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How Jealous Are You?
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Mephistopheles
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I'm not jealous at all. Because I trust her and because I believe she will not meet any man that suits her needs better than I do.
She has a bit more problems with me sometimes because of my past, but nothing serious.
She has a bit more problems with me sometimes because of my past, but nothing serious.
Skipadeedoodah
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How did I get involved in this?? I kind of think Adam would tire me out WAAAAAAAAY before I tired him out LOL
BellaRisa
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True...but if you feel the need to be protective of it, was it ever fully yours...? ( Keep in mind I ponder this one myself
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True...but if you feel the need to be protective of it, was it ever fully yours...? ( Keep in mind I ponder this one myself
Yes. 🙂
A large example: My son. Mine. My son. No one else's. Mine.
Tiger.Lily
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Lolololol. Win.
Ya crack me up, kiddo. Yer the kid I should've spawned. 😉 Delicate petite flower, you are.
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What about the father of your son? Your son wouldn't exist without a father.
Shouldn't you think of your son as an individual person, instead of property?
Tiger.Lily
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I'll let Jo comment for herself if she wishes about the father of her son...
But property? That's an *unkind* thing to say. She's certainly not viewing him as property. You can't liken a relationship with a person to owning a book. Surely you can't be so thickheaded as to not see what she means.
Another example for you who is so clearly at a loss: I'm an only child. So my mother is MY mother. She's not anyone else's mother. My relationship with her is one unlike any other relationship she has with anyone else.
So stop acting like a *meanie* and think before you open your mouth.
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Skipadeedoodah
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I understand feeling "ownership" of your own child, and the uniqueness of the relationship you have with him (and similarly that of a relationship with a parent like Gin mentioned) but does that same feeling translate to a romantic relationship, and if so, how?
Technically he's Your boyfriend or husband and no one else's, and the relationship is unique to anything he has with anyone else at the time, and you have the right to want to protect that relationship. But how do you determine what is a threat and what isn't? How do you determine which females are acceptable in his life and which aren't?
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That's a really excellent question.
I think there are certain unspoken boundaries that you just don't cross when someone has a S.O. And then, of course, there's that woman's intuition stuff. Don't knock it. It's tried and true, son.
Actually, she needs only sperm to achieve impregnation, and the physical stamina to survive it. Both are abundant at her age. 🙂
Also, to be helpful, it's VERY common on this continent and several others for a mother to feel her child is HERS, wholly, for a long time. Indeed, such sentiment lasts a lifetime for many, and not without difficulties in adult years. Even television covers this, seasonally.
You're derailing this post, which is about one's feelings of jealousy.
Please stay on topic, all.
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Hang on just one sec while I take my turn to back up.
My son wouldn't exist without the sperm. Then again, after the sperm the father isn't needed if you'd like it put blatantly.
The man does not carry, feed or support the child while it's in the womb.
Until you have spent half a night laying in different positions while a 9 and a half pound child is trying to come out of your body, pushing carefully as to not be split in half as well as to not shit all over the doctor. Receiving an epidural and having to remain still as contraction after contraction rack your body, puke all over your shirt due to exhaustion, stress and impending dehydration and do all this with a revolving door of male and female nurses constantly coming in?
Then you can come and try to talk to Me about My way with words in comparison to My son. If I want to refer to My son in a way that has simple-minded individuals like you pulling asshole questions out of your ass like that, then I will.
you will never feel what it's like to carry a child. you will never have a fear of walking on a patch of ice or driving down a busy intersection, knowing that you are carrying something so delicate and special.
Don't ever question Me about how I view My child. you want to call me out about nuks or threads that make your asshole pucker? Rock on. Don't ever ask Me about My child.
The feeling is similar, but not identical. I've always felt a need to protect and sometimes over protect people and things. It's all a mentality, one that can easily be viewed as possessive, but with the right amount of balance it works out.
I'm sorry for railing your thread, Lyz. But I couldn't sit idly by with the aforementioned comment.
I know it is off topic... I know... but... I wouldn't completely agree with that statement. No a man does not carry the child while it is in the womb. But a man does... OK correction a responsible man who is mature enough to accept the consequences of his actions does feed and support the child. Maybe not directly.
But any man who has an ounce of accountability and responsibility in his body, will support the mother of that child and do whatever he should to put food on the table.
p.s. I still think you two should be committed for that crazy talk.
Skipadeedoodah
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No sweat Mama
I agree - he should - doesn't mean he always will
but he should Oh...and....
*I don't actually like pie -- that is my not-so-secret attempt at comic relief....as this subtopic of the thread is getting a bit heated and personal, and I don't want any hurt feelings
:*EDIT: I lied -- I like pumpkin pie
**EDIT - Sorry, kis123, as it was deftly worded and well thought. It followed the violator's distractions, though, and thus I'm pullin' that bit.**
When I'm in a relationship, that man is mine and mine alone. I take good care of him in hopes he does the same with me. I personally don't need anyone else in my life but him, but it is foolish for me to expect/demand that I'm the only woman he has relationship with. But I'd better be the ony woman he sleeps with if he knows what's good for him! And with the women he has in his life, my radar and antenna are up because to some women a taken man looks better than a single one. My mother lost my father to her "friend"-this is why I don't keep women around me when I'm in a relationship.
To the OP, IMO what works for your parents works for them. They've been married a long time and as long as no one's being controlled or deprived, I see nothing wrong with how they manage their relationship. It might not work for you or me at that matter, but when people are remaining married and not in divorce court, I say "cheers" to them.
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I can be jealous at times. When I am feeling jealous I try very hard to look at the situation objectively and go with logic over emotion. It usually works. Usually… for a while anyhow…
I’m getting better at it. 🙂
Thing is, my man (yes, I called him my man 😉 ) respects my feelings so much that even when my emotions win over logic, he does everything in his power to change the situation that was making me jealous, so that I will no longer feel that way. And because I respect him so much, I am very careful to not take advantage of that. It’s all about respecting each other’s feelings. And the love 😉
Oh, for being so good, I got to find out that I absolutely adore some of the people I used to be jealous of. Nice perk!
I’m getting better at it. 🙂
Thing is, my man (yes, I called him my man 😉 ) respects my feelings so much that even when my emotions win over logic, he does everything in his power to change the situation that was making me jealous, so that I will no longer feel that way. And because I respect him so much, I am very careful to not take advantage of that. It’s all about respecting each other’s feelings. And the love 😉
Oh, for being so good, I got to find out that I absolutely adore some of the people I used to be jealous of. Nice perk!
