"I'm too ticklish" - bullshit or not?

[ViperGTS]

I know better than to have extended conversations about tickling while at work, but it came up in conversation yesterday. One of my (very cute, btw) female coworkers said that her boyfriend is "not allowed" to tickle her because she is "too ticklish."

Now, the concept of being "not allowed" to tickle someone on those grounds is absolutely fucking ridiculous to me, but that is not my question.

I want to ask the forum, is there such a thing as "too ticklish"?

What are your opinions?

 

[TMF Jeff]

There's no such thing as too ticklish. Ticklishness is an opportunity to control someone and get inside their head, and from my point of view, girls can never be too open to that.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

I have several spots that I consider too ticklish, and prefer they were
never touched. Sometimes it's just too intense for us 'lees! I don't think
a 'ler-only could really understand that, though. Most 'lers think, the more
ticklish, the better. No matter how great a reaction I give, sometimes it's
pure hell. But the masochist in me loves that. So it's sort of a catch-22.

 

[-Hari-]

You cant be too ticklish, being VERY ticklish just requires less effort and alot more empathy from the ler. if the person is ticklish and doesnt like it than it matters not how ticklish they are...they will never enjoy it. So really her boyfriend cant tickle her because she doesnt like it... not because shes "too ticklish" ..aww, people say the silliest things sometimes 🙂

 

[Vae]

In most cases, I find this claim to be overexaggerated or for people who just don't like to be tickled. Not wanting to be tickled is fine, but for the majority of people, I don't tend to believe it myself.

However, I have met people who have claimed this, and when they are tickled, it's painful. There isn't any laughter, but writhing as if they are being inflicted with pain. Those people are "too ticklish" because the sensation just does weird thing. Those of the types of people I won't mess with.

 

[tickledorange]

Most people who say they are too ticklish end up not being ticklish at all.

 

[Artoo]

Yeah, people can be "too ticklish", but by their own standards, by which they mean they really don't like to be tickled.

 

[BellaRisa]

Y'know, I don't think there's a right answer to this. On the one hand I agree, usually it just means they've been tickled annoyingly and don't know what people like us are talking about Now having said that, I've met a person or two for whom tickling sent a truly unpleasant sensation through them, kinda the way I am about people dragging their fingers across a balloon or rubbing cardboard edges together (AAAAGGGGHHHH). For a person like that it IS too intense and the fact that some Ler thinks he can magically make it good for them because he's sooooo skilled always makes me wanna beat them with a stick from the Ego tree

 

[Cy/MiG]

I want to ask the forum, is there such a thing as "too ticklish"?

What are your opinions?

No there is not.

Tickling is just as, if not more mental than physical.

Being 'too ticklish' is all in someone's head, IMO.

Of course, we all have 'breaking points'.

 

[BellaRisa]

Hmm...

Ever notice that in these conversations, Ler-only types insist it's baloney while 'lees and switches think it's at least a possibility?

 

[Cosmo_ac]

yes, a person can indeed be too ticklish. This is one of those area's where self control and respect for others comes into play. Some of these people, as mentioned by a few of the ladies here, find tickling to be an almost painful experience. For others, they simply detest being tickled and advoid it when possible, and i'm sure by their opinions, they feel they are too ticklish a well.

 

[The Last Laugh]

Most people who say they are too ticklish end up not being ticklish at all.

Amen to that! You have no idea how often something like that has happened during video shoots. Models who claim they are extremely ticklish but turn out to be moderately so or to be "tickling duds".

Of course, it's not necessarily their fault. The circumstances of a video shoot are very different from those of a typical everyday surprise tickle attack by a friend, boyfriend, etc. There are many psychological factors that can influence ticklishness, often in a negative way. So they can't know in advance how they'll react when being tickled in front of a camcorder, with the producer present, in restraint, with some level of performance anxiety, without most of the surprise element found in most tickling situations, etc. But it doesn't mean that it's any less disappointing and frustrating.

