I see why others have left TMF now

[ticklishcutie39]

Laurie, sweetie... just because you weren't mentioned by name in a bunch of posts doesn't mean people don't like you. There are several people who specifically don't even name names just so that they won't leave someone out. I know it's kinda a bummer at times to feel left out... it has happened to me on occasion. Just know it isnt anyone's intention to make you feel that way.

I kind of see NEST as an opportunity... a chance to meet new people, see some old friends.. maybe get tickled. I consider myself a confident person most of the time, but I get insecure too now and then as well. You need to take it at face value for what it is - it doesn't have to be perfect. I feel that if I made a connection with even one person, my time was well spent. It was great seeing you again 🙂 I hope to see you at other gatherings in the future, NESTs or not. Perhaps the smaller gatherings are more your comfort zone. That's completely fine. It doesn't mean there is something wrong with you OR with NEST. It's a matter of comfort, is all. Just like there is no "right way" to tickle... some like it playful, some like it real intense, but no person is "right" or "wrong".

There are some folks I didn't get to hang with very much, but there is no one I'd say I disliked. Just because you don't spend 24/7 with someone or mention them 50 times doesnt mean they don't matter to you. You are a great person, Laurie, just remember that... don't let others get to you. Remember, good things come in small packages.

another petite ticklephile to another,
Josie

Thank you Josie 😀 I now see that I did take things too personally jumping to conclusions that those that met me at Nest and spent a little bit of time with me as there was alot of activities going on that weekend that just because there werent direct posts about me being there at Nest that doesn;t mean that the others who I met,spent time with didn;t enjoy my company as I enjoyed being around them as well.. Like you say,some people may post not naming names not wanting to leave anyone out,and I agree that now that Nest has happened ,is gone until next year that I couldn;t remember every single name in attendance at Nest without writing them down and that is why in my posts in Nest thread,I said words such as " everyone" all" or/and each and every one of you as to not leave anyone out ..As I'd like to also say,Nest is not about one person or even a number of people..Nest is being invited to share a weekend with those people that share the love of tickling,being tickled whether you are brand new to the love of tickling,a Newbie to attending gatherings,a long time lover of tickling not knowing anyone and attending your first gathering,or being long time lover of tickling knowing a few people and wanting to attend meeting many others,or last but not least having had love of tickling for long time,having attended gatherings,Nest in the past for the past 3-5 years and keep coming back year after year and all of these different people are different in background,experiences,yet alike in many ways when you sit down and talk..
That's my story and I'm sticking to it 😀

 

[ticklishcutie39]

This thread is becoming way too heated and personal, so I must caution everyone to refrain from name-calling or trolling just to provoke an angry response.

Melissa, the posts you referred to were deleted after they had been reported by a member as violating the rules. The first moderator to receive the report happened to be HDS. I have known Ness, HDS, and TT for a long time, and I can assure you that they are completely fair and impartial, regardless of whether they are dealing with friends or foes.

TMF, like every forum, has its good and bad qualities. Some people like TMF's wide-ranging general discussion areas and welcome its forceful off-topic debates, while others find their often-hostile political and religious arguments distasteful. I have witnessed the fallout from bitter cross-board flame-fests, and I can assure you from experience that inter-board wars are not in the best interests of the fetish community. It would be best for all of us to resolve our differences more constructively.

Regards,

Mistressvalerie,

In all honesty, I believe this thread was started by me when I was quite emotional and I say it has served it's purpose to help me out of a negative frame of mind into a more positive perspective,..
it;s your call,but if you feel it's best,feel free to remove,block this thread I created as I don;t want this thread or I to be the cause of a disturbance,war ..as I want to help pursue ,spread the love of tickling,not impair,destroy it..

 

[MistressValerie1]

Ticklishcutie, I wasn't referring to you, since your posts were within the boundaries of fair criticism. I was principally addressing some people who joined in later with gratutitous TMF-vs.-TT remarks.

Regards,

 

[Dade]

The first moderator to receive the report happened to be HDS. I have known Ness, HDS, and TT for a long time, and I can assure you that they are completely fair and impartial, regardless of whether they are dealing with friends or foes.

It would be best for all of us to resolve our differences more constructively.

Regards,

Right on all counts Mistress Val!


~D

 

[Ghost_Host_9991]

Jerry's first rule of Human Psychology:

No matter how obscure or esoteric a group of people are, they will still find a way to divide themselves along one line or another.

 

[alchemy1]

Basically, human traits are the same everywhere. I don't want this to sound like "As Confucius say," but under the sky, under the heavens, there is but one family.

