How to bring this up? I don't know where to start!!!

[newtoallthis]

Ok all, I found your site here last week when I started doing some research into my new boyfirend's seeming fetish. All the stuff here is great, and I've really learned a lot! But I have a quick question, if you don't mind?

So, we've been dating for about three months and have just recently started getting sexual. So we spend a lot of time in bed, just touching, playing, etc. Last week, we were both naked, and I was laying on top of him, and he started tickling me. I squirmed and tried to move, but it actually felt pretty good. He mentioned it a few times over the course of the evening, and would try to tickle me whenever I wasn't paying attention. Then he mentioned a website about tickling (that was the place I went to first!), and I got the idea it might be more than just a passing interest.

Ok, now that I've done more research, I am ~highly~ intrigued!!! I want to talk to him about it, but I feel weird bringing it up. Also, how can I tell if he wants me to tickle him back? Are most people so-called "switches", or do most people fall into one or the other category (tickler or ticklee)? Because he certainly enjoys tickling me!

Thanks in advance for the advice! 🙂

 

[milagros317]

Hi, NewToAllThis, and welcome to the TMF.

Your boyfriend already brought it up, by telling you about a tickling website, and he will be overjoyed to know that you have been doing some reading and research since then. So you don't have to feel weird in returning to the subject--just print out a post that you found interesting and talk to him about it. I can guarantee that he will be very happy that you have taken an interest.

Some people are ticklers (slang: lers) only, some ticklees (lees) only, and many are switches. My advice is to just tickle him back a little, for a few seconds, when he next tickles you. He will let you know if he likes it. 😀

 

[rajee]

🙂 Hey, newtoallthis😀 Welcome to the TMF. My 2 cents are that perhaps you should mention it to him casually when you two are together in a quiet intimate area. Try using ice breaking sentences like,"I have some ideas on how we can ..." you can fill in the rest with the intimate acivity you have in mind. I think you will find it easier to communicate with him about your new found tickling interest if you use "I" phrases more than "You" phrases. I've learned if you make the discussion about yourself instead of about your partner than the communication can be more active rather than reactive. You can use the same suggestion I gave you above about asking him if he likes to be tickled as well.
There are switches as well as total ticklers and total ticklees.
Last but not least, You know him more than anyone here. Use your gut feeling and the information the 2 of you have cultivated since your relationship has started to communicate about this and hopefully it will add to your building relationship.
Hope I have been helpful in some way.
😀

 

[sole seeker]

Hello New. - Welcome! Have fun and look around.

"Ticklephiles" feel differently from each other in regard to tickling. Some folks only like to be tickled, others only like to do the tickling, and some like it both ways.

There is also a difference in regard to body parts. Take someone with a foot-tickling fetish for example... some people like feet, they just prefer tickling over say, worshipping them. However, some folks like tickling more than anything else, and they just prefer feet over say, armpits.

You'll need to talk with your boyfriend about what he specifically likes and doesn't like, as well as what you like and don't like.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Oh, go ahead. Tickle the daylights out of him 😀

 

[dtrell]

hi "new" and welcome to the TMF. hopefully unlike many others youll stick around for a while. i would say that the majority of people on here are either one or the other...'lee or 'ler...however there are still many that like both. the next thing you need to let him do is tie you up while he tickles you. youll love it.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Hey "new"

Seems to me he has already brought it up to YOU, so, just go with it.
Tickle him back. Let things progress naturally. Just ask him what ever it is you want to know about him and tickling etc since the subject line has already been breeched. The door is open. Step inside.

TTD

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

My hubby and I met because of our mutual love of tickling. We both happen to be switches. Many people are...even if they prefer one side to another. If he's comfortable enough with his enjoyment of tickling to go after you with it, I don't see why you shouldn't return the favor. 😉

Seriously, many of us who enjoy it are a bit hesitant at first to discuss it. But, since he's opened the door, I think you're safe in walking in. Good luck...and...

Ann

 

[natural tickler]

Welcome to the forum!! My advice would be to wait until he tickles you again, then you tickle him, and then talk about it afterwards, as everyone here says, he started the conversation, now you can finish it. Besides, since he's talked about it first, you can feel more comfortable about it. Good luck!!😀

 

[Myriads]

Hello newtoallthis,

Welcome to the forum and I hope you enjoy!

Myriads

 

[fatman180]

Welcome

Welcome to the TMF. I think that hte best way to bring up tickling is to intrduce it in the bed. Star by slowly tickling him and if he likes it then gradually increase it. When you have become more comfortable with the idea i suggest you introduce bondage(just a suggestion). I hope you guys have a long and healthy relationship and please let us know how the whole thing works out.

 

[drew70]

I can dig the weird feelings you describe, but it's just temporary. It was him, after all, who brought this to your attention. If you don't want to bring it up to him, wait till he brings it up again. You can be in the driver seat here. If you want to tickle him, then do it. He'll let you know if he doesn't like it. I'm thinking he probably will, though, but time will tell.

Good luck and keep us updated! 🙂

 

[Jamandi]

I think its really great that you are opened enough to explore his fetish like this. What I bet is he might be a little worried how you will react to it and so he kind of directed you here so you could make decisions on your own. So if you want to bring it up to him just be honest and say I really enjoy it when you tickle me or something like that. I bet he will appreacite your forwordness. And if you are wondering if you should tickle him, just ask him if he likes it, or just try it out. If he likes it, go totally tickle crazy on him. I envy the fun you guys are going to have 😛.

-Jamandi-

 

[chrisheaven]

Welcome
Hope you'll have lots of fun.

 

[newtoallthis]

Thanks

Thanks for all the advice. You people all seem so helpful. I don't know if he has a "fetish", per se, as much as an interest, because it's not like he needs it to come to orgasm, or anything (and isn't that the definition of fetish?)

Anyway, I know I made it sound like he brought this up, but he didn't really. It was just thrown naturally into the conversation when we were talking about something else and he tickled me....so I wouldn't feel comfortable saying something like, "Honey, so I was looking into these tickling websites, and...." 🙂 I'm sure you understand!!!

But thanks for the kind words and help!