My thanks go out to all of you who made me feel welcome here.... Thanks.... maybe I am doing this whole thing wrong... I'm just an outgoing person that was looking for some cool friends that shared the same interest is all....... Sorry to THOSE I pissed off,,,, freaked out,,,or whatever... I'm very upset now ... so I'll see you around soon I hope..............Iris
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I GIVE UP!!!!! Everytime I think I've made a friend here....
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Marquis De Sade
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Did I miss something? 😕
slacker2114
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Probably yet another instance of "nice girl makes a friend with a skeev, but realizes it too late". Or a case of miscommunication. Or a troll being a douchebag and messing with her head. Sadly, it happens from time to time.
Whatever it is, don't let it get you down, Iris.
Whatever it is, don't let it get you down, Iris.
Iris,
you know I am honored to consider you a friend.
To anyone that would treat you badly, that is their problem and not yours.
I enjoy chatting with you, and you can always make me smile.
Forget anyone that is not worth your time. There are plenty of people here that would be happy to talk with you everyday.
Rob
you know I am honored to consider you a friend.
To anyone that would treat you badly, that is their problem and not yours.
I enjoy chatting with you, and you can always make me smile.
Forget anyone that is not worth your time. There are plenty of people here that would be happy to talk with you everyday.
Rob
Everyone makes mistakes.
Sometimes people need time, sometimes they don't.
Sometimes what one person feels is normal, others think is a bit too much.
The trick is to find a happy medium and go from there.
Its all good Iris, just takes time to find that medium sometimes.
Rob
Sometimes people need time, sometimes they don't.
Sometimes what one person feels is normal, others think is a bit too much.
The trick is to find a happy medium and go from there.
Its all good Iris, just takes time to find that medium sometimes.
Rob
SmileyTkls
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It can be frustrating, esp. online, when you do something to apparently drive away someone you like, but it's easy to misread or misunderstand when you're only reading and typing text. Perhaps its not a total loss, and maybe it'll just be part of the learning curve. Please don't be someone you aren't in fear of scaring folks off, stay your outgoing, fun self and you'll be appreciated and better off when you are. 😉
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To echo some of the other folks..
Sometimes despite a person's best intentions, a interaction or line of communication can be read as 'pushy' or 'over the top'.
This may make the receiver slightly uncomfortable and uncertain on how to go about expressing those feelings without fear of hurting the person doing it.
It's tough to know when to tone it down or if you even need to. You aren't a bad person for being a little over exuberant, the other person might have been a little uncomfortable and wasn't sure how to talk to you about it.
Some folks get hostile to put distance between those feelings, and that might have been done in your situation. Sometimes less is really more and I'm sure if you take the time to explain your intentions and hear also what he has to say if he's feeling up to expressing what was bothering him, then you both can rectify a friendship.
Don't give up. There are plenty of amazing people out here. 🙂
Sometimes despite a person's best intentions, a interaction or line of communication can be read as 'pushy' or 'over the top'.
This may make the receiver slightly uncomfortable and uncertain on how to go about expressing those feelings without fear of hurting the person doing it.
It's tough to know when to tone it down or if you even need to. You aren't a bad person for being a little over exuberant, the other person might have been a little uncomfortable and wasn't sure how to talk to you about it.
Some folks get hostile to put distance between those feelings, and that might have been done in your situation. Sometimes less is really more and I'm sure if you take the time to explain your intentions and hear also what he has to say if he's feeling up to expressing what was bothering him, then you both can rectify a friendship.
Don't give up. There are plenty of amazing people out here. 🙂
Iris:
SLOW DOWN SISTA'!!!
I remember when I first showed up here; I had so much running in my head I could barely contain myself (and I'm nowhere near as outgoing as you)! So much to see, do, and learn it was overwhelming to take in initially.
You impress me as a warm, friendly, and outgoing person; you remind me of a former member here who started out like you but got waaaaaaay to caught up in cyberspace for anyone's comfort. Plus she had other problems that I feel took her over the edge.
Not everyone is going to "get" you, and you just have to accept that and move on because so many will in time. Don't let this sour your time here; just slow down and concentrate on taking in what this place has to offer and having fun.
Bandage your wounds and move forward; too many people here who will benefit from your presence for you to worry about a folk or two who don't.
SLOW DOWN SISTA'!!!
I remember when I first showed up here; I had so much running in my head I could barely contain myself (and I'm nowhere near as outgoing as you)! So much to see, do, and learn it was overwhelming to take in initially.
You impress me as a warm, friendly, and outgoing person; you remind me of a former member here who started out like you but got waaaaaaay to caught up in cyberspace for anyone's comfort. Plus she had other problems that I feel took her over the edge.
Not everyone is going to "get" you, and you just have to accept that and move on because so many will in time. Don't let this sour your time here; just slow down and concentrate on taking in what this place has to offer and having fun.
Bandage your wounds and move forward; too many people here who will benefit from your presence for you to worry about a folk or two who don't.
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take the time you need and think of it as a learning experience.. keep in mind when you talkto ppl online.. that is all it is.. talk.. it is not the real thing as a face to face person you can see daily or once a week..
There are alot of great guys and gals in here. I have meet 3 of my best buddies who are male in here but our friendship blossomed after we did meet.
