i met dtrell today...

[wendynpeter]

shut up wendynpeter

MODERATOR PLEASE DELETE THIS THREAD AND BTW PETER BOY I TOLD DAVID TONIGHT

isabeau

and he was ok with it after a while so much for knowing me and remember i have things on you also

Well, I'm sure we can all believe you after you have demonstrated your trustworthiness so vividly.

You "have things on me also"?? My dear Isabeau, that sounds like a threat to me. And it doesn't sound like a threat that came from someone who believes she did nothing wrong.

 

[isabeau]

ok i am sorry to respond to a child and a loser. its not like me.

isabeau

 

[venray]

Yeah. Isabeau and I had that discussion too, several times. Usually right after the conversation in which she defended him to the hilt, and when on and on about how she would never even *consider* leaving him because he completely takes care of her, how much she owes him, etc.

I'm pretty sure I know a lot more about that man's situation than you do, because I cared to find out. I didn't demonize him from the start.


And maybe that would have been true a week ago. Now, she's done something to him that he's never done to her. So much for sainthood.

And just what is it that she has done to YOU to make you feel like a scorned lover....Holy heck......

 

[StockedAndGagged]

Hey! How bout that thing? That happened over there? And was wrought with happiness and joy and comradery?

Its coming this way, I hope!

CH

 

[drew70]

drew, we have known each other online a while since the newsgroup days. if you think i am cocky and full of myself then you really dont know me. you can ask the multitudes on here that have met me in person.

as far as stirring things up with one post, thats not saying much...it only takes one post saying the right ridiculous things to stir things up and make yourself an ass. thats not something to be commended, it just takes enough brains to press keys on a keyboard.

If I'm wrong than please accept my apology.

 

[steph]

As someone who helped intro him into the non-pro girl world...(and I've said this before~we've played a few times IRL) Dtrell is MUCH sweeter in person than the opinionated tough guy he plays online~any girl would be lucky to land him. He's a GREAT friend and listener, so thoughtful, gentle and sweet~don't let the online personna fool you. And he IS a total gentleman.

Don't feel bad Mel. Some people are too lame to realize not everyone is lucky enough to have a partner who's "wired that way..." Thsi life is short, as you know~take your happiness wherever you can find it...
XOXO

and dtrell cocky hmmmm i never saw the cocky side of dtrell ever.

anyway i'm sorry i seem to have stirred up controversy with my innocent, yes innocent encounter with dtrell. i wanted to share my experience with this forum, as others have done before me. now i wish i hadnt....

isabeau

 

[wendynpeter]

And just what is it that she has done to YOU to make you feel like a scorned lover....Holy heck......

Maybe because I wasted hours and hours and ... hours ... talking to her about this, helping her to come to her own conclusions about right and wrong in this situation, being told countless times that I helped her to realize that seeing another man behind his back was wrong, not only for him but for her too, then going through it all over again because of the negative encouragement she was getting from someone here ... yeah, no doubt, it's pretty goddamn frustrating.

And I wasn't going to say anything to her when I saw the public post, I was just sorry she made a choice that she had said countless times she would not feel good about making. But then I saw people actually *congratulating* her. I'm sorry, that's just not helping her at all. It's not helping her and being her friend. It's not helping her be strong and do the right thing and make choices she can feel proud of. It's just dysfunctional enabling and I think it sucks and I don't care if those people have a problem with me saying that. It's the truth, and if Jeff kicks me off this site tomorrow, I don't care. At least I said the truth.

 

[isabeau]

As someone who helped intro him into the non-pro girl world...(and I've said this before~we've played a few times IRL) Dtrell is MUCH sweeter in person than the opinionated tough guy he plays online~any girl would be lucky to land him. He's a GREAT friend and listener, so thoughtful, gentle and sweet~don't let the online personna fool you. And he IS a total gentleman.

