Introducing yourself via PM

[guysmiley]

Every once in a while I'll run across someone here who seems interesting but I hesitate to introduce myself through a PM because I don't know if it would be considered out of line or inappropriate for any reason.

Am I overthinking it or is it protocol to only PM someone who openly requests messages?

 

[LadyNerd]

There's not really a harm to PMing someone you think looks interesting through their profile or posts. Besides, the worst thing they can do is not answer you or tell you they're not interested in messaging.

 

[ISUmark]

meh. Ive been on this forum since it started with Psycho like 14 years ago when I was 16 and ive only tried PMing people twice. Mostly just people that I noticed were from my beautiful hometown of Chicago..but mostly people just dont respond. Either they have no interest in talking to people or they just assume your a creeper. Granted im sure there are plenty of guys on here that message girls crazy creepy shit like ZOMG where are you ticklish...but not everyone is like that..I guess just Pm someone that happens to catch your attention..be it through their attitude or somethin else, and give it a go. Worst case scenario they dont message you back.

 

[maniactickler]

Ive found more women wont respond to me than do respond. its a chance you have to take.

 

[asutickler]

Remember: All caps, limited grammar, poor spelling and a picture of your junk. These are the things that will make a stranger appreciate the HELL out of your private message. 🙂

 

[guysmiley]

Remember: All caps, limited grammar, poor spelling and a picture of your junk. These are the things that will make a stranger appreciate the HELL out of your private message. 🙂

Duly noted. I appreciate the advice, lol.

I appreciate everyone's input. I'm glad to know that a PM does not automatically make me a creep.

 

[ticklehound]

If someone thinks me a creep for saying 'hi' via PM, to hell with her... fuck it & move on

 

[rhiannon]

As long as you don't write anything like "Can you send me a picture of your feet?" or something similar to that, you should be fine. There's always a risk that someone won't answer, but hey, not a big deal. You don't really have anything to lose, so just write on! 🙂

 

[xX Yuna Xx]

Its better then sending a creepy public visitor message and embarrassing us poor lee's.. lol 😛

 

[robmic]

The ones that actually give a crap will usually check out your profile. If there's nothing there or minimal information, they may just pass you by. Or, if there is something creepy there they will run. Keep these things in mind when you set up your profile. A couple of nice pics and a vague description of where you call home is nice. I'd recommend that you never give a specific location of where you live, but it's nice if it's enough to give people an indication of the area where you're from so they know if you're close to them or near where they may travel. Also, if you just want to chat, let them know that, too. The ones that respond are interested, the ones that don't aren't! Don't push them.

 

[deadlywiffeathr]

Just be yourself when PM'ing and you can't go wrong 🙂 Unless you're a creep, then there's some issues lol. If you find someone interesting due to one of their posts, don't be afraid to mention that specifically in your message. I find I respond better to people who actually say something other than "hi, let's chat sometime" Try and make it interesting and worth a response. Comment on their username or something specific they've posted about (without seeming like a stalker!) It usually gets the best results.

 

[Raytheon]

 

[Cif]

I don't post too regularly but I have shared PMs with various forum members and also received them from people at times when I really appreciate their input and advice.

The worst PMs are from people who NEVER post or contribute to the Forum but expect people to chat away via PM... it speaks for itself, really, why people won't respond.

 

[TicklishRookie]

People PM me all the time. I don't think it's weird... I mean, some people say some pretty weird things... But if you introduce yourself and make an interesting but not creepy impression, it's usually welcomed in my book.

 

[Angel_2]

Its a hit and miss process to be honest, some reply some don't. As long as you present yourself in a normal non creep way everything should go smoothly.

 

[JoePTickle]

I agree with others - unsolicited PMs are fine. I've received several, most are just curious, a few have given me leads to tickle sessions. No obligation to reply, though I almost always do as long as it's personalized.

 

[Mitchell]

This is a topic I have a lot of experience with, so I think I can help you.

As I've posted in the past, I almost got myself banned from here some years ago, because I had the habit of asking girls questions about tickling and their feet in the first message, which got a lot of complaints to the mods.

Since then, I still pm, but I never ask any questions in the first message, other than maybe what got them interested in wanting to join the site, etc. I introduce myself, talk about my vanilla interests, and how I got into tickling. Doing that seems to work better.

Of course, there are plenty of times I dont get responses, but my view is nothing ventured, nothing gained. I'm not thinking people dont reply because they think I'm a jerk. I know that new girls get many messages on here, so it can either be they dont have time to reply, or dont feel I was the right fit for them to talk to is all.

I think there is no harm in introducing yourself. The worst that can happen as long as you dont ask questions before you know them, is they dont respond, and you just keep trying until someone does.

Mitch

 

[gentlefeather007]

This is a topic I have a lot of experience with, so I think I can help you.

As I've posted in the past, I almost got myself banned from here some years ago, because I had the habit of asking girls questions about tickling and their feet in the first message, which got a lot of complaints to the mods.

Since then, I still pm, but I never ask any questions in the first message, other than maybe what got them interested in wanting to join the site, etc. I introduce myself, talk about my vanilla interests, and how I got into tickling. Doing that seems to work better.

Of course, there are plenty of times I dont get responses, but my view is nothing ventured, nothing gained. I'm not thinking people dont reply because they think I'm a jerk. I know that new girls get many messages on here, so it can either be they dont have time to reply, or dont feel I was the right fit for them to talk to is all.

I think there is no harm in introducing yourself. The worst that can happen as long as you dont ask questions before you know them, is they dont respond, and you just keep trying until someone does.

Mitch

Follow this good advice, pm interesting people, be ambiguous at first and if you make a mistake learn from it like mitch did. Thanks for the post Mitch, give a helping hand when we can, you're a good man!!!

 

[tommytikl]

So sending a PM with a time and hotel information isn't a good idea? Hmmm, that may explain some things ;-)

 

[SmashTV]

I've PMd several people on here with mixed success - although it's always been in relation to something they've posted and never at random, some reply and some don't. Part of me thinks 'But I'm SUCH a nice guy, why won't they respond?', while the other part understands that maybe they just don't want to talk.

There's nothing wrong with at least trying, and if they don't respond it's not necessarily a reflection on you, they just might not want to talk - if so, just smile and move on. Hope that helps.

Cheers, everybody,
SmashTV