Interracial Relationships Your Thoughts

[TinyTickler]

Hey Tiny,

Perhaps you didn't give your family a chance to accept this woman until it was too late. 2 years is a pretty long time, why do you think you can never get her back? Is it because of your family? You also said you weren't ready to get married. Even if you were to get this woman back, do you think you would be ready now?

--T

i think that i made a lot of mistakes that hurt myself and the woman that i care about, and that the only thing i can do is ask for forgiveness for anything that i have done to hurt her more than i already have

 

[SlaverTickler]

What it really comes down to is...

...that she doesn't bother you during the big game, and that she's very ticklish. Everything els is just a bonus.

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[brianspencer66]

Wiz, I have to respectfully disagree with you.

As a black man, you know that there's a lot of truth to what Jean said. As a black woman who has dated and married white men, I get the same crap from people telling me I'm not black enough, or I act like I want to be white or something equally stupid. They have no idea who I am, but make the accusations anyway. Anyone around this forum knows that I'm black and I'm proud; we have issues within our race that definitely need resolution, but I'm a black woman who loves being exactly who and what she is. No shame in my game folks!!

I've heard it out of the mouths of too many black men that white women are better because they know how to treat a man, that they're great in bed and are more submissive than black women. Care to elaborate what that statement actually means or would you like me to do it? Do I believe it's true? Well, let's just say everyone has their issues with stereotypes in the world today. I think women have issues period, regardless of color and we'd need another forum to even begin to address them!

I will say that generally speaking, black women have a different experience and thay can make us appear tough at times. But with patience and the correct approach, we just want to be loved like anyone else. It's just a rockier journey to get there.

I personally feel if every man brought his "A" game to the table in relationships, we wouldn't have this crap going on! And the same goes for women too; there was a time I only blamed relationship issues on the men--I no longer do that because women can be just as big of a trip to live with these days.

It goes back to the old "house and field" mentality, and you know exactly what I mean. We were trained generations ago to make differences within our own race. My Grandmother was half Chockta indian and half Irish and they were treated substantially better than darker complected blacks. Unfortunately these stereotypes still exist today and, generally speaking, it causes us to hate each other and ourselves over something some bigoted idiot whispered in our ancestors' years centuries ago. Other races do have similar problems, but ours is the worst with it IMO.

We are the only race of people that run just about every end of the complexion spectrum; we should celebrate and not hate over it.

Sorry wiz I go along with her on this one too

 

[Hipnosis77]

Hello all

This is my thoughts on this topic.

One of the hardest things a person can do it is speak or act out of chacter and attemp to question or do different form what your Family, friends, culture perscribe for you. If it's your desire to marry this women do so. If she's willing walk by yourside in this, Well then....

My mothers parents(grandparents) where not happy about my parents marriage and acted like it was a huge social embarasment. Growing up I would hear stories about how my grandparents felt about Jewish people and "the blacks" and they where really ugly tales. But despite this I know my grandparents Loved me and only want the best for me.

J.

 

[kis123]

i think that i made a lot of mistakes that hurt myself and the woman that i care about, and that the only thing i can do is ask for forgiveness for anything that i have done to hurt her more than i already have

Unless this woman is married...

With all due respect, you need to grow some stones and go get the woman you love! If your family doesn't like it, know that you can make a family of your own with the woman you love and build a life of your own.

It will amaze you how interested your parents will get when the kids come. They learn how to adjust when grandchildren are coming. Familiar with Bruce Lee? His wife's mother referred to "yellow babies". His wife stopped any communication with her parents until her mother came humbly and wanted to meet her grandchildren.

Stay your course and love who you love. If your parents control you on this, they'll control you with everything else. You're a man; it's time you acted like one in this arena.

I wish you the best because I know how it feels to love someone that no one loves but you. I didn't care and went for it; I got a beautiful daughter out of it and my son got a real father from it. Good luck and well wishes!

 

[kis123]

Race...Gender...Sexual Orientation...How much money you make....nationality....it still staggers me that in this day and age society insists on finding ways to divide itself.

From your lips baby..........😱

 

[TinyTickler]

Hello all

This is my thoughts on this topic.

One of the hardest things a person can do it is speak or act out of chacter and attemp to question or do different form what your Family, friends, culture perscribe for you. If it's your desire to marry this women do so. If she's willing walk by yourside in this, Well then....

My mothers parents(grandparents) where not happy about my parents marriage and acted like it was a huge social embarasment. Growing up I would hear stories about how my grandparents felt about Jewish people and "the blacks" and they where really ugly tales. But despite this I know my grandparents Loved me and only want the best for me.

