I hate my girlfriend's dog

[GQguy]

*Sigh* Ok....I said it!

Ok. Maybe hate is a strong word. I just find it annoying. We both have separate places now. But I recently asked her to move with me to my next base. This would be my first time living with a woman and making that jump is no easy task for me....but hey....I love her and i'm ready. What I didn't realize was that her dog is coming argh! So now an already complicated move is made that much harder and pricier. Planning a move for a couple cross country is hard enough...throwing in a dog that already irks you makes it tougher.

And to think i'll be living with the thing.....no more cop outs of "lets stay at my place".

I know that most Americans love their dogs and would be horrified at the thought that someone didn't like dogs. I get that. People love their dogs. I respect that. While I don't comprehend the arguement "the dog was there before you blah blah" I respect it. (Why can't I keep my stripper pole? j/k)



Is there anyone out there like me that lives with a dog and feels more at peace when it's gone? Anyone that would rather not have the dog in the house. Hell, not have the dog in the bedroom? How did you handle this? I've had a stressed out LONG day...and the last thing I want is it licking me.

How do I get over this?

GQguy

 

[TonyInMyThroat]

I’m assuming you’re being purposely vague in describing the type of dog we’re dealing with here. Is this really a “dog” or just some sorry excuse of a squeeker that has more in common with a rodent than a legitimate k-nine?

In any case, always be vigilant for the opportunity to use the Clark W. Griswold approach to unnecessary dog existence as a potential remedy.

 

[GQguy]

I’m assuming you’re being purposely vague in describing the type of dog we’re dealing with here. Is this really a “dog” or just some sorry excuse of a squeeker that has more in common with a rodent than a legitimate k-nine?

In any case, always be vigilant for the opportunity to use the Clark W. Griswold approach to unnecessary dog existence as a potential remedy.

The dog is a rottweiler. Like ten years old so it's getting up there.

 

[Tickler15]

*Sigh* Ok....I said it!

Ok. Maybe hate is a strong word. I just find it annoying. We both have separate places now. But I recently asked her to move with me to my next base. This would be my first time living with a woman and making that jump is no easy task for me....but hey....I love her and i'm ready. What I didn't realize was that her dog is coming argh! So now an already complicated move is made that much harder and pricier. Planning a move for a couple cross country is hard enough...throwing in a dog that already irks you makes it tougher.

And to think i'll be living with the thing.....no more cop outs of "lets stay at my place".

I know that most Americans love their dogs and would be horrified at the thought that someone didn't like dogs. I get that. People love their dogs. I respect that. While I don't comprehend the arguement "the dog was there before you blah blah" I respect it. (Why can't I keep my stripper pole? j/k)



Is there anyone out there like me that lives with a dog and feels more at peace when it's gone? Anyone that would rather not have the dog in the house. Hell, not have the dog in the bedroom? How did you handle this? I've had a stressed out LONG day...and the last thing I want is it licking me.

How do I get over this?

GQguy

Yeah, I am sorry, I LOVE dogs....no way you can just live with the dog? And what branch you in?

 

[TonyInMyThroat]

Jeeze man, Rotts are good dogs!

This wouldn’t be a situation where you feel threatened by your girlfriend’s relationship with the dog now would it?

I recommend you give the dog all due props and see if you two can’t come to a mutual understanding. Usually a dog of that caliber is rather receptive to some good natured attention.

But if that doesn’t work, at ten years old, it probably couldn’t last more than a couple of minutes at 20 MPH.

 

[GQguy]

Jeeze man, Rotts are good dogs!

This wouldn’t be a situation where you feel threatened by your girlfriend’s relationship with the dog now would it?

I recommend you give the dog all due props and see if you two can’t come to a mutual understanding. Usually a dog of that caliber is rather receptive to some good natured attention.

But if that doesn’t work, at ten years old, it probably couldn’t last more than a couple of minutes at 20 MPH.

