How do you feel/react when you catch people checking you out?

[Flatfoot]

This question is for anyone, man or woman. Are you flattered? Appalled? Embarrassed? Disgusted? Intrigued? I'm gonna chance a guess and say women are more accustomed to this than men are. 😛

 

[chicago]

Annoyed / Disgusted if it's someone I'm not familiar with.

 

[voided9]

If they're not being rude whatsoever, I take it as a compliment and usually just smile. With people that I feel might do or say something, sometimes I just move my hand around so that my wedding ring is clearly visible. It doesn't offend me though, and I enjoy checking out men and women alike - sometimes Zac and I do it while we're sitting somewhere in public, just enjoying watching the people go by and talking about what we found attractive on them =P

 

[Bothersome]

Woah, that's new.

 

[Cosmo_ac]

If they're not being rude whatsoever, I take it as a compliment and usually just smile. With people that I feel might do or say something, sometimes I just move my hand around so that my wedding ring is clearly visible. It doesn't offend me though, and I enjoy checking out men and women alike - sometimes Zac and I do it while we're sitting somewhere in public, just enjoying watching the people go by and talking about what we found attractive on them =P

Zac is a lucky man.

 

[anderson1129]

Don't recall ever catching anyone in the act. Think woman are more tactful than men. If I did though I wouldn't be offended. It would be flattering I think.

 

[voided9]

Don't recall ever catching anyone in the act. Think woman are more tactful than men. If I did though I wouldn't be offended. It would be flattering I think.

Ooooh. Another point I didn't think to make. When I walk around with my best female friend, she knows that I like to make people feel good because a compliment could totally change someone's day. So if I see someone who I think is cute, I'll smile at him, and when we walk by I'll say to her, "Oh he's cute!" so he can hear. I've seen big smiles from that and it makes me happy. Zac knows I do that and he's fine with it - he actually likes that I make people feel good. I don't go up to people and flirt though.

 

[Thatsecretchord]

I like it! It's flattering as long as its not over the top but the odd cheeky smile is always nice. Drunk gropey girls can get boring quick mind you...

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

Never caught anyone checking me out but of course it would make me feel good.

 

[Flatfoot]

Annoyed / Disgusted if it's someone I'm not familiar with.

Okay. Just out of curiosity, and I'm not judging you one way or the other, if you're never gonna see these people again, what specifically irritates you about it?

Ooooh. Another point I didn't think to make. When I walk around with my best female friend, she knows that I like to make people feel good because a compliment could totally change someone's day. So if I see someone who I think is cute, I'll smile at him, and when we walk by I'll say to her, "Oh he's cute!" so he can hear. I've seen big smiles from that and it makes me happy. Zac knows I do that and he's fine with it - he actually likes that I make people feel good. I don't go up to people and flirt though.

This is how I feel. I've had this happen to me, and it does make my day. If I make eye contact with someone, I generally make it a point to smile, sincerely. If I verbally express a woman's attractiveness, I do it under my breath, though, because as a guy, I think I have to be more cautious. I may be wrong in this regard, but I never know how someone will react. I'd rather be safe than sorry--not to mention I don't wanna send the wrong signals, since I'm married.

I like it! It's flattering as long as its not over the top but the odd cheeky smile is always nice. Drunk gropey girls can get boring quick mind you...

Yeah, I don't particularly care for drunk people hitting on me. Interactions with drunk people make me uncomfortable. You never know how in their right mind someone is.

 

[ji minycricket]

It's really a matter of context. Working at a bar I deal with a good amount of people on a regular basis, then you add alcohol to the mix and things can get weird. Typically I'm flattered if I see a girl checking me out, not in a gawking way, but you know the classic smirk and giggle type. Even if I catch a guy looking or they dish out a compliment I'm still flattered, as a straight dude. It's really how you go about it in my opinion and I usually prefer a little subtlety, but as long as you're not obnoxious about it I'll take it in stride and perhaps even be a little flattered.

 

[chicago]

Okay. Just out of curiosity, and I'm not judging you one way or the other, if you're never gonna see these people again, what specifically irritates you about it?

Living in Chicago, taking public transportation, as a female, if a dude is checking you out, he's not looking at your eyes, your hair, your smile. He's not admiring you as a beautiful thing, he's taking a mental image to fap to later. At least, by the way most guys look at you, that's the way it feels. You get your creeps, your froddeurists. I have even had a guy whip out his dick on the train and start jacking off right there at 11am on a Monday morning. Definitely didn't take that as a compliment.