One positive aspect of a number of shoots is that in many cases, the models find out that they can actually take a lot more tickling than they thought. They have a hard time believing that they can endure even a minute of it, though they're willing to give it a try. But then they realize that several minutes of shooting have gone by, and while it wasn't easy by any means, it wasn't quite as awful as they feared. Thing is, in a more typical tickling situation, the person isn't restrained and doesn't have much reason to allow the tickling to go on for very long. They get away and make it stop. So they often don't have the experience of being tickled for a long time and don't know how much they can take. But when doing a video shoot, unable to escape and knowing that being tickled is part of the job they're being paid for, thus giving them a much better reason to tough it up, they don't have much of a choice but to let it happen for at least a few minutes at a time. That's when they realize that while it's an intense ordeal, it's still tolerable.

It's interesting to note that each person has a different level of stamina that isn't always inversely proportional to his/her actual ticklishness. An extremely ticklish person who goes totally nuts might actually be able to take more tickling than a moderately ticklish person, who just doesn't know how to handle the sensation. Personality has a lot to do with it.

So anyway, going back to the original question of this thread, I believe that "I'm too ticklish" is often (but not always) an exaggeration. If extremely ticklish people can take it willingly, there's little reason why most people can't do it too.

 

[taz_tickler]

As has been stated in some prior posts, it depends on the lee and what kind of sensations he or she is experiencing. As a lee,there have been times when I have not been able to lay there and endure but if I'm restrained, I still love the sensations. As a ler, I try to be in tune to my lee's responses. If the response is uncontrollable laghter and squirming with no looks of distress or pleads for mercy, I'll continue. But at the first sign of either, I give a break. As I"ve said before, its all about fun and pleasure for both sides. It's never about control or dominance for me. I place a high value on trust.....I would not agree to be restained by someone I did not have a mutual bond and trust with so I would not risk violating my lee's trust in me.

 

[Vae]

Ever notice that in these conversations, Ler-only types insist it's baloney while 'lees and switches think it's at least a possibility?

This may make me sound like an asshole, but I believe that most true 'lers have no concept of what it's like to be the 'lee, unless they're a switch (which in my mind, doesn't make them a true 'ler). To them, "too ticklish" are just the words they want to hear and if they're the tormenting type, this is just fuel to fire. Being a 'lee, it bothers me to see this kind of attitude because it seems completely disrespectful of the 'lees wishes, making it an unpleasant experience and unfun. In other words, it becomes all about the 'lers desires and 'lee just becomes a giggle machine.

Then again, I'm against non-cons and I think having a safeword is a sign of respect. 😉

I understand that some 'lees are into the whole torture aspect, and that's cool and fine, but if someone says they're "too ticklish," either bring up the idea that they haven't experienced it right before or leave them alone.

/endrant

(These are just my over-the-top opinions. You're welcomed to disagree, but I'm pretty stubborn with my opinions. 😉)

 

[the wiz]

I usually hear that excuse from ladies who don't like to be tickled.

 

[ViperGTS]

if someone says they're "too ticklish," either bring up the idea that they haven't experienced it right before or leave them alone.

QFE.

 

[Mitchell]

I personally haven't ever encountered anyone in my life who has fit this description. That having been said.

A while back, I had posted about a random tickling conversation I had with the girl who used to cut my hair. She mentioned to me how her beautiful 20-something daughter (Who I at one point was interested in, before the daughter got married) doesnt allow anyone, not even her current husband, to touch her feet, because, the daughter is supposely "Too ticklish" on her feet. I was surprised to hear this, and it had been one of the first times I had ever heard something like this.

In all honestly, I dont know. I think there are probably just some people who absolutely hate to be tickled, who think they fit this description, or want others to think they fit the description, so that people wont tickle them. As for physically, "Too ticklish" to be tickled, my answer is I'm really not sure.

Mitch

 

[Tckleme]

Yeah, people can be "too ticklish", but by their own standards, by which they mean they really don't like to be tickled.

Agreed.

 

[milagros317]

I believe it is possible for somebody to be so sensitive that they can not stand even light tickling, it is painful for them.

Fortunately, I'm not one of those people. 😀

 

[cabalist]

Ever notice that in these conversations, Ler-only types insist it's baloney while 'lees and switches think it's at least a possibility?

I disagree. At least as a generality, I know that doesn't apply to myself. In fact, having given this issue some thought myself recently before this thread appeared, I think it may be largely because I may be "too ticklish" that I prefer "lering" someone with a higher tolerance threshold for it than myself.