Haha I might be threatened! I was chilling with her the other day and the dog started licking her feet. Nearly threw up. I guess people here with foot fetishes on this forum might get why I found that so repulsive.

The dog is really is a good dog. It's a dog. It's going to lick you when you couldn't be bothered. It's going to bark and wake you up when you have to be up at 430am. It's going to be needy after being cooped up in a house all day. I get that.

Just wonder how to deal with it. It's not my thing.


What's funny is that if i were to ever get a dog it would be a rot.....or so I thought.

 

[goddess_nemesis]

It could be worse. It could be a puppy rather than a full grown dog.

I take it you knew she had a dog before you started dating. You didn't expect her to leave the dog behind when you asked her to move cross country with you. Pets become like family to their owners.

How well trained is the dog? Does it stop barking (licking, etc.) when you tell it to stop? Since you two will be living together then, some things can change like if you prefer the dog to not be in the bedroom then that's something you need to discuss with your gf. But it'll take time and work to change some of its behaviors.

 

[love feet]

It could be worse. It could be a puppy rather than a full grown dog.

I take it you knew she had a dog before you started dating. You didn't expect her to leave the dog behind when you asked her to move cross country with you. Pets become like family to their owners.

How well trained is the dog? Does it stop barking (licking, etc.) when you tell it to stop? Since you two will be living together then, some things can change like if you prefer the dog to not be in the bedroom then that's something you need to discuss with your gf. But it'll take time and work to change some of its behaviors.

Thank-you ticklingnemesis that was my question to!!
🙂

 

[Usually`Bubble]

Aww! I love my dogs and wouldn't even entertain the thought of moving in with my boyfriend if it meant that I had to live without them. But that could just be because they're MY dogs. Also, dogs lick EVERYTHING, not just feet. They're animals.

You could possibly compare the situation to children. If you had a girlfriend who had an annoying brat kid, you wouldn't expect her to leave her kid behind. Kids jump into beds at godly hours of the morning, throw tantrums when they don't get their way and when very young suckle their mother's breast for milk. Any guy that into breasts would possibly find that to be somewhat weird if the kid wasn't theirs...

 

[Flatfoot]

I don't know how well-behaved this dog is, but negative behaviors are relatively easy to train them out of. I used to have a great dane when I lived in NC, and Petsmart has a reasonably priced training class, both for puppies and for older dogs. Before I had a dog, I knew nothing about them. If you're in the same boat, I highly recommend investing in this class. Dogs are much easier to train when you understand how they think.

On the other hand, I'd SERIOUSLY think this decision over, because if you're going to live with this dog, you're not going to be able to ignore it, avoid it, write it off as an object that you'd rather your girl didn't have, etc. You're going to have to do things with this dog, like play with it, walk it, discipline it, the whole nine yards. Dogs are pack animals, and they view you as part of the pack. Every pack has a leader. You have to be the leader, or the dog will try, when it doesn't see anyone taking charge. Remember that this is an animal who will destroy things when it gets bored. Keep that in the back of your mind, regarding your future place, if you don't have the patience to work with the dog and interact with it. This decision sounds every bit as much a potential deal-breaker as a woman who won't put up with your interests. I'm not judging you if you don't like pets, but if you don't want to deal with it, I don't recommend you move forward with this. It'll invite headaches that could stress you to the point of resenting her for the dog, or giving her a nasty ultimatum that could cause her to resent you.

 

[happydarwin]

One word...antifreeze.
It's a painless way to go and chances are she'll never know.

 

[Leo tickles]

I've had some past relationship experiences where I wasn't a fan of the animal. Dog, cat, whatever. But, I love animals so I treated them with respect, and sooner rather than later, I grew to love them.

Depending on how old the dog is and how well it's trained, there still may be time to talk to your girl friend about training it better, or at least getting annoying habits out of it's head.

I think you are over complicating it, just relax and enjoy the ride, dog or not.

From my experience, when living with a female, the last thing on your list of worries will be a dog about a week after you settle in.