Don't feel bad Mel. Some people are too lame to realize not everyone is lucky enough to have a partner who's "wired that way..." Thsi life is short, as you know~take your happiness wherever you can find it...
XOXO

thank you my wonderful friend steph

isabeau

 

[venray]

Maybe because I wasted hours and hours and ... hours ... talking to her about this, helping her to come to her own conclusions about right and wrong in this situation, being told countless times that I helped her to realize that seeing another man behind his back was wrong, not only for him but for her too, then going through it all over again because of the negative encouragement she was getting from someone here ... yeah, no doubt, it's pretty goddamn frustrating.

And I wasn't going to say anything to her when I saw the public post, I was just sorry she made a choice that she had said countless times she would not feel good about making. But then I saw people actually *congratulating* her. I'm sorry, that's just not helping her at all. It's not helping her and being her friend. It's not helping her be strong and do the right thing and make choices she can feel proud of. It's just dysfunctional enabling and I think it sucks and I don't care if those people have a problem with me saying that. It's the truth, and if Jeff kicks me off this site tomorrow, I don't care. At least I said the truth.

All this coming from a dom/master who gets his kicks beating and humiliating women......Need I say more....pot callin the kettle black I would say...

 

[steph]

Y'welcome my sweets!
I told you on the phone that day we all 3 conferenced that you could trust him and that he wouldn't violate that trust. It's so fun to be right!HEE!

Yanno what I always tell people? "This life is MY f'ing adventure, not yours~if you don't get it~drop dead, I could care less." In the end I answer to myself and God. Everyone else can kiss my ass.
XOXO

thank you my wonderful friend steph

isabeau

 

[ShadowTklr]

Maybe because I wasted hours and hours and ... hours ... talking to her about this, helping her to come to her own conclusions about right and wrong in this situation, being told countless times that I helped her to realize that seeing another man behind his back was wrong, not only for him but for her too, then going through it all over again because of the negative encouragement she was getting from someone here ... yeah, no doubt, it's pretty goddamn frustrating.

And I wasn't going to say anything to her when I saw the public post, I was just sorry she made a choice that she had said countless times she would not feel good about making. But then I saw people actually *congratulating* her. I'm sorry, that's just not helping her at all. It's not helping her and being her friend. It's not helping her be strong and do the right thing and make choices she can feel proud of. It's just dysfunctional enabling and I think it sucks and I don't care if those people have a problem with me saying that. It's the truth, and if Jeff kicks me off this site tomorrow, I don't care. At least I said the truth.

I think I understand why you are so upset, but you have to understand that any advice you give is just that - advice. People are free to follow it, or not. Don't be upset simply because she didn't follow the moral compass you set for her. She has to follow her own sensibilities.

I've chatted with mel at least as long as you have, and its a lesson I learned a long time ago. Give advice - let people follow their own path. Don't be so judgemental. Your ego has taken a hit, but just remember that your way isn't necessarily the only way either. Now breathe. 🙂

 

[drew70]

o yes it was beautiful to attack me on the forum after he had said he would stop all communication with me a few weeks back. yes so beautiful of him.

At the time I posted that, he hadn't attacked you, but rather the people congratulating you on what he considered a serious moral lapse. I didn't know it would upset you, so that's not what I found beautiful. What I found beautiful is some very interesting and entertaining controversy has erupted with many participants. Personally I sometimes tire of all the insincere "oh I'm sorry if I offended" political correctness. I prefer issues like this where people drop the bullshit and call a spade a spade.

and dtrell cocky hmmmm i never saw the cocky side of dtrell ever.

I've observed him for a much longer time than you.

anyway i'm sorry i seem to have stirred up controversy with my innocent, yes innocent encounter with dtrell. i wanted to share my experience with this forum, as others have done before me. now i wish i hadnt....

I'm glad you did. This is the best thread I've seen in a while.

 

[toneus79]

Yanno what I always tell people? "This life is MY f'ing adventure, not yours"

That's funny

Everyone else can kiss my ass.

Having seen the picture of Steph laying on her bed, I'm betting there will be queue of people forming already.

 

[ticklingfeet4fu]

Yeah. Isabeau and I had that discussion too, several times. Usually right after the conversation in which she defended him to the hilt, and when on and on about how she would never even *consider* leaving him because he completely takes care of her, how much she owes him, etc.