Bruce Lee

(sorry, I couldn't resist)

 

[ronlasvegas]

WARNING! Severe- very dry humor-read message with water

I am lovin this thread!!! I never post but I had to say Melissa's thread had me rollin where she was talking about the TMF subject matter.I agree they are a little off the wall with subject matter. Laurie, you are doing the right thing by stepping away and handling you business!! By taking care of yourself and then coming back to the scene, like a box of laundry detergent-----"new and improved lemony smell" :tounge: Lots of Lovin for you here at the TTC!! I am sure there also some lovin for you at the TMF.Hey look at it this way. IF you were profilled on "Americas Most Wanted" would you really want to be mentioned in a thread?

I will settle the arguement on the hippest site and it is:http://bruce lee words to live by.com
Heres a freebie--"I will step on David Carridine like a Grasshopper"
--Bruce Lee talking to his agent

Finally, I propose the end all be all of showdowns!! TMF vs. TTC Fear Factor style 😎 Brb I will call Joe Rogan and pitch the idea 😎

TT4F<<<<<has 5(thats right 5) vids 4 sale that I will part for $90 email for the names

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

This thread is becoming way too heated and personal, so I must caution everyone to refrain from name-calling or trolling just to provoke an angry response.

THANK-YOU!

Ya know, folks... We don't have to agree on every little topic in order to at least show one another a little respect or courtesy. Many of those I'm friends with are people with whom I strongly disagree on some topics. We simply agree to disagree and not dwell on those things. I find that it's much more effective than badmouthing everyone. I also find it helpful to learn more about people. After all, there's more to us than our common love of tickling. Getting to truly know and come to understand one another is what forms true community and friendships.

I invite and encourage others to try it. Who knows? You may find you like the online community in general more once you do. Being friends with clones of yourself is sooo boring. I know. I've tried. :tounge:

Just a thought.

Ann

 

[Melissa83]

WHATEVEA!!!! If you all wanna experience peace, love and woodstock be my guest! Ill be the obedient doggie and not make any trouble. As long as I can download clips and read stories im happy. Believe me I dont give a frogs fat ass about any of the subject matter mentioned here anyway...sorry!

 

[naveltkltr1350]

WHATEVEA!!!! If you all wanna experience peace, love and woodstock be my guest! Ill be the obedient doggie and not make any trouble. As long as I can download clips and read stories im happy. Believe me I dont give a frogs fat ass about any of the subject matter mentioned here anyway...sorry!

Obviously, you do or you wouldnt have posted then.

 

[BigNorm]

Hello ..this is indeed a sad day as I report that I have returned from attending Nest and I had a great time meeting everyone,spending time and enjoying tickling fun..
Yet this was my First Nest and may be my last Nest,possibly even my last Gathering as I was thinking I had real friends that cared,enjoyed my company and those friends knew I am special in a number of ways..
I have been reading through the posts in regards to Nest,and I was there yet I see no posts saying that others enjoyed my company so I am wondering if I really was in a room with others who enjoyed my presence or rather if some people wished I wasn;t there at all..People say going to nest is being a part of a family where all are accepted,loved,I sure don;t feel loved right now....
It has got now to the point where I am feeling ignored and my habit of posting regularly on TMF may suffer as well..

ya, seems the TMF is going under and TT is their Ark. been stuck here in TT for almost a year, leaving some friends at TMF. i love how you can directly post stuff in these forums, making it sooo much easier.

if you didn't know this already, i was Master Cartman in the TMF, and i remember you well, cutie, from the chat room.

 

[ticklishcutie39]

ya, seems the TMF is going under and TT is their Ark. been stuck here in TT for almost a year, leaving some friends at TMF. i love how you can directly post stuff in these forums, making it sooo much easier.

if you didn't know this already, i was Master Cartman in the TMF, and i remember you well, cutie, from the chat room.

Thank you Bignorm but I am not sure your aware my name on TMF is "tickleshotel" ..there is someone I don;t know who has the name ticklishcutie,just to let you know..that's not me..
Whenever I am on TMF,I am tickleshotel ....I come to TTT as ticklishcutie39 and for those that might like my email address to correspond,PM me here 🙂

 

[Melissa83]

This thread IS becoming way too personal. Someone alerted me to Navelticklrs response to me not caring about this whinny thread. In reference to his comments I say thank you for your response sir. I look forward to hearing your opinions on my posts in the future. Please keep in touch!

Was that good? Im trying my best. As I said im here for:
1. Video Clips
2. Stories

If you guys wanna sing Micheal Bolton songs to each other I hope you have a good time all I ask is to leave me out of it please.

