how can I get my bf to tickle me more?

[JJette]

so im 20, my bf is 25. idk if i have a legit fetish but i really like being tickled and wish hed tickle me more. he doesnt tickle me that much; he'll occasionally graze his fingers over my pits for a second to make me jump but thats about it. problem is, i dont want to flat out ask him to tickle me because we haven't been dating that long (couple months) and I dont want him to get weirded out since he's not particularly kinky (plus, i kind of dont want to give up the illusion that its torture lol). do you guys have any advice as to how i could get him to tickle me more or hint at it?

also...i love the idea of him tying me up and tickling me but i think that might be a little much for now lol

thanks!
ps very new here obviously

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Tell him how hot it will get you.

Then promise him a handjob.

 

[rhiannon]

Honey, here's the problen with men: They don't get hints! Tell him flat out you enjoy it or he'll never get it.

 

[Mane'o]

lots of options. when he does tickle you, give back to him in amorous ways that he likes and tells him you are turned on; suggest he tie you down and when you are bound mention in a sexy whisper that you hope he doesn't tickle you (before doing any bondage make sure there is a significant level of trust between the two of you and that you have agreed on a safe word); tease (or tickle him) to provoke him tickling you back; ask for a massage and let your natural squirms and giggles tell him how ticklish you are; of course at some point you might just tell him how much you love being tickled.

 

[-Hari-]

Honey, here's the problen with men: They don't get hints! Tell him flat out you enjoy it or he'll never get it.

As I guy (I hope) I can clarify this.

I second this suggestion, he's 25 and has himself a nice younger girl, he's not gonna think its weird, and he won't get a hint, just tell him, if he's anything like the average guy he will be very pleased he can please you in such a simple way.

 

[Carnivore318]

So... you want him to still think its torturous to be tickled, but get him to do it to you more? That's not going to work out. The easiest thing to do is once he tickles you, tell him how ticklish you are. "That tickles!" or "I'm really ticklish!" It might not hurt to stretch out a lot, putting bare underarms or some bare midriff in a vulnerable position for him to take advantage of.

But really, you should just admit that you like being tickled. You don't have to say it's sexual, but flirty or affectionate. You like to be touched, and tickling is fun. Then he'll do it more, because your boyfriend wants you to be happy, and if it is arousing, it's awesome to know a surefire, playful way to turn his girlfriend on. What's not to like about that?

 

[paracarl44]

HI JJETTE.


You have come to the right place to learn all about, however I don't think that you should mention about this forum to your boyfriend just yet.

My advice is to tickle him, and surely he should respond.

 

[giggle-maker]

Yup...what everyone else said...

Keep in mind, you aren't asking him to take a shit in your mouth. If this language seems extreme...well...that's my goal: to get you to understand that it is just tickling!

If you explain it in a confident and casual way (a ton of "tickle-shy" TMF members here would be suprised at how the combination of these two elements just flat out WORKS) he will most likely just tickle you! If you reward his tickling appropriately, then he will (like a dog getting a treat for sitting up-rolling over-shaking...you get the idea) tickle you a lot more!

 

[milagros317]

Honey, here's the problen with men: They don't get hints! Tell him flat out you enjoy it or he'll never get it.

I agree. We don't read minds or understand hints.

Tell him that it gets you all excited. As a fictional character played by Susan Sarandon once said:

"Men will do anything if they think that it's foreplay."

 

[TickleMyFancy]

I swear to you- if he's any kind of a normal guy, he will be perfectly fine tickling you if he knows you like it 🙂 it's when you try to tickle them, I've noticed they get more wary 😛

 

[maniactickler]

Get it all out in the open now, before you have too much invested in the relationship. he just might not be the one.

 

[giggle-maker]

I swear to you- if he's any kind of a normal guy, he will be perfectly fine tickling you if he knows you like it 🙂 it's when you try to tickle them, I've noticed they get more wary 😛

Yea Fancy! Try that with me and see where that gets ya!

(I can be creepy if I want...I'm in GA and you're in Cali lol)

 

[LD_Tickler]

As I guy (I hope) I can clarify this.

I second this suggestion, he's 25 and has himself a nice younger girl, he's not gonna think its weird, and he won't get a hint, just tell him, if he's anything like the average guy he will be very pleased he can please you in such a simple way.

Absolutely true. I've had some girls I hadn't been dating long tell me about kinks they had, and it was always great to know an easy way to turn her on, even when I wasn't particularly into the kink myself.