I'm pretty sure I know a lot more about that man's situation than you do, because I cared to find out. I didn't demonize him from the start.


And maybe that would have been true a week ago. Now, she's done something to him that he's never done to her. So much for sainthood.

I have some questions. I hope and pray you answer them honestly. I am already having a horrible week and I have a screeming headache. Is this anyone's business? Everyone is CRUSHING me this week ( hint to you know who ) for doing the wrong thing and yet you have aired stuff that was told to you in confidence. Is that right? Is that how you call yourself friend? By judging her and us because she lived out a fantasy? I mean Isabeau and I talk on the phone and that is no one's business what her and I say to each other. Then you jump on your soapbox and condemn Izzy and the rest of us. Who are you exactly? Are you God? If you are, then you are not what I have read about. Who are you to judge us? I am sure you have had a fantasy that involved someone else. You might or might not have lived it out. But no sex happened. That is not cheating. If Sadira were to call Dtrell tomorrow and say she wanted to meet him she knows she can. Trust is a WONDERFUL thing. I hold my ground. IZZY you did nothing wrong.

 

[steph]

Shhhhhhhhhh! 😉
Cutie!

XOXO

Having seen the picture of Steph laying on her bed, I'm betting there will be queue of people forming already.

 

[dtrell]

ok hon, dont be hijacking this thread like usual...(dtrell waits for the wet noodle....)

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Congrats on your first tied and tickle experience Isabeau! That's wonderful and I am so glad you enjoyed it! You definitely did deserve it!



Love you Isabeau!

 

[steph]

ohhhh suuuuuuure...

This is the thanks I get for defending your bratty ass...
Here ya go:

XOXO

ok hon, dont be hijacking this thread like usual...(dtrell waits for the wet noodle....)

 

[bellystrokes]

Wait wait wait, everyone, my goddess Steph did not hijack THIS one. It was handed to her. But you all can still torture her if you want. hehehehehe Love you gorgeous.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I just want to say that Isabeau did absolutely nothing wrong at all. IF SHE WANTS TO HAVE A TICKLE SESSION WITH SOMEONE THAT'S HER BUSINESS AND IT IS NOT CHEATING AS LONG AS THERE'S NOTHING SEXUAL GOING ON! I am sure there wasn't. It's no big deal!



I for one have had tickle dates with men whose wives aren't into tickling and I feel that they didn't cheat on their wives. I mean it was all platonic. If they have a tickle fetish desire then they should share it with a FRIEND .

 

[leafstk]

Agreed, Jen 🙂 Great post... my thoughts exactly.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Thanks Leaf I am glad that we agree on what I had said. I think we are in good company.

 

[venray]

This is the thanks I get for defending your bratty ass...
Here ya go:

XOXO

ROFLMAO! D has a "bratty Ass"......

You cant make this stuff up (as Knox would say)

 

[steph]

Lmao

....at Ray & Goddess!

THERE~NOW I've sufficiently hijacked it!
XOXO

ROFLMAO! D has a "bratty Ass"......

You cant make this stuff up (as Knox would say)

 

[OBleedingMe]

I think the real question here is if Isabeau's husband lived out a sexual fantasy with another woman because she was unwilling to perform a certain sexul act, how would she feel? She would feel betrayed, hurt, and mad as hell. I see no reason why her husband wouldn't feel the same way.

As for those preaching how "you have no right to judge someone," I got news for you, you little (or oin some cases not so little) self-righteous hypocrites - I can judge anyone I want in any way I see fit. That's the magic of freedom of speech, baby. Just because you think it's okay to cheat on a spouse (although I think the operative word here is husband or man) doesn't mean everyone else has to subscribe to your moral bank.

On a side note, I seriously doubt if a man came on here and posted about his tryists it would receive the same warm, encouraging welcome. I think many females here would be calling him a cad, a bastard, a liar, etc.

In several states, adultry is a punishable offense in divorce court. Isabeau better pray here husband never figures out what she did, because if he does, he has every right to go after her legally, and he could use this very thread for his own legal benefit.