How do your boyfriends/girlfriends feel about your tickle fetish?

[TomTickle]

Hi Guys its Tom. Its my first time posting, though I have been poking around the boards for months.

I just wondered who of you all have boyfriends or girlfriends and if they are accepting of your love of tickling? I have a girlfriend of almost 4 months and she lets me tickle her, but I dont think she knows just how much I love it.

Before I met her, I had just started to dabble in making some very amature tickle videos but all that is on hold since we started dating. It is something Im very interested in persuing and possibly starting my own clips page to make some money. Have any of you guys had experience with balancing a partner and making videos?

 

[Texas_Tickle]

Hi Guys its Tom. Its my first time posting, though I have been poking around the boards for months.

I just wondered who of you all have boyfriends or girlfriends and if they are accepting of your love of tickling? I have a girlfriend of almost 4 months and she lets me tickle her, but I dont think she knows just how much I love it.

Before I met her, I had just started to dabble in making some very amature tickle videos but all that is on hold since we started dating. It is something Im very interested in persuing and possibly starting my own clips page to make some money. Have any of you guys had experience with balancing a partner and making videos?

My advice is to be upfront with her. If you try to hide it from her and she finds out later, she'll just get pissed.

Who knows, maybe she'll let you video her.

 

[Cavum]

If you want to live out your life containing the stuff you like, you have to be open and honest to the people dating. Even that the "sex life" ain't everything in a relationship, it's still very important. Belive me...your gonna feel like shit if you can't live out your fantasies because you don't want to open up for the girl you date.

My tip to you.
Open up about it BEFORE you start dating someone.
Then you also get to know right away if it's any reason to go on.

 

[NG02]

I agree with letting her know what gets you going, but unlike the two guys ahead of me, I would say tell her when your good and ready. Some of us on this forum are more outgoing and upfront than others, so its easy to tell somone whos not used to doing what we can do. Id say kinda leave hints or find a way to ease into the subject maybe. Alot of times what will happens is due to the tje attraction level that two ppl have with each other they will just outright except what your into. And if it helps man think of it like this when your about to tell her.....its just tickling you know? its not that bad. Good luck dude.

 

[TomTickle]

thanks guys for your support.
I am not ashamed of what I like and want to be with someone who is open about it. I just have talked to a few of my female friends who said that they would consider it cheating if their man was tickling other people on the side for videos.

 

[ticklebunny 2]

Yeah Tom Tickle, there is no shame in it, tickling is not a crime and being passionate and adoring and loving tickling, nothing wrong with it. Yeah just do your best like mentioned to just say subtle hints and clues on things you like and don't like whether that be inside the bedroom or outside the bedroom-pertaining on what you love about tickling-and other sexual aspects besides tickling in the bedroom and other likes outside the bedroom. That way it gives you a really clear idea if you got that special compatibility sexually and if the fireworks might be there or not physically, along with having emot connection.

I know it is not easy but really it is the best thing you can do; gently but slowly drop hints and clues on why you love tickling and mentioning a few tickle scenario fantasies when you feel more emot comfortable to share them and when you can tell she might be ok and comfortable hearing them. Just stick to your gut and listen to your heart. Just keep your logic and keep your heart and follow your heart and seize what you want and what will make you happy and you can not go wrong. PS. stay away from the term fetish it has a really bad conotation, try passion, or love for tickling, not use the word fetish. Hope this has helped. when first starting slowly test the waters, be general bit specific but only necessary details outlined in description, no need to get graphic or too bold and scare her before ever gets started is my advice to you. be casual and calm and natural, do your best to not make it a big production....that really helps.

 

[BellybTickler]

Every gf I've had has absolutely loved the fact I was into tickling. Call it luck or something, but they found taking advantage of my ticklishness a favorite pastime. Essentially, be upfront 🙂, honesty is the best policy.

 

[Ticklish9's]

Let her know as soon as you're ready - but not a day before.

One thing to remember is that it's not really at all weird! We are so accustomed to thinking that it's weird that we sometimes forget that most people like tickling their significant others, just not always to quite the same extent that we do.

I've opened up about it to my current girlfriend and she absolutely loves that she gets to beat up on me with tickles whenever she feels like it and I won't even try to stop her. Some of my previous girlfriends have figured things out after a while and not a single one has EVER had anything bad to say about it.


One good indicator - if you're dating someone who is tolerant of others, they're very likely to be tolerant of you as well; compare this to someone who tends to be fairly critical or judgemental of others, and they're more likely to be critical of you. That's just common sense.

Another warning sign - if you find someone is prejudiced, you'll often find that they're already predisposed to thinking anything different from them is bad, and that could easily include tickling fetishes.


