Yes, Helena, you are a monster. Will you marry me?
060315 TMF Tickling Discussion I’m feeling like a monster
Helena said:
I thought that I was a submissive lee that liked to receive a really harsh tickling.
I have developed a sadistic streak, and really get off on watching other people get tickled insanely, and if I know they hate it, I love to watch it happen. There was a clip on here recently that was called "Another Massacre" with duct tape, bondage, and 2 ticklers attacking baby oiled feet. I loved that.
I recently witnessed someone being tickled, and I watched it happen and loved viewing it. This person is not into tickling, and she screamed alot, and I really got off on her suffering. Am I a freak?
I would like to hear from someone who will tell me the truth. I am not used to these feelings. I feel so hot thinking about that.
I know someone else already proposed to you on this thread, but I just wanted to let you know I was kidding about saying you are a monster.
The things you described would be powerful turn ons for me. Reading posts from Kis123 and others reminds me of how important it is to exercise care in tickling and to be aware of the risks. It might be a wild rush to watch someone getting tickled, but the aftermath could certainly spoil it completely. I enjoy the safety of watching video clips where the responsibility and risks are someone else's.
A fun tickling among friends, even if it is non-consensual, might end well if it is within reason and the respect, friendship and trust among the people involved is strong. The birthday tickling seems to be an example of that. In the final analysis, there is consensual non-consent, and nonconsensual non-consent. If there is real non-consent, as Kis123 indicated, it can end up very badly.
I remember a roommate of mind from college told me of a time he came down to talk to his friend who was working in the study room of the dorm. They talked for a couple of minutes, then my roommate pinned his friend in against the desk where he was sitting and tickled him from behind. All he had to do was lean against his chair preventing him from getting up. His friend laughed and screamed and struggled to escape, and the others in the room, males and females, all laughed in open enjoyment. He tickled him for about 30 seconds, then stopped and gave him a break. After his friend got all settled down, he tickled him for another 30 seconds. The others present all laughed, again.
That tickling was non-consensual, but it was between friends, and it didn’t extend beyond a reasonable time. Everyone present enjoyed it, and they remained friends. So, even though it was non-consensual, it was consensual non-consent.
I think the potential for truly monstrous behavior is common to the human condition. History is full of examples of terribly cruel behavior. Maybe the popularity of slapstick comedy stems from widely shared sadistic impulses.
I know that tickling can be very abusive when misused. Still, seeing someone tickled, within reason, without their expecting it or giving their consent, can be a powerful turn-on for a lot of people. I don’t think that makes anyone a monster, but there is cause for caution in how we act on our impulses, as Drew70 and others have said in this thread.
Fred46