 

[naveltkltr1350]

This thread IS becoming way too personal. Someone alerted me to Navelticklrs response to me not caring about this whinny thread. In reference to his comments I say thank you for your response sir. I look forward to hearing your opinions on my posts in the future. Please keep in touch!

Was that good? Im trying my best. As I said im here for:
1. Video Clips
2. Stories

If you guys wanna sing Micheal Bolton songs to each other I hope you have a good time all I ask is to leave me out of it please.

Youre welcome! I will be keepin in touch. If you need anything just let me know! Glad I could make a new friend here. 😀 Now..after all the sarcasm..you kinda just contridicted yourself..by saying you dont care..that you are only here for 1. video clips and 2. stories..yet you cared enough to post in the General Discussion forum. Well, I do hope to see you around melissa. I think we can become great friends. :happy:

 

[Melissa83]

Look what the hell do you want from me? I just dont wanna get my ass kicked off here alright?

 

[His Divine Shadow]

Yeah well I posted about a slut who gives out her personal info on the TMF a while ago but a mod on this site who frequents the TMF (cough! cough! corrupt!!!) erased it so I guess its a taboo subject. Boy she does know her men doesnt she? Anyway like one poster said, people are here to get clips and stories mainly. The TMF is like a bad episode of that show Gilmore Girls where everyone thinks they know everything about everything and talk about every subject known to mankind. I mean you can read about people as far ranging as Charles Manson (one guy wanted to elect him president complete with photo no joke!) to Pope John Paul II. I mean do you really come on a tickling site to talk about the Pope? Wouldnt you rather have the some Howard Stern tickling clips? I know I would! Oh and TMF even has a "Silly Stuff Forum" and if you read it you will see that it truly earns its name indeed! They should actually call it "The Retard Thread!" Words can't describe it, you just have to see it to believe it. Thats why this is a rare post from me cuz I want to read "That Mouthy Teacher Pt. 2" not make a social statement about how good friends we all are. Were not friends, not even close. Thats reality.

A note on that particular incident, apologies on the late response. I noticed those posts before I recieved any report and removed them because they were intentionally rude. The rules state that we take the "Be Polite" rule seriously, and we do. Personal attacks on any member, regardless of status, where they frequent, or any other factor will not be tolerated. Whether or not a member truly believes that another is a slut (Or any other rude title), the fact remains that it is a flagrent violation of the "Be Polite" rule and will thus be removed. Such is the story of those posts that I deleted.

Oh, and the corrupt factor. I frequent nearly every major tickling forum, from the TMF to here to the ATF. I am active at every one I visit and know a great many people at each one. If someone is being rude to someone I happen to know from another forum, I will delete the rudeness. If someone is being rude to another member whom I do not know, I will delete that rudeness. Favoritism is not something I practice or ever intend to practice. No one is above or below the rules, from the newest member to the moderators, and no one recieves special attention or protection for any reason. Should any member ever have an issue with a moderator's conduct, they are free to take it up with our admin, TT. I can assure you that he would swiftly remove any member of the Staff acting improperly.

Should you have any further questions, feel free to contact me or any other moderator/admin by PM so as not to drag this thread off-topic again. Or, if you like, post a thread in the "Site Feedback" section.

Ciaos,
HDS

 

[ticklingfeet4fu]

I have not been reading up on NEST because I have been busy trying to get my head back into real life. I must say Laurie it is a real disappointment to read this stuff. You were not the only one there. I am sure nobody mentioned my name. If they have fine. If they haven't then so be it. NEST is about having fun and enjoying yourself and making new friends. I am surprised that a 39 year old lady feels the need to have people talk about her glowingly when it should come from inside yourself. I tickled 3 ladies the entire time I was there. That is it. I mingled with everyone else. I spoke with Josie and Jan and others. I am sorry you feel slighted in anyway but I believe you should not ask for respect or any validation for a friend to be a friend. It is very unfortunate you feel slighted but it is only you yourself who makes yourself feel slighted. I wish I had more time with you as a friend but I was trying to get to know people I have never spoke to before. I think you are a nice lady but to trash the TMF or any forum( and that is what you have done just look at the title) is just plain selfish and wrong. That is just my opinion.

 

[ticklekitten]

I often feel as a female British Lee that it is a waste of my time posting on there cos it really does feel to me that unless you are called Steph or Kitten, as a female you are totally wasting your time there. JMO

(and that is in no way a detrimental comment to them as they are both lovely lasses it's just an observation),

I appreciate the compliment ticklemad but I wish others around here were so kind. I'm a real person with real feelings and I have an awesome life outside of websites and forums. Just so clarify I am SOOO not a slut (I'd be much more sexually satisfied if I were 😀 ) and there are DAMN few people out there who have my phone number... although I wish a lot of people knew me better, I consider myself a pretty great person.

