How to raise your sons and daughters with a TK Fetish.

[rhiannon]

I dunno how we got on the subject of Burkas while talking about protecting a kid from pedophiles... woman can wear or not wear a burka as she pleases

I do, but I won't repeat it since on this thread I agree with you so nicely! 😉

 

[BellaRisa]

Yea... no... lol. My mother had absolutely nothing to do with my sexuality or sexual preferences. Nor my father. Nor particularly anyone related to me. That would be mostly attributed to the people I dated or the pretty pretty people on the television who WEREN'T related to me. >_> I guess it's that way for some people (otherwise you wouldn't have posted this) but yea... definitely not me.

I disagree. Your sexuality begins taking shape from day one, it's pretty impossible not to be influenced by your parents to some degree.

 

[rhiannon]

I disagree. Your sexuality begins taking shape from day one, it's pretty impossible not to be influenced by your parents to some degree.

Your sexuality can be influenced if your parents tell you masturbation makes you blind or all guys are pigs or something like that, of course! Your parents can, to a point, influence your sexuality.....but your parents' sexuality usually doesn't!

 

[poopies]

Your sexuality can be influenced if your parents tell you masturbation makes you blind or all guys are pigs or something like that, of course! Your parents can, to a point, influence your sexuality.....but your parents' sexuality usually doesn't!

My parents' sexuality made me throw up once. That must count for something.

 

[rhiannon]

My parents' sexuality made me throw up once. That must count for something.

LOL....I bet that was not the most pleasant experience in the world! And exactly what our point is here. 😉

 

[Master feathers]

I really don't see the need to tell your children about anything that might go on between you and yoour spouse in the bedroom ....I agree with everyone's answer here ...not judging you but your question creeped me out a bit ...whats with the "I would want a daughter "...you may have your personal preference but as long as the child is healthy ,thats all that should matter ....

 

[Radiohead 7140]

so, conclusion is that we are ok with vanilla children, or post-partem abort or throw up for adoption???

 

[rhiannon]

so, conclusion is that we are ok with vanilla children, or post-partem abort or throw up for adoption???

? How does that have to do with anything? I'm pretty sure most of all our parents did have sex, but made sure we don't hear or see it! Why wouldn't people with a tickling fetish be able to do that?

 

[BellaRisa]

Once again- it is great that is how it worked out for you, it really is- but again, there are some of us who gained their sexual preferences through other means- particularly those of people not related to us. My parents kept me separated from their sexual lives, and for that I am very grateful.

There isn't a single thing I can attribute sexually to either of my parents. And I'm certainly glad for that. lol

I'm talking about 'basic' sexuality, which is common for everyone. The people who raise you and around whom you grow up contribute to the person you'll become in various forms. It's not about how it worked out for me, it's about every human and how we all interact with the other humans around us. How you relate to women has to be colored to some degree by your mother and female siblings' behavior and actions, for better or worse, unless you lived in a box from the moment you were born. You don't suddenly gain sexual awareness at age 18; it begins in the womb and evolves as you grow, and it's impossible for those around you to have no influence.

 

[BellaRisa]

Your sexuality can be influenced if your parents tell you masturbation makes you blind or all guys are pigs or something like that, of course! Your parents can, to a point, influence your sexuality.....but your parents' sexuality usually doesn't!

I'm wondering what other people here mean by 'sexuality'. It goes beyond what people do in the bedroom, folks. It's about how we relate to one another in various ways, from how physically and verbally affectionate we are to the different styles of gender roles and gender behavior that parents take on, and how those can change over time. How your parents speak to one another, how they treat each other, how they choose to be in relation to others of their gender and position...all of that contributes to the sexual person you become in some way; it's not all as overt as masturbation discussion and specific attitudes about the opposite sex.

 

[This!]

Once again- it is great that is how it worked out for you, it really is- but again, there are some of us who gained their sexual preferences through other means- particularly those of people not related to us. My parents kept me separated from their sexual lives, and for that I am very grateful.

There isn't a single thing I can attribute sexually to either of my parents. And I'm certainly glad for that. lol

Totally with you, bro. Well said.

The most emotionally stable people I know were not sexually influenced by their parents, even a little bit. To suggest otherwise is something I don't recommend when speaking with people, as most will find the concept disturbing at best.

Parents influence how we relate sociologically to members of the same gender and to members of the opposite gender. But that shouldn't be confused with sexual parental influence, which only occurs when parents are openly sexual in the presence of their children. Again, this is something I don't personally recommend.

 

[DeBris]

Oi. I don't think it is right to drag children to any parent's sex orientation. besides, it's awkward.

 

[rhiannon]

I'm wondering what other people here mean by 'sexuality'. It goes beyond what people do in the bedroom, folks. It's about how we relate to one another in various ways, from how physically and verbally affectionate we are to the different styles of gender roles and gender behavior that parents take on, and how those can change over time. How your parents speak to one another, how they treat each other, how they choose to be in relation to others of their gender and position...all of that contributes to the sexual person you become in some way; it's not all as overt as masturbation discussion and specific attitudes about the opposite sex.

I totally agree with you here. You see how your parents interact around each other, and that, as I said, influences you to a point. Maybe not your sexuality though, more the way that you will show affection!

But usually you do not know what is going on in their bedroom, or if anything is going on at all. And most parents and children want it that way!