 

[Coda]

In my experience, people either cherish or avoid a certain generic sexual curiosity. It doesn't matter whether he's "into tickling" or not…*what matters is whether he's interested in being particularly kind to someone he's apparently trying to be especially good friends with. It's always a little hard to see that somebody is more comfortable talking about their tickling interest with strangers on the web, than with their own significant other.

A second, and simpler way to get your boyfriend to tickle you, is to make somebody your boyfriend who is clearly interested in tickling you beforehand. ^_^ Now that you're on the Forum, I imagine choosing one should be a greater challenge than finding one.

 

[MrTicklefeet]

Being open and telling him youd like to be tickled is always the best way. Finding an alternative to the direct approach almost never works. Thing to is he may just not be into it. With me, you'd just have to bare the midriff and feet and I'll be there. Why my ex would never bare her midriff once I came out. Hence why she's an ex now. :-(

 

[robmic]

All I've got to say is....Where were all you fine ladies when I was your age?????? 🙁

 

[mabus]

Welcome JJette! Hopefully you stay on, make friends, discuss, argue, or not, etc.

This place will help you feel totally normal getting tickled and tickling, so dive on in!

Yeah, just ask him to tickle you.

It's a huge help if you find out what HIS fetishes/turn-ons are, even if he doesn't know or is slow to admit.

It changes everything, trust me - if he has a pantyhose fetish, for example (or high heels, bikini, short skirt, blue jeans, nighty, cowgirl hat, etc.),.....ask him while wearing normal clothes...ehhh, he may be hesitant....
Ask him wearing a nice thin pair of stockings, nice outfit, shoes off, foot touching his bare skin.....he'd immediately agree to almost anything sexual.
He may be hesitant to change his religion or sell the house...but he'd think about it.

Tickling? Fuck YES!

 

[Tickleron]

All of the above! If he knows you like it he's bound to tickle you more. Alternatively, tickle him he's bound to retaliate and when he sees how crazy you get I think he'll do it more.

 

[3xPIN]

A few months! I think you are in the clear. But, if you need hints, I can think of a few.

One is to be scantily clad. Not risque necessarily, just showing of your spots. Specifically, going around barefoot.

Ask for foot rubs. Squirm more than is it tickles. If he asks what is wrong, just say it tickles and if he asks if he should stop, say no. And make the 'no' sound devilish and enticing. Maybe even drop him a wink. This may only seduce him.

Also, being a brat can get you a good tickling. Especially if he thinks you don't want it. Tease him and if he threatens to tickle you, a good, "Don't you dare!" will get him right after you. My last gf wasn't into tickling, but once she gave me a hickey and said, "There, explain that one to [my friend's names]." Well, my tickling fetish went out the window and I tickled her for 2 minutes straight for embarrassing me.

Making cute noises could entice him if he finds them amusing. So if you can get him to want to hear you squeak or something that could help.

Honey, here's the problen with men: They don't get hints! Tell him flat out you enjoy it or he'll never get it.

Nice way of saying we aren't mind-readers. But she has a point. Hints will help; hints won't solve the problem. If you want him to do it, you have to say something. Oh, and you ladies aren't great with hints either. But when we tell you something we are 'jerks'!

On a personal note, I usually tell the person I am romantic with about how I like tickling in the first couple days. And that is only if they don't know already. The reason I do is because I want people to know. I think you should tell him. If not, fine. But I am being sincere.

 

[rhiannon]

Nice way of saying we aren't mind-readers.

LOL...just let me put it this way:

Men hear women say something and think we mean exactly what we say. But we don't!
Women hear men say something and start interpreting what they could have meant...but they meant exactly what they said! 🙂

 

[kcantankerous]

Hello JJette,

Just tell him, every guy will do what it takes to make their girl happy especially if they think it will lead to sex.

Thanks,
K

 

[maniactickler]

Another option for you........cash talks!

 

[TickleMyFancy]

Another option for you........cash talks!

:O I would HOPE she doesn't have to pay her boyfriend for him to be playful with her.
That's just.... :O

 

[JJette]

:O I would HOPE she doesn't have to pay her boyfriend for him to be playful with her.
That's just.... :O

LOL I'd hope not either!
thanks for the advice guys! i think i might just tell him i like it next time he does it. idk if im gonna frame it in a sexual way because im not exclusively into it sex-wise and i dont want him to think every time we have sex he has to tickle me haha
seein him tomorrow...we'll see what happens

 

[sealdan]

LOL...just let me put it this way:

Men hear women say something and think we mean exactly what we say. But we don't!
Women hear men say something and start interpreting what they could have meant...but they meant exactly what they said! 🙂

I LOVE this, and SOOO resonate with it 🙂