This is primarily for the foot tickling fetishists, but it could apply to anyone with a serious sexual fetish. At some point while growing up we all realized that we were not turned on by what turns most of the other guys on. I became apprehensive as I approached adolescence, because I knew that at some point I would be expected to have sex with a girl, but, egad!! I am only turned on by girls' feet. This thought made me panicky. This was back in the days when few even knew what a sexual fetish was. I sure didn't. All that I knew is that tickling sexy feet turned me on and the thought of normal sex did nothing for me. i felt that I needed to try to do something to change this situation. When I was around 13 or so, I began masturbating while trying to imagine having sex with a girl, but nothing turned me on but fantasizing about tickling feet. As it turned out, I am completely hetero so just making out with a girl gave me an erection and to my great relief I was able to have sex, but my real erotic thoughts were always centered on the girl's feet. How did some of you navigate through these tricky waters when you were coming of age with a serious foot tickling fetish, and were uncertain as to whether or not you could perform sexually with a girl?
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How Did You Navigate The Waters In A Straight World?
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I have to guess I was fortunate in some ways.
I got an entirely too early and comprehensive sexual education from my parents and it was complete enough that I recognized that I had a paraphilia when it arose. As a result my paraphilia never replaced normal arousal cues for me, but simply became something that did it in addition (and a bit better) so my sex life became one of variety. I could go for the tickling stuff, or I could have a serving of regular. Both were satisfying.
Your situation is very much one of how a paraphilia become a fetish, which is a true problem.
You learned a lesson, your body still responded to normal stuff. Which means you still possessed the arousal cues for normal sex to work. The trick is to nurture the aspects of your non fetish tastes that you enjoy sexually. Note them, pay attention to them. Like to be kissed a certain way? Get it. Want certain positions, tell your partners you favor them. and so forth. Then layer your tickling and feet likes on top of that.
Myriads
I got an entirely too early and comprehensive sexual education from my parents and it was complete enough that I recognized that I had a paraphilia when it arose. As a result my paraphilia never replaced normal arousal cues for me, but simply became something that did it in addition (and a bit better) so my sex life became one of variety. I could go for the tickling stuff, or I could have a serving of regular. Both were satisfying.
Your situation is very much one of how a paraphilia become a fetish, which is a true problem.
You learned a lesson, your body still responded to normal stuff. Which means you still possessed the arousal cues for normal sex to work. The trick is to nurture the aspects of your non fetish tastes that you enjoy sexually. Note them, pay attention to them. Like to be kissed a certain way? Get it. Want certain positions, tell your partners you favor them. and so forth. Then layer your tickling and feet likes on top of that.
Myriads
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I have found that if one cultivates one's understanding of the complexity that is feminine sexuality and romance, as well as broaden your own sexuality and romantic heart; that the 'vanillas' are more open to being introduced and/or indoctrinated to ones kinks then they are given credit for. I am very pleased to have made more than my share of converts. But don't feel too bad for the 'corruption of innocents' as the open secret is, they are not so innocent.