 

[TropicThunder]

The thing about dogs is that they really can grow on you...

 

[GQguy]

Thanks so much for your responses. They were all very helpful! Seeing as all of you took the time to help me in the bind I’ll respond to each of you.

Ticklingnemesis:
You are right! It could be worse. He's an old man. I think I remember my girl saying that she wouldn't take the dog with her if she came over because of the dog's age. I think now she meant she wouldn't fly with it if she came to visit for an extended period of time. But she's willing to drive with it. I didn't even think about the dog till I decided she would stay on base for the first week while I trained and had already started looking for apts and she objected to "not dog friendly". I'm definitely leaning towards training as a cure. Ironically I do hope there are trainers that do so non violently...I could be naive though. Thanks!


Usually Bubble:
Kids are awesome! I'm not ready to raise one though. The dog was very much an after thought and something I tried to avoid. My early morning schedule allowed me to have her stay at my place often so I was able to bypass the dog. I rarely stayed at her place even to hangout because I always had plans to take her out. To think now though that during my chill time at home there’s always going to be a dog around is a bit much. As I told Ticklingnemesis above I misunderstood a conversation we had about her leaving the dog behind. Thanks!

Flatfoot
Very sobering an insightful advice. You're right, it's going to be tough to simply avoid the animal if I’m living with it. Patience is something I will likely be running short on during my stressful training. This really could be a deal breaker. But I’d hate to put my girl in that position. But I also want to feel comfortable at home as that's vital to doing my very dangerous job well. Your suggestion that I understand the dog is brilliant. Not engaging it in my own home would be a terrible mistake. Thanks!

HappyDarwin:
That's pretty bad buddy, and illegal.

LeoTickles:
I do think training is a good idea. Relaxing in my field isn't an option however. Everything boils down to what will provide me the least amount of stress during what I hear is a VERY stressful period...air force pilot training, survival training and water survival training. A good (stress free )homelife is vital. Thanks!

GQguy

 

[Korastus]

Ironically I do hope there are trainers that do so non violently...I could be naive though. Thanks!

If you ever encounter a trainer who uses violence to train an animal, any animal, you need to report them immediately. That is cruel, wrong, and quite illegal. Not to mention almost guaranteed to be completely ineffective and to cause the animal in question to become dangerously aggressive.

 

[Flatfoot]

Thanks so much for your responses. They were all very helpful! Seeing as all of you took the time to help me in the bind I’ll respond to each of you.

Ticklingnemesis:
You are right! It could be worse. He's an old man. I think I remember my girl saying that she wouldn't take the dog with her if she came over because of the dog's age. I think now she meant she wouldn't fly with it if she came to visit for an extended period of time. But she's willing to drive with it. I didn't even think about the dog till I decided she would stay on base for the first week while I trained and had already started looking for apts and she objected to "not dog friendly". I'm definitely leaning towards training as a cure. Ironically I do hope there are trainers that do so non violently...I could be naive though. Thanks!


Usually Bubble:
Kids are awesome! I'm not ready to raise one though. The dog was very much an after thought and something I tried to avoid. My early morning schedule allowed me to have her stay at my place often so I was able to bypass the dog. I rarely stayed at her place even to hangout because I always had plans to take her out. To think now though that during my chill time at home there’s always going to be a dog around is a bit much. As I told Ticklingnemesis above I misunderstood a conversation we had about her leaving the dog behind. Thanks!

Flatfoot
Very sobering an insightful advice. You're right, it's going to be tough to simply avoid the animal if I’m living with it. Patience is something I will likely be running short on during my stressful training. This really could be a deal breaker. But I’d hate to put my girl in that position. But I also want to feel comfortable at home as that's vital to doing my very dangerous job well. Your suggestion that I understand the dog is brilliant. Not engaging it in my own home would be a terrible mistake. Thanks!

HappyDarwin:
That's pretty bad buddy, and illegal.

