Interracial Relationships What do you think of them?

[bulletbill57]

My two pennies

Hi,
Being a former soldier, I know a bunch of guys with wives named Kim (NOT as in Kimberly!), Soo, Suki, Sang and Miki! It's pretty much a personal decision as to who to date. Being German/Polish/Finnish, I like Blonde German/Slavic-looking girls myself, but if Shizuka Arakawa (That cute Japanese Olympic woman's figure skating gold medalist), Shakira, Tyra Banks, Halle Berry, or Vanessa Williams came up to me, took their shoes and socks off and wanted me to tickle their bare feet and make love to them, do you think I'd say no? If I did, everyone would question my sanity. Hell, I'D QUESTION MY SANITY!
Bulletbill57

 

[MrMacphisto]

I asked out a really nice Latina today, so we'll see if the interracial thing works out for us. I can't see much of a reason why it won't....

 

[Helena]

I'm a white girl, and when I was in high school, I was seriously dating someone who was Armenian. We worked at the same grocery store after school and that's how we met. We went to different high schools, but had friends in common at the store.

Anyway, I remember we were starting to seriously make out in his car (the front seat - just kissing) and I thought he was amazing. Right after we had made out for about half an hour he announced out of nowhere that his family wanted him to marry an Armenian woman.

I was not thinking about marriage at the age of 16, so I don't know why he said that right then. That comment made me feel like I wasn't the type of girl he could see himself with down the road. I did not tell him right then that he hurt my feelings because I was so thrown off my game.

When I met his family, I felt uncomfortable because his mother seemed to think that he was destined for greatness as a lawyer, and that he would leave me far behind in his triumph to gloryland.

The reason we broke up was because he thought that he would use me for a while just to kill some time, and I thought he was an ass for thinking that. He seriously made me feel like because I was white, I was beneath his standards. I have never told anyone about this until now, and it's been some time since high school.

 

[Babbles]

Pardon me for repeating the obvious.. at this hour.. when more likely to ramble...

Following another incredibly insightful post from Amnesiac...

Yes, people from the same country view others from different VILLAGES as "inferior," or "foreign," just as we here in the United States have viewed Northerns & Southerners, especially, as different species, regardless of color....

Warring tribes in Europe, Asia or Africa, each killing & enslaving the other, taking land & freedom from someone who looked quite similar but had a slightly different dialect,
until cross-continental death & destruction became easier, and the horrors were expanded.... So you're right, it's ANY difference that's viewed as threatening, OR as an excuse for some selfish bestial act....(I'll take you, or what's yours...) and if there's a visible difference, it's so much easier to misuse it.

---Even children will pick up on it.... Most children are innocent, especially the very young ones, and don't really think of visual differences until they're pointed out ----
(Maybe we should take alllllllll the kids under 3? 4? yrs. of age and raise them in UN Headquarters, or create another continent... Someone must've articulated that elsewhere.... Oh, yes, that popped up in Star Wars, the Jedi children training together from all over the various galaxies... )

but there are those in every group who, as they get a little older, will use any frikkin ammunition they can get their sticky little fingers on to attack anyone they find threatening (he's better looking, so I'll make fun of his red curly hair or his unusual name, or this one's smarter, so I'll make fun of her clothes or her big ears....)

Luckily some of that nasty immaturity is shed (after high school, too often...) but it does say something about human nature, that kindness is not always innate, and needs to be reinforced.

Which is why a thread like this does have purpose, actually --- Someone questioned it earlier, saying (paraphrasing),
"Oh, why bother, what racist will really reply to this thread honestly, etc., you're only gonna get the reactions which are P.C. of course...."

---but I learned that, just like gay parades & other publicity make homosexuality something more common, more open, more mainstream

(I used to think, so what? 🙄 What's the point? Live & let live, you don't need a parade for that, sexuality is private...
but I understood later, when a lesbian coworker was unable to discuss her "partner" openly, and certainly not appear at work with her much less hold hands)

--- that discrimination of any sort needs to be cleaned & aired out (these stupidities need to be discussed, exposed and made a casual, everyday topic) until all the ancient mold, grime, fear & misunderstanding is washed away (to indirectly fork off Amnesiac's imagery)

till it's perfectly acceptable to be with whoever the hell you want to be with, whereever...

The more exposure there is, the greater the chance the more tolerant perspectives will get equal air time, so the negative, fearful and biased perspectives aren't the only ones broadcasting, and those brought up in closed societies (or homes) will be more likely to stumble across more threads like these...