In fact, I've agreed to "lee" for my "switch" fiancée, and even have a LONG video segment on VHS of being thus at her mercy, and although I still can't watch it without laughing out loud at my desperate if futile attempts at escape, I'll also never forget that I was in SHEER HELL the entire time and can't say that I particularly enjoyed it at all. 🙂 But since she apparently enjoys this form of torture in a way I don't think that I ever could myself, it seems to work out better (at least from my point of view) for me to be the 'ler' and she the 'lee.'

So I agree with a couple others here who have suggested that, as clearly a form of torture, it can be essentially indistinguishable from pain in terms of the amount of suffering it can cause some to experience. In fact, a couple previous girlfriends of mine were "subs" who very much seemed to enjoy pain, much more than I'd find any enjoyment in experiencing myself. So I say that those who claim that it isn't possible to be "too ticklish" are simply full of it. I'd like to see if they would like to demonstrate that there's no such thing as "too much" pain, as there's essentially no difference in principle. 😉

On more careful rereading, I guess this actually doesn't contradict what you said, as having once "switched" I guess this does technically qualify make me a "switch." 🙂 But I guess my point is that it may be largely because of my own intolerance for it that I feel "more suited" as a "ler", which may well be true for some others as well.

 

[BellaRisa]

I disagree. At least as a generality, I know that doesn't apply to myself. In fact, having given this issue some thought myself recently before this thread appeared, I think it may be largely because I may be "too ticklish" that I prefer "lering" someone with a higher tolerance threshold for it than myself.

In fact, I've agreed to "lee" for my "switch" fiancée, and even have a LONG video segment on VHS of being thus at her mercy, and although I still can't watch it without laughing out loud at my desperate if futile attempts at escape, I'll also never forget that I was in SHEER HELL the entire time and can't say that I particularly enjoyed it at all. 🙂 But since she apparently enjoys this form of torture in a way I don't think that I ever could myself, it seems to work out better (at least from my point of view) for me to be the 'ler' and she the 'lee.'

So I agree with a couple others here who have suggested that, as clearly a form of torture, it can be essentially indistinguishable from pain in terms of the amount of suffering it can cause some to experience. In fact, a couple previous girlfriends of mine were "subs" who very much seemed to enjoy pain, much more than I'd find any enjoyment in experiencing myself. So I say that those who claim that it isn't possible to be "too ticklish" are simply full of it. I'd like to see if they would like to demonstrate that there's no such thing as "too much" pain, as there's essentially no difference in principle. 😉

On more careful rereading, I guess this actually doesn't contradict what you said, as having once "switched" I guess this does technically qualify make me a "switch." 🙂 But I guess my point is that it may be largely because of my own intolerance for it that I feel "more suited" as a "ler", which may well be true for some others as well.

Um...alrighty then 😉

 

[cabalist]

Um...alrighty then 😉

Ah, sweet catharsis. 😉

 

[4Pawz]

I think it's possible. Certain parts of me are ticklish to the point it actually hurts if anyone tickles them. I consider that too ticklish.

 

[cabalist]

While it may or may not be an obvious observation, while I have no scientific documentation for it offhand, as I've long heard that females typically have a higher tolerance to pain than males (to enable them to endure the pain of childbirth), given my own and others' comparison of tickling to pain, could this be a factor in the seemingly greater "popularity" of the M/F "orientation"? That is, that we males, on average, simply "can't take it"? 😀

(Of course, God or somebody forbid this be taken as an apology or excuse for true physical abuse.)

[Edit: Oops. Had to change 'F/M' to 'M/F' above. That's what I get for trying to write a post while busy doing something else.]

 

[Vae]

I don't think the tolerance of pain has squat to do with it. Just because women give birth by no means that have a high pain tolerance. Ask many women who have given birth -- they'll love to tell you how freakin' awful it was. Myself, I have no pain tolerance. I cry at paper cuts, but can be relentlessly tickled. I think it all has to deal with the individual and how they interpret tickling.

Also, as far the M/F orientation, I believe that has entirely to do with gender roles. Men in control, women as submissive. As much as I'm a femininist and say, yea, tickle the dudes, I still have issues with F/M scenes or M/M. I enjoy the dominant male; it's attractive to me. I also enjoy the dominant female, which is why I like F/F scenes. But to have a man switched into such a vulnerable position, my mind reels against it. Maybe yours doesn't; that's great. But ultimately, those ancient gender roles are still very much alive in our sexual preferences even now.