Anyhow Laurie, don't take offense to what was said in threads on the TMF. If you noticed not a whole lot of names are mentioned... mine just happens to be because I'm pretty loud and talkative and it's hard to miss me. It's a blessing and a curse. I hope you had a really wonderful time as you previously said and please don't take it out on the TMF. We all enjoyed your company there.

 

[nessonite1]

I thought I deleted those posts, HDS? Ah well...maybe I didn't.
Anyway...HDS is certainly NOT corrupt in any way, shape, or form. He's a damn good mod any of us would have done the same thing. We're all for free speech but there IS a line and random bashing of someone who may not even be a member here in a thread where it was unprovoked and unsolicited definately crosses it.
I can't believe this thread is even going on still. As I recall the OP has settled it and, while some people are a bit too fanatical in their forum loyalties, most of us agree that things are what they are and it's all good. So don't sweat it anymore anyone. Just let it drop and let's get on with life, eh?

 

[MistressValerie1]

Hi, Ticklkitten; welcome to the TTC, and thank you for your kind comments to Laurie. We hope that you will enjoy participating here 🙂

 

[BigNorm]

Thank you Bignorm but I am not sure your aware my name on TMF is "tickleshotel" ..there is someone I don;t know who has the name ticklishcutie,just to let you know..that's not me..
Whenever I am on TMF,I am tickleshotel ....I come to TTT as ticklishcutie39 and for those that might like my email address to correspond,PM me here 🙂

ok, sorry for the mix up, kinda assumed, since it was rare you had the same name.

 

[outspacer11]

Ok, I'm going to jump out on a limb here - you've attended NEST and are worried about whether people will get back to you? Sounds like:
1. You're one of those very hot girls who insists on hearing about their hotness every 3 seconds and thinks there's something going wrong if they don't;
2. People don't appear to dislike you, but you've managed to create five pages of discussion on the subject - good going!
3. In any social group with more than 20 members, where some of those have been involved on a longer term basis, there will inevitably be some kind of inner circle and outer circle, and if you join up late you simply have to be prepared to be in the outer circle for a while. This can change.
4. I don't know you but judging by the name, if I was in your area I would TICKLE THE ABSOLUTE HELL OUT OF YOU given half a chance.
I hope this helps; if not, the offer to tickle you to death should you ever set foot in the South Pacific remains firm.

 

[outspacer11]

Btw, Melissa:
Cause this is more than love I feel inside
Said I loved you but I was wrong
‘Cause love could never ever feel so strong
Said I loved you but I lied

Happy now?

 

[outspacer11]

(you say people are willing to quote Michael Bolton lyrics?)

 

[ticklishcutie39]

I have not been reading up on NEST because I have been busy trying to get my head back into real life. I must say Laurie it is a real disappointment to read this stuff. You were not the only one there. I am sure nobody mentioned my name. If they have fine. If they haven't then so be it. NEST is about having fun and enjoying yourself and making new friends. I am surprised that a 39 year old lady feels the need to have people talk about her glowingly when it should come from inside yourself. I tickled 3 ladies the entire time I was there. That is it. I mingled with everyone else. I spoke with Josie and Jan and others. I am sorry you feel slighted in anyway but I believe you should not ask for respect or any validation for a friend to be a friend. It is very unfortunate you feel slighted but it is only you yourself who makes yourself feel slighted. I wish I had more time with you as a friend but I was trying to get to know people I have never spoke to before. I think you are a nice lady but to trash the TMF or any forum( and that is what you have done just look at the title) is just plain selfish and wrong. That is just my opinion.

Ticklingfeet4fun,thank for contributing to this thread with your observations,opinion..😉
Just so people can move on and put this thread to rest and participate in new threads , after having some quite lengthy phone conversations with people that I value their friendship,advice,wisdom that I am feeling much better and as ticklingfeet4fun stated that it is only me that has been doing this to myself feeling slighted as being a friend isn;t about complimenting that person..In my mind,friendship is truly about sharing experiences whether good or bad,and relating to one another ,being there for that person when they need a smile to lift their spirits,a shoulder to cry on when they are down,and also being there when things are going well,being willing,ready and able to share your time when the person wants to just talk on the phone..
As I believe I have said before,I admit to thinking only of myself when I created this thread,and not thinking of the others it could hurt and the consequences of my actions..I deeply apologize to the TMF or/and the people that frequent there as I didn;t mean to trash,demean,offend,TMF or any of the users there..I am hoping by saying I know I was acting wrong that others if they can to forgive me..