J.

i agree with everything you said i just dont know if she would take me back even if i begged her i dont think she would want me anymore

 

[TinyTickler]

Unless this woman is married...

With all due respect, you need to grow some stones and go get the woman you love! If your family doesn't like it, know that you can make a family of your own with the woman you love and build a life of your own.

It will amaze you how interested your parents will get when the kids come. They learn how to adjust when grandchildren are coming. Familiar with Bruce Lee? His wife's mother referred to "yellow babies". His wife stopped any communication with her parents until her mother came humbly and wanted to meet her grandchildren.

Stay your course and love who you love. If your parents control you on this, they'll control you with everything else. You're a man; it's time you acted like one in this arena.

I wish you the best because I know how it feels to love someone that no one loves but you. I didn't care and went for it; I got a beautiful daughter out of it and my son got a real father from it. Good luck and well wishes!

i do need to grow some stones i should have done more to not lose her but i was scared and if i would have done something early i would not be in this position, i agree with you on the grandkids part, and i need prayers to help me because if she hasnt already moved on it would take a miracle to get her back

 

[SlaverTickler]

My mothers parents(grandparents) where not happy about my parents marriage and acted like it was a huge social embarasment. Growing up I would hear stories about how my grandparents felt about Jewish people and "the blacks" and they where really ugly tales. But despite this I know my grandparents Loved me and only want the best for me.

J.

Well let me tell you Hip, I am glad you parents commited that "huge social embarasment" 'cause you were the result. Of course my parents created a huge social embaresment... ME... and they are both white christians so race really has nothing to do with it.

It's the greatist little mix up the world has ever seen. Me father he is Orange and me mother she is Green.

 

[Hipnosis77]

Thanks Guy. Good hearing from you.

J.

 

[kis123]

i do need to grow some stones i should have done more to not lose her but i was scared and if i would have done something early i would not be in this position, i agree with you on the grandkids part, and i need prayers to help me because if she hasnt already moved on it would take a miracle to get her back

Well, it's time you became a miracle maker my dear!!

I'm telling you what I discussed a young coworker today that want's to become the next Maya Angelou. I told her stop dreaming, make a plan, and follow through. If she's not married, all is fair in love and war.

Don't just sit there........do something for crying out loud!! The worst that happens is that you get closure and possibly a good friend. But what would happen if you actually pursued your dream and it worked out?? Have you thought about that?

 

[TinyTickler]

Well, it's time you became a miracle maker my dear!!

I'm telling you what I discussed a young coworker today that want's to become the next Maya Angelou. I told her stop dreaming, make a plan, and follow through. If she's not married, all is fair in love and war.

Don't just sit there........do something for crying out loud!! The worst that happens is that you get closure and possibly a good friend. But what would happen if you actually pursued your dream and it worked out?? Have you thought about that?

the only thing that i am scared of now is that she will not take me back if i was flat out honest and said i want you back and i will do anything to make you happy i would do it, its whether or not she will take me back and she has probably moved on to someone better

 

[Tomskee]

the only thing that i am scared of now is that she will not take me back if i was flat out honest and said i want you back and i will do anything to make you happy i would do it, its whether or not she will take me back and she has probably moved on to someone better

Young brother if you truly want her back, say exactly what you said above. If you don't do something, you will lose her for sure and hate yourself for not acting. Don't do that to yourself. It is much better to try your best and fail than not try at all and wonder what if. I realize you are stuck and you don't want to face rejection but son it has to be better than not knowing. You are intelligent and insightful, and you don't give yourself enough credit. I imagine it would be difficult for your girl to find someone much better.

Stay strong young soldier.

 

[TinyTickler]

Young brother if you truly want her back, say exactly what you said above. If you don't do something, you will lose her for sure and hate yourself for not acting. Don't do that to yourself. It is much better to try your best and fail than not try at all and wonder what if. I realize you are stuck and you don't want to face rejection but son it has to be better than not knowing. You are intelligent and insightful, and you don't give yourself enough credit. I imagine it would be difficult for your girl to find someone much better.

Stay strong young soldier.

i will try to get her back but i have to do something huge to really get this train going but i want to be happy and i want her to be happy and the only way i can do it is to drop a bomb on my entire family that i am in love with this woman who is black and i want to be with her, she makes me happy and she is all i think about, she is my other half but i am expected to do something that i might not be ready for, its not marriage thats not what i am talking about it is knowing that i have to make a decision that is so difficult for me to deal with that it breaks my heart to even think about it and i need to make my decision soon