Keep your chin up kiddo..
HUGSSSSSS/Lisa
There are alot of great guys and gals in here. I have meet 3 of my best buddies who are male in here but our friendship blossomed after we did meet.
Keep your chin up kiddo..
HUGSSSSSS/Lisa
Iris, take heart.
There are some 75,000+ ridiculous number of people on here.
There are some that will not get you.
There will be some who will.
But it can be frustrating.
What Rob said is true: "Sometimes what one person feels is normal, others think is a bit too much."
Equally true, and often overlooked however, is the fact that communication is a two way street, and if the other party cannot express to you what the problem is, you can't be expected to be psychic and fix or manage it.
There are a lot of people with that deficiency as well, and their typical response is avoidance: to ignore someone or flee from conversation because they haven't learned to articulate their own feelings on here, or describe the issue they're having.
It's a shame that both these issues happen among adults, whom we expect to have better powers of judgement and expression than children, but often, they do not.
Those who offer too much (however "too much" is defined by one person or another) kind of spook the others, and the ones who can't express themselves and choose to ignore or flee the conversation can fill the other with self doubt.
Don't be freaked, and don't doubt yourself. Chalk it up to the fact that by and large, people here and elsewhere are deficient in one way or the other. And lacking the nonverbal cues we normally have available as handrails in face-to-face conversation, these deficiencies get amplified.
Between the people offering "too much" (which tends to be very subjective) and the people who can't express themselves, it can be hard to find people you jive with.
But the right people for you are out there.
Just keep trying, and know that you have an open invitation to PM me, as does anyone.
There are some 75,000+ ridiculous number of people on here.
There are some that will not get you.
There will be some who will.
But it can be frustrating.
What Rob said is true: "Sometimes what one person feels is normal, others think is a bit too much."
Equally true, and often overlooked however, is the fact that communication is a two way street, and if the other party cannot express to you what the problem is, you can't be expected to be psychic and fix or manage it.
There are a lot of people with that deficiency as well, and their typical response is avoidance: to ignore someone or flee from conversation because they haven't learned to articulate their own feelings on here, or describe the issue they're having.
It's a shame that both these issues happen among adults, whom we expect to have better powers of judgement and expression than children, but often, they do not.
Those who offer too much (however "too much" is defined by one person or another) kind of spook the others, and the ones who can't express themselves and choose to ignore or flee the conversation can fill the other with self doubt.
Don't be freaked, and don't doubt yourself. Chalk it up to the fact that by and large, people here and elsewhere are deficient in one way or the other. And lacking the nonverbal cues we normally have available as handrails in face-to-face conversation, these deficiencies get amplified.
Between the people offering "too much" (which tends to be very subjective) and the people who can't express themselves, it can be hard to find people you jive with.
But the right people for you are out there.
Just keep trying, and know that you have an open invitation to PM me, as does anyone.
thanks for trying to make me feel better... I'm gonna keep on keepin on...only with a little bit more of a hardened heart this this time around!!!! hey ..like u said there's 70,000 members or so...hopefully I don't piss them all off!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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thanks for trying to make me feel better... I'm gonna keep on keepin on...only with a little bit more of a hardened heart this this time around!!!! hey ..like u said there's 70,000 members or so...hopefully I don't piss them all off!!!!!!!!!!!!!
there ya go that is the spereat never give up u will eventaly make frinds may take time but u will everyone is different.i dont know ya but u seem cool and i know some folks can be mean but everyone is not like that there are a lot of cool people.my self i made a great friend here she is amazimng.i am more confy with her them i am with like anyone else and we talk everynight and i love it and love her she is a great friend and i am glad i have met her and i a week we will meet face to face and i am so exited and cannot wait
just be your self and never try to be anyone u r not and u will meet people just a mattter of time
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Believe me, I learned a very important lesson lately about this whole thing... It's all "keyboard barrier." To make it more literal:
The keyboard is sometimes indirectly proportional to the facial expressions and inner aspirations...😱
Carry on...
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Disclaimer: Just a goofy remark, not a cryptic/ironic message to someone or anyone.
*attaches brains to my skull*
The keyboard is sometimes indirectly proportional to the facial expressions and inner aspirations...😱
Carry on...
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Disclaimer: Just a goofy remark, not a cryptic/ironic message to someone or anyone.
*attaches brains to my skull*
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giggle-maker
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Please stay on. We need more people from GA on here! Especialy cool people! It's just me, Rob, Addie and a couple others. Don't be goin' nowhere, ya'hear?
If you are really outgoing, and love to chat with people, just accept that it is impossible for you to click with everyone.
You won't discover who you enjoy chatting with until you get to know them, and they get to know you. It's a process.
I would recommend not focusing your attention on just one person if your goal is to meet a lot of people for friendship.
Whatever you do, be yourself. You will bounce back. I'm sure of it.
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I'm very happy
to have you as a TMF buddy we have alot in common and I cant wait to see you in November and i mean all of it sincerely 
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Welcome to the wonderful world of fetishes and sexual repression.🙂
It happens.
That's the one thing I have noticed that is the same both on the internet and in real life: If things progress too quickly, then things will eventually fuck up.
It has been mentioned before: There are other members here to communicate with. If your first attempt to mend any bridges fails, then move on.