Good advice from all the others as well - when you DO tell her, avoid the word fetish and instead just let her know that you REALLY enjoy tickling. Most of the girls I've dated have been gratified to know that because it gives them a greater connection with you.

And be sure to ask if there's anything SHE likes, too! It's only fair - and she may have been hiding something from you for the same reason all this time.

 

[tkpolo]

I'm currently single at the moment but past experience has shown me that honesty definately is the best method!

 

[chicago]

My boyfriends have always been pretty cool with it.

My current boyfriend always tickles me. It's usually pretty playful and we'll play games like during one of the Olympic womens' volleyball games with US playing China, if the US won, we would make out for a bit, but if China won, I'd get tickled.

Another one is he'll pin my arms out to either side of me by my wrists, count to three, and then we see who's reflexes are faster. If I can bring my arms down before he manages to wriggle a finger underneath one, I win.

I don't win very often.

 

[E-Dawg]

She doesn't like it.......

My girlfriend hates having her feet tickled. But she knows that I love to do it. If I tickle her feet, she says "don't tickle me under my foot". Sometimes she will play along if she's in a really good mood.

 

[tygoneagain15]

My Girlfriend doesn't know...yet.

But I think she will accept it, if not go into it with me. I've known her for about 9 years, and she still surprises me. So, I hope for the best.

My advice is to be up front about it. Honesty is not the best policy, its the only policy that works in the long run. If your boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't have the same interests as you, it's conflict waiting to happen....

And, on a personal note, don't do videos while dating. It just doesn't seem right (for me) to have that kind of contact with other people besides a boyfriend/girlfriend.

 

[DownUnder]

Hey Tom,

I agree with the overall sentiment that honesty is the best policy; but YOU'VE gotta be ready. There's no point forcing yourself to be honest. Yes, telling her might push you out of your comfort zone somewhat; but just like the gym, it should just strain you a bit, it shouldn't hurt 🙂

I'm very thankful that my fiancee is cool with it. She's not out-there enough to sign up for the TMF anytime soon (but then again, I haven't asked); but she's got no issues. We've integrated it into our intimate life very well 😀

 

[thx10050]

Hey, Tom. I also just started posting again after a long absence, though I never really posted much to begin with. 😉

As for my fiancee, when we first started dating in freshman year of college, I was very up front with her after only about one to two weeks of being together. Our mutual friends at the time had a thing for getting into tickle fights as often as possible and I'd be lying if I said I didn't enjoy those times. 😉

At any rate, she was very receptive and open minded about it, and also appreciated my honesty up front, but I don't think she truly realized at first how 'into' tickling I was (and still am of course 🙂 ). But within that year, through some discussions and conversations, she understood how important tickling is both to me and in our relationship, and (now seven years later) has become a real tickle-fiend with me quite easily. 😉

So I agree with what DownUnder and everyone else has said: just be honest and forthcoming, and see what happens. As 750 said, if you try and hide it and it comes out unexpectedly later on somehow, that could cause some issues.

 

[Lea28]

My bf loves it...

...and I tolerate (love) his foot fetish, which thank goodness includes tickling my feet. What's kinda new for me is that he likes / needs his feet tickled too, so I am increasing switch.

His feet are his HOT spot but i still love to tickle his sides and tummy... especially romantically 😉

Lea

 

[BlackestLily]

I've always been upfront from the get go in the past. Perhaps I have it easier because I'm female...I suppose I'll never know.

My boyfriend shares (it seems) all of my fetishes. How nifty, yes? 🙂

You know her well, approach it how you think it will work best for you.

 

[ticklebunny 2]

I am fortunate that I have a husband that greatly shares and loves the passion of tickling. He is a fellow member here on TMF his name is ticklebear2 and we both live and love to tickle each other-we have a total blast tickling each other-he loves to tickle me and I love to tickle him!! So my husband loves that I have a passion for tickling and he greatly takes joy in it and shares passion of tickling along side me...

 

[romefalls86]

Well my fiance found out about my fetish when we were dating and now she is one of "us" too...She is actually curious about how to be in a video

 

[SirDigbyChickenCaesar]

If you are strictly a ler, you are definitely at the mercy of you girlfriend as to whether or not she will be into tickling, but if you are willing to lee I find that more often than not a girl/woman thinks it is fun to tickle a guy. That's always a good starting place, if nothing else. Hopefully all goes well for you. 🙂

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

A couple of exes in the past... kind of look at me weirdly but that never stopped me from tickling them silly but two of my most recent knew about it and were okay with it as a matter of fact they loved being tickled. One I met here and the other around where I live.

 

[shooter]

Considering that I met her on this forum..she's cool with it.