If you had the chance, would you....

[TicklishHope]

We all have had atleast one relationship with somone.. whether it be man, woman.. (maybe even a combo of both, kiddinglol) that ended badly or suddenly.. even though you might not have understood why... If you had one chance to go back now and try again with that person, would you.. or would you not? The reason I ask is.. There was a time in my life when I didn't want to end a relationship with a man I was very much in love with. But due to my actions and what not, he ended it with me and didn't talk to me again after. Well for a few years I would lay in bed at night and wonder and fantasized what could have been... Well a few months ago.. I got the chance to go on another date with him, and I thought he was an asshole.. Totaly opposite of what I saw in him when I was younger. I am thankful that I got the chance to find out. It may not have been what I had hoped for night after night when I thought about it.. But atleast I know that our break up was inevitable and that it hadn't been my one chance for true love.

Again, my question is:
If you had a chance to rekindle a past love thats demise has left you wondering, would you or would you not?

 

[Bugman]

Yes i would,in a heartbeat...but its never going to happen.

 

[SamuelKhan]

Hope, I would move on, because there are some good men out there that will treat you better.

You deserve a good relationship!

 

[Deleted member 66627]

No. There is a reason why it ended. And that is that. I would occasionally wonder "What If..", But that would be the extent of it.

 

[fttickler]

There are 4 ladies ....

That were in my life that if I had the chance to do over I would. Of course this was all in NY yrs ago. What I do know is ones of them who is the nicest person on the planet now has MS sooo back she is confined to a wheelchair and her hubby is a jackass.. and she does nto deserve that. Another was was someone who while dating 2 people.. lets face it.. I picked the wrong one. THird I have recently came into contact with again, she is married living in NC. We just never had enough time to discover each other...( though I did get to tickle her alot ) and the 4 again.. someone I never had enough time before she moved away .. older... let me try out my fetish....but again.. she moved..

 

[RobAce]

My current situation....my ex-wife.....
No I would not. I already went through my heart and mind thousands of times to see what things I did wrong, and even I fixed those she would never change. She would have been as abusive, deceitful, and thoughtless no matter what I changed.

There is one however, that I would go back for. Things were fine, but when I started dating my ex-wife I cut off all ties with her, at request of the ex-wife.
I should not have. I should have stayed in contact with her.
She IS the one that got away.

Rob

 

[Ayla ny]

Things always look better in “Would have/Should have” Land. If you honestly apply some real-life scenarios, most of those show their true break-up reasons.

 

[Capnmad]

Nope, not a chance. My relationships tend to simply wane or fade, and we usually stay friends. Those who make decisions that render them untrustworthy or relations unfriendly are gone for good reason, and there's no reason to wish to renew things when what once seemed worthwhile is gone.

 

[Dussicar]

All my old relationships were fast, hard, and self-destructive.

Renewing them would kill me.

 

[archmagusblue]

No, I wouldn't. It was fun for the time in which it lasted, but she fell out of love with me and I wouldn't want to try to work my way back into her life after she's made her choice. I wish her all the happiness in the world, but she's moved on and so have I.

 

[dskodj]

No! No! and No! made the mistake once..never again..

 

[tcklft]

Nope. Why waste time on a dead relationship? Life's too dang short as it is....

 

[Noeyes]

a lot depends on the lost love

me personally I would love to re kindle a few old relationships, others not a chance in hell. i have some scary ex lovers in my past. so the best advise I can offer is carefuly consider what you want and what you hope to acheive.Then decide what you realy want
Noeyes

 

[ChristyL]

Hell No!!!!....revisiting the past only makes you remember why the relationship ended in the first place, time may heel all wounds but it sure doesn't cure asshole.
Christy

 

[Ticklemmmeeeeee]

Yes I definitely would...one of the saddest things on earth is a relationship that ends while those within it are still in love.

There are more reasons for a relationship ending than lack of desire to be together! Situational circumstances cause relationships to end when there is still great love between the two people involved.

That as backdrop and since we are hallucinating, I would go back only if the situations that caused us to have to break up were different, which they are not.

I would have loved to have remained friends though, I miss him as a friend most of all.

~tm

 

[Bizkit]

There are a couple girls I would love to get back together with.Looking back on it now I really made poor choices and basically had everything I could ever want in a partner and let it slip through my fingers.You live and learn but sometimes you learn the hard way.

 

[Bel]

Yes i would do it right away if i could my ex gf was wonderful. But for reasons i wont go into the relationship ended but we are great friends now.

 

[kis123]

Hell No!!!!....revisiting the past only makes you remember why the relationship ended in the first place, time may heel all wounds but it sure doesn't cure asshole.
Christy

Amen sista'!!!!

I'm the type of person who works the relationship until there's nothing left, usually ending in getting left. I went back to my son's father twice (the second time ended up in getting pregnant). I went back to my ex about three times after separating from him only to end up so depressed I was nearly suicidal.

I started to evaluate why my relationships were so horrible and ended up in the mirror. I won't allow myself to be abused and disrespected in a relationship ever again and will leave before a let another man grind me into the ground!

 

[Lord Doctor]

No. Not exactly. I wish I could go back and not miss a few chances I had at starting a relationship with, well, with one lass at the moment. Like someone you really like and for some reason you miss the signal so to speak and the chance is gone. Those moments I would love to revisit, but not a messed up relationship.

 

[TKpervert]

Yes I would. There's one relationship that I screwed up because of stupidity, and two more that I had a good chance to kindle but just didn't.

 

[Strider]

Sort of. There's two that I would consider doing that with, one has maybe a 50/50 chance of happening again, the other has a somewhat higher probability.

In both cases though, it wouldn't be the same relationship as it once was. It'd be a case of the people we evovled into having another relationship, not restarting the previous one.