Whether I'll see them again or not, still kinda grosses me out.

Although, I may have interpreted the OP wrong. Based on prior experiences, I took "checking out" to mean "leering", but upon further thought, there is a difference and I think as long as a guy wasn't being a creep about it, I might not be bothered.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

Living in Chicago, taking public transportation, as a female, if a dude is checking you out, he's not looking at your eyes, your hair, your smile. He's not admiring you as a beautiful thing, he's taking a mental image to fap to later. At least, by the way most guys look at you, that's the way it feels. You get your creeps, your froddeurists. I have even had a guy whip out his dick on the train and start jacking off right there at 11am on a Monday morning. Definitely didn't take that as a compliment.

Whether I'll see them again or not, still kinda grosses me out.

Although, I may have interpreted the OP wrong. Based on prior experiences, I took "checking out" to mean "leering", but upon further thought, there is a difference and I think as long as a guy wasn't being a creep about it, I might not be bothered.

I noticed that females that are used to guys looking at them won't be grossed out if the guy is hot.

 

[chicago]

I noticed that females that are used to guys looking at them won't be grossed out if the guy is hot.

A douche is still a douche even if they are attractive. At least in my mind. Sometimes, attractive dudes are even more douchey because they know they're good looking and that has probably allowed them to get away with lots of things. Though, that isn't really the point of this thread.

 

[Flatfoot]

Living in Chicago, taking public transportation, as a female, if a dude is checking you out, he's not looking at your eyes, your hair, your smile. He's not admiring you as a beautiful thing, he's taking a mental image to fap to later. At least, by the way most guys look at you, that's the way it feels. You get your creeps, your froddeurists. I have even had a guy whip out his dick on the train and start jacking off right there at 11am on a Monday morning. Definitely didn't take that as a compliment.

Whether I'll see them again or not, still kinda grosses me out.

Although, I may have interpreted the OP wrong. Based on prior experiences, I took "checking out" to mean "leering", but upon further thought, there is a difference and I think as long as a guy wasn't being a creep about it, I might not be bothered.

Ahh, yes. I completely understand feeling that way in that scenario. Nothing like a good old, mass-transit sex-offender! Also, in an urban environment, I know that guys are not typically thinking, "Wow, she's really pretty!" They're thinking more along the lines of, "Dat ass!" Thinking about the city is specifically why I broached this topic. I'm in the city a lot, and I usually see a lot of beautiful women when I work. My coworkers do not typically hide when they're looking. I'm not saying I DON'T look, but I try not to appear like I'm staring, like a hungry zombie. I steal glances. It just seems more tactful.

 

[GQguy]

I love it! Usually I react by giving eye contact or a smile. When it's a guy checking me out its a lot more awkward though. I usually look away.

 

[Jagermeistered]

Its a lovely gesture, and a respectful follow-up would be nice; but, that is it. Life goes on... Unless, your both single and start flirting, of course. 🙂

 

[Jagermeistered]

I love it! Usually I react by giving eye contact or a smile. When it's a guy checking me out its a lot more awkward though. I usually look away.

You would be playing hard to get at that point. Just shake your head from side-to-side.

 

[c7_assassin]

I'm terrible at knowing when I being checked out. My female friends generally have to tell me when these things are happening.

*sigh* This is why I'm still single... *sniff*

 

[maniactickler]

If a good looking woman checks me out, im flattered. if an unattractive woman checks me out, i get nauseous.

 

[CD216]

I am now, have always been, and realistically shall continue to be, incredibly oblivious to being checked out. I'm guessing its due to my critically low self esteem and poor self image. So uh... Yeah. Yay for that stuff! Though I'd be flattered if it happened.

 

[Jagermeistered]

I'm terrible at knowing when I being checked out. My female friends generally have to tell me when these things are happening.

*sigh* This is why I'm still single... *sniff*

No wonder why they probably get laid more then you. 😛

 

[Mitchell]

What Mairead mentioned sounds gross. As whacked as people on this forum think I am, I've never done that, nor have I ever asked a strange girl to stand barefoot on a ladder for me lol.

As to my answer to Flat's original question: Maybe I'm oblivious, but I dont recall it happening too much. When it has, sometimes I just kind of smile, and then quickly look at the girl, and then away, so it doesnt look like I'm staring. I can look "interested", but dont want to be too focused, or the person might be like "WTF, why are you staring at me".

 

[C.A.B.]

I admonish myself for not cinching their blinders on firmly enough.

 

[chrisheaven]

This happens to me regularly