I have never been in a mixed-race relationship. I dated a few black guys in college, but only once because they always seemed to be putting on some sort of "cool" persona, and seemed to assume that I was only dating them because I had come down with a case of jungle fever. You should've seen their jaws drop when I declined to sleep with them after one date.
My husband was in one before he met me. His GF was (according to him) beautiful, intelligent and funny, and a socialist with left-wing opinions that would make me look like Maniactickler. They broke up because she transfered from their American college to a university in Canada. No doubt, he says, she was taking the first step to becoming a Canadian citizen.
But she had an interesting theory about interracial couples. Why are there so many more black men-white women than the other way around? Because it's a status symbol for so many black men to have white women on their arms. The taboo, the old "those boys can't keep their hands off our women" crap gives black men the attitude that they're spitting in the eye of white racism.
There is no status for a white man to have a black woman with him. She said if a white man wants to climb the ladder in a white-collar career he better be self-employed or he better not have a woman of color (maybe Oriental is OK) as his partner. There's nothing "in your face" about a white man-black woman partnership, making the pairing far less desirable for the career-oriented white man.
My feeling is that all relationships have to be examined strictly on their own. If a couple is in love, then it's all good no matter what race each one is. If a couple is together for any reasons other than love, I see nothing but trouble ahead. Love is all that matters. My future inlaws did not understand what he saw in a girl who never wore shoes. We've been married 25 years. I still hate wearing shoes.
Love,
Jean