LeoTickles:
I do think training is a good idea. Relaxing in my field isn't an option however. Everything boils down to what will provide me the least amount of stress during what I hear is a VERY stressful period...air force pilot training, survival training and water survival training. A good (stress free )homelife is vital. Thanks!

GQguy

It's funny you mention stress. It makes me think back to when I was active duty, and I was most at peace when I was deployed, or at least at work. Yeah, it could be a high-stress environment, but there was a purpose (and a paycheck!) behind it. When "off the clock", I wanted everything to be stress-free, which simply didn't work. Wives, pets, girlfriends, bills, neighbors, what have you, always cause stress, but I digress. Regarding the dog, he can be one less problem for you if you invest in training. Again, I HIGHLY recommend the Petsmart training class. There's nothing violent about the training, and they do not allow choke-chains. If you go through with it, you'd benefit from paying the $35 for a "gentle leader". It's not a muzzle or choke chain (it looks kinda like a horse bridle.), and it works well. Good luck!

 

[GQguy]

So it's been 3 full months....actually one full month. I was in training in another state for 2 months. The dog annoys the hell out of me. He listens sometimes and I enjoy taking him for walks....but I like my space. And romance with the girlfriend is out of the question unless we leave the house or we're in the bedroom....the no dog zone. Putting the dog outside....even for a few minutes results in annoying whining. I think i'm more sensitive to the whining than even my girl friend.. a big rottweiler whining..it's like seeing a grown man cry it's weird.

But today sort of sucks. The dog is old.....approaching 12. When my girl came home today he jumped up to see her....only to whine(pain whine...higher in tone). It looks as though his hip is going out. He won't even eat( I left him one of my left over BBQ ribs and he hasn't even touched it!) Anyway my girl who is pretty tough broke down in tears breaking my heart. I just read another article on the progression of the hip ailments and it doesn't look good. Euthanasia seems to be the common end. Now I'm upset about how upset she's going to be when that happens.

I'll have to take her on a trip when that happens.

Damn. All I want is my space and for it to listen. Maybe some doggy listerine mouth wash. I don't want it to die. Geez.

GQ

 

[badreligion]

A pillow case + a couple bricks + a river = ?

 

[TropicThunder]

A pillow case + a couple bricks + a river = ?

...that's not funny.

 

[TicklishHope]

One word...antifreeze.
It's a painless way to go and chances are she'll never know.

I know you must be kidding! Its the worst way to go. My dog was poisoned with antifreeze. They vomit alot, can't hardly move, start have seizures, foaming at the mouth, can't eat or drink, and slowly their organs start shutting down. Its a very painful, cruel way to "get rid of a problem". I must say I find you repulsive.

 

[Jagermeistered]

Everybody who made a cruelty-to-animal post, should be forced to watch those animal cruelty commercials for 24-hours straight.

Besides, you only kill animals your gonna eat. Like a cow, because I love my cheeseburgers.

 

[stroker]

^ yeah so lets turn those yappy little rats (Theyre NOT dogs!!) into cat food.

 

[Jagermeistered]

^ yeah so lets turn those yappy little rats (Theyre NOT dogs!!) into cat food.

You're hitting two birds(I meant rats); with one stone, why not.

 

[badreligion]

...that's not funny.

An off color joke thats all ....Besides I am very against being cruel to animals I would rather what I said be done to humans .


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[BrightEyes1082]

I could not and would not ever be with someone who didn't love my
dogs. Not just tolerate them, but love them. They are a huge part of
my life. They sleep in my bed. I sleep poorly without them.

Having said that, I agree that they can grow on people. I have dachshunds,
and my friend Jeff was repulsed by dachshunds in particular. Mine started
to grow on him, and before long I was dropping them off with him once a
week on my way to/from work to spend the day with him. Now he's moved
from Mass to NH and adopted a dachshund of his own. 😉

My advice, if you want it, is to not push euthanasia on your girlfriend. That's
something she will have to decide herself for her dog (it would be different if
you loved the dog the way she does).