you back and regain control of the fight!

 

[helplessandhappy]

If he knows tickling starts your engine, he'll probably torture you every chance he gets.

In my experience (and the experience of many others) this is sadly not true. People are into what they're into--and knowing something turns their partner on isn't necessarily going to make them any more into it. Men have refused to do it to me in the past even despite me very clearly telling them it turns me on. Even if they are willing, a lot of vanilla guys will quickly turn tickling into something else (like touching your breasts or private parts) the second they get you tied up. I'm sure there are exceptions, but finding someone who will REALLY tickle you the way you desire in the vanilla world is an uphill battle.

That's why I eventually just found a boyfriend on here. He is 100000x better at it anyway! 🙂

 

[helplessandhappy]

When you get into play fights, tickle him first! Exposing a weak spot like that and making him laugh will make him want to get you back and regain control of the fight!

Once again, this is just not true in my experience. If anything, I've found that tickling vanilla guys makes them LESS likely to tickle me back. They usually hate it, scream "No!" and then change the subject.

 

[ChicagoDavid]

Tell him, “I dare you to try to get me to say mercy by tickling me. If you succeed, I promise that you’ll like your reward."

 

[piyr]

In my experience (and the experience of many others) this is sadly not true. People are into what they're into--and knowing something turns their partner on isn't necessarily going to make them any more into it. Men have refused to do it to me in the past even despite me very clearly telling them it turns me on. Even if they are willing, a lot of vanilla guys will quickly turn tickling into something else (like touching your breasts or private parts) the second they get you tied up. I'm sure there are exceptions, but finding someone who will REALLY tickle you the way you desire in the vanilla world is an uphill battle.

My experience with women is the same for the most part.

 

[helplessandhappy]

Yeah, I really don't even think it's related to tickling. You could replace tickling with most random fetishes or interests that the person wasn't into, and I think the results would be the same. There will always be those people who are super giving in the bedroom, but most people are generally only interested in stuff that turns them on (myself included, which is why I require someone with a similar sexuality).

If your fetish is say, wearing a maid's uniform while your boyfriend screws you, most guys wouldn't have an issue with that because it doesn't require them doing anything. But when you're wanting someone to tie you up and tickle you for an hour (what a lot of us want--not saying the OP is asking for that), a lot of people just aren't going to be motivated because it doesn't get them going and they therefore aren't getting anything out of it.

 

[moose]

id say tickle them and see if they tickle back

 

[Dialon]

I hate to be a generalizing Gary here, but just tell them you like being tickled and ask them to do so. Even if for some reason in the back of their mind they think it is odd, I bet you anything that they will still oblige. Being blunt as possible has always worked for me, and I am a slightly unattractive guy.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

First off, your profile says your a ler, not a lee. 😛 So you should want to tickle them lol...

But about your actual post, you could tell him... or you could tickle him and see if he wants to get you back...

 

[katukutusursuri]

Or maybe you should invite them for a cyber session in tmf chat-room

 

[milagros317]

Be bold. Tell him that tickling turns you on. Most straight guys will do almost anything when told that it is foreplay. 😀

 

[PiedPiper]

Be bold. Tell him that tickling turns you on. Most straight guys will do almost anything when told that it is foreplay. 😀

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[tickletherapist]

Sadly, I agree with helplessandhappy. Little can be changed if a person isn't into it at all.
The only thing which is possible - if a person never tried tickling before and it turns out that it's fun for him.

Actually, it doesn't even have to be a fetish for him, but just what he likes in some way. What's the difference for you if he tickles anyway?

I knew one girl who once tried to tickle me back and seeing my reaction said: "wow, never thought it's a lot of fun".

 

[P[a]pi]

You could try to tickle him like others have said, but if you do this don't tickle him a lot. I would only do light scratching for a sec or a poke. Some guys are really ticklish and will just become mush if you tickle the crap out of them, and that might embarrass him. Also, don't expect to be tickled back the first time. Just keep doing a scratch here a poke there until he tickles you back. If he tells you to stop say, "you gotta make me" or "maybe I need a taste of my own medicine."

And sadly if he's really dense and nothing works just say, "I really like to laugh, so I like to be tickled." If he just won't do it after you say you like it then.. weell.. yeeaah..

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

Most guys will do anything possible to get their GF's in the mood. If he knows tickling starts your engine, he'll probably torture you every chance he gets.

When you get into play fights, tickle him first! Exposing a weak spot like that and making him laugh will make him want to get you back and regain control of the fight!

Be bold. Tell him that tickling turns you on. Most straight guys will do almost anything when told that it is foreplay. 😀

I'd say these are the three best answers, and are guaranteed to work most of the time.

Here's another strategy that has served me well over the years. Ask him to scratch your back very lightly. That in itself will feel great if he's not too clumsy. Then, as he's scratching, ask him to go more toward the sides. If you're as ticklish as I am, this will start to make you squirm and laugh. If he stops apologetically, tell him, "No, please. Keep going. It feels great. I actually like being tickled this way.

You see, because tickling is so disliked by the world at large, there are many who can't believe anybody could like it, even if you tell them you do. In this way, they get to see first hand (pun definitely intended) that you actually do enjoy being tickled.

 

[SlaverTickler]

Try asking. I'll never understand why some people can't just be straight forward about stuff.

 

[magic fingers]

Try asking. I'll never understand why some people can't just be straight forward about stuff.

Because in the Vanilla world(in other words 80-85% of the population) we're considered weird, and tickling is thought of as torture, not fun. Plus nobody especially a young person likes being rejected by someone they care about.

 

[TicklingTips]

This.

 

[SlaverTickler]

Because in the Vanilla world(in other words 80-85% of the population) we're considered weird, and tickling is thought of as torture, not fun. Plus nobody especially a young person likes being rejected by someone they care about.

There is no such thing as vanilla, just people who don't know/or realize what their kink is. I don't see any body turning down a request to be tickled, especially from a girl to a guy.

 

[greger]

I agree with all of those who suggest that you should just tell him. He'll most likely think nothing of it other than cute. Tickling is really such an innocent activity. Even if he's not into it he'll probably tickle you now and then since he knows it turns you on. And which guy wouldn't like to turn his girl on?

 

[helplessandhappy]

There is no such thing as vanilla, just people who don't know/or realize what their kink is. I don't see any body turning down a request to be tickled, especially from a girl to a guy.

For the sake of this convo, let's take "vanilla" to mean "not into tickling."

It's difficult to see these posts that are like "just ask!" when myself and others (in past threads) have expressed how this didn't work. People in this thread/website are not a fair judge of this because they do like tickling. If you haven't been a female trying to get tickled by a vanilla guy, you don't know how hard it can be. A lot of men seem to think women can just request and get whatever they want sexually, and it's really not true. Hatred for tickling can be strong in our world, and when someone hates or is turned off by something, they aren't usually willing to do it, even if it does turn their partner on.

Of course someone hating tickling means they aren't the best partner for someone on here. I'm just saying, you can discover this about someone you already like, and it can be quite a disappointment. My roommate and her ex just had a fight and broke up over tickling the other day. She wanted to try it and it's something he absolutely, 100 